Possible to send IOUs to someone you just know the address from? Definitely. The ledger however is distributed and public, not in a private datacenter from the service provider.
The blanket statements and one-liners that creep up again make it quitre hard to discern however what the real issue is.
My guess is that people see several things in Ripple that it isn't and also isn't designed to be:
Ripple != XRP for example. XRP are a part of the system, but they are not really required for users after funding and definitely not the main investment vehicle in Ripple.
Ripple is also not a way to deposit/redeem money or other assets. These are the gateways and YOU are responsible to choose which of them you want to use and trust, not Ripple.
Also, Ripple is just "the other side of the coin" in the struggle to create digital assets. Bitcoin created transactions in a central shared database with units that start off as worthless and that are traded at the borders against other things. Ripple allows you to create anything really that is worth something (a cow, a coin, a cake) but since the thing that is represented is actually existing it can be traded at the borders mostly/only(?) against the real thing while the "IOUs" can be traded inside the system.