Topic: Is Marriage a contract or a union? - page 2. (Read 650 times)

Nowadays we see that marriage is being in just the contract because union only happens in the first years if them being together and after sometime will find out hating each others and consider having a divorce or separation this is how marriages is being abused now to just get what they wanted and then leave just like that.
not in the old days that once you are married 99% that you will be dying in each others company.

Looks like there are even that oppose about Marriage being Union ..

Wife must follow Husband , and husband must trust and respect His wife . Father is the head of the family but Wife is the light so that means they must both have each others back to make the family better.

well US is just small part of the world in which valued the marriage as Traditional and respected nit like in other countries like US that getting wedding and then a divorce .

correct , that is just a Proof of marriage but what is important about this is the Bonding and understanding of these two humans , their Heart must be one , their thoughts must be one , and their plans must be one as well.


with those attitude and character for sure that marriage will never be broken .

In my opinion, emotionally and mentally, marriage is a union between two people who like and embrace each other with all their attributes.
Signing a marriage certificate/ legal document is a contract, a proof of marriage.

The function of marriage is to unite two people, make a life together and create offspring to continue the family lineage and reputation that may be passed down through generations. Until it does not stop at that generation and continues to renew. Maintaining marriage is a shared responsibility to practice emotional detachment, benefit with a harmonious attitude and do it every day, I don't agree if marriage is only considered as a game because when there is a problem it must be resolved together and not raise each other. purely from the give and take of love, giving advice and receiving advice and complementing each other.

If there are people here who are not married, then get married because it's not that bad, I mean the economy is a reason and an important factor but that doesn't mean having the economy has a mature eel that can keep the integrity. the divorce rate may be high in an area but more people keep the marriage well. A little problem that arises is natural, the most important thing is to be able to make peace with the situation and continue living together as usual, not a matter of age but a matter of mindset.

The true meaning of marriage is an eternal connection between a man and a woman to establish a family because they were created to complet each other, to complete their lives under one roof in solidarity in all circumstances. This is what was called marriage in the past, but in our time the values ​​and principles have changed and everyone is taking this step without realizing it. Because of the responsibility that both parties must bear, the divorce rate has become high. Selfishness, thinking about oneself, and making irresponsible decisions are the reason.

Exactly , better choose the right one and not just the random person that we fell inlove but what about them? do they love us back as much as we do?
because sometimes we  thought this is the one but suddenly we don't and ending us either separated or not treating each others right when time passed by.
so it is Union as well?

I see Marriage as a union, where you complete your partner and vice versa.

To fall in love and to love with all your senses and from the deep bottom of your heart is priceless.

Marriage is great but it all depends on your partner, did you chose him/her well?

The answer may seem simple, but it's not.

I really like the idea of a traditional old world value marriage.

However here in the US that idea is largely dead and as a male it's highly biased against the man.

It's over here, don't do it.

If there is a love then that is Union because the relationship runs with heart.

If this is about Money/lust then this is just a contract that bonded only by the desire and wanting.

so Check you marriage if what do you stand on it.

A contract and Union that we must stick on .

A Contract because we have vowed to be together all your life , for better or worst sickness and health and till death  do you part.

But also a Union that Love must conquer everything that mentioned above.

I think so too. Imagine marriage as a mix of legal stuff, like sharing assets and responsibilities, and an emotional bond where you've got a teammate for life. It's like signing a contract to be both business partners and each other's support crew.

Marriage, well. That depends on if you love your wife or not. If you don't then it will feel like a contract far more than a union.

Marriage according to my religion and culture is a union but in other countries especially the western part it is usually regard to as a contract. So it varies among different people ,countries, culture and religion.

There are grounds for it.

But what's sad is that divorce is being used by those that are just into tasting period of their lives. They might be into a serious relationship but then, you know when someone fall out of love, this is where it is going.

I agree to the grounds and reasons that divorce can be valid with those reasons for in both agrees that they're no longer happy to each other's side.

Divorce has appeared to be seen as a norm especially in the western part of the world which shouldn’t be completely seen as a menace because a-times it could happen for good reason. A divorce can and should only go through if any one of the parties involve themselves in infidelity, domestic violence or if the marriage was an arranged marriage… courting is really the foundation of any successful marriage

This is because of wrong understanding of what Love is , some mistaken Lust and Intimacy into love in which two different cases , Heart and sex is not the same lol.

Marriage should be a Union and for me there must be no contract at all because a true couple that loves each others and understand the meaning of what they are entering needs no Contract to be bonded but only needs feelings and mind to process the relationship .

 Ofcourse, it's a Union... a union of the opposite gender🔺🔻to become one body/flesh ♦️.  Replace the word Contract with Agreement or Covenant so the whole thing doesn't sound worldly.
The covenant is basically an agreement on how they will conduct themselves in the marriage, of which If the husband or wife or both fails to fulfill there will be conflict or disagreement.

The Content of the Covenant (both known and unknown) is this:
The husband is the Head (like a King) of the Family while the woman is basically the queen who submits to the Head. The King's office or throne is established in Righteousness, or better still the king rules the family Righteously or according to GOD's Law which is the law of love for GOD and people(love for wife & children especially).
Treat the family right/good always as love does no wrong. Do not cause your subject or family to do evil. The wife or family member has the right to disobey evil commands from the husband, like wise the husband. But this should be done with respect for the one in leadership position (or the one who despises evil). The head is expected to reciprocate the respect to the responsible wife but if he doesn't, he may not deserve more respect... This doesn't mean he should be insulted, disrespected or dishonored(synonym of respect is honor)... Just let him know his high moral standard is what you loved and bowed to...maybe that will encourage him to continue in that standard. Respect = to have high regards for the righteous, elderly, leaders, the wise, in humble manner... Basically respect is for people who do things the way those in higher position are supposed to do them. And that way has to be right/good.
If the husband and wife do things right then the marriage covenant is not broken and the union last long in love & harmony.  Conflict or disagreement should be settled according to the law... Better still use the law to know and correct what caused the issue or conflict.

I think too, marriage is both a union and a contract.There is no need to get married to unite. But marriage is required for the contract. Because society and the state do not recognize the contract without marriage. The state and society want us to marry for inheritance and other official rights. I think this situation creates pressure on couples.

I think it's both of them, it is a contract because you have to approve things in your girl and she has to do the same because it is an union between two humans with different mentality and different thoughts, and different sex, so it's some of life contract.