Topic: why men often cheat their women - page 2. (Read 658 times)

From my observation of many relationships, some of which have weathered the storms of time and those that have bent to the pressures which eventually led to their splitting. Every relationship has its ups and downs as it consists of two human beings who are fallible. Males in relationships however usually take their fallibility to a next level by allowing their selfish and greedy desires  get a greater part of them which eventually eats up into the relationship.
Men who cheat on their women are usually those who are  in search of variety of experience in terms of relationship this undermines the relevance of the other party.
 

One major reason why men cheat is their inability to resist temptations by other women. Actually women cheat more than men, just that women are very secretive so they hide theirs and men do show off with their new girlfriends

its an easy answer but let me explain it. Relationship is the boundary we let our loved once in, but when someone else breaks those boundaries we get angry.But what is the real purpose of these boundaries?Did we have ever thought on this. With the boundaries we do not allow other people to take decisions them self and we put our decision on them instead (i.e. we capture their freedom). it causes their heart to fill with pain and sadness and when they breaks these boundaries then we get angry. but if we respect each others freedom then no one will ever cheat on anyone again. it matters on freedom of body but it should be freedom of soul.think yourself.

Why not derive this from first principles?

Reason for having sex: Making babies
Reason for having sex with multiple women: Making more babies. If a man impregnates 10 women, he can have 10 babies. Note that a woman cannot have 10 babies by sleeping with 10 men.
Reason for wanting more babies: Higher chance of one surviving and passing on genes.
Reason for women wanting the man to stay with her and not sleep around: The man can provide resources for the baby, increasing the chance that her baby will survive. Having children with more women means splitting resources between them. As humans get more intelligent they need even more resources before they can become independent and survive on their own.
Reason for man cheating on woman (from a biological perspective): Raise a few babies and have some more on the side that you just allow to grow and hope they survive in case your main family still doesnt make it.
Reason for women cheating on men (from a biological perspective): Hard to get a highly attractive man to stick by and not cheat or leave. Easier to get a less attractive man but cheat on him in order to get the genes from a more attractive man. Women are most likely to cheat when they are in the most fertile phase of their cycle.

There are more advantages to a relationship where partners don't cheat on eachother besides the exchange of resources:
* Higher mutual trust
* Lifelong bonding and opportunity to learn more about yourself and to know another person on a deeper level.
* Continuity along the many decades of life and its ups and downs.
* Division of labour. Each member in a family can specialise in different tasks which must be performed.

There are also advantages to society:
* Having many orphaned or single parent children is a resource burden since they must still be fed, clothed and housed
* Children without stable families are more likely to commit crime and engage in reckless and self destructive behaviours, and will generally be less productive members of society.
* Since one man can impregnate many women, but one woman can only be impregnated by one man, there is a high chance that without monogamous relationships, a few men would get all the women and most men would be left without the possibility of reproduction, meaning they would have less to live fore and less reason to care about the future, and more to gain through risky behaviours such as engaging in violence to obtain status or women.
* Ability to transmit knowledge and culture down though the generations leading to a long term improvement and multiplier effect.

So there are many reasons to cheat and many reasons to avoid it. The struggle with life is learning how to avoid temptations which feel good in the moment but which in the long term will tear families and society apart. It is each persons responsibility to try to be the best person they can be for their partner, to avoid the relationship falling apart, and to choose the right person in the first place, to make you want to keep it together.

Wow, Interesting topic over here. Men tends to cheat due to several reasons, some of my reasons are:
1. When communication becomes ineffective between the two.
2. When women start not feeding their men, yes, you might be surprise this is a factor but really true. The way to a man's heart is truly his stomach.
3. When women start not pay attention to her appearance anymore. They become less attractive to their men.
4. When women start to cheat, some men will also pay back by cheating.
5. When women become fat and change physically, some men will always go for cute baes. LOL.

I think one woman is not enough for a man.A man need to enjoy some number of women and feel good.Because as a man you cannot be locked down by one woman forever.The women are so beautiful so it is not easy to just stay with one.Men need to explore more women.

It is so sad that 95 percent of marriage experience cheat,  this sometime is as a result of the life the man lived in his youthful age, a man  that sleep around with women  in his youthful age will fine it difficult to remain faithful to his wife because sleeping around is his habit.  Sometimes it is as a result of the attitude of the woman that cause the cheating. Some women are never submissive to their man they usually turn down his request  and will never accept anything their he  instruct them to do.

I had this conversation with my friend yesterday,

ever since the star of mankid, men have this urge to always want the prime and optimal mate, hence the urges to always look at diff girls, once the guy is happy with his optimal mate he has to fight off every urge he might get.

Now,

Dont fuckin cheat. Its not hard likeee if she is annoyin just end it.

Men often cheat their women because of that they do not walk a right way or if they do not agree to a right way otherwise if women has another relationship and they will spend their time for them so that men often cheat their women.

I think men often cheat because they can't resist temptations. My mom is a perfect wife and she gave everything just to protect our family, she even serve our father like a king but still her efforts isn't enough. My father still cheated on her despite of everything. My dad wasn't strong enough to resist temptation that she looked at other woman.

Men cheat their women because maybe he can't control his feelings. Maybe his not contented in their relationship or maybe his not happy.

Men often want to have relationship with multiple women, so they cheap their women.

Men often cheat their women because the women don't always satisfy their men. They may not do the right thing at the right time, so because of this, they will fund some that will do it better than thier women.
Many women don't cook at the right time, they don't clean the house and many don't turn up wen it's bed time. So thus are the reasons why men cheat on women

If we talk about often, biologically men has less control on impulses compared to women. Most bar fights that happen are caused by men right?

Men often makes decision, stupid or good (often stupid) based only with these impulses. But the good thing about it is that sometimes being reactive affects our reflex with immediate danger.

Because mostly men have to cheat at work for long time, so after few years of cheating in work he starts to cheat in relationship.

Men cheat for very different reasons. For instance, some men use cheating to keep an emotional distance between themselves and a woman’s heart. Men who are more frightened of emotional intimacy than women sometimes distract themselves by getting busy — but not too close — with other women.

Men Cheat to their women because
*They want out of a relationship
*They think it makes us a man
*They have low self-esteem
*There’s something lacking at home/they’re bored
*There’s been a breakdown in communication.
*Don't get what they want from women

1. Having less Sex.
2. Nagging.
3. A woman’s neglect of the man.
4. A woman’s neglect of herself .
5. Variety.

sometimes cheating of some person from his /her partner were involved from deeper action and  reason ,why men are tempted to be cheated ?maybe because some person are not responsable to keep their pledge and obligation from their marriage  life

Men often cheat their women because of their being not contented with them. It is not about the lackness of women,  it's about the weakness of a men. 
If men is truly faithful with his women,  they won't cheat whatever reason or situation it is.