Topic: Importance of not envying others - page 2. (Read 333 times)
Envy is formed in childhood and remains for life. Envious people are unhappy. We need parents to think about it.
Will save you from the 10 commandments.
You will have a peaceful life.
We are all human so I don't blame everyone when we feel "envy". But the question is, does it do good for us? Will it help us feel happy? These are some of the questions I asked myself if I'm starting to feel envious to a person.
Don't need envy . Work for it
Glad to have been of service CristianOff
To envy someone is not a bad thing in of itself. It can become a powerful drive in your life that can propel you to the upper echelons if you are able to harness the desire to have what others have and apply your efforts to emulate their efforts. As long as the person you envy isn't doing anything illegal, you can learn allot by studying what they have done and doing the same. You CAN envy someone's good fortune while at the same time NOT begrudge them for it. If everyone used the stories that of how people came about their good fortune we could all learn a lot as well. As a bonus, retelling some of those stories can also be a source of entertainment.
I perfectly agree. The part with begrudging sounds to what I meant to say! Thanks for teaching me this term dear user
I think the picture is a little bigger. A lot of this has to do with internal feelings about external stimuli.
I recently heard about a study in which found people who had perceived social support, regardless of the size of their social group, were happier.
A similar study looked at wealth and income. Folks who felt they had enough income to take care of themselves were much happier, regardless of how much money they actually made.
All this to say, feelings of envy, desire, jealousy, insecurity, usually are a result of how you perceive the world around you, not necessarily the actual things in your life.
I recently heard about a study in which found people who had perceived social support, regardless of the size of their social group, were happier.
A similar study looked at wealth and income. Folks who felt they had enough income to take care of themselves were much happier, regardless of how much money they actually made.
All this to say, feelings of envy, desire, jealousy, insecurity, usually are a result of how you perceive the world around you, not necessarily the actual things in your life.
I don't get the part with internal feelings and external stimuli. Don't
you connect your feelings with the external world? Maybe I am
misunderstanding.
Regarding the part in bold, that's exactly what I mean. When you are a 'big guy',
small things for you could mean big things for others, so everything must be appreciated
in equity
I think the picture is a little bigger. A lot of this has to do with internal feelings about external stimuli.
I recently heard about a study in which found people who had perceived social support, regardless of the size of their social group, were happier.
A similar study looked at wealth and income. Folks who felt they had enough income to take care of themselves were much happier, regardless of how much money they actually made.
All this to say, feelings of envy, desire, jealousy, insecurity, usually are a result of how you perceive the world around you, not necessarily the actual things in your life.
I recently heard about a study in which found people who had perceived social support, regardless of the size of their social group, were happier.
A similar study looked at wealth and income. Folks who felt they had enough income to take care of themselves were much happier, regardless of how much money they actually made.
All this to say, feelings of envy, desire, jealousy, insecurity, usually are a result of how you perceive the world around you, not necessarily the actual things in your life.
To envy someone is not a bad thing in of itself. It can become a powerful drive in your life that can propel you to the upper echelons if you are able to harness the desire to have what others have and apply your efforts to emulate their efforts. As long as the person you envy isn't doing anything illegal, you can learn allot by studying what they have done and doing the same. You CAN envy someone's good fortune while at the same time NOT begrudge them for it. If everyone used the stories that of how people came about their good fortune we could all learn a lot as well. As a bonus, retelling some of those stories can also be a source of entertainment.
By nature we tend to envy those people who have what we need.
The envy is good only if constructive (aka for you to realize that
you don't have what you need so you have to take action and
change your life), but most people will use it against themselves.
Let's have an example, you see a yellow Lamborghini Urus
parking. Most people will criticize the owner, saying that the
Urus is not a good choice because is ugly, or,
most people will jump to conclusion saying that the owner
has only got that Lamborghini because he either inherited money,
won lottery or, scams other people. What most people don't do is
appreciating and recognising that other people have a better life,
that other people have made it with their own power.
The successful people have the 'energy of success' and by envying
you deny it. The guy has everything you want and you deny having
it because you envy.
Start appreciating the small things, stop criticising, stop envying and
then you will have what you want. It doesn't happen overnight.
The reason I am sharing this is because since I started applying this
concept in my life, everything goes my way. Every obstacle or barrier
that I had, I could easily bypass it. Hope this will enable others to
become successful person. If you want to add something, or share anything
let us know in this thread
The envy is good only if constructive (aka for you to realize that
you don't have what you need so you have to take action and
change your life), but most people will use it against themselves.
Let's have an example, you see a yellow Lamborghini Urus
parking. Most people will criticize the owner, saying that the
Urus is not a good choice because is ugly, or,
most people will jump to conclusion saying that the owner
has only got that Lamborghini because he either inherited money,
won lottery or, scams other people. What most people don't do is
appreciating and recognising that other people have a better life,
that other people have made it with their own power.
The successful people have the 'energy of success' and by envying
you deny it. The guy has everything you want and you deny having
it because you envy.
Start appreciating the small things, stop criticising, stop envying and
then you will have what you want. It doesn't happen overnight.
The reason I am sharing this is because since I started applying this
concept in my life, everything goes my way. Every obstacle or barrier
that I had, I could easily bypass it. Hope this will enable others to
become successful person. If you want to add something, or share anything
let us know in this thread
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