Topic: Waste of resources at parents disrupting their children dreams for self interest - page 2. (Read 631 times)
May 07, 2024, 11:57:46 AM
The degree certificates is becoming useless day by day but that's what people trying to pursue cause it at least gives minimum security for a job so if someone who doesn't have any financial background then I won't rule of complete graduation even while pursuing your passion. And here the person's dream is fashion and design which can noway become a burden to chase her dream if she manages to do things at the available time.
May 07, 2024, 11:45:38 AM
sometimes what the parents want is not in accordance with what the child wants, and it will become a conflict where one party feels that their choice is the most correct. i was once in that position, where i wanted to work more than study. my parents forced me to take my college degree and threatened to cut off money for me if i didn't take it. and with great compulsion i went to college and finally i finished my studies.
but do i regret the decision my parents took? no, instead i thank them, because what i thought that studying was something that was a waste of time and useless, that was a mistake. in college i was formed and learned a lot of things which were very useful for me to open a small business and apparently i plan to apply for jobs in the next few months.
so sometimes a parent's decision to force their child to go to college is not wrong, because it could be the best decision a child can make.
but do i regret the decision my parents took? no, instead i thank them, because what i thought that studying was something that was a waste of time and useless, that was a mistake. in college i was formed and learned a lot of things which were very useful for me to open a small business and apparently i plan to apply for jobs in the next few months.
so sometimes a parent's decision to force their child to go to college is not wrong, because it could be the best decision a child can make.
May 07, 2024, 05:31:35 AM
Firstly, the "little girl" in most western countries is classed as an adult and so has full autonomy
over her own decisions and/or cannot be forced to do anything she doesnt want to do.
Secondly, I know so many people who have gone to third level college and universities and received
degrees in a certain field and are ow not working in that field but something completely different.
Attaining a college degree does not guarantee or is not a mark of financial or life success.
There are plenty of examples of successful business people in my country who never finished school
or even went to second level school.
If the girl has a real aptitude for a certain skill or interest she should be encouraged and supported.
over her own decisions and/or cannot be forced to do anything she doesnt want to do.
Secondly, I know so many people who have gone to third level college and universities and received
degrees in a certain field and are ow not working in that field but something completely different.
Attaining a college degree does not guarantee or is not a mark of financial or life success.
There are plenty of examples of successful business people in my country who never finished school
or even went to second level school.
If the girl has a real aptitude for a certain skill or interest she should be encouraged and supported.
May 07, 2024, 04:21:05 AM
She should follow her dreams & utilise her skills. Her parents aren’t her boss, there are so many people who go to university & do a degree that doesn’t give them any real expertise, they don’t stand out from the crowd so they end up becoming a teacher or something mediocre. If she has a real passion for what she does she should ignore her parents advice & follow her dreams.
May 04, 2024, 12:22:32 PM
This is a typical problem in our society where parents want their children to go to school and acquires degrees but the child has a different dreams and visions all together this is due to the parents inability to know the reality on ground that times has changed and that in this twenty first century you don't necessarily have to go to school to succeed in life as far as you have your basic education up to your secondary school you're okay to go and chase your dream
Parents need to call their children to talk to them and know what is in their mind as children and not to impose things on them
Parents need to call their children to talk to them and know what is in their mind as children and not to impose things on them
April 13, 2024, 02:09:32 AM
i can understand parents wanting the best education for kids. but there should be some compromise.
it should not be a business/medical degree vs school drop out choice. it should be a compromise of a degree in fashion/design thus everyone is happy
it should not be a business/medical degree vs school drop out choice. it should be a compromise of a degree in fashion/design thus everyone is happy
It highly depends on the country and the society that girl lives in whether there are chances for her to study and get a degree on fashion or design. It is common for societies in developing countries to focus more in practical studies which are more inclined to fix problems in the industries of such society.
funniest thing is... most developing countries RECENT HISTORY shows that medical skills and technology are NEW. not societal/cultural norms of a society/culture built over centuries.. developing countries for centuries has had fashion and food as the main industry/part of their real culture
yep making clothing far exceeded being a doctor as the main employment/ skilled role of a developing countries females role
centuries ago women would teach their kids to weave and stitch.. (and forage for food) as the main skill and role of society
its only very recent decades that tech and medicine has become popular
so culture vs new trends... if you want to speak of a countries culture.. dont then use a countries new trend
April 09, 2024, 03:15:56 AM
The era to such insightments that coming out from the University would secure a job is no more a valid idea becasue there are professional skill bases that are more valuable to privilege and individual in securing better futures.
All the mind needed to make a better society is a civilized mind and not compulsorily that you must pass through the university before having an influence in the society.
It's quite unfortunate that our parents needed the best for us but taking it to the dimensions that education serves the best to what we're in need of to make a better future is such a false aspirations.
What matters most in life is how we can utilize our potentials so if the young girl is if such potentials then they parents should channel those their energies and attentions to push her further to be profession towards the terms of her dreams.
If it's about making money after the school days of course she can also make it big after the courses of her professionalism of skills.
I can even bet that she'd do better than some others who had passed through schools because acquiring of skills has some potential assurance of generating income while after schooling you'd need to face the race of who's best fit in wins the race where thousands of people are in the queue of White collar jobs in a situation of just few candidates in need.
All the mind needed to make a better society is a civilized mind and not compulsorily that you must pass through the university before having an influence in the society.
It's quite unfortunate that our parents needed the best for us but taking it to the dimensions that education serves the best to what we're in need of to make a better future is such a false aspirations.
What matters most in life is how we can utilize our potentials so if the young girl is if such potentials then they parents should channel those their energies and attentions to push her further to be profession towards the terms of her dreams.
If it's about making money after the school days of course she can also make it big after the courses of her professionalism of skills.
I can even bet that she'd do better than some others who had passed through schools because acquiring of skills has some potential assurance of generating income while after schooling you'd need to face the race of who's best fit in wins the race where thousands of people are in the queue of White collar jobs in a situation of just few candidates in need.
April 07, 2024, 05:47:36 AM
:-*The truth is our parents are still stuck in years 20ies mentality of 'GO TO SCHOOL, GET A GOOD JOB AND BE COMFORTABLE' but the actually truth us the system has changed and there are no such thign as good job or if there are even any jobs at all.
Parents often see dreams as a waste of time and often think that we Don’t know what Is best for ourselves or rather they feel we are confused on what we really want, using myself as an example when I was a child around the age of 10 - 12 u wanted to be an engineer cause I had a great affinity for destroying all the tech(kitchen and house hold appliances) at home just to fix them back so yeah really It was a thign but when I got to 16-18 when I now knew what i really wanted to do I wanted to be a business man but I had been bkabing all about beign an engineer to my parents when u was younger so it became thign, but anyway I'm chasing my dreams now and I'm not bothered about parents or any other thign.
Parents often see dreams as a waste of time and often think that we Don’t know what Is best for ourselves or rather they feel we are confused on what we really want, using myself as an example when I was a child around the age of 10 - 12 u wanted to be an engineer cause I had a great affinity for destroying all the tech(kitchen and house hold appliances) at home just to fix them back so yeah really It was a thign but when I got to 16-18 when I now knew what i really wanted to do I wanted to be a business man but I had been bkabing all about beign an engineer to my parents when u was younger so it became thign, but anyway I'm chasing my dreams now and I'm not bothered about parents or any other thign.
There are so many conflicts which arises between parents and kids even when they grow up because to be honest the parents especially from countries like India, Pakistana nd Bangladesh are really difficult to deal with as they intervene in every aspect of their children's life and make it miserable they need to understand that system has changed but they are not ready to accept it and they think they knew everything that's what the problem is which has to be sorted.
April 07, 2024, 04:42:06 AM
:-*The truth is our parents are still stuck in years 20ies mentality of 'GO TO SCHOOL, GET A GOOD JOB AND BE COMFORTABLE' but the actually truth us the system has changed and there are no such thign as good job or if there are even any jobs at all.
Parents often see dreams as a waste of time and often think that we Don’t know what Is best for ourselves or rather they feel we are confused on what we really want, using myself as an example when I was a child around the age of 10 - 12 u wanted to be an engineer cause I had a great affinity for destroying all the tech(kitchen and house hold appliances) at home just to fix them back so yeah really It was a thign but when I got to 16-18 when I now knew what i really wanted to do I wanted to be a business man but I had been bkabing all about beign an engineer to my parents when u was younger so it became thign, but anyway I'm chasing my dreams now and I'm not bothered about parents or any other thign.
Parents often see dreams as a waste of time and often think that we Don’t know what Is best for ourselves or rather they feel we are confused on what we really want, using myself as an example when I was a child around the age of 10 - 12 u wanted to be an engineer cause I had a great affinity for destroying all the tech(kitchen and house hold appliances) at home just to fix them back so yeah really It was a thign but when I got to 16-18 when I now knew what i really wanted to do I wanted to be a business man but I had been bkabing all about beign an engineer to my parents when u was younger so it became thign, but anyway I'm chasing my dreams now and I'm not bothered about parents or any other thign.
March 16, 2024, 03:05:26 PM
Most parents do this but the reason for this I don't know, how will choose things for your child knowing too well that talents are natural we don't force it on anyone, I feel some parents are selfish thats why this has been backfiring in the long, I have seen where a child desired to be a musician and the parents wanted him to be a doctor but the event was funny, when the child graduated from the university he immediately handed the certificate to me parents and told them that he has done their wish and is now time for him to go after his career and that was it. So what am I saying parents should allow their children to make choice of what they really want to be.
March 16, 2024, 01:45:29 AM
Parents always want the best for their children so they look out for the child's best interests. If parents give good education to their children and teach them good manners then children will never turn to bad side. They should be taught about moral values. Children thrive in their lives by watching their parents. Parents are always the point of reference for their children. They are the ones that children go to when they have a problem their nature and habits are what children adopt early in life.
March 15, 2024, 10:33:46 AM
Parent have the responsibility of taking care of the children, but they must discharge this their duty with caution and perseverance, they are to show their children the right way to follow and not to enforce them on what career to take in life, sometimes we like a particular career and that is only god and suitable for us only and our children may not like such and want to demand having their own own different ways, this is their freedom, we must give them as long as its something that has a future career benefit and not against the ethics and standard of living, but if they choose to follow after our taste, that also is welcome.
March 15, 2024, 03:30:40 AM
I do understand where the parents are coming from but why don’t they just meet in the middle? The girl you know could get a degree in something related to fashion. She could go to a fashion school and still graduate and make a career out of it. Most parents who were dissatisfied with how their lives planned out often subject their dreams onto their children. They want their children to achieve what they never got to but sometimes it clashes with what their children actually need. The parents are just putting themselves up for disappointment if they would keep on insisting that their kid go to university.
March 14, 2024, 03:48:23 PM
Based on my personal experience having obtained a degree and not following my passion for IT has not made me get the job I dreamed for so I took my attention to getting many international IT certifications like CCNA and others in order to boost my credentials,I own more than 10 of them now and I have quite some years of experience now so I fully agree with what this girl want to do and if she was my daughter I would not at all force her to go into the university as I know what it means to go there and not get what you want or not to feel fulfilled,following your passion like I did is something I strongly recommend to anyone including to this girl.
March 14, 2024, 02:28:07 PM
A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.
This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams
So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.
This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams
So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.
If the daughter has a responsibility to attend university, she may put in little effort and gain little from the experience. In addition, she may develop hatred toward her parents for pushing her to do something she does not want to do. This might compromise their connection and make potential partnerships tough. It is also likely that the daughter will drop out of university, resulting in a wasted input of time and money. So it's a really responsive circumstances, with advantages and disadvantages for both sides.
A possible alternative answer is to compromise and let the daughter pursue her interest.
February 09, 2024, 06:30:22 PM
We know that all parents want best for their children and that's why they want their kids to obtain a degree so that they'll have no problem with employment in the future. I think that if the girl understands the situation and the desire of their parents to see her have that degree, she always follow that and they're the ones going to pay her tuition in college while pursuing her dreams with fashion designing career. She can work part time at the same time of studying the degree her parents want.
Or she's going to waste her time finishing that degree that she doesn't like but she'll give satisfaction to her parents and later on do what she likes to do. It's either pursue another course or study that will allow her to go on with fashion and dream career. So, it's either of the two and whichever is going to work for her. Life is too short and can't blame the parents for having that mindset but a talk will be able to make them realize on what type of world we have right now. They just want to have you something in paper as a treasure that's no one is going to rob you.
Or she's going to waste her time finishing that degree that she doesn't like but she'll give satisfaction to her parents and later on do what she likes to do. It's either pursue another course or study that will allow her to go on with fashion and dream career. So, it's either of the two and whichever is going to work for her. Life is too short and can't blame the parents for having that mindset but a talk will be able to make them realize on what type of world we have right now. They just want to have you something in paper as a treasure that's no one is going to rob you.
February 09, 2024, 03:17:02 PM
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
They say what the old person see while seating, the young won't see it while standing. I believe the parents have more futuristic reasons to want her to be educated. Given that the parents should not be the one to choose a course of study for her but they realise that education shouldn't be relegated in people's lives despite that there are no white collar jobs but to be educated is another assets itself and that is why even the wealthy business men still find out time go back to school after dropping out in their early school days
So in her case too, I believe education is important in person's life. She should look for how to study in fashion courses or related courses so that she will gain better knowledge. The area of her interest can be studied in the university. If someone has opportunity to go to school, let them go because the future is not certain for anyone.
February 09, 2024, 02:48:48 PM
A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Is really so bad how some parents tries to detect or hinder their children from doing what they know best to do. Going to the university to acquire a degree is very important but it is also advisable to learn a skill before gaining admission in the university as sometimes our skills also helps us at some point when we are financially down and also to be independent while in the university as not in every cases that you would require to call your parents to ask them of money because you would be using your skills to earn some money over there.
February 09, 2024, 11:38:52 AM
A girl I know who is just 18 years old has an inborn skills of fashion and designing such as Hairstylist and the Dressmaking. This has been her dreams to make it a reality but her parents are ignorantly trying to stop her from achieving this dream instead they wants her to go to the university and acquires degree.
Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.
This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams
So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.
The both parties are suing towards a better tomorrow, the girl has her passion to follow which is in fashion, while the parents want her to get a degree. However both parties could fine a common ground where the girl can go for her degree and still make out time to follow up with her passion which is fashion, maybe she can be doing it part time, till she finishes her education and go into it fully. she can as well go for a course in the university that is related to her line of passion so she can really get enlightened about what's she's going into.Now that she is being forced by her parents at what she doesn't have desires for, her obsession towards her passionate dreams would definitely not let her concentrate on her studies as she keep grumbling that she would dropout of the school somedays if her parents persists she must go to the university.
The parents reason is that they wanted all their children to be degree holders but yet the graduated ones whom had obtained their own degrees could not yet boost that the acquired degrees has offered them high graded personalities neither has they been able to secure the white collar jobs with it instead they still returns back to the streets of labour markets struggling to make better life without the requirement of degrees.
Due to the side of the World we are, if you are not surrounded with high-profile persons for recommendations then the probability of gaining a prominent job with your degree would be difficult at the range of 95% impossible.
This little girl insighted the sceneros and then decided to manage her time, utilizes every moments of it in a productive exercise, safe her parents some expenses pertaining her university expenditures at her decisions to make a different that is why she chooses to go through fashion studies to enhance and advance the skills of her dreams
So I think it would be waste of time, finances and efforts of her parents insisting that she must go through the university because she doesn't see her stars shining over there, no desires and no Passions for it at all.
And so I think she would be more utilizing, productive with a better quality and creative person if she is privileged to chase after that or dreams.
So for me, There should be room for compromise for both parties because if she doesn't do as her parents have said, there will be a lot of disarmony between she and her parents, same thing goes if her parents doesn't grant her request, so both parties should work hand in hand so at the end of the day it can be a win-win for all.
February 09, 2024, 08:23:28 AM
Qualification or whatever is been called is not strict way to succeed in life, it is important for the mentality of people change towards this approach, this usually they way most of our parents think, they don't see skills as anything, many of them feel that you having and educational set you ahead of other people but it is not not so, how many people working in multinational companies got the job because of their paper qualification only, if you are a parents and you want your to get you the paper also make sure you ask him or her what they are good at, so that they could go get a skill on that too because the world is moving away from only paper qualification.
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