To me, it seems that I am just a bit more comfortable and tollerant with allowing the back and forth process to play itself out without getting so worked up about it and accusing bad motives of others, rather than painting every scenario as doom and gloom or continuing to assert that the sky is falling, when that surely is not the case.
It's not every scenario. It's just this one particular scenario. There aren't two sides that are attempting to negotiate a solution to a problem. There is one side that is trying to fix a problem and another side that is attempting to make the problem worse so they can sell a proprietary workaround or failing that, to delay fixing the problem as long as possible.
Smallblockers are not arguing in good faith. It makes no sense to change the way Bitcoin works so that we can avoid changing the way bitcoin works. It makes no sense to vilify opinions or procedures critical of centralized power if your chief concern is centralized power.
You don't shout down your opposition if you want a reasoned solution. You don't censor opposing viewpoints if your goal is rational discourse that addresses the concerns of all stakeholders. You sure as hell don't keep changing your rationalizations to support the same conclusion.
If you want a digital gold system, then you can't in good faith say the blockchain can't be used for non-monetary purposes with respect to colored coins, title transfers, timestamps and microtransactions. Gold isn't cash. If you want a digital cash system, then you can't jack up fees so high that small cash purchases become nonviable. If you want a network that can only be effectively used by directly by rich people, then you can't credibly claim to be the conservative force faithful to the original vision and purpose of Bitcoin. You should be honest enough to admit that you want to change Bitcoin, to take it away from those who built it, put in the effort and absorbed the risks and give it not to the people who need it but to people who stand in the middle and make profits from INCREASING rather than decreasing the friction in trade.
Those are surely fair enough points... to the extent that they may be occurring to one degree or another.. which I don't doubt that a variety of tactics are employed both in politics and in the "free market" in order to attempt to "get your way."