After reading post after post with gox cursing, and then bitstamp go and do the same thing.
Not really. Here, have a few differences:
* Total shutdown: Gox is, more or less, completely closed off as of now, at least for people requiring USD wires. Bitstamp still processes wires within 2 days on average, so fiat withdrawals continue unhindered, even when BTC withdrawals don't.
* Maturity of reaction: if you read their news item on the matter, you will see how different they handle this matter -- Gox: we're innocent! Not our fault! Devs, fix it! vs. Stamp: we're updating our software to harden it against the attack.
* Most importantly: from the publicly available knowledge, there's good reasons to believe gox lost actual user btc funds because there's evidence that they tracked success of transactions based on ID alone. We'll come back to this if it turns out stamp lost funds as well, but I highly doubt it.
tl;dr
All current exchanges are run by amateurs I'd say, but gox is run by incompetent amateurs.