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Now back to gambling. The inability to control emotions is much worse of a problem than acrophobia. If you can't control your emotions, you can get in trouble several times per day even living on a desert island, let alone in a city. So, I think, curing the inability should be a top priority for anyone possessing it
And this is where opinions vary strongly
And the prevailing one seems to be that we can't voluntarily control our primal emotions like fear or anger once they have been triggered (so-called refractory period). So we basically have two major ways of dealing with such emotions. The first way is to avoid the trigger completely (whenever possible), while the second way is to come to terms with our inability to consciously control these emotions and through this reduce their negative impact on us by letting them run their course and expire on their own. The implication is that we make things only worse by creating positive feedback loops if we are trying to vigorously fight such emotions.
Indeed, in real life you can combine these two approaches depending on the specific circumstancesActually I can't see where our opinions vary strongly.
I am a realist (or at least trying to be one), and thus I don't think that the inability to control emotions can be cured completely. I even don't think that there is a person on this planet who can keep their emotions under control all the time. Yes, in real life we constantly combine different approaches depending on the circumstances
It is not our opinions that vary so much
I mean there are two groups of people advocating quite opposite views. The first says you can control your emotions freely at all times (i.e. stop a certain emotion at any moment) after some practice, the other insists that it is impossible as emotions are essentially complex chemical processes which once triggered cannot be stopped at will. But it doesn't mean that some people cannot be less reactive than others due to their internal chemistry
And while that chemistry could in fact be altered to a certain degree through conscious effort and continual practice, its basic specs remain unchanged as they are hardwired in us. All emotion-control practices essentially aim to affect the intensity of an emotion, i.e. how strong you react to certain events (read, if you get infuriated bigtime somehow, you still won't be able to keep your cool anyway)
I keep thinking about this, besides luck, is calm and daring to take decisions is also one of the keys to success in gambling? I have several friends who are quick and brave to make decisions when gambling when they know that in gambling the chance to win / lose is the same
It doesn't change the odds, so it doesn't really matter if you place your bets in fear or otherwise. At least, this is what statistics tells us (as some may disagree)