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newbie
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Living with parents under one roof is one of the main causes of divorce. I'm not going to marry until their homes, because I complex and not afraid to get along with other people's parents.
By the time you earn on your house you will need only to bring the grandchildren which you will have because you did not marry. For this there is a mortgage.
newbie
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Living with parents under one roof is one of the main causes of divorce. I'm not going to marry until their homes, because I complex and not afraid to get along with other people's parents.
hero member
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On my own experience as a married man living separately is the best thing to do if you're married now, considering some financial aspects you have to work for your own and learn how to make money for your new family especially if you have childrens, you will discover something new if you are on your own and not living with your parents, you can solve problems together with your wife and not relying on your parents so many things you will discover and learn on your own.
legendary
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Sometimes I think that more than a half of divorces are happening due to influence from parents. Get out of there as soon as possible. Your and her parents shouldn't be able to be an uncontrolled part of life of your new family.

You can rejoin them later, but you need to have at least few years without their typically overprotective agenda.

Sometimes the financial constraints force the newly wed couples to share the house with their parents. Especially in Asian countries such as India, the majority of the people are unable to afford rent. They share their house either with their parents, or with their siblings. Sometimes it goes without any major issue, but in some cases it ends up in a divorce or a criminal case.

Well this is actually true. But given this, the couple really should strive to move out of the house. They cannot and should not stay there for a long time.

I agree more with you. If circumstances force the couple to live together with external people as the parents-inlaw, then they should hasty up to get another apartment and relocate in order to avoid issues coing up later.
legendary
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Sometimes I think that more than a half of divorces are happening due to influence from parents. Get out of there as soon as possible. Your and her parents shouldn't be able to be an uncontrolled part of life of your new family.

You can rejoin them later, but you need to have at least few years without their typically overprotective agenda.

Sometimes the financial constraints force the newly wed couples to share the house with their parents. Especially in Asian countries such as India, the majority of the people are unable to afford rent. They share their house either with their parents, or with their siblings. Sometimes it goes without any major issue, but in some cases it ends up in a divorce or a criminal case.

Well this is actually true. But given this, the couple really should strive to move out of the house. They cannot and should not stay there for a long time.

That depends on the priority of the couple. Some people prefer purchasing an expensive car, to buying an apartment. This is especially true in India, where people are fond of showing off their wealth.
legendary
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well for me i rather go and move separately since i already have the obligation to prove to myself and to my wife that i already responsible enough to fill up being the head of the family, and its much better especially to us guys as our pride living and raising our own family in our own ways, that's my personal opinion though.
sr. member
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Sometimes I think that more than a half of divorces are happening due to influence from parents. Get out of there as soon as possible. Your and her parents shouldn't be able to be an uncontrolled part of life of your new family.

You can rejoin them later, but you need to have at least few years without their typically overprotective agenda.

Sometimes the financial constraints force the newly wed couples to share the house with their parents. Especially in Asian countries such as India, the majority of the people are unable to afford rent. They share their house either with their parents, or with their siblings. Sometimes it goes without any major issue, but in some cases it ends up in a divorce or a criminal case.

Well this is actually true. But given this, the couple really should strive to move out of the house. They cannot and should not stay there for a long time.
legendary
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Sometimes I think that more than a half of divorces are happening due to influence from parents. Get out of there as soon as possible. Your and her parents shouldn't be able to be an uncontrolled part of life of your new family.

You can rejoin them later, but you need to have at least few years without their typically overprotective agenda.

Sometimes the financial constraints force the newly wed couples to share the house with their parents. Especially in Asian countries such as India, the majority of the people are unable to afford rent. They share their house either with their parents, or with their siblings. Sometimes it goes without any major issue, but in some cases it ends up in a divorce or a criminal case.
sr. member
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Sometimes I think that more than a half of divorces are happening due to influence from parents. Get out of there as soon as possible. Your and her parents shouldn't be able to be an uncontrolled part of life of your new family.

You can rejoin them later, but you need to have at least few years without their typically overprotective agenda.

Yep. If not "deliberately", i'm sure that the parents is actually a big factor on your family's life. This can't be helped. It's really not ideal for 2 separate families living in one roof.
legendary
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Sometimes I think that more than a half of divorces are happening due to influence from parents. Get out of there as soon as possible. Your and her parents shouldn't be able to be an uncontrolled part of life of your new family.

You can rejoin them later, but you need to have at least few years without their typically overprotective agenda.
sr. member
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Hi guys... Just wanted to know your opinion which is better living with family or living separately after getting. I get got married recently and there is lot of problems between my mom and wife.... Lot of misunderstanding and they don't seem to sink well. So now my wife wants to go separately n live.... Don't know what to do at this stage I think there will be a lot financial issues and bonding with family members will become less... So I hope for any advice or any suggestions to help me....

Dude.. I hate to tell you the truth but here i go >.< its really bad to stay with your parents and even you're married that's not adult like my friend you have to move i know it has a lot of financial issues you must sacrifice for your wife now and she's your new life now okay? and further more i know it kills you to leave your parents behind but they will support you through out because they are parents and also its a good thing to live separately to have a personal space between you two married couples for your future son Cheesy so think about what your decision will be and always think wisely before acting it okay? its very important to listen to your wife because she's always right Cheesy and I wish you marred couples live a happy life and God bless you Cheesy

Thank you for your advise dude. I have decided to go separately but may be this decision will affect me financially. However, need to move with life. 

I just did. Before 2017 kicked off. I intentionally did. Even if the plans are not concrete yet. I have to say it's one of the most fulfilling decisions I have ever done in my life. Goodluck to you mate.
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Hi guys... Just wanted to know your opinion which is better living with family or living separately after getting. I get got married recently and there is lot of problems between my mom and wife.... Lot of misunderstanding and they don't seem to sink well. So now my wife wants to go separately n live.... Don't know what to do at this stage I think there will be a lot financial issues and bonding with family members will become less... So I hope for any advice or any suggestions to help me....

Dude.. I hate to tell you the truth but here i go >.< its really bad to stay with your parents and even you're married that's not adult like my friend you have to move i know it has a lot of financial issues you must sacrifice for your wife now and she's your new life now okay? and further more i know it kills you to leave your parents behind but they will support you through out because they are parents and also its a good thing to live separately to have a personal space between you two married couples for your future son Cheesy so think about what your decision will be and always think wisely before acting it okay? its very important to listen to your wife because she's always right Cheesy and I wish you marred couples live a happy life and God bless you Cheesy

Thank you for your advise dude. I have decided to go separately but may be this decision will affect me financially. However, need to move with life. 
hero member
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If you are getting married, will be better for you if you live seperatly. It will give you more relax, more calm, will make you wiser to face any problem of your life. But you still have to sleep at your mother house at least 2 times in a month. Especially if you have a baby. If you live in your mother house, your wife normally feel uncomfort. and if you live in your wife housse, you will feel uncomfort, it's normal. so better if you live in your own house.
legendary
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Good that you decide to live separate with your parents, Asian wants family closer but its really not that healthy when you have your own family.  You will encounter conflicts with other families if you live in one house.

Financial issues will be solved any how, what you need to solve for now is the more important is to have unity in your own family for your wife and your kids if you have some.
legendary
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On the one hand it is, on the other hand there are countries where people traditionally live in large families with parents. It is true there is a woman is usually a secondary role and therefore will not complain about the husband's mother.

In such cases, there will be no privacy. The couple can have sex only when the parents are out. Also, this can lead to many social issues. In South Asia, it is very common to hear about affairs between father-in-laws and daughter-in-laws.
sr. member
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It think it is good to be with your family if your wife and your family is in good terms however as you said there is conflict between your mom and your wife it will be the best if you will be temporarily separated to them , to cool down the issue and contemplate about what is the issue and how to resolve the issue.
legendary
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Living with parents after marriage isn't a good idea. It's usual that people leaves their parents house after ending school and starting to study in university or work. Living after weddings with parents isn't good, because parents likes to control and explain how you need to live. You can't live how you want in this way, and it's bad for relationship. It even can end with divorce.
Moving to live separately is expensive. But I think buying a smart flat in not prestigious place is possible. Maybe your parents can help you and give some money? I think they also may want that you with your wife would move to live separately from parents house.
legendary
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Live in 4-story house.

Oldest generation live on first floor.

Next generation, 2nd floor.

Next, 3rd floor.

Top empty unless the family is long lived.

As older generation die out, younger ones move down 1 floor.

No access without invitation.

German way of doing things.

Cool
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Hi guys... Just wanted to know your opinion which is better living with family or living separately after getting. I get got married recently and there is lot of problems between my mom and wife.... Lot of misunderstanding and they don't seem to sink well. So now my wife wants to go separately n live.... Don't know what to do at this stage I think there will be a lot financial issues and bonding with family members will become less... So I hope for any advice or any suggestions to help me....

Get the fuck out of there. Living with old folks is a disaster, they are annoying nit picking scumbags.

What kind of marriage is that where you live with your parents and wife? Sounds like a kindengarten to me.

Get your own fucking house, and live there with your wife and kids. If not then the wife will probably leave you, because you are such a mama's boy, and then you will probably become a drunk and cry the rest of your life that your wife left you.

ROFL... can't explain it any better than this. Those who can't stay away from their parents, must refrain from getting married. Because they are not capable of leading a married life.
On the one hand it is, on the other hand there are countries where people traditionally live in large families with parents. It is true there is a woman is usually a secondary role and therefore will not complain about the husband's mother.

It right to serve to your family first, but some people will leave, it is not about the family, it about your family now. We can separate after getting married, but first, you must settle down you family first before going to have a new family. Nevertheless, we should enjoy our new family.
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Hi guys... Just wanted to know your opinion which is better living with family or living separately after getting. I get got married recently and there is lot of problems between my mom and wife.... Lot of misunderstanding and they don't seem to sink well. So now my wife wants to go separately n live.... Don't know what to do at this stage I think there will be a lot financial issues and bonding with family members will become less... So I hope for any advice or any suggestions to help me....

Get the fuck out of there. Living with old folks is a disaster, they are annoying nit picking scumbags.

What kind of marriage is that where you live with your parents and wife? Sounds like a kindengarten to me.

Get your own fucking house, and live there with your wife and kids. If not then the wife will probably leave you, because you are such a mama's boy, and then you will probably become a drunk and cry the rest of your life that your wife left you.

ROFL... can't explain it any better than this. Those who can't stay away from their parents, must refrain from getting married. Because they are not capable of leading a married life.
On the one hand it is, on the other hand there are countries where people traditionally live in large families with parents. It is true there is a woman is usually a secondary role and therefore will not complain about the husband's mother.
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