Topic: When I'm emotional, I LOSS! - page 37. (Read 5887 times)

Every time we play, feelings of emotion, annoyance and so on are always present. But as far as I know, whether it can be controlled or not depends on the situation. This means that if at that time we experience continuous defeat but can still remain calm as if this is indeed gambling, admitting and realizing the risks then there is no problem. However when you really depend on continuing to chase defeats and want to turn them into big wins your mood will get hotter and get emotional. As a result the more you chase, the more you lose control of your own mentality.

       -   Maybe with other gamblers they become emotional; they are often really carried away because of emotions, not because of lifting myself up in a chair, because I don't let that kind of thing happen. We can actually avoid that if we can control our emotions correctly.

The question is, how do we do it? Of course, we must have discipline in ourselves; if we have it and can apply it, we will not be emotional in the end while we are playing gambling.

the feeling of recovering what was lost is a very common response of any gambler. we are all guilty of such emotion at one point in our lives. but the difference is, how we tackle them and move on to the next step so as not to be wrecked by this addictive habit. much better to pause and stop for a bit, to clear our heads and decide what's next...rather than continue your games and lost all what you have.


i would say, you have a very strong determination of following your rules for yourself. because most will bend their rules and follow their desire to play once they suffer losses. but if you stick to what you set to yourself, you wouldn't encounter any trouble as you are keeping your losses within your limits. now, if you go beyond and much more, for sure, that's when you start creating problems for yourself.

If you’re feeling emotional then you should step away from gambling and do something else with your time. If you are highly emotional, you’re more likely to take uncharacteristic risks and lose money.

Always practise responsible gambling, only gamble with money you can afford to lose. If you’re struggling then reach out, there are organisations that can help. 

Maybe.That depends on the type of character you have,personally I am a cold person and when I double the bet I am not driven by emotions but by logic,I say to myself that I have such remaining money and I will double the bet in order to try and win something big,whatever happens no matter if I win or loss I am not driven by emotion I am driven by this logical choice.I have done many times wrong choices but they were never from emotions,people who usually are emotive tend to dictate their choice through emotions,people rational tend to dictate their choice by logic.I know that the odds are against me when I am playing slots yet I say to myself maybe this is the time I hit it big and decide to double the bet,not for any other reasons,the end result is the same though,be or not be a person who is dictated by logic or by emotion,it is loss in the long run.

I experienced that bitter sensation very early in my childhood:

One good friend of mine gave me a lot of very popular physical tokens that were used in a competitive, zero-sum game, because he didn't want them anymore or, better said, because he highly valued our friendship. This act of generosity was totally unexpected, so they were like a treasure for me.

A few days after, I was tempted to play by two children, and I accepted. As I had little experience in that game, and also because they were in cahoots, I started losing my tokens very fast, and I felt that sensation the OP explains in his initial post, so I kept playing in order to recover the lost tokens, with the reasonably expected result.

I remember that I was lucid enough to quit before losing them all, but I lost at least 2/3 of them, and it marked me for life. So there is only one sensible way to gamble, the one Oshoshondy explained earlier today.

Been there many times too. I keep learning but keep making the same mistake. I think it is the nature of us gamblers, hopefully not for most of us here. You gotta be a professional gambler in order for you to gamble emotionless, but how many of us here are professional? I don't even see even one poster that have claimed himself to be a professional gambler and have showed some proof on his claim.

@OP, just keep gambling and learn, do the process until you figure it out right in the end.

When a person emotionally thinks then he Don't know that his bet is wrong or true but put bet again and again so in this emotional behaviour he loss all his money.

One thing you will know that every decision which is made emotionally is false so how your gambling can give you profit when you are emotionally distress or happy. Gambling also depends on luck and there is no strategies to apply but if someone think emotionally then gambling become more risky.

I can relate to the challenges you're describing to control your emotions. In the past I faced similar struggling issues with gambling especially when winning streak and thinking it’s just a good luck today and get emotional. For me also quitting during those moments of success was hard until I lose everything, so it was something I have to learn with time to control my emotions and stop. However, when I start my session with losses , I find it challenging to stop.

To pass this period of weakness and not controlling my gambling activity, I started setting strict limits on every gambling session, both in terms of time and money. Additionally searching about support from experienced gamblers, like counseling or support groups, which was beneficial to me. Sharing experiences and learning from others who also have experienced similar issues may provide valuable insights. It's important to acknowledge the problem and take the right steps towards responsible gambling, When you are emotional, Just don’t gamble

Hahaha. This is very common amongst gamblers, especially gamblers who don’t have experience. I know the feeling very well because I have been there. When you lose $10, you put in a bet to win back what you lost and even extra so you’ll be ahead of the game, but that’s exactly when you continuously lose. Happened to me last year, I eventually had to make peace with my failure and accepted defeat. This is the reason why we need to have limits (rules and regulations) that will control what you do. If you already decided you can’t stake more than $10, that will always guide you to be in place.

Everytime you are having negative emotions like sadness, frustration, and the likes, you would often push your luck until you win without being aware of how big the loss is becoming. We should always keep in mind to never let our emotions take over or to let our emotions play for us because negative consequences will be more likely disregarded. Accept that there will be times you are losing. If you're pissed of what happened on your day, avoid playing. Your emotion will just be diverted to gambling and will just create another problem on your end. Take a pause and engage to other activities that will ease your mind and will kill your time. You'd be more pissed of almost everything once you suffered from huge loss instead of calming down.

Just like in the middle of argument. Your emotions will be at its peak which will push you to say things you don't relly mean and if we would associate it with gambling., those unecessary words will be frustrated bets. Given that losing is more likely to happen, what should we expect? You won't be satisfied with both your profit and loss whenever you are being emotional. You will be impulsive 'coz you are more focused with the act of just betting and not minding what could happen on your bankroll. Always have self awareness whenever you are betting especially if you care with the money you are depositing. If you hope to not be in huge loss, which is simply another negative emotion, then be careful.

Purchasing loses is a very serious challenge for gamblers. It is observed that most time when gamblers try to do this, they often lose more. When you lose, it better you cool down your brain, forget your loses and make a reasonable bet again without doubling your stake. I even reduce my stake most times in other not to cause another problem for me if it loses again. Gambling should be a game of fun not something casing problems.

I've been there - the joy of the game becomes a test of pride. Doesnt every loss become a personal challenge? I broke that cycle by imposing strong rules. Each session begins with a limit: how much Im willing to lose and a win aim that signals quit. I respect the game and myself with this method, not merely to limit losses.

I found it best to gamble as amusement rather than ego war. I remind myself to be cool with leaving. Gameplay includes losing, which is good. Focusing on fun rather than results helped me enjoy my time, regardless of results. Experience, laughter, and memories around the table or screen are what matter.

Please try this method. Before entering a casino, consider why you're there: fun, right? Gamble to enrich your life, not control it. Joy, enthusiasm, and community are our motivation. Keep fun gambling alive by mixing thrills with mindfulness and self-care.

Let me first put it to you that I do not have any problem with gambling, I have lost in gambling, and that is normal, but letting it get to me in such a way that I will start misbehaving is what I do not give any chance. What I do is accept gambling as it is, no less, and that has helped me to face the reality of it. I know that I can lose or gain in it and that the possibility of losing is higher than winning, so I pursue it more carefully even as I manage my gambling account very strictly and myself as well through self-awareness, self-control and discipline. If you allow yourself to be infested by gambling, you will be badly affected, this is especially if you are focusing on the monetary aspect, you have to change it.

Gambling is not the avenue for you to be the next Bill Gates, neither is it the means to even give you that consistent income that many are positioning their minds to. It will not work that way. It is either you quit gambling altogether if you can't change that mindset because you will continue to lose and waste your money, or you change to a new life of gambling with a mind of neutrality and perhaps take it as an avenue where you can have your fun. If money comes out of it through this mindset, you will never be affected, and if it does, you won't still be affected. Also, limit the amount you bet per time, this is important as it hurts the most if lost.

There is this pressure when I am losing that propels me to keep gambling until i recover all my money. I guess that is the same issue you are having, and it is difficult to control these emotions. When losing, a gambler feels the need to recover; maybe that's how these betting platforms make lots of money. This is because whenever a person loses, he has this feeling that if he played continuously, he might recover some, if not all, of the money he loses. They have this saying in their minds: never quit.

About budget, yes, it's most likely to be effective if a gambler has a budget for his hobby, which is gambling. He should have an allocated budget that is meant for gambling, and money is okay if it's going to lose. Not just that, a gambler should also have discipline in limiting himself from going over his budget. If you've faced losses and all that allocated budget burns, the gambler should accept it and will never bet again. In short, no matter what the result, a gambler could still be sane and control his emotions, which is the primary cause of gamblers losing more money just because they can't control their emotions. But budgeting or allocating only money and discipline is not enough if the person itself should have no problem when it comes to their emotions, because a gambler who is emotionally unfit for gambling, which is stressful and risky, should avoid that thing.

This is a common story among many gamblers, you, me, we, have and often experience experiences like this. obviously, this is a problem if the money you use to make a deposit is not the money you should be betting on. unless you have healthy finances and it doesn't interfere with your family's economy and basic needs. If you, I, we are gamblers who are very experienced in gambling. We should be able to solve problems like this ourselves. How to ? This is a simple discussion but quite complicated to implement and carry out. however, at this point you should know that everyone has their own way of solving problems like this. but basically, the essence is the same.

For me, this is related to the way we think, everything comes back to being centered on our mindset and rational working. That's why I say, actually it's not that complicated if we talk about it. but in practice, it is difficult to implement. in short, understanding is the most important part. responsibility, becomes our benchmark in every excessive action. self-control, to stop excessive activity. conscious, is the part that involves the limitations we have. simple isn't it, but quite complicated to implement. but if we involve it as a whole and disciplined, then if you are at a point like this. you already know what you have to do.

This is basically what makes casinos and bookmakers so much money. If everyone made a single bet and the pain of losing was strong enough to deter them from doing it again, then the gambling business wouldn't be anywhere near as profitable as it is. However people can often not take being wrong, which is what a losing bet means, so they can tend to lash out and try to take revenge. However these companies aren't interested in revenge, they just crunch the numbers and let the math do the talking. Some people are also poor at controlling their anger, instead of trying to re-evaluate what went wrong and looking at themselves as the problem, they want to make their money back and also punish the gambling companies, but it doesn't work that way either.

that's true, I'm sure all gamblers feel this way, when they win or lose. Many gamblers get emotional about the gambling they do so that it results in unavoidable losses. many gamblers insist on winning, even though it is clear that winning at gambling cannot be guaranteed, even if they want to win I think they have to have a good mindset, don't be easily tempted by anything in gambling that ends it all on their emotions, because not only Just gambling, anything done with emotion will not end well.

That's great, also everything that will be done in gambling must be considered as well as possible, don't let the actions that will be carried out make us emotional overflowing, because by considering and thinking about it carefully maybe we won't take careless actions, because Many gamblers take careless actions by not considering them well and not thinking about the risks that will occur with the actions they take.

I have not had this type of experience and sincerely may not know how exactly to profer solution that may be proven effective to your resolving your problem , however I am I'll ask you use that same energy that you simply find ease with in quitting when you are making wins and liken it to the same as when you're losing. In other words, you can balance both sides using the winning mentality that makes you to easily quit when win to also apply it to when losing. Whatever you tell yourself when winning also use it to when losing and it will be helpful.