Topic: Making bets with my stupid friend - page 3. (Read 673 times)

I often bet with my friends when watching football matches together. This helps us be more interested in watching soccer, and all our bets stop at fun, a drink, a drink or a certain dining outing, not betting cash. This helps us be more comfortable betting with each other, not focusing on winning or losing because whether we win or lose, we will still be able to eat, drink, and have fun together.

I see many people, even though they are close friends, when betting with each other with real money, conflicts often arise and sometimes that friendship will no longer exist after such conflicts. Betting with acquaintance people around us seems simple, but if we let the money factor influence us too much, sometimes we can easily fall into more awkward situations than with strangers.

Absolutely, it's not about the money, it's about the shared moments and the playful rivalry that can enhance our connections with friends. These small competitions, whether it's over a game or a simple bet, bring a spirited dimension to our friendships, making each gathering memorable. I totally agree that the best relationships are built on mutual respect and not taking things too seriously. Keeping that lighthearted attitude in both victories and losses is key to lasting friendships.

       -   The only thing I've ever experienced betting with my friend is that when he loses, he treats us to food at any restaurant, or when I lose, I shoulder his groceries for the whole week.
Those are the only things I experience betting on.

Sometimes I give money when, for example, we have a bet of 10–20 dollars; that's the only bet we make, for example, on who will win here in the country, the national basketball team.

It's a great experience for you, for one. You clearly said so and I see nothing wrong in making a bet on the outcome of an argument or topic of debate. At least this way, everyone has to have good facts that is true, inorder to win, because the information may be on the internet with just a click away.

Am sure you guys may be single for now or not in any serious relationship because otherwise, your partners would have somehow discouraged the act so as you and your friend don't ever have to fight incase one person feels or thinks they have been cheated or given an unfair penalty.

It's the simplest things in life like this that brings flavor and joy to me. And yes, I make bets with friends, sometimes for a can of coke so I don't have to fork out a dollar out of my pocket anymore, sometimes for larger denominations like, 200 bucks, our largest being 500 dollars over a boxing match.

Honestly, nothing wrong with making bets like this with your friend, as long as you know for sure that the guy you're making bets with is really your friend. Some people do this to test whether you're able to fork out money when they need someone to depend upon, some do this to see just how rich or poor you are, how stingy you are with your money so they know how to dupe you out of when you're not in the right headspace. Good friends will see this as nothing but a game among people who love each other platonically and wouldn't dare do something ludicrous that would take away at this friendship.

Glad that I have made ties with people that are really trustworthy and are so to speak Day ones, cause beyond the stupidity of the concept of betting with friends I'm more or less concerned more about the character of the person I'm making the bets with.

Except that it binds their friendship together, sometimes money can affect friendship. If it's for fun, that's cool. On the other flip of it, gamblers are meant to wager on games at least to win or lose with no strings attached. Who knows what the next person thinks of such a peer to peer gambling out of discussion or arguments. Those are just a means to kill time, as it may seem. But the player will never make a kill from such plays. I mean they wager considerably; I don't think it's something huge. Settling the argument with a prove other than staking money is better.

Moods do swing, not in their case, but in terms of playing with no rules to the game. Playing a card game with friends can result to gambling, and the rules are clearly known to all participants. Sometimes when an argument erupts, the rules resolve it. In this context of gambling, where Op and his friend, only wager money to remove each other's doubt on who is more advanced intellectually, can result to bigger argument in future. Though not wishing that for Op and his friend. But that's what I see of such behaviors, because money is involved.

Just like you said, they ain't actually serious and the bets between them doesn't seem to me like a serious one either.  It is just a friendly game between them and that explains why they don't go home with each other's money even when a winner is declared, the fact that they can bet on anything tells that it is all for fun and nothing serious attached to it. The challenge, lousiness, pride and boasts are simply the love language that binds their friendship together. I am not a frequent gambler but most times, I gambler in groups with friends.  Monies are not always involved most times but the fun and entertainment we enjoy while gambling is worth the time spent. Gambling is not all about money most times.

Friends can laugh at betting. Competition is part of the best friendships, right? It can get messy even with food on the queue, as I've witnessed before. Understand, its mindset, not money. Even without realising it, you look at your friend differently. Your situation sounds fantastic. Sounds like a friendly competition over who's buying. The best friendships, the ones that last? Not who won the Super Bowl bet. The fact that you sometimes tear up the bet and give the money back indicates you're sensible. Not taking things too seriously is respect. Continue that and you'll always be steady, win or lose.

What a story! All I can say is that you guys are not serious, I can't be betting with friends and not collect my money. I am even stricter in that regard and must have ensured that the money has been technically escrowed in the hands of a trusted third party that will only deliver it to the winner. This is so because I always like it to be a deterrent to those people who are too lousy and mouthed about their beliefs. There are some people that can't even argue reasonably and constructively, you can't have a good discussion with them without leading to arguments. These people annoy me so much and I am now taking it upon myself to do as much as possible to stay away from them to avoid unnecessary shouting and annoyance, especially if they are too perfect in their views. If such people are the ones I challenged into betting, oh boy, they should forget that money, I will not even flinch or pity them in any way.

As for your questions, of course, I do bets with friends and family members on friendly notes. And you can refer to the above opinion for the answer to the other question.

When some people lose money in online betting, you could see anger in them and transfer of aggression but because they can't show that to the house or owner of the casino, they put it all on the family and people at home . So likewise those kind of people gambling against their friends, they will of course show that anger and envy that their friends have taken their money so any slightest provocation or exchange of words can lead into a fight. Very many times I have seen where friends fought after gambling and the cause is usually that one party refused to continue playing because he has more profit and wants to run off with it by not risking in more playing time not to fall into losing what he has and that makes the other losing party annoyed to insist on continuation so that he could have more chance to win back his loses.

It's actually very fun having this kind of games especially around certain kind of friends who we know for sure really gat us, when you play this kind of games with them, you get to see that even the bond between you people is even strengthen especially when it has to do with the fact that it gets entertaining and aswell as having to have meals together is another way of sharing bonds amongst gamblers and friends generally, i actually do gamble with friends but the fun in it is that it's usually quite different from that which is done at the casino as sometimes refunds can be made in situations where we see that the looser is almost stranded.

Although this applies to friends who share the same kind of view and mind set with you as some of our friends may not share same views with us and may not be willing to be involved in same things as this with such friends you look for other ways of bonding with them.

playing with friends is really fun and a nice eay for entertainment!
I like it a lot and when there are special bets (for example in the world cup of soccer) it's really exciting to follow the matches...not to mention the exotic bets...like goals of certain players, corners, cards and so on

and this is all!
Yes, since you play with friends just for fun the rest can lead to big losses and it is better to avoid un-necessary risks of money or you will Just waist Faith and time that you can earn money with these bets

I make bets with friends too, but I stopped it when it has to do with money or any material thing because I realize that it ends in disputes just like you said that sometimes one person turns on the other person. It’s a good thing to argue with friends and even better with them, but if possible don’t do it with money. It’s always fun when you figure who’s right.

Friends who end arguments and discussions with a bet don't understand very well the concept of gambling. Arguments are not meant to trigger the anger of somebody else to the extent of wagering money. Those discussions lead to serious arguments because they don't closely relate to one another. Nothing special about meaningless arguments. Even though it appears meaningful, seeking for a prove is the right thing to do. Choosing gambling as a way to end the long overdue arguments can only make the loser get angrier. And when in that same gathering next time, he'd want to try again. Hence, that gathering of friends will continuously end in an argument. As everyone involved would want to win their lost money.

If Op isn't interested in such a friendship for tagging them as "stupid" I think he should avoid their company. A proper gambling circle does it with games, not arguments. Unless the game is in the argument, staking money on quarrels is inadmissible. Peers easily influence one another emotionally, and when the energy is weak and focused on brainless ideas, people in that circle of friends will get stuck exhibiting brainless behavior. By hanging out with irresponsible folks, one can't obtain a responsible attitude. I don't remember placing bets on arguments. It never gets directly to me, it's just an argument. I've seen people do it, but I have not seen people who spend time often betting on arguments.

If they can thinks like that, they will not playing gambling, even with their friends. That's why they must knows what will happens to them if they decides to involved with gambling so they will not easily playing gambling. If your friends can't accept anything from gambling, you should not gambling with your friends because that can triggers a situation that will makes both of you in an uncomfortable. But if your friends can accept anything from gambling and consider that will be the risks of playing gambling, that will not be a problem and even you and your friends will enjoy playing gambling together to spends your spare time. We must recognize the risks involved while we playing gambling with our friends because some people can easily ruins their friendship with their friends because of playing gambling together. So we must avoids that happens to us and with our friends.

Gambling is not for everyone, we should choose wisely and understand what we've signed up for and become contributing to the system. Perhaps our friends plays a major roles in our growth when it comes to gambling, be competent to leveled our strategies. Making reasonable friends will not be so hard these days. We know how compulsory it is for us to handle responsibilities in the system, be capable of acknowledging the risks involved.

right, so when it comes to choosing our friends, we should be choose where we have peace of mind and can respect our wishes and decisions. Because there are other friends who even though they know their friends will be in trouble, they will continue to do what they want just to justify what they want. As for gambling, no one should feel bad about what might happen because you only gambled to enjoy yourself, not to be a competitor.

It really does depend on what type of friend you are dealing with here. If he is indeed your real friend, no matter what you do, you won't feel stress about it but instead just have fun about it. You will just laugh about your mistakes and not get too hard on yourself if you or him did wrong about the bet. Not looking for any fault or mistake but just move on whatever the outcome of the bet is. You can rarely find such person. So better keep him, if you find one.

Money can destroy the relationship if you have other expectations, other than fun. In this case, you need to be clear with your friend regarding your target. Otherwise, you will really get into trouble with your friend if you are not seeing eye to eye here.

With gambling that we do with friends it will be more fun because, But never get too deep into the gambling place so that we don't lose too much. We have to keep control of the money we spend because by drinking and betting we sometimes forget that we have spent too much money. I'm often like that when it gets too deep then we have to go home immediately and settle the bills that need to be paid. Friendship is very important but money can sometimes destroy that relationship.

When I was in college, I had a friend where we always ate snacks or drinks from the bar at a pool table.
I think it's fun and these types of bets are healthy if the value is insignificant for the parties involved (it's money that won't be missed) and if it doesn't end up in discussion.
Otherwise, I don't think it's worth ruining a friendship over a bet if both of you aren't able to understand each other in the end.

My dad also likes to gamble on drinking at a card table with his friends, but that's about it....it never involves the question of "winning money", the reward of winning is just the fact that you get to drink or eat without spending anything.

This is the true spirit of a healthy bet: Having fun with friends without the goal being profit.