Topic: How we can help ourselves (Read 350 times)

We can't be friendly and jeopardize the image of the forum. In an association where Criticisms are not made, the association tend to be slow in development. Most times we are criticize to make us learn and to make us realize our mistakes. We should always remember that even the Heros and Legendaries in the forum are once like us. Where they too are criticized on one or more of their post. As newbie, don't let criticism weigh you down. See it as normal stuff for you to grow quickly in the forum. Moreover, I will encourage us to try to always use constructive criticism and not destructive criticism when criticizing post so as to encourage newbies in the forum.

Exactly, we will do many things to assist ourselves in this life and become a better person so that we will not rely on anyone, but the reason is that we cheat ourselves and do not trust each other; sometimes when you come to help each other, they believe you are attempting to cheat them. Because I have someone that I know, when I try to explain about investment for him, I just told him that in need to deposit money on exchange and buy coin and keep it in a save wallet and leave it for a long term, but he said he is not interested because anything that they said you need to leave for a while he will come and crash. and have told him that bitcoin is a long-term investment that will still exist in the future, but he thinks I just want to West is small amounts of money his managing and he says he needs fast investment so that you can simply invest and cash out quickly without problems. You will never be able to obtain money unless you express many challenges.

With all of these learning skills, many people are not serious about it; instead, they focus on online business because of the country's hardships, and they have skills that even if you do them, they don't value them, and many people are discouraged from learning skills, which is why you will see small children and adults alike using Yahoo to get things done quickly. To learn skills, you must begin at an early age. As your mind grows, you will be less focused on learning skills and being your own boss. of our country currently is not about learning skills, but about money to start it,  and now am very sure in this our country 75% are not on hard work skills they focus on online business because even our young ones are trying to learn through online know one what stress in this regimes anyone are finding places to get money fast.

I no know why people dey even ves when dem criticize them because for me criticism just shows that you are actually doing something that's worth noticable and the best positive result you go fit get from am na to just stay positive and use am for yourself because there is no one way never received this criticism for the forum here. Me s f dey always take am as challenge upon myself anytime wey dem criticizee  so that I go fit improve on that aspect well well.

We fit help ourselves in many ways like to get ourselves occupied with activities like learning of skills, going to school, empowering ourselves etc. just incase of emergency and to also take care of ourselves and the way our country is now, if we don't work hard, we are going to suffer even when working to get paid monthly, we should also get side hustle because the country is no longer funny, so being lazy and all that won't help us in life rather than it will makes us to beg on the street or will make our lives more difficult so we be creative.

Thank you for calling on my attention toward this topic, I never knew something like is going on here but mentioning my names got me notified. Then moved down to our brother Salahmu well I don't think there is something much to debate over here because I believe some people already given the best advice but if you must keep growing, you don't have take everything into heart because here is community with different characters and attitudes without having to know how you feels and reason on the other side.
Anyone till date that has never learned to overcome things in this forum are yet to be ready to scale through this platform because I know that attack would never end and also stops coming as well so if you asked me very well I would advise you to only pick the important words and sail on without any bad feelings.

Have you heard about the proverb which says, when men throws stones at you, gather them together and use them in building walls round about yourself, I don't count it criticism, rather corrections, everyone was ones a newbie and had gone through such phases, if you truly know what you're talking about, no one will criticize you, because you will confidently make your point clear, but for someone who is inexperience in what he's saying or even have no idea on that aspect will be corrected but to him may looks like criticism, except more of this if you truly want to learn, it will one day be one of your story to tell later in the future.

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Baba I no dey worried about you not even for a second.
I don hear your hands no worry but as we dey talk about criticism, make you no go carry my mata for head because at the end we go all settle 💯
You na my man and one thing wey you fail to understand  be say reputation na something wey them dey earn and not forced on and I've been hanging around the forum since 2020 without being a member and if we been get the chances you been get, baba no worry person like me no go let am skip.

The only thing I deh try tell you be say bring yourself down make God carry you go up except you no be religious person which I believe you are and for the time being I go like make you review my post them find way bless me atleast I don try find your mouth small😅🤣🥰

No carry me play abeg because I go find you enter your pm and until you do review  for me I no go allow you rest because you no go be Rascal and I go dey stunted for here.
SIR@AGBE na your review i dey wait for abeg.
Thanks in anticipation for a favourable response 😀

I'm Obari.

There is a proverb that say "Spare the rod and spoil the child" which means when you see a child doing bad or something wrong & you fail to correct him or her at that moment, you end up contributing to spoiling that child, which is why when we Senior members on this forum see a newbie member going astray, we always try to make sure such Newbie follow according to the laid down rules that govern this forum, which though our approaches may differ from one person to another, but that doesn't mean we hate or dislike anyone here. Because just you @ "O.P mentioned about someone accuse you of using A.I for post-generation, we all know that that is highly prohibited here, and as such should be the last option anybody should ever think of using on this forum, as in one way or the other, you must surely be caught. So please, when someone correct you, don't take it personal, because most times we do that for the best interest of the Nigerian local board.

Obari, I will not sae anything, and I am not proud. Icopress cited them because I was asking the questions to know more and he feel that the answer has been given and I was going further to make a suggestions and he got angry and compiled my posts. As for SC, he doesn't like praises but na wen u dey criticize nd attacks...and me nd im don settle since April. Go and read reputation board. If I am the cause of my attacks, then it is okay. I know how I started and I know where I am in di forum. Those who I mentioned know me very well nd not u. I am critics and I also support all the good things in di local board. I know why u r saying this. Don't worry about me. Focus on yourself. Be a good ambassador for Nigeria. You are doing well because you were attacked and criticized in your early stage.
And I know, I did mistakes in some cases. But has been corrected. I am Agbe.

Baba if anybody  dey attack you then I must say na you dey cause am, period 🤣
You no know when to stop and most times I feel like say instead of getting relevance, you go end up messing things up for yourself and I feel really bad the other time I see Icopress  dey attack you and with things wey him site, even chymist come out come wash him hand comot.
No be so and I no know why I dey sense pride for this your last paragraph  but the truth be say you need to calm down with a whole lot of stuff and no be say I dey argue with you or dispute your talk but the truth be say, all the attacks you dey get, na you dey cause am.

Take my 2cents, are the criticism right or wrong?. If dem wrong then attack back. Here na survive of the fittest, but if the criticism wrong then na when you go fit dey para this para wey you dey para abi you no know Nigerians again? We dey sabi do do normally so e no supposed bother you when you see all those attack (assuming you no dey wrong oh) just laff am off and continue your hustle. Beside wetin you dey expect when you be just member and go dey launch service thread. Even legendary members dey receive attack so expect am because your rank no help matters, the experience wey you get outside the forum no matter here na wetin you dun do here matters.

Here na reputation be Koko, you for first grow your account get small standing and name before you begin dey find work with your account but since you dun launch am, just dey follow up the comments small small and no be every reply wey you go reply to (some are just trolls). As for the other criticism wey no get to do with your ANN, take am with full chest and work on improving yourself. Look well for the forum na attack dey everywhere (na so here be, no respect at all so no too reason am).

You need know say everyone dey try protect the name of our country because if one person spoil am, e dun spoil for other so no blame anybody wey dey attack when dem see wetin dem no like. Everything is been done in good faith for the growth of the country on the forum. We no get good name normally and spoiling it isn't helping any matters so make we dey try represent wella.

No be bad thing if person criticize you, as a mata of fact e good for person to correct you wen you no dey do something right and sometimes e go come in di form of criticism but that one no mean say you go give up or take am really to heart. Learn from your mistake and try to do beta next time. I believe we get each oda back but e go dey very bad say you dey f**K up and people wey dey close to you just turn a blind eye, I don't know if you have noticed it before but e get some mistakes wey you go do outside wey no be only you go chop di shame but oda people sef from your locality go follow chop di shame. So no reason am if people dey criticize you weda na from your local board or not, na to just learn and take corrections where necessary.

The secret to your freedom in the forum is!

1: develop a thick skin

2: build your knowledge and increase your information bank.

3: don't depend or boot leak any senior members in the local board,  because that will lead you to praise singing that can limit your effoto develop yourself.

If you can become a sole survivor,  and freedom thorough knowledge and self improvement,  my guy you won't need anyone here to help you grow or survive here in bitcointalk.

Indeed some comments can be overbearing sometime,  but that should become a fuel for you to light up the fire,  build on them and you sef become an OG.

Note:  we value quality and in seeking that quality some members could be hard in you most especially when you saying something you have no knowledge about and tend to mislead other forum members.

Bitcointalk no be Bobo juice oooo,  na reality and now that you gat the motivation don't allow criticism to pull you back,  na all of us get the forum as long as you abide by the forum rules and regulations.

You're right actually. I'm seriously worried also over the creation of numerous meaningless thread with one, two or zero reply. I am thinking of how I can be of help in that regard and working on it already but something came up and I got distracted. I will try my best and hope it will be of help if adhere to. Your suggestion is highly welcome on that aspect as well. Together we can make this board better.

I think everything will be little bit perfect when we manage to have a moderator here. Enough of spam posts needed to be filter out in this board.

I find this topic similar to this one . Help Your brothers and Sisters Stand Strong! If I can remember very well, members like Wiwo, letteredhub, CryptoHeadlineNews, Agbe, Adbitco, DaNNy001, and Merit.s, our now-banned brother, myself, and others carefully debated issues concerning how members are being treated here on our local board and on the forum at large.

So in this situation, if I am to address you based on my experience, I will tell you to grow a thick skin, just like either our princess or Loyce have said. It's better for you to be addressed and corrected by the people in your locality than for the people in your locality to be defending you when the person in question does not really care about what will come afterward. I will advise you to just ignore whatever criticism you may be getting from members of this board and outside the board, pick some motivating words wherever you can, and move on. See them as words of encouragement, as no one was ever free from that. I was also criticized on the forum by some of our locals when I had not yet identified myself here, and I have also received some hate speech from others aside from this local.

My brother eh all depends on how u carry reason the matter, anyone way u see as advice u take am carry work on ur self, anyone way also fall as insult u by pass am nah watin them mean by the thick skin. 

I will never want my younger ones to suffer the way I suffered, and di only thing for dem to do is to obey di local board rules, ask questions. Forum is very easy to navigate, there are only two things you are needed to do. You learn from others and you contribute to others from what you have learned. But when you have known this, there is another thing that affect we the 9ja guys, which is English language. Which is resolved as time goes by individual users.
And I am not trying to make him scare or he must suffer but I am trying to make him to understand that attacks and criticism is part and parcel in the forum wether u r a naija or not but as a Nigerian e get limit 2 do dat but di correction must make.
And again what I will advise the op is that he should have a thick skin to over come them. What we do here is for you good and not for your goods. I always help good post in the local board with Merits and contributions. Local board is not to pamper you but to train you. Now after the creation of the local board, rules has been created to guide everyone in the local board but the newbies that are coming disregard it and do things the way they want. Create threads anyhow. And because of this attacks and criticisms day matter is some good. Those who know me know me. I am not making di op to scare and I only tell my life history in di forum and dat does not not mean dat I'm going criticize but if it is necessary.

This your comment is not necessary at all. Yes, you grow from criticism shouldn't give you a free hand and make it a habit to be criticizing everybody just because you pass through the same thing. To me, this sounds like a vengeance which is not suppose to come from someone like you. As a leader, you absorb the pains to make it easy for people behind you and not that you make them pass through the same pain. That's how we'll attain development.

Criticism is not totally wrong but one should use his sense while criticizing and make it constructive. When you criticize constructively, believe me the person you criticize will appreciate you and make ammendment but some criticism comes in the form of direct attack, hatred and sound more like insult without anything to derive in it. We grow by showing others how to do things the best way and not by criticizing. The reason you feel attacked is maybe due to your attitude of criticizing since you made your mind to make others pass through the same way as you. You know some people will definitely fire back directly or in disguise.

OP, remember that you can not do without criticism here unless you have no intention of going far. Criticism is part of development and you should be ready to face. It's left for you to learn from them and ignore the ones that are out of line. Don't feel attacked when you are criticize constructively but rather pick point of it. You shouldn't also allow the trolls to discourage you by their criticism. No one is absolutely perfect and you should face your fears else you might become a red carpet in the forum where everybody will walk on.

Op I don't think you can survive in the forum if you are complaining on criticisms. If you want to know Agbe in the forum, ask Igebotz, Charles-Tim, Brainboss and di konkon di Boss Smartvirus they will tell how I suffered, how I was criticized in fact di whole naijas in di forum as of early 2022 Agbe was di highest criticized user in di forum as a 9ja guy. I almost gave up, Cryptoheadline, Davidvictorson, Zlantan, Smartvirus, Brainboss, Igebotz and Charles-Tim were di users encouraged me to push on, and today, me na role model in di English boards, people dey use me dey cite example give newbies. I came out from criticism so I became a critic in the forum. So dis ur thread is not worth creating. Well we will use it to encourage u. Remember the story of 🦅. I will want you to read the above mentioned users threads and come and thanks me.

I go use this opportunity to inform the newcomers from full Member up to senior Member in the forum from 9ja, if you dey attack me, make sure u know say na me. Dem dey attack me dis days well well but no shaking I dey gedigba. Na so I take grow and I still dey on it.

I don't think you offended anybody here by pouring out your observations among some people attitude in the local board because we need progress, but don't let it stop you from be a good person in this Bitcointalk forum and local board because i know how you feel when you got such comment from our own brothers.  If I may ask, do you like their attitude they displayed towards that Naija person? If no, please never you develop such attitude to anybody till you will retire from this platform because anything you sow in life either good or bad you shall reap, that is why I promise myself never to hurt anybody both local board or other forum than to correct  person in a way the person will be happy to learn from his or her mistake in the platform.

See senior man @strange dey call me senior man 👨
Una don start this una wahala again 🙄
But nevertheless @strange  i think you made a great point and I feel reay honored to make it to your list of reputable members. Thank you and @op I don't really know what prompted this thread but I believe  you must be speaking  from the depth of your heart and one thing you must have to understand  is that, nobody gives a f**k about how you feel and most times, you might  not be able to appeal to pity and one thing that have kept me alive in the forum is the fact that learning never ends and everyday is a new day to learn something new which I'm doing happily  and you should learn how to accept criticisms  and build on them rather than let them weigh you down.

Welcome  to the forum @op where no one gives a shit about age and personal feelings.