Topic: The is always on gambling, never the individual. - page 6. (Read 590 times)

People normally won't take the blame. I guess this is a natural tendency. We often look for something or someone else to point our fingers. We even deny of wrongdoing or of mistakes even if it is obvious.

Perhaps gambling is to blame partly, because it is the thing that triggers somebody. Gambling is the thing that exposes somebody's weaknesses like lack of self-discipline or greed. But whatever gambling provokes is already within a person. And since everybody is thinking and is free, I think the main responsibility falls on the individual.

Avoiding gambling is the best thing to do for me instead at a moment in time. Because the losses that I recount in gambling is way more than the wins. Even though sometimes you can say there is good money made in the little wins but sometimes because of the high hopes that comes with trying to win, it makes it difficult to win and instead you will lose woefully with the odds you will end up setting which also do result to depression and a lot of emotional problems.

This is why I have resulted in advising every one to stop it and instead of trying to use small money out of your pocket money, you shouldn't in the first place since it is from small money that we end up using bigger funds which most of us cannot afford to lose.

Those are the people who decide to enter gambling when they don’t actually know and understand the risk in gambling, and all they think is that they could get rich instantly if they keep on gambling. When they suffer from consistent losses, they will come to blame the casinos or worst, they will end up blaming those persons who introduced them into gambling.

People with this kind of attitude mostly end up into gambling addiction, once they refuse to seek help from the people around.

Gambling is considered negative because it causes addictive effects that can destroy a person's life. It is true that everyone is required to be able to gamble responsibly, but doing this is not an easy thing, especially for novice gamblers who often like to chase losses and only stop when they have spent all their money.

Apart from all that, if we can control our finances and keep ourselves from emotions and chasing losses then maybe our finances will be fine and not have negative effects, but in general it is true that gambling has a negative impact.

Well, its the nature of gambling, No, the person itself or the gamblers, in fact gambling itself has nothing to do with complaints or bad happening because of gambling the truth is gambling games are just games with money related but the bad experience or happenings is caused or because of the gamblers that cannot control themselves and letting their greedy and bad emotions take over that's why they saying that there is nothing good in gambling, yes its true but the one's who caused the misery or the bad activity and bad happenings is caused by the people, remember there will be no gambling addict, gambling related crimes or crimes because of gambling if the person itself can control itself and not letting any negative emotions or actions to take over.

Why there is gamblers that even he gambles he still sane, good or there is nothing wrong happening to him? simply because they can control themselves, period.

I think its always a thing since its going to be easy to blame something other than blaming your self,I did a lot of things that is not reallygreat or i can say that it is probably not a good decision  and i can say that no one can be blame but me since that is probably all my fault because im the one who do that, and its really difficult and depressing its so hard to move on and just forget about it, especially because it involves a huge amount of money for me.

So blaming gambling was gonna be a thing for sure for some people, since they think it is a bad think and in their mind they probably wanted to stop but they just cant do it, ending up blaming other things. Seems like as we all can see gambling as something that is bad eapecially if we do lose a lot of money or probably become addicted with it but gambling wasnt really a bad thing, all of things that we do is gonna be bad for us if we do in excess is going to be harmful, and no one to blame for that one us.

Personal responsibility is a trait that people seem to have lost. People find it easier to deal with their problems if it’s the fault of someone else. It’s almost like they’re looking for someone or something to share the fault with.
It could be said that gambling wrecks lives. But sadly, it’s mostly us that allows our gambling activities to wreck our lives. It could also be said that gambling has changed the lives of people positively.

It’s the choices we take that matters. And people don’t seem to want to be more responsible for their actions and behavior that would obviously tell on their lives.
Admittedly, gambling ruins lives. But it’s our actions that we do that leads to financial ruin. We’ve only got ourselves to blame when ruined by gambling or any activity.

not only in gambling but in the business world too, many people who lose out blame it that business is bad and not good at all, even though they don't have the expertise to manage their business.  Many gamblers are not aware that their greed is what causes their gambling results to be bad.  Being responsible in gambling is not only about how to manage gambling well but being fully aware that gambling is not an activity that will continue to give you wins, i myself have won several times and lost several times, but i never use money i can't afford to lose to gamble.

Difference with you and them is that you have understood the first step for getting rid of addiction. Addicts often see that control is coming from outside, before they understand that they are the one making decisions.

It's the same reason because we hate sugar and carbs for making us fat. We rather hate the products, then consume them in moderate quantities, just enough for them being good for us. We say TV is bad for us, because we want to spend too much time with it, and instead of using it to educate ourselves, we use it for binge watching and wasting a lot of time.

It's just not in our nature to take responsibility as a default setting. Some people don't even know WHY they are gambling as they don't see the mechanism on it. These people just feel like they don't have any control, so naturally they can't blame themselves, as they see the issue out of their control.

But i don't blame these people for feeling this way. I admit that i hate things too that i feel i don't have control over, these things can be good for me with moderate amounts. But almost everything is bad for us when we do it more than we would actually like.

Denial, is always a tool as a defence mechanism of greed people who caught up for what they have done. Always blaming others when something happened to them. It's not about gambling but in general.

That's addiction, and need medications because it looks like its grave already. Some gambling addict knows that it's their fault for what they experienced in the current moment while the person on OP is the other way around which has the symptoms of grave addiction.

Mistakes come from many sides, but we should recognize the individual as the main cause because similar to many other areas of our lives, the main problem is the individual's inability to adapt. I mentioned the story of the knife, well what was it created for? It is simply a cutting tool, but there are still people who use it as a weapon to kill. We know the power of that tool, but if we apply it incorrectly in life, we will have to face the consequences.
With gambling, many losers resent this field, maybe even the relatives of those losers... yep, if they accept the fact that personal error caused all the problems, they will know how to do it and treat themselves better.

People have always had a tendency not to admit their mistakes, so it is more comfortable for them to blame other people than to blame themselves in public. What people have done and blamed themselves when no one is watching, this is because they feel ashamed and afraid of other people looking at them badly and criticizing them. imagine a person who shows off on social media as being the greatest slot player in the world, this person has a record of never having lost, one day they invite this person to compete against a newcomer who is just starting out in the world of gambling

so this person who considers himself the greatest player in the world loses the game, as the game is being watched by many people so the player who considers himself the best player in the world will blame the game, he can argue that the machine was not good, or that the software was crashing when he played, he would use all kinds of arguments to not admit guilt because he wasn't the best. Nowadays, as people have gotten into the habit of filming everything, they have become people without honor, they lie a lot to always continue to be well regarded by other people. Hardly anyone will go out on the street or appear on social media saying that they are losing a lot in gambling, this would only bring them shame and criticism, which is why the person will choose to lie and say that they are winning.

You are the ones who is really that responsible into your actions on which you cant blame out someone but only yourself. Just like been said by others that people are really that loving on pointing out their fingers and really loves to blame into the unfortunate condition that they are really that experiencing without even trying out to realize on what really actually happened.
There are really just those people who are really that sensible towards their actions and there are ones who do really make themselves dumb and just tolerating on the current condition they are in
until they would really be able to bust up themselves and would really be making those self realizations but it is already too late. We can actually avoid those disasters if we are really
just that sensible on the things that we are doing.

One problem that most people usually have is that they don't know their problem, like they don't actually believe they have an issue, and as such, any form of mistake they happen to experience in life, they look for something where they need to transfer their blame, and that's what most gamblers do.
 
They were never in one place, and gambling came to them and convinced them to start gambling. It was them who started playing games, gambling, and chasing losses without having to set a limit and no respect for the bank roll, and at the end of the day, their statement that gambling would be gambling made me turn to that and all of that.
 
Such behaviour is normal and common among most gamblers, and until they realise they need to train themselves and focus on how to deal with self-control, they will never learn.

Once in gambling you cannot expect everyone to behave responsibly,that means that when you get sucked into gambling it means that anything can happen and you can go deep down in addiction.Not longer than now I was playing Rabbit Garden slot,one of the most addictive ever because it hast he most addicted bonus round ever,no one can tell me to play responsibly as everyone including me knows that,it is just that the emotions of the game drag you down deeper and deeper while you are saying to yourself this will be my last bonus round buy and try one last time to hit that big win and boom without knowing I have been playing for hours.There is no real "responsible" gambler as every gambler overdo it quite often.

Because people have difficult taking responsabilities for their own acts. They have to convince themselves they are free of faults and flaws, because it massages their egos, make them feel good and superior. Nowadays with internet, pride has become a very crucial characteristic of people's selfs. People have been feeding their pride like never before. They are imperfect and flawed like have always been, but now it's important to maintain an artificial image of perfection, as it's being constantly in exhibition and exposition to the world. Internet is your showcase towards the world.

Furthermore, it's easier to put the whole responsability over an inanimate tool or activity, which can't argue or defend itself, as it doesn't have consciousness, neither is a living being. So they blame gambling, as it's not going to replicate the accusation in counterpart. Everything and anything they say about gambling will be valid, they will be always the victim, and gambling the speechless villain.

Actually, that is not the biggest of the issues. The worst part is the fact authorities are legitimizing the irreponsible and childish behavior of such gamblers, by endorsing their accusations against gambling, instead of putting the responsability over their shoulders, as it should be in a society composed by mature and rational human beings.

because it is the easier thing to do than taking accountability for being an irresponsible gambler. it also makes them feel less bad because they think it is not their fault they should not be blamed for the circumstances that they are in.

just so you know, this kind of behavior is not exclusive to gambling, a lot of people try to shift blame to someone or something else to try and make themselves feel better and to avoid taking responsibility for the mistakes they made or did.

You know what they say, never wager money that you can't afford to lose. But sometimes people see gambling as a way to get out of the hole, and that is when they risk the last resources they have. We are talking about gambling, we are risking money here, and there are no responsible or disciplined ways to risk money. The best way to avoid the risk is to avoid gambling.

They blame gamble because they hate the fact that they don't want to blame themselves, most are always in denial or they are looking for something to blame for. We know it's just an instrument to either let you go to rags or riches but it's your hustle to beat the system just like what other pros are doing.

A common human being reaction on which we would really be having that kind of denial on the time that we are on a hard or tough situation. We would really be always having that something to get blame with on which
it would really be that just common that you would really be having those kind of reasoning like this and like that. There's no way that you would really be accepting your own fault on the things that you are currently dealing with. Some might really be having those kind of self realizations and there are ones who doesnt really accept out into their mistakes but rather they would be keeping on seeking into those things
on which they could really be able to point their fingers on and this is something a very common behavior of those people.

This is why its up to you whether you would really be making those realizations and would be making out some learning into your mistakes and make yourself better or you would
really be continuing on lurking into the corner and keeping those blames and pointing out those fingers and make some hard recovery and acceptance on the things that you do make?