Topic: Selfish Nigerians - page 2. (Read 374 times)

In this day an era, my broda or sista wey be the OP, make I tell you in capital letters say, NOTHING IS HIDDEN UNDER THE SUN. Shey you get andriod phone, and you fit get at least N500 to take connect to the internet? If yes, e nor get update wey dey hidden na we just dey too lazy to find am.

Take this forum for example, e get some people wey be say na person give them the update, e also get some people wey be na for internet dem find the forum. Update or no update , just sabi how to use the internet.

Lastly, nobody owe anybody any freaking thing...whether na you paddy paddy or not.

Op no be only you oo, this kind of case many for this life, e get one of my friend too wey I been dey beg make em put me through for online work, em tell me say make I finish school first, after I finish I still go meet am make em put me through e just been dey give me some kind attitude them, and few weeks ago wen I ask am em tell me say, the update no dey again. The thing pain me because I don dey ask am for over 5 years now. When it comes to this online legit work dem plenty update dey oo, na just that some person wey don find am nor dey free like to share, and if you ask them why dem go say na make the update for no cast. Though some persons no worth the effect of teaching dem something because of unseriousness and casting of update.

I don't subscribe to the idea that people are selfish rather I prefer using the word self centered on the ground that looking out for ones self first is not against the prowess of humanity. Giving or sharing information is relative meaning that a person can easily dish out information to a person and withhold such information from another. This is why it is not in my book to address someone as selfish. People go a long way to get information and some information have instruction of not sharing to any person. If a friend is providing food and other goodies to a friend, it is let for you to ask him out of the way forward and not for you to sit down and way for him to share the information. Your thinking here shows how myopic you reason. This might be far from his your friend's hought. From another angle, this shows that you are a self centred person also. It will interest you to know that you are what you think.

Don't blame your friend for not telling you his secret to his source of income,  I pray you wake up to realities some days to know that success has a principle and is not a matter of emotions as you want to make it look.

Also be thankful for your friend,  for he has shown you love by giving you things that you need,  because what I can understand from the whole story is that you feel your friend is lucky to have hard what he has instead of you taking a look at the sacrifice he pays to be who he is.

Thirdly if I were to be your friend all the while I would have discovered that what you want is not the love he is showing you rather your eyes are on his position,  and that is another form of jealousy from friends.

Now do you take the time to know why your friend is so sceptical about people around him like friends to the point of keeping his business a secret from them?

How many bullets of betrayal made him to decide to remain private,  sincerely speaking,  not many people know exactly what most successful do for a living,  because it is none of their business,  and because your friend did something and succeed in it,  doesn't mean that you will also succeed in the same venture too,  so stop assuming that you can do what your friend is doing.

He may succeed in that line and you may become a failure in the same line,  so life no is by copy copy,  do your own thing,  pray to God for success be persistent and keep improving in your own little way,  some days,  you will also discover your path to follow.

Aside the unwillingness of others that makes them not to teach others about their source of income, you can bear with me that this is all about trusting someone you wanted to teach, cwnntgey confide this same trust in them, can they cope with learning, will such person not abuse the whole thing, we need to look into some certain conditions and circumstances also that are involved in this things before we make a decision on what to do or not, you also can testify to the fact that people could be do annoying and disappointing plus being untrustworthy, also there's nothing like a law that states you must make your own money from the same thing your friend does to earn his, yours may be different, what if what he does are illegitimate things, can you cope.

I'm not sure if you asked him directly about wanting in on the opportunity or you're just making conclusions? I have a friend who thought such of me in the past and it's not always as it seems. He might have left you out for any of the following reasons:

1. Sometimes, It's just a waste of time: in my experience, a lot of people are very interested in making money but only a tiny amount of people are willing to put in the work necessary to achieve commendable results. You might put in effort to help a friend and their unwillingness to put in the work simply means a waste of time. If you do this 3-4 times, it becomes tiring.

2. Not everyone can teach: He might be a good money making doesn't necessarily mean he can teach. Sometimes, it's just easier to help others rather than teaching them especially if the subject matter is complex and hard. Success is hard. Even harder to impact on others.

3. Some people are outright bad: I once had an experience and indulged my friend in an opportunity but he simply when behind my back to tarnish my name and get me off the opportunity so he alone will dominate. It's very little trust in this space because not everyone who seem loyal or humble at first will always be. My best guess be say him just dey try dey careful sha. You never can be too sure since no way to know people's actual intentions.

You should meet him and have a serious conversation with him about instead rather than drawing conclusions from a distance.

I don't know whether you ask him outrightly to show you the way him dey do his business wey him dey live on because you wey need something, na you go press for the thing more for the person to know say you dey serious. And my guy, some friends sabi how to cast people down oo, so you no fit tell wetin your guy fear be.

Na you really sabi the guy sha so you know wetin make am do like that pass me but make you no reason am like that. E fit be say him no trust you too. As him still give you food, e still fit be say him dey reason some kind thing about your matter.

Not everybody who is like that I have a friend you usually get an update  he never never waste time he shared it with me but I also have a friend who always want you to ask from him but  never want to show you and so when you have anybody around you  that the best way is for you to keep it distance for  cuz it's unfortunate that that person doesn't want your progress

to be very honest honest, your friend did a good thing not telling you about it, and please I'm not being personal here and just responding based on how you sound in your writeup

From the way you're sounding, it seem your friend understand that it might be difficult to do business with you. Do you think it's easy to see someone who gives you food whenever you come visiting?

If you're my friend, introducing you to what I do is totally my decision and mine alone to take and if I decide to bring you into getting involved in the business I do has a lot to do with the kind of person I see you as. There are some friends that should just be your friend and that's it, there are some you could consider a business/ hustling partner and this has nothing to do with any competition of any sort.

Let me share my personal experience in this context. There was a time I was into cpa marketing and a friend will always come to the house and will see me being busy on my system, he always ask me what I do and i just tell him not to take it seriously but he pressurised me to the point that I agreed to tell him about the cpa marketing ànd about how to go about it. Because I had only an account and was preparing for my exams at the time I had to tell him to be managing the account so anything that comes out at the end of the week we would share it. They guy was too greedy and was asking that since he will be the one working for the number of weeks I will be focusing with my exams that I should allow him take all the money then when I'm done with my exams I can create an account for him and then collect my account back.

Immediately I just put him out of anything that has to do with the business and hard to face my stuff alone.

The country is already hard and there are lots of people that are very not serious and are looking for people they will drag down with them. If I don't feel the need to bring you into my business life based on the fact that I don't consider you someone I could trust enough as a business partner, that doesn't make me a bad person and you should just let it be at the point we are.

My sincere opinion though.

I will advice to have this in mind that no one owes you nothing,  don't force people to show you things that are generating money for them, allow them to teach you willing. If you keep on disturbing them they will not teach you because you are being too inquisitive to know what he is into. It is choice for him show you are not , you must be into what he is doing for a living . So not take things personal when people refuse to show you things they are into.

You know as it's, you never know how he take dey get money, you don't know whether in a bad or good way, because as naija take dey no be waiting this person dey do the other one will be doing to make money, and if some people make money in a bad way, nobody go like to reveal his secrets to their friends no matter how close they are because some people mouth no dey ever stay one place, immediately they find out what someone is doing, na so their mouth will start to dey run about, that is for some people.

But anybody wey dey make legal money and refuse to tell his close friend, that one na big selfishness, that does not make sense at all, living cool life and seeing your friends struggling every day before they can provide for themselves, we all want to know how to catch fish, e no make sense to dey give me fish chop always, no be say na him money you go dey collect while hustling, so there's nothing to hide, you said he keep it away from you and how did you know it's something that you can do very well, or u check his phone while he was not around? If you see any changes from him, then you need to ask him what he's doing to live a cool life, not until he tell you how he is making money.

I don’t know how close you and that your friend are, but I no dey sure say I go sabi something, I go come dey hide am from my friend, if I dey make money, e go make sense make my friends to dey make am, if only me dey make money I no go even dey balance, because money wey I dey make na me and my friends go dey spend am and e no go dey satisfy me, but if my friends too dey make money, all of us go dey okay, and we no go need depend on each other for survival, and incase if anything happen to one of us, we go fit help each other, na so friendship suppose be, but any of ur friend wey get source of income and him dey hide am from u, then d person no be ur real friend.

You can only take a horse to the riverside but you can't force it to drink water. Sometimes our friends do try to tell us about something that will be beneficial to us but we rather pay less attention to them till when we see them making good results from what they ventured into and you can't also blame somebody that wants to see results from other people before joining them in what they do because often times being too incusitive to join a particular trend leads to danger and sometimes being defrauded and checking at the high rate of internet frauds now you will see that it is really difficult to convince someone to join you in what they do online.

Fraudsters and scammers have made online platforms look like scams and persuading someone to be part of something that is going on on the internet is not easy at all. Though there a times when our friends tries to bring our knowledge to something that will be beneficial to us but we pay little or no attention to them.

Another factor why some of our friends finds it difficult to introduce us to some platforms like this is base on fear that if they bring you up to the system that you might channel all your responsibility on them like buying data and airtime for you to navigate through the forum at all time so not wanting to take some of these responsibilities also makes our friends not to get us involved in what they are doing.

Wait if I may ask what is good on this country??I will tell you nothing till today the president still collect loan so k don’t think there is anything reasonable for us to talk about in this country he’s just a newbie and sharing is experience and if you don’t see it as anything many do and they will still contribute you even said it makes no sense that’s a very wrong word to use because this person took his time to write things down.

Don't get me wrong but there are several reasons why some persons hold back from sharing all types of information even to friends. There are people that you will share information to that will dampen your spirit and kill your jinja. They are many even among your friends. As a matter of fact, there are some of my friends that called Bitcoin outright scam and they are still waiting for me to cry later for investing in Bitcoin.

If your friend is not sharing information with you, then check yourself if you are the type that will hinder him or if you will be able to put in the work expected to succeed in those business. Besides, have you approached him and he refused? You can't relax and wait for someone to come and teach you what will help you. It is you that need the skill and it is you that should go for it. However, I'm not denying the fact that some people are naturally selfish... that one dey.

Hey you don't have to blame your friend for not telling you anything about his business rather just think he is trying as much as possible to secure himself from being down because most times people don't know what it takes to be making money and for that, he must take precaution on the kind of person you are maybe who knows if it was your character that made him hid it from you possibly seeing you as person who is too desperate asking him about his source of income and how he usually makes money.

Believe me or not, anyone that is regularly asking these questions to his friend would end up breaking the relationship they had for long because with our Nigerian mentality when you began to interfere and involving yourself too much about personal income you easily becomes an enemy to your friend.

My advice to you is that limit on how you asked about someone personal hustle or business because most people don't feel secured when their friends began to asked them about their personal income and how they makes it all less such person is your biological brother/sister and relatives then I will say you can keep disturbing them for the knowledge to be shared across you and to some other of your relatives who are really ready eager to learn.

When you are too focusing on someone personal income it becomes a problem and at that point you create a point of suspicion to yourself if there were anything for you to know he don't mind closing everything for you so that he can secure his personal interest and protects his income because (Nigerians no dey like wen their 6sters or brodas dey progress pass dem, so dem go do anytin to bring dat pesin down na wetin make plenty pipo dey fear to tell pesin wetin dem dey carry chop so abeg make you no blame dat ur friend wey no gree show you road).

You know I think you didn't read the article very well because you were interested in looking at the writer's  mistake and I think you are among the people that is selfish in this country sorry if you see it as an insult.  If I may ask you what can you fix in this country,  they said charity begins at home right,  with what you  said I think even if you are been given the president of this country I can bet with my life that you will be the worst president ever yeah.

I have never see anyone talking about the good things in our country? New people in the forum always talk about how bad things are. For instance, like problems with the government, scams, and bad education. But every country has some issues. On TV, they usually show only the good stuff about other countries, making their governments look great, which isn't always true. They talk more about fixing problems than just complaining. We could also talk about the good things in our country but why don't we?  Honestly, your topic doesn't make much sense. Maybe try asking questions that can help the forum or learn about Bitcoin on Bitcointalk instead. That's just what I think. Good luck!"

Even at this age people are still selfish and self-centered when it comes to sharing update that will help the next person, I have a friend who do genuine things and make genuine money  and he knows I am a student and I need something doing so as to get some of my basic needs as a student but he never tell me about it even when I keep going to see him often he never opened up anything to me,  though he gives me food and some other things  but that wasn't enough because the job he does is something I can do very well  and when I think about it I found out that he wants me to be coming to him for food, help etc I wonder what kind of friend will do that .
However,  I think he was scared that I will be making money like him or,  that I might even make more money than him that is why he decided to keep it as a secret but nothing is hidden under the earth but thank God I figured out what it is and he will be surprise how I knew it.