Topic: Is there an effective way to stop a gambling-addicted person? - page 2. (Read 238 times)

What did he do after that? Did he make something even worse than before? Your younger brother needs special attention to cure his gambling addiction, and he may need to see a psychiatrist who can help him solve his problem. Is there a psychiatrist in your city who can help him? If so, you might be able to make an appointment with your brother and try to talk and find the best solution. I think it's okay to invade his privacy because it's for his own good, and you really want to help him recover from his gambling addiction.

it has different effect to every person's character. a gambling addict may find ways or steal properties of someone to pawn or sell inorder to satisfy his addiction. that is kind of a crazy situation but we have heard of past stories like this before when drug addict doesn't have money anymore, they rob.

its sad for the family members seeing their brother is just into deep with what they gotten into. it take years for someone to change and sometimes it needs a drastic event.

Are you sure that he is just a gambling addict and not an addict for illicit goods like drugs, I hope he is just a gambling addict, in fact the addiction can be stopped as long as he has no money, sometimes people become gambling addicts because they have feelings of revenge because of their defeat so they continue to play until they win, but in the end they still lose too, it's better to just advise him because that's more than enough because even the way you act hard won't make an addict change too or set him up with a woman and just marry him to get away from gambling

Prison may provide important lessons for people who are addicted to drugs. However, for gambling addiction it is much more different. Because, reflecting on what I found around me, there were some who were caught by the police selling illegal lottery, after they were released from prison they repeated the same thing. Even he was in and out of prison several times did not make him stop. I think the most appropriate thing is family support and/or a psychiatrist to improve psychology so he can live without gambling.

This works with my cousin when he got addicted to drugs. It may be different from gambling addiction but same as they still could go to jail.
Sometimes a person needs a real hard lesson in life to widely open his eyes. Let him rot in jail for just a week and he'll realize how bad it could be if it takes longer. Him in prison is another kind of world.

My cousin Mikael got addicted to drugs in high school, eventually tangled with a wrong crowd and start selling meth to pay his debt to his dealer. When he got caught his brothers didn't bail him. After 2 years he got out, he seem to have realize it. Turned his life around. Now with a regular job and got 3 kids after it.

He failed to tell us the truth, until I got a hold of his smartphone and find out many games he played and lost money, he made us believed that he got robbed, this pissed me off and I had to break his privacy.

Judging from his phone history, this has been going on for over a year now and we don't know, I got into a mess in early 2022 and I bailed him with my money and paid what he owe, I am surprised he did another.

Unfortunately, if he doesn't want help you cannot help him, he is old enough and he should be responsible for himself, but just assure him that if ever he wants a way out you will all be there, it's hard to help someone even a brother if he doesn't want help, as long as he worked for the money he gambles, you cannot force him to undergo treatment if he doesn't want to, the only way is to talk to him in times that he is sober, only a professional can help him and laid out treatment for his addiction and it can only happen if there is a willingness on his part.

I haven't tried to help someone, but I saw a documentary about a real-life female gambler who was addicted to it and sold all of their appliances for gambling; even the money supposed to be for bills was used to gamble, and her husband couldn't control her. The solution was to seek professional help and get her into a rehabilitation center to treat her addiction, though it took 6 months, I think, and it was a little expensive, but again, she was cured and back to herself. 

Depends on the individual as others have mentioned and as we all know. Change comes with initiative right? No matter how you wish someone to stop something which would dragg him/her down, if initiative would be lacking then nothing qould happen. Seeking for professional help would also be advisable especially if there a severe need of it. Giving advice would also help but something which qould be suggested by licensed individuals, will be better. And for those who are a bit close to addiction; this industry is cruel simply because it involves money. It is that powerful. You'd sometimes taste the sweet victory but in a long run, it could be bitter. Break the idea that this activity is a shortcut to being rich because not because some people made it, same thing would happen to every one of us.

It will be hard to convince a gambling-addicted person to quit gambling if he isn't willing or well committed to changing his direction. Words and advice won't be effective for them.
The only thing that could release your brother from gambling addiction is to help him seek professional help. He already needs either rehabilitation or psychological medication. The best thing that you can do is to guide him and have the right approach because what he's going through isn't easy. He also needs family support so it will be easier for him to cope up with his condition.

Exactly! If he doesn't want to change, then it is very difficult to reach him!


Things can be very complicated... especially if his debts affect the entire household. I have experience with people "who simply don't listen", they only react with some kind of force. Sometimes it's the only way "to bring someone back to earth and reality". But even that doesn't work with everyone, some people are pretty stubborn and autodestructive. They usually wake up when they hit the rock bottom,  and after they destroy almost everything that can be destroyed around them... usually when it's too late.



Obviously, your brother needs a "wake-up" call. I don't know how much "power" you have over your brother and what you can really do to "wake him up and get him back on the right path"... Is there a possibility to control his finances and movements, can you move his focus on other things? Depending on how "deep" he is you will need to pay a lot of attention to bring him back on track. In any case, it's necessary to work with him, at first 24/7 probably, which is certainly neither easy nor simple.

You are close to him so I guess you should know him, his character and personality... think about it and try to find the best approach. Probably the most important is to not give up even without results at the beginning, sometimes it takes a lot of strength to stay calm in difficult situations and a lot of patience to reach out to someone. I wish you a lot of strength and luck to overcome this successfully.

I think family matters a lot against addiction honestly. You should be friendly towards him. He should definitely become more honest and open to you in my opinion. People who lie about their habits are always going to lose in life. Tell him you don't wanna mess his life but you wanna assist! Also I think it can the best option to buy him some kind of summer or winter holiday and go together. If he stays away from his damaging gambling addiction he may realize how healthy his life can become. If he asks you can buy him a therapy at psychologist so he can explain himself.

You guarantee your sister, at the police station, what are you doing to provide opportunities for your sister to bet/debt again in the future.

Question:
1. How many times has your brother been in trouble with the police, 1,2,3.
2. What case did your brother get caught, gambled or owed.

Now there are two problems that have happened to your younger brother, gambling and debt.
1. Gambling addiction:
Solution:1
You can put your brother into gambling rehabilitation, don't let him hang around and be friends with his gambling friends again, it could be even worse, because you have guaranteed it, he thinks later if I get caught again and get caught, I will guarantee it again brother.
Solution:2
If your younger sibling doesn't want to go to rehab, don't guarantee it anymore, if he gets caught again in the future, let him go to jail, make him a deterrent.

2. Debts:
Solution:1
Here it is clear your brother, owes money to gamble, if she wants to change and wants to be rehabilitated, pay her debts, but if she doesn't listen to your suggestions and advice, let her debt be borne and don't bail her out at the police station.

You could try to keep him away from all his gambling-related activities by starting to keep an eye on him all the time. Don't let him look at the news or anything on his cell phone and try to stay close to him. But maybe you will feel disturbed by that because you have entered into his privacy, but you and your family do that because you and your family still love and care about him and don't want him to get in trouble again with gambling.

This is a difficult situation that we would never even imagine but we have to be firm with him because we want to help him solve his problem. Maybe you can talk to him heart to heart and hope he can tell the truth and you can try to go to a rehab center with him. What's important is that whatever the condition, you and your family don't leave him alone and keep helping him solve his problem.

That's a terrible story and I really hope you manage to find help. In my family we have no one who is addicted to gambling, so I can give you specific advice for that kind of addiction. But I can give you some insights into addictions in general. My uncle was addicted to alcohol for a long time. It took quite a while for us to even find out of his illness (his wife was drinking a lot too and they didn't tell it to anybody and did a good job of hiding it). Only after my grand mother found large sums of alcohol in their house we tried to help them. We did everything from interventions to hiding all alcohol, but nothing helped. Eventually he died of liver failure before even becoming 60 years old. You can't control the life of someone else, there will always be loopholes for them to fall back into their addiction if they don't want to change. My advice would be to try and make them understand that they need to change to get their life in order. It's not possible for us to change it for them. And if they really want to get better they should seek professional help. It's going to be a long way and he needs all the help he can get. Good luck.

according to the laws of several countries: when a person hurts another person, that person who hurt another person will respond criminally, the same applies when a person hurts his own body on purpose, so you can look for a doctor and that doctor can go with you to where your brother is, if your brother refuses to undergo tests with the doctor so that the doctor can assess whether he has 100% good mental conditions, then you can file a complaint with the court, the court will call your brother and will have an audience with him and force him to undergo an examination with the doctor

in case your brother denies it, then the court will hospitalize your brother using force, your brother will have to stay hospitalized until the doctor decides that he is in good condition to take care of himself and be fine, this is the only way to deal with it.

NOTE: do not be violent with your brother. don't put too much pressure on your brother, don't send your brother away. addiction is a disease

A 29-year-old man is independent and cannot be coerced to change his way of life. The only thing you can do is persuade or encourage him to change his ways. You need to let him know the consequences of his action and what he can achieve if he controls his gambling behavior. If he refuses to change his ways and keeps incurring debt, he should be allowed to stay in the police station until he repays his loan. Maybe he can learn his lesson when nobody comes to bail him from police custody. You can also take him to a gambling psychologist to guide and counsel him on how to break free from addiction.

there are groups of people (something like anonymous alcoholics) that can provide some relief and helps.
try to search this in your area...

for sure, he need a professional help.
It's not matter that could be managed by you or other person but by some professional (maybe a team that have a look on whole aspects).
it's like to be "drug addicted" it's not to easy quit and moreover it's really hard avoid relapsing

It is very difficult trying to want to help someone who does not even look like they want help, or know that they need help. He is 29 and an adult already, so it may be difficult to help him you should know. But since he is your younger brother and because you are constantly drawn in to settle issues for him, you can talk to him if he will listen so he see's a reason to want to stop. If it is difficult to stop on his own, you can then proceed by recommending help for him from professionals. If everything does not work and you have the clear signal that he is unwilling to change, you let him be and leave him to life to teach him the lessons the harder way.

When you have tried your best but it still doesn't change a lot, seek for a professional is the best choice.

The extreme strategy is kick him from your house and break him from family relationship, because you don't want to get dragged and responsible his huge debt isn't? right now you might afford his debt, but you wouldn't know in the future since an addict is tend to lie to get a lot money to gamble.