Well, talking about the situation of the person who made that post on Reddit, I would say he did the right thing and shouldn't tell the wife the truth. The reason behind that is that women would always want themselves to be the top priority to their men in anything they do, and if you tell them they aren't the top priority for you in anything in general, that can be troublesome, it can even affect your relationship to an extent if the wife is too sensitive and emotional.
So for the sake of the relationship, one can lie once or twice only to keep her happy and let your marriage be. However, talking about your situation, even if I don't call that addiction, I would say it is unethical to do that because she trusts you the most and you are breaking her trust by doing that.
For me, I would never do that because if I'm hiding it and she finds out, that is even more troublesome.
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We all lie for a reason; either to protect ourselves or protect other people from getting hurt. On the given example that the man lied on his fvorite time, it is subjective in the first place. There is a whole lot of definition for enjoyment and that might just confused him with his favorite moment, I assume that he enjoys both of it, still. I did the same thing before but on a different extent. I was asked if I am gambling or engaging to such activities by my girlfriend and I lied saying no. Not to gaslight but I think it is a personal thing. As long as you are not being problematic and still in control of your habits, then things are fine still to hide it for your own reason. Even with partners there are things you keep private from one another simply because you two still have different lives.
I agree, it's a white lie. In and telling that would only help the relief for the writer's conscience. To be honest this thought process the writer of that screenshot has, seems like he has passive aggressivity underneath. As he would be doing that purely for himself, and knowingly hurting his wife.But lying in relationship is an interesting subject. I don't consider not telling everything a lie, but that obviously depends on the relationship. Also just not sharing something versus avoiding to tell something are very different cases. Reason for not sharing something can be protecting them, or just a mundane fact like going to shop, that isn't even significant and worth sharing. And then we can protect ourselves because we are ashamed and afraid of judgement.
I have different relationships with different people, and with my girlfriend, we are pretty direct. So communication is easy. There's really no need to lie as we share even things that most people don't because they would make them jealous and uncomfortable. But i would never want to knowingly hurt her, or value her against others like the guy in the screenshot was thinking. I have said that a gamble a little, but i won't share details, as they are insignificant until i win a lot.
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before I got married, I often did bad things, namely lying to my family or several relatives and what I did more often was lying to my parents when I was very young asking for money to buy school supplies but I used the money to bet on playing poker with friends and that I often do it several times.Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
after I graduated from school I started working to earn my own money and I still did the same thing lying to my brother that my salary had disappeared on the way home from work and at that time my brother gave me around $100 to heal my loss while I will use the money for gambling.
since I did a lot of bad things and became addicted to gambling in my youth, after that I recovered from the addiction, left gambling for several years and got married.
but after getting married I returned to gambling again but never lied to my wife and I was always open about my gambling activities and my wife understood it.
the reason I was too brave to tell my wife was because I was gambling, given my wife's permission, but it had to be cold hard cash without having to go beyond my means.
so, as long as I have been married I have never lied to my wife just to cover up my gambling activities and the past is just experience.
What a funny guy, so he already know if he has a symptom of gambling addict, but he choose to lie instead of communicate to his wife? if he can't being completely transparent with his wife, it means his wife is just a stranger. I feel bad for her as this guy didn't completely trust his wife.
From this short story, we can know the reason why gambling addict always exist and can't be recovered, since they didn't even care at all.
From this short story, we can know the reason why gambling addict always exist and can't be recovered, since they didn't even care at all.
I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.
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I have once lied because of gambling. I use the money I intend using to buy some food stuffs to gamble, unfortunately I lost all to virtual gambling I never knew what to tell my wife, so I just told her I lost the money and the worst part is that I don't even know how come about it. She was very anoid about that and I pretended as if what I was saying was the truth till she believed me. I then have to call a friend to send me money because that was the only money I had in my savings back the around 2017Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
That was a time ago, so I hope you learned the lesson (although if you got the money back from your friend, perhaps you didn't get the morale).
I think that we must be mature enough to make our own decisions, but also to accept the responsibility of any consequences arising from our decisions.
I don't know your wife, the wife of Fivestar4everMVP's story, nor the one mentioned in the OP, but I feel that in all cases they pay for their husbands' faults, and that's not ethical nor fair.
Imagine if the wives are lying to their men on this forum, I bet they won't like it either, lies in a relationship is different from lies to save someone from trouble or others, I dont want to lose to my woman, I will feel wrong about it unless I am trying to safe her life.
There are good lies and bad lies, there was a time when some hoodlums were chasing after a lady when I was still in college, she ran past me and told me not to tell anyone about her, he hid at the back of a compound closer to my family home and when the hoodlum came to ask me question I told them that the lady ran straight down the road and the continued their chase.
I went inside and told my mother, who called the police the hoodlums are nowhere to be found but the lady was taken back to the police station for questioning, my mother said they might be trying to rape her or rob her, later we got informed that she was escorted back to her home later that day by a policeman.
This was what I meant by a good lie and a bad lie, some lies will save your life, and some will likely ruin you or put you in a bad situation.
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Stories of lies from gamblers to their family members will probably always exist and almost happen to all gamblers. what I experienced was lies regarding the amount of money I bet. I used to risk $100 every time I gambled. but at that time there was a colleague who paid his debt to me. I forget the amount, but if I'm not mistaken it was probably more than $500. and I spent it on betting without telling anyone.that's what happens when gamblers actually have the opportunity to bet more and leave behind the restrictions that usually bind them.
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
In as much as this is coming from a very harmless place that wants to probably have the perfect idea of two coming together to make a better idea, it aswell has got its own inadequacy aswell as that's in the fact that it could become unhealthy when the family is in dare need and both of you will think of trying gambling as an option to multiply funds only to loose it or probably both persons get addicted to gambling, it becomes really tough as there will be no one to caution the other, it's best she knows but doesn't get involved so she could help him in some cases where he needs to quit but finding it difficult doing it.Gambling isn't something that should be allowed to be brought to just anyone and women can be extremist at times she could go all in because at the time her emotions may be high and driving her towards that direction only for it to turn out detrimental to the couple in the long run.
Why he act like he broke a very critical thing? come on, a lot people lies almost everyday!
If you have a food and beverage business, will you tell someone about the secret of your business e.g. your supplier, the ingredients, cooking skills, and your profit every month if they ask it?
Same to this case, lying if the best time is into a bed with her is fine, but it's just not okay for you that you're an addict and not want to cure your addiction.
If you have a food and beverage business, will you tell someone about the secret of your business e.g. your supplier, the ingredients, cooking skills, and your profit every month if they ask it?
Same to this case, lying if the best time is into a bed with her is fine, but it's just not okay for you that you're an addict and not want to cure your addiction.
But how about you and your wife to gamble together if you have the time so that you can know when to stop by encouraging yourselves and telling yourselves the amount of money that is small that you should use to gamble. I noticed some people on this forum always say something like they are hiding their gambling activities from their partners but not everyone. If it is done wisely and responsibly, a woman can easily be convinced. But some people can be afraid of their wife not to get addicted also.
I don't support the idea of husband and wife gambling, it's not advisable at all. From op story it appears there kids are still very young so assumings the two parents are gambling together who is going to watch out for the kids in between those time they are using to gamble. Let the husband do his thing and not involve his wife except it's a business investment then it's necessary to involve wife but not gambling. It's left for the husband to gamble responsibly not to financially reck himself. To me I feel there are certain lies that are necessary just to keep the peace at home, especially when we know the type of wife we have.
Gambling habit develops when you have extra funds with you. If you completely think of investing the funds in somewhere stable, then you won’t get the habit of gambling. In this way, you will be also saved from telling lies to hide your gambling habit. Now a days, I hardly gamble in casino games. Occasionally I place bets on sports events, hence I didn’t find any chance to lie about gambling to any of my family member.
Gambling is so addictive that both spouses shouldn't get involved at the same time, because at a point they may lose control of their emotions which could impact on their relationship negatively and if care is not taken one or both partners may become uncontrollably addicted and that will become an unbearable turn out of events.
But if it is one of the partner preferably the husband becoming addicted the wife can easily help him to get out of such addictions, so the man in the story did the right thing not telling the wife his gambling expertise.
The fact about gambling that can indeed be addictive is real, and indeed if both partners are involved in gambling addiction then the negative impact certainly cannot be held back or prevented, even I think when in a relationship when one of them is addicted it can have a negative impact on their relationship. Because when someone is addicted to gambling, the bad impact is not a strange right, it is with one of the addicted parties, especially if both of them are addicted, it will be very bad in the future because they are both addicted, even I think that when both of them are addicted, they may prioritize each other's egos and conflicts like this may not be avoided.But if it is one of the partner preferably the husband becoming addicted the wife can easily help him to get out of such addictions, so the man in the story did the right thing not telling the wife his gambling expertise.
If one party is addicted, the other party must be able to realize that they can get out of their addiction, it is impossible to just leave it alone, because even if it is left alone it will be bad in the future while of course no one wants to experience badness in their life. Therefore, as a partner, you must be able to help the other party who is addicted to be able to improve the situation.
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All this is a small lie on the scale that gamblers are used to lying. While studying the psychology of gambling, I heard the following stories:
- a mother left a neighbor with a young child to go to the casino. At the same time, she knew this neighbor very poorly, in fact, she left her child with a stranger for gambling, probably it was a sign of addiction to uncontrolled play.
- The second interview was about the fact that the guy was a student and lived in a rented apartment, and at some point he became interested in betting. And when he ran out of money, this guy sold all the furniture from the rented apartment to keep betting. And then he lied to his parents about being robbed.
It's unbelievable, and of course the truth came out later.
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No I haven’t lied to anybody like that before.
Your story and the other guy’s tweet are pretty awful imo. I don’t know if you are still gambling like that but you should probably seek professional help. The other guy on twitter too. I see no difference between your story and locking yourself in a room and drink alcohol/smoking. See how it looks now? That’s what we call “having an addiction”
If gambling prevents you from doing your daily duties then gambling is not a fun event for you anymore. It became an addiction and it needs to be treated.
Exactly,I don't give a lie for whatsoever reason to cover up my gambling habits,whereas I'm a responsible gambler and when I want to gamble it's just little of my time and I don't mind telling a friend of mine or anyone close to me that this is what I'm doing because I'm not spending more or using more time doing this.im just doing it cause I want to feel the dun that moments and then I give a stop.
We'll I feel such habits is a real sign of an addiction on a high note that needs to be minimize, tackled but we all have different ways of doing things and so it's so difficult to limits such behavior's.
I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.
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My own is that it just change my mood and if you ask why, I will just tell you not to be bothered about it. We have our stories and certainly loosing is part of the game and if you've not lost at some point in time then you've probably not gamble, but then, it's not everything you will want to tell your partner most especially as it regards your losses course not all of them have the emotional intelligence to handling it and might feel that you're squandering all your resources away through gambling but again, there should always be some sort of balance such that you make yourself a bit valnourable and accountable to her so as to reduce your gambling excesses.
It's very easy to lie, it's in human nature to go the easy route, some times a lie is necessary to get on your right Journey, even in my business I need to lie to sell to my customers, because the truth isn't so interesting to people this days.
Assuming I bought goods for $100 each and to resell I need to add an extra $20 per the good and this includes the shipping costs and clearance, if I tell my customers to pay $120 for the goods they will want to price it lower, this is where I need to tell them a higher price, knowing that they will price is lower and probably ends at the same $120 per the goods.
In real life relationships, either among friends or most especially in a marriage, lies will ruin your trust, you don't want that to happen, its better to build your relationship on trust, if you are a gambler and also married, normally when you lost some money your partner will think about your gambling lifestyle.
When it comes to gambling it's better to be open about your losses to your partner, remember that they can be of help if something is about to snap in your head.
Assuming I bought goods for $100 each and to resell I need to add an extra $20 per the good and this includes the shipping costs and clearance, if I tell my customers to pay $120 for the goods they will want to price it lower, this is where I need to tell them a higher price, knowing that they will price is lower and probably ends at the same $120 per the goods.
In real life relationships, either among friends or most especially in a marriage, lies will ruin your trust, you don't want that to happen, its better to build your relationship on trust, if you are a gambler and also married, normally when you lost some money your partner will think about your gambling lifestyle.
When it comes to gambling it's better to be open about your losses to your partner, remember that they can be of help if something is about to snap in your head.
A lie can be something good or naturally bad.
Sometimes we make some excuse and pretending of busy with something because of our gambling addiction. Sometimes we spend more time on this rather than having a good time with the family. Well, that was a few years back when our minds were in the box of imagining what would happen to us when we hit the jackpot.
It is probably most of us who are experiencing this one. Maybe some are telling their partners already while some do not and keep it secret.
But I don't suggest new gamblers to this especially if we have family already because this is also a reason why some couples separated. Must remain responsible and knows our priorities as well.
Sometimes we make some excuse and pretending of busy with something because of our gambling addiction. Sometimes we spend more time on this rather than having a good time with the family. Well, that was a few years back when our minds were in the box of imagining what would happen to us when we hit the jackpot.
It is probably most of us who are experiencing this one. Maybe some are telling their partners already while some do not and keep it secret.
But I don't suggest new gamblers to this especially if we have family already because this is also a reason why some couples separated. Must remain responsible and knows our priorities as well.
I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
I have once lied because of gambling. I use the money I intend using to buy some food stuffs to gamble, unfortunately I lost all to virtual gambling I never knew what to tell my wife, so I just told her I lost the money and the worst part is that I don't even know how come about it. She was very anoid about that and I pretended as if what I was saying was the truth till she believed me. I then have to call a friend to send me money because that was the only money I had in my savings back the around 2017Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
That was time ago, so I hope you learnt the lesson (although if you got the money back from your friend, perhaps you didn't get the morale).
I think that we must be mature enough to make our own decisions, but also to accept the responsibility of any consequences arising from our decisions.
I don't know your wife, the wife of Fivestar4everMVP's story, nor the one mentioned in the OP, but I feel that in all cases they pay for their husbands' faults, and that's not ethical nor fair.
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In my case, I don't know if it's a lie or not. I have a habit when I come home after gambling, I always give money to my wife whether I win or lose. I gave her some money and said that today I won, and I want to give a part of this money for her. I found this method quite good because the next time I asked her permission to go gambling, she was always happy and mostly didn't complain about my gambling.
However, this method requires me to always set aside a small amount of money and not lose all my money. One time, I unfortunately lost everything and I had to borrow some money from my friend to bring home and give to my wife.
I have a friend who lost a huge amount of money to gambling, and returning home that night, he lied to his wife that he was robbed, when the woman (being suspecious) asked why he was not beaten by the robbers, he got angry at her and almost beat her that night 🤣.
Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
I have once lied because of gambling. I use the money I intend using to buy some food stuffs to gamble, unfortunately I lost all to virtual gambling I never knew what to tell my wife, so I just told her I lost the money and the worst part is that I don't even know how come about it. She was very anoid about that and I pretended as if what I was saying was the truth till she believed me. I then have to call a friend to send me money because that was the only money I had in my savings back the around 2017 Have you told any gambling related lie before? Please share, let's read and have fun.
So, when I came across that post on reddit, I couldn't help but laugh really hard, and also imagined how many of us gamblers out there are telling one lie or the other just to cover up our gambling habit..
I don't think the person telling the story lied to cover up his habit of gambling, his wife may have known about him gambling but what she didn't know was that he considered gambling the favorite part of his day and not the time spent with her. Telling the wife the truth that whenever he gambled was the best time of his day is a statement capable of ending the marriage. He is a chronically addicted gambler who does not want his partner to know how addicted he is to gambling, and an adicted gambler who will not easily change.It's really sad and puzzling. Why do people stay in relationships that bring them less joy than gambling? This could indicate a dependency, or perhaps it suggests a need to find a partner with whom they can truly be happy. In any case, if you're engaging in activities that don't bring you pleasure (be it gambling, relationships, or any form of entertainment) it's a clear sign that it's time to stop or make a change
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