usually i prefer if they go first, if you have a certain position with good different type of trust(having many trust from the same member is seen as abuse for me) from different member, you can ask for that
it's always worked for me
Not all of the users have good reputation and the counter party is willing to go first!
then use escrow, but if you have been tagged with red trust, you're done none will trade with you minus newbie that aren't aware how the system work
the new strategy that scammers are using now, is making new account and trading with high trusted member or scam buster, to gain a positive trust from them, this is done with low amount, then they proceed to scam a big amount more easily
so be aware of this, the only legit member are not those that have only green trust, but are those that have green trust that come from different people and the risked amount is very high and not few cents