Topic: Infidelity may be forgiven or not? - page 6. (Read 811 times)

To me that is the most unforgivable thing in a relationship because it destroys the foundation that the whole relationship is built upon. And when that happens there is no way that a person will be able to come out fully trusting their partner again.

I personally wouldn't forgive. Even using kids as the reason won't do it for me. They're kids but they're not stupid, they know something's up. Better separate than for the relationship to become toxic for both the couple and kids.

Well as they say, a broken trust cana never be really mended. Thr hurt it will cause to the other person will leave a scar that will taint the relationship. So even if a person who committed infidelity is forgiven, things definitely will never be the same

Infidelity could happen when either he or she didn't get what they want in a relationship. It isn't always about money but also about loving and attention. Sometimes we just get too busy with our daily activity, our job, our kids, so without realizing we care about our partner less and less more and when that happened, here comes the infidelity. It depends on the person whether they want to forgive or not. I never say it's easy but everyone deserves a second chance.

I think the affair is a bad deed, especially if they are married. Forgive or not sure many people who choose not to forgive because of a sense of disappointment in his heart, but if already married whether to split? then how the fate of the child? Allah alone always forgive all errors and sins, then why can not you forgive?

It depends on the circumstances. How did you learn about it, was it a one time thing.
The most important thing is not to stay together just for the children.
Children are happier when they grow up with parents who are happy.
It won't make children happy if you hate the other person but you're still together.

forgiveness is precious key of healing after an affair,and to allow us leave from the wounds or pain in the past, move forward but we do so with lesson learned from the past sometimes infidelity is not totally necessary fatal to relastionship,the approiate communication theraphy and willingness to let go from pain,cause many couple get pass it on ,so that in some cases the healing process of pain can made relastionship stronger than before,,but forgiveness is not a mandatory to all person who take infidelity, if transgressor will not apologies or take resposability according her action..

It may be forgiven but it depends upon the situation and the persons involve.It maybe forgiven for the sake of the children so that they will not suffer from being in a broken family.Forgive and forget if the love is higher than the pain and anger.

That depends on the person. Me, I can forgive my spouse for infidelity. Nobody's perfect and we all commit mistakes. I, too, sometimes made mistakes but what's important is I learned from the mistake and I regret doing it. IF you love your spouse, no matter what happens and how hurtful it is to accept infidelity he/she did, you would still accept him/her.

Infidelity  is forgivable but it doesn't always mean that you will still stay together. Forgiving can also mean that you dont hate her anymore that you have accepted the fact that she's not happy with you anymore and you both go on your own separate ways.

its so easy to forgive infidelity but it can never be forgotten and that makes it hurts most times. remembering it may turn a happy time to something else

It naturally depends on the couple. I've known of a couple who moved forward after a case of infidelity. Others actually stopped and broke it off. In my experience, i can't get over being cheated on. Knowing that, i would rather let my children live with a broken family that them being in a dysfunctional one. At least right off the bat my kids would face the problem head on and actually adapt to it. Others could live with the fact that their partner cheated in them, but then again that's them.

Marriage is increasingly losing its importance these days, and the wives are making the lives of their spouses hard by putting up unjustifiable demands and conditions. Infidelity normally occurs when the marital relationship is not very strong. If the wife and husband loves each other, then there is hardly any chance of infidelity.

If your significant other is unfaithful, then one should consider the reason for the infidelity in the first place. There's always a chance to mend broken wounds of the heart, if your willing to work together. Humans are creatures of habbit, and no relationship is without its difficulties.  There is a saying, "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me!".
  Men cheat because they burn themselves out sexually,  and the the spark that keeps the passion burning is dying out. So men seek thrills elsewhere, all the while trying to keep up with the day to day appearances.
 Women cheat simply because of emotional detachment. If you don't butter a woman up every once in a while, she'll start fantasizing about rendezvous with another lucky chap. The goal is to make a compromise somewhere in between,  that both parties within the relationship can agree to.
   Alot of the time, infidelity is caused by sexual frustration. Variety is the spice of life, so naturally if a desire goes unfulfilled,  people will naturally gravitate towards whatever satisfies their desire, leaving morals and ethics In the back seat during the drive which the passions steer us towards.
 Never lose hope and call it quits unless it's a hopeless case to revitalizing the relationship.
Good luck chuck!

It depends on the two people involve.Maybe I will forgive but it will takes time. I'd rather take the pain rather than seeing my children suffering from the absence of the other and a broken family is not good for them they will experience bullying and that will hurt so much for me.

Infidelity is very normal because It can happen in every relationship. According to me, women or men must forgive their unfaitful parnter for the sake of their own health. Forgiving a fidelity is the best choice to save a relationship.

Bisa dimaafkan tapi dalam jangka waktu yang sangat lama, karena saya sendiri sangat benci dengan yang namanya perselingkuhan...

There are several culture in the world today that abhor "infidelity"even at this present civilization time,and i will generally say that forgiveness depends on individuals culture and believe. Firstly, some culture forbid infidelity ,like my own society, and the penalty for offenders whether mail or female,is very frustrating and desgracefull .It is even worst in the case of the female, in that, when she is guilty of the act, will be brought to an open shameful cultural treatment.
There are also societies in the world today that infidelity doesn't atract any penalties, one can easily be forgiven and the marriage  just go on as normal.
Speaking on this present civilization and this generation, i think forgiveness of infidelity just depends on you, to keep the family together because of the children; or to remarried because of the hurt, whether culture or no culture.

Infidelity is unforgivable especially if you are married and have vowed in the eyes of the law to be with someone. It is also destroy a marriage or relationship.
Can you forgive them and give them another chance . Because of the welfare of your children if you already have and you do not want to destroy your family. Or you want to separate because you're hurt..