How to help someone who is not helping himself?

markstivn98

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Quote from: iamchiara on November 10, 2018, 06:23:23 AM

Only way to help after all efforts have been made to convince and give inspiration is to simply pray. There are people who just don't have the drive or enough reason to change their lives for the better no matter how much we wanted to help.

You are the right to pray, strengthen the will of people,
and push to work more forcefully. Plus someone love us.

markstivn98

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Quote from: SnowAugustine on November 09, 2018, 12:40:43 PM

I have a friend who is really in very bad luck financially. He finds it hard to get a job etc etc and so I advised him to get a job online where he won't be judged by how he dresses or how he looks. He just have to get a job and then do his best to perform it. He just kept on saying that he will get into it but does nothing. Yet, he continues to complain how fucked up his life is. It is already annoying for a lot of us, his friends. However, I do not want to be a bad friend.

It's a nice thing from you to help your friend.
I take my friend like my brother. Try to show your love for him.
And let him strengthen his self-confidence. And encouraged him to do so.

Johnzky

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Quote from: SnowAugustine on November 09, 2018, 12:40:43 PM

I have a friend who is really in very bad luck financially. He finds it hard to get a job etc etc and so I advised him to get a job online where he won't be judged by how he dresses or how he looks. He just have to get a job and then do his best to perform it. He just kept on saying that he will get into it but does nothing. Yet, he continues to complain how fucked up his life is. It is already annoying for a lot of us, his friends. However, I do not want to be a bad friend.

You have a good heart despite of the attitude your friend has,why bot just let him alone so he will recognize your presence,sometimes people dont wanna move further because they have someone to lean in.but when they become alone they will realize how important friens are

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Quote from: Onanana on March 14, 2019, 11:51:35 PM

Separate yourself emotionally from their choices. Second, focus on encouraging good steps. When you see that person doing something right, tell them that they're doing something right. When you see that person making a good move, give them praise. That way they will know and start doing the right things and eventually start to help themselves. Then you can give them opportunities to work on, so they will grow exponentially. By the way, hit me up at Vegascasino if you're a player there, poker or black jack. Hope my advice helps.

Letting them know you appreciate them as human being is enough. Maybe he/she is just down because of their life decisions but yes don't stop encourage them. You seem like a wonderful and full of positivity person. I'm playing poker too, where can i hit you up ? VegasCasino? Not familiar with that

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Quote from: SnowAugustine on November 09, 2018, 12:40:43 PM

I have a friend who is really in very bad luck financially. He finds it hard to get a job etc etc and so I advised him to get a job online where he won't be judged by how he dresses or how he looks. He just have to get a job and then do his best to perform it. He just kept on saying that he will get into it but does nothing. Yet, he continues to complain how fucked up his life is. It is already annoying for a lot of us, his friends. However, I do not want to be a bad friend.

I would stop listening to his complaints if I were you, maybe it will help him look for a job faster.
Once I have stopped complaining, as I was left alone for sometime, I made a huge progress

Onanana

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Separate yourself emotionally from their choices. Second, focus on encouraging good steps. When you see that person doing something right, tell them that they're doing something right. When you see that person making a good move, give them praise. That way they will know and start doing the right things and eventually start to help themselves. Then you can give them opportunities to work on, so they will grow exponentially. By the way, hit me up at Vegascasino if you're a player there, poker or black jack. Hope my advice helps.

CristianOff

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The only and best way to help people is to help them help themselves.
If you do the work for him, he won't be able to appreciate and understand
the value you produced for his life until he loses what he has.

DorisHank65

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Just tell him straight up how weak he is, even if he is unfulfilled, if he has made the wrong decisions, he has to stop being weak and stand up and rethink his life and work on improving.

Firestax

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Try to show and convince him that he's loved. Believe in him in case to make him feel confident enough. Your support is everything

AkexA95

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No need to impose help. Let the person solve the problem

Areding

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I think that such people should more often participate in social activities, attend seminars and trainings that can cheer up people.

irina0699

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I think that you should make him go to psychologist. It is a problem of your friend and of psychologist, because you probably do not have special education to explain him what he should do. Moreover, it will get a huge amount of your free time. Of course, you can listen to him attentive, but nothing depends on you, but on the personal motivation of your friend.

X-Ray.12

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You need to talk and be persistent in motivating that person. You need to show him that his behavior is not good for him. Show him good examples of people who had a lot of problems and became successful. He can try to find some online job.

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Quote from: SnowAugustine on November 09, 2018, 12:40:43 PM

I have a friend who is really in very bad luck financially. He finds it hard to get a job etc etc and so I advised him to get a job online where he won't be judged by how he dresses or how he looks. He just have to get a job and then do his best to perform it. He just kept on saying that he will get into it but does nothing. Yet, he continues to complain how fucked up his life is. It is already annoying for a lot of us, his friends. However, I do not want to be a bad friend.

if u trying to help him but he don't accept then just leave him alone better Cheesy

Marsel12

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I think no need to help. A man must solve his problems himself.

arion6868

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nothing u can do n just wait until he realize he has to do something if he want something, i suggest u dont financially help him if not things will get worst if u do so

JetAid

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Help him to build his self-esteem, and to realise that he can contribute to society. The rest will follow.

kriscamp

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Lets me be realistic. If you asking this question you probably already talked to this person or tried to help him or her. But there is no alternative way to help someone, because we are only in power to change ourselves. It is better to step back and let it be.

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axel20

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This is a dilemma. You can only push so much. Try to be supportive and see if it helps.

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