There is no p2pool yet. You can definitely continue to solo mine, as I indicated, but don't expect quick or consistent results. Think of it as a raffle.
Play around some more with the number of threads, maybe smaller?
Also, if you are on linux, make sure you have huge pages allocated.
Your hash rate seems low to me. Do you have something else running on the same box?
now it's again at 181.1579 and going up .... 200.4737 even to 210.1053 but it only uses my cpu for a few seconds at 65% .... last night it was all the time at 65%
the only thing running is win server 2012 r2 and bitmonerod and simplewallet
Memory
16.0 GB DDR3
Speed: 1600 MHz
Slots used: 2 of 24
Form factor: DIMM
Hardware reserved: 45.5 MB
Available 10.0 GB
Cached 8.0 GB
Committed 6.5/18.3 GB
Paged pool 338 MB
Non-paged pool 187 MB
In use 5.9 GB
CPU
Intel(R) Xeon(R) CPU E5-2630 v2 @ 2.60GHz
Maximum speed: 2.60 GHz
Sockets: 1
Cores: 6
Logical processors: 12
Virtualization: Enabled
L1 cache: 384 KB
L2 cache: 1.5 MB
L3 cache: 15.0 MB
Utilization 4%
Speed 1.17 GHz
Up time 3:03:32:00
Processes 71
Threads 1198
Handles 36155
By the way for pool mining do I need the whole blockchain like in solo?
P.S. after I got the green message that it synchronized ok now the hashrate is stable at 223.7895