You already won three internets for staying consistent. But a problem with your last sentence. Don't tune out -- this is shorter than it looks
When you decided to GTFO of your parent's, you didn't get to take your room with you -- it was an integral part of your parents' house.
Your new place [apartment, friend's house] had rules too.
Just like GTFO of your country will land you in *another* country with lawns to cut. The analogy holds.
It's hard to tell just what you mean when you say "[your] right to secede," then.
You admit that your government will allow you to emigrate, what more do you want? You can't fault it for the world outside of its borders. No more than your parents are at fault for the world outside their house sucking & the rent being expensive. Agreed?
Just how exactly do you wish to "secede"? Keep in mind some very basic concerns:
When you "own" an apartment, you can't "opt out" of maintenance costs for the building (think tax), nor can you take your walls and ceilings with you if you leave -- those walls are *also other people's walls,* a structural part without which the whole building will fall apart.
Is something like this your idea of "seceding" ? You want more stuff to take with you? Otherwise, the world is your oyster! Earth's taken, not sure about the moon, but the rest of the universe is yours for the taking! Go forth and live free amongst the starz!
First of all, comparing a house with a state is a bad analogy. There are millions of houses to rent a room in, and anyone can build a new house if he has enough money. And there are only about 200 countries, and common people cannot build a new one, no matter how much money they have (spacesteading and seasteading is another topic, in two words: unfairly expensive).
But if you insist on comparing a state with a house, let's speak about 2-family house. Let's imagine my family owns a large 2-family house, where I live in one half and my parents in another half (not my actual situation, but I bet such families exist). When time comes, I take a loan and buy my half of the house. Now that it's mine, I can do what I want with it. I can change the lock so that my parents wouldn't be able to enter without my permission. My mom used to insist that I keep my half-house clean and tidy, but now that it's my property I no longer give a flick about her opinion. I can invite friends and hookers and do what I want in my half unless it doesn't harm anyone outside of it. Their rules work only on their half, and my rules on my half. The government, however, insists on its stupid rules over my property even after I buy it. I can have my own rules over my land, but the government rules take precedence. And the government feels free to invade my property and demand its "taxes" even though I've already paid for the land. See the difference? I'm not allowed to own any land entirely, I can actually only buy a permission to use it subject to it's owner (government) rules. Which is super-stupid and annoys the hell out of me. I would agree to pay more to be able to
TRULY OWN the land with no strings attached, like in sovereignty over my land. In other words, I would like to pay as much as needed to take 0.00000006% of my country's land and found a new state within this land. By the way, I represent 0.0000007% of my country's population and ready to pay for the land 0.0000012% of its GDP, as you see both shares are significantly higher than a portion of land I would be happy to buy. But of course they won't sell me the land with sovereignty, no matter how expensive. And no other country will. That's the point.
Well, your parents may own the house itself, and possibly the rights to the minerals beneath the plot of land they own, but land "ownership" is just a colorful phrase. The land is subject to all the local (think zoning laws) and federal (can't serve blow to underage hookers). Finally, the gob'ment can take your land by eminent domain or some other term if you're not in US. Justlikethat.
See? You understand it yourself! Why do you argue then?! Isn't it outrageous that gov't defines what is 'underage' for example? People are perfectly adult at 14 or even 13, both physically and mentally. Why those "government" gangsters push their shit about 18 years old and stuff?! What happens if people fuck at 17, do they like explode and kill everybody?! I DARE SAY THAT IT'S OKAY TO FUCK AT 15, now come and jail me, idiots. What's all this shit about drug prohibition?! If people are stupid, let them do stupid things and die early, it's better for our gene pool. Why do adult responsible people get restrained even if we don't even hurt anybody?! Why weapon ban?! It's super stupid, how do we even defend ourselves against armed bandits?! Oh I forgot, it's armed bandits themselves who prohibit guns, isn't it?! Why do I need to be forced to use those fucking seatbelts? Let me die in that crash if I'm that car accident, I don't care! No, I do use seatbelts, but not because of government, but because I actually care for myself, I AM NOT A FUCKING CHILD! Why do they ban gays? Okay, they don't ban gays in US or Europe, but here in Russia they do. I am straight myself, but I've got a few gay and lesbian friends, and some of them were already beaten on the streets. HUNDREDS OF LGBT CHILDREN COMMIT SUICIDES AND GET KILLED because of those STUPID laws! And now they force religion on me also! What if I'm satanist (not really), why should I be OK if they derive their stupid laws from Orthodox Christianity and INSIST that I don't dare say ANYTHING that MIGHT make some of them feel bad?! So all atheists go to JAIL!!! You have PRISM in US, we have SORM, pretty much the same shit, why should I be OK with those police dogs eavesdropping my Internetz?! And they ban websites too, a lot of them. THIS IS FUCKING IRAN OR WHAT?! Of course I can use VPN and Tor, but they might ban it too...
DUDE, statism is ugly, ultimate evil, the most dirty thing in the world. I hate them all so much that I don't hate anything else. I LOVE THE WHOLE WORLD EXCEPT GOVERNMENTS, because ALL my HATE is just CONCENTRATED AT THEM.
Sorry for emotional post.