Topic: Waste of resources at parents disrupting their children dreams for self interest (Read 638 times)

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

There's a quote "Heaven lies beneath the feet of your mother", so it makes any children has no way to interrupt about their own mom's decision.

1. Mom always right.
2. If the mom is wrong, see rule number 1.

Even you have many reasons to support your argument, if you didn't follow what your mom is saying, you're a disobedient son.

I will always say this that parent are not the ones to decide for their children, they can only guide and teach them what to do and how to go about it, its now left for each child to decide on what he wants, whether to take their advice or not, but when we truly train our children well, they will not even engage on doing things that are against our own wish, because our impacts are already on them positively.

i can understand parents wanting the best education for kids. but there should be some compromise.
it should not be a business/medical degree vs school drop out choice. it should be a compromise of a degree in fashion/design thus everyone is happy

Yes that is reality most parents don't have much ideas of what they want their children to go into but felt the pain of not meeting up their mate do to financial instability of their own parents but want their own children to bridge that gap by persuading them to go through any course if study.
They world has move away of only relying on what one study even if you don't practice your field of study the exposure alone usher you better opportunity to explore than those who where not opportune to go through the four wall of education.

The saying that no knowledge is waste is actually a reality as I have see many that have left their profession to something else practicing profession is not a yardstick or mandatory all one need is to explore and adapt not is waste .

More importantly you got your degree first, right? That's what the parents trying to do or atleast most of them who don't have much to left their kids as inheritance wanted to ensure their survival here with whatever the knowledge they have.

Sure things changed a lot and most of us don't even work related to the sector we got our degree but there's something we can learn from it and that will definitely be helpful to pursue our passion too.

Basically I won't lie the major problem between parents and children is understanding problem, many parents don't have a clue about how their child us feeling or how to even connect with them, some children may be suffering from abuse from friends and they would come home acting dull and their parents would in turn slap them or call them lazy, and the traditional pattern if system that our parents were adapt to has changed so quickly that the gap of technological advancement and society building has grown so big from their youth till their children grew up, like my dad grew up in the early Time when going to school was such a norm and compulsory for success but in my time its not the most important thing here and we are always in comfort of who's belief or reality is superior to the other, he prefers I go to school and focus on my studies alone, I want to have a skull and build my company and make some money, and that's why we argue all the time.

Based on my personal experience having obtained a degree and not following my passion for IT has not made me get the job I dreamed for so I took my attention to getting many international IT certifications like CCNA and others in order to boost my credentials,I own more than 10 of them now and I have quite some years of experience now so I fully agree with what this girl want to do and if she was my daughter I would not at all force her to go into the university as I know what it means to go there and not get what you want or not to feel fulfilled,following your passion like I did is something I strongly recommend to anyone including to this girl.

There are so many conflicts which arises between parents and kids even when they grow up because to be honest the parents especially from countries like India, Pakistana nd Bangladesh are really difficult to deal with as they intervene in every aspect of their children's life and make it miserable they need to understand that system has changed but they are not ready to accept it and they think they knew everything that's what the problem is which has to be sorted.

i can understand parents wanting the best education for kids. but there should be some compromise.
it should not be a business/medical degree vs school drop out choice. it should be a compromise of a degree in fashion/design thus everyone is happy

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

The problem is that some parents are very strict and they would want their children to do everything they want them to do by all means.
This should not be case. We can always talk to our children and help them to develop well where they ought to do they can be great in life.
We need to understand that not everybody will be either a doctor or a lawyer. There are even good jobs that pays well than being a doctor or a lawyer. The problem comes in due to ones poor mindset.

It’s sad that some parent still don’t understand that their children may not end up with Big titles but can be better than those with Big titles. If only they recognize and nurture her passion for fashion, who knows, she may be the next fashion icon and will be sort for by many. It’s really a bad idea to force people into what you think it’s best for them, sometimes it causes even more harm than good. Parents need to wake up as this isn’t back in those days, opinions should matter a lot these days.

A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.

This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams

So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.

While I'm submissive to your opinion, I'd in addy say that the parents should really learn to understand what their children feels good at so they could as well assist them to make it a success.
Back then when I was still kiddie, my parents would thoroughly search between me and my siblings to discover what we love doing most during when we're having our leisures and then they'd playfully ask us what we'd love to be in life.
So play times at a leisure would always determine our response and our parents then would began to engage us on the angles related to what is being discovered in us.
Along the lines just as time goes, we're nurtured and growing with the hope they that which we finds passion about is what'd be suitable for us because we've already been given such free hands to excel by it.

It’s sad that some parent still don’t understand that their children may not end up with Big titles but can be better than those with Big titles. If only they recognize and nurture her passion for fashion, who knows, she may be the next fashion icon and will be sort for by many. It’s really a bad idea to force people into what you think it’s best for them, sometimes it causes even more harm than good. Parents need to wake up as this isn’t back in those days, opinions should matter a lot these days.