Pages:
Author

Topic: Youths Becoming Reluctant to Marry (Read 266 times)

jr. member
Activity: 34
Merit: 6
August 26, 2023, 06:15:29 PM
#26
Dangote Group: This group wan become Dangote first before them marry. You see this set, unless we plan for them, find one woman force her on them, them ready to reach 45 before them marry.  We know say money dey important for marriage but they no dey pursue money finish.

As you put dix one funny me oh op, but you know say something they wey becsay you suppose understand as e be now ahd the way the country they go e no easy for everybody person they struggle to chop and na only him dey leave for now, if him con go carry people pikin out for house wetin you dey thing e no go better oh.

Because everything wey your wife need na you go give am, Toh you con dey struggle to chop food and your wife they bring another mata how you go feel and work no dey wey you go geh money. So everything na plan bro make we just pray for better time Sha if not e no easy.
sr. member
Activity: 434
Merit: 500
August 26, 2023, 10:30:40 AM
#25
My country people. E get wetin I dey observe for we country wey I wan make una follow me put mouth. I notice say our young bobo them no dey too marry early again. My papa tell me say for their time, before you reach 25, you done already marry or about to. But today, 30 self never put marriage as priority. Plenty good reasons dey sha o but some their reasons no reason enough to be single at certain age.

Mehn you no fit compare those days with this days, things good that time na and world never spoil d way e spoil now. The economy too de contribute for the matter, most young men de fear to enter marriage because of how things hard for the country and we all know that d rate of unemployment high for country now.

I don take one eye come observe plenty set of guy men them for this our time and they belong to some of these categories as e relate to man and woman something:

All the categories wey you mention de funny abeg but some of them na true sha because i don see person wey tell me say if him marry now him no go de get freedom again and the worse thing be say d guy don pass 30 already so which kind freedom him still de find so. And e gt one of my friend wey de form fine boy for area, him de always think say him still young because girls de find am up and down.

Marriage no be something wey we go rush into oo and everybody gt right to decide when him ready to marry so whatever time dem decide to marry na their wahala. I go jus advise dem not to marry without having any means of earning money so you no go enter frustration.
legendary
Activity: 2254
Merit: 1052
Leading Crypto Sports Betting & Casino Platform
August 25, 2023, 08:46:04 AM
#24
Well, as funny as this is, it is the truth, young men, and not just young men alone, but some women too, are refusing to marry on time which to me, is bad, most of the young men I know that have refused to marry are those who are waiting to become dangote, they assume marriage to be all about having a lot of money, I myself got married when I had nothing, and when I say nothing, I mean absolutely nothing, but today, but today, with committed hustling and with the help of my wife(a good woman by my side), we've achieved a lot, I bought a land worth millions of naira in a very developed area and about to start building our own house, I am just in my very early 30s, my first daughter now is 7, and the second will become 2 by December this year, and the third one is on the way coming, I plan is that (which I believe to be God's plan too) is that before I am 40, we are done giving birth, then we just focus on giving them the very best of training , and sending them to the best of schools..

I did sacrifice some of personal ambitions when I decided to marry early, but looking back and seeing where I am today, I have lost nothing, but instead, I have gained a lot, early marriage is not bad at all, for those who are afraid, it doesn't tie one down in any way, you can still pursue your life's goals while in marriage, and let me make it clear that money is indeed important in marriage, but it is not what keeps marriage peaceful, to confirm this, rich people still fight with their spouses, and some even end up in divorce, even with all the money that they have, who ever believe that money is what is required to make marriage peaceful and enjoyable, is being deceived.
sr. member
Activity: 406
Merit: 360
August 25, 2023, 07:24:33 AM
#23

Another problem na disapointment. Many men don engage but the person wey Dem don engage go just fuckup.
Disappointment no suppose to be excuse for anybody wey serious to marry because we get so many ladies out there wey dey ready to settle down. If one person disappoint you then make you thank God because he show say she isn't meant for you.

Another one na to look caracter. Person wey wan marry no dey too look caracter if not you no go marry.
If na character you dey find,omo you go turn old papa and you no go still see the own wey get the kind of character wey you go like. If we understand say marriage na between two imperfect people wey go come together,then na our work to change your spouse ugly character through tolerance and correction in a lovely manners. Everybody get their own ugly character but to tolerate na him be sacrifice and na wetin marriage dey all about. If you like to marry a girl because of big yansh when the yansh no dey again,everything about her go dey irritate you even though she get good character, you go see am as bad character because na that yansh make you trip for her.
member
Activity: 784
Merit: 34
👉bit.ly/3QXp3oh | 🔥 Ultimate Launc
August 24, 2023, 04:36:13 PM
#22
My country people. E get wetin I dey observe for we country wey I wan make una follow me put mouth. I notice say our young bobo them no dey too marry early again. My papa tell me say for their time, before you reach 25, you done already marry or about to. But today, 30 self never put marriage as priority. Plenty good reasons dey sha o but some their reasons no reason enough to be single at certain age.

I don take one eye come observe plenty set of guy men them for this our time and they belong to some of these categories as e relate to man and woman something:

The Fear Fear Group: This na the group wey dey fear marriage like say tomorrow no dey. For their mind, marriage go tie them down and make them no get freedom again. If you wan scare person wey belong to this group, just tell am make him go marry Cheesy Cheesy Cheesy

The Confused Brothers aka Fine Boys: These na those fine bobo them wey women dey hardly say no to. Them fine die, so na girls dey rush them. Normally, them be ashawo because no type of woman them never harvest; from the ones them chase to the ones wey chase them. Unfortunately, them dey suffer to select wife. If care is not taken self, most of them dey marry girls wey no too catch attention and you go come dey wonder weda na brother solo the ladies spec marry this girl or na another person.

The Tasters Association of Nigeria : This group wan taste all the soup for this world... if you talk about marriage near them, them go use excuse frustrate you wey wan advice them.

Dangote Group: This group wan become Dangote first before them marry. You see this set, unless we plan for them, find one woman force her on them, them ready to reach 45 before them marry.  We know say money dey important for marriage but they no dey pursue money finish.

If you are still single and an eligible bachelor, oya take microphone and tell us the group you belong to or add your own if e no dey for the list.

Its like na the dangote group i go belong like this oh because i don clock 30 like this i never settle down and my junior sister don get like two children like this. Na so one elderly person tell me say as i smart and dey hard working say e dey tey people like us get married me no know if true true this talk na true so.
full member
Activity: 280
Merit: 205
The great city of God 🔥
August 23, 2023, 04:20:53 PM
#21
My brother I no blame any youth wey non gree marry. E get many things wey dey bother man for head. One of the problem or factor na poverty. Poverty don humble many men. Many of them dey ready but f
Inancialy not buyant.

Another problem na disapointment. Many men don engage but the person wey Dem don engage go just fuckup. Another one na to look caracter. Person wey wan marry no dey too look caracter if not you no go marry.
hero member
Activity: 1064
Merit: 501
August 23, 2023, 03:42:11 PM
#20
Wetin we suppose understand sae marriage no be do or die affair. Whenever peso d ready make em marry. When married to someone, peso supposed to d financially and mentally strong before em go enter the lifetime institution called marriage.

Marriage no be relationship. Once you enter, you don enter am be that. No be wetin peso suppose do mistake for, all because you wan marry early to prove a point and you no come prepare yourself financially and mentally to go into am. As you take enter, if care is not taken, you go fit rush come out of am. By then you fit the regret on the decision wey you make d move to get married at the first place.

Wetin I d try reason be sae, marry when you are ready. No go marry early when you are not financially, emotionally and mentally ready. The economy of the country no be when peso go bring out children just to suffer them. Your life, the future of your children and the peso wey you wan say ''I do to'' need to think properly before you enter the institution called marriage
newbie
Activity: 36
Merit: 0
August 23, 2023, 06:42:44 AM
#19
This your post funny shaa I dn laugh tire. But na true talk you yarn. Me I dey advice every naija young man say if you dn hustle get better source of income, go marry. Atleast make you ft dey young dey train your children.
hero member
Activity: 896
Merit: 584
BTC, a coin of today and tomorrow.
July 18, 2023, 08:21:11 AM
#18
My papa tell me say for their time, before you reach 25, you done already marry or about to. But today, 30 self never put marriage as priority. Plenty good reasons dey sha o but some their reasons no reason enough to be single at certain age.
Maybe in Southern part. Go to North and see the difference. It has been estimated that by 2050, Nigeria population could surpass 1 billion if they continue to reproduce the way they are reproducing and nothing changed till now. More population are coming from the Northern part and they marry fast. Especially their females.

Boss man, their men too dey marry early o...our gateman for Lagos wey I dey show steady love to make sure him feed well already have 3 wives at home. The day I hear the gist, I shock. Him younger brother wey dey follow him squat for the gate man house don already marry two. The gist no gree enter my head but na truth be that.

Some of those guys from the North get different mentality, believe and approach to life. E no easy shaa
full member
Activity: 322
Merit: 146
July 17, 2023, 09:32:28 PM
#17
Evry man in d beginning wish to marry, even if dem no marry at last or marry late.

4 me I think na d way of life nw dey restructure us the men of hw we tink towards marriage.

Few tins way dey decide for man on marriage na >>>

1) Nature/Time: Nature and time decides for man when to marry according to wen dem fit meet their right person's

2) Money: We believe say we see pepper 4 our parents hands coz money  no dey, no food, no beta skul and not beta houz to sleep.
So we dey wait 4 d moni to com so dat we go fit change d stories

3) Pleasures: We go dey carried away bcos of enjoyments dey feel say time dey til before we know our agenda bcom bygon.

4) Fear: Most of us dey consider if we go marry or not cuz eyes don c plenty shege 4 other people marriages so no want make e happen 2 us b4 we learn. Dat now dey make some men feel say not to marry na prevention better than cures.

5) Boy/Grl Frnd xperiens: Considering the wahala our grl-frnds dey give us just in a temporary relationship dey cuz us pains, heartbreaks & som dey lead us to failure dey make some of us cucuma sign am say if women na like dis den dem no fit go into permanent relationship being marriage cuz da 1 na die.

But 1 tin 4 sure b say who ready to face him worse fear today go face am today and e no go com 2moro 2 face am again.

Determination na key to succeed so decide 1st on wetin u wnt, chase am, catch am no let am go and e go b ur own happily.

Dear men, work hard as u fit, aim to marry early so that u fit get d energy to dey catter 4 ur family welfare. Comot fears way go weigh u down cuz all men supposed marry and no 1 dey minus.
hero member
Activity: 2478
Merit: 621
Leading Crypto Sports Betting & Casino Platform
July 15, 2023, 02:26:13 PM
#16
This marriage thing no be wetin dem suppose dey remind somebody so long the person dey make effort, things dey happen and God wey create the world say make all man go multiply and dominate the world. Dem say if something time reach that thing go happen. E just be like seasons wey we get, raining season and dry season, Dem dey happen as their time reach. However, marriage dey very important in our lives, e show maturity of mind that you don dey ready to grow another family but some young people dey do the thing as competition.
member
Activity: 406
Merit: 84
Eloncoin.org - Mars, here we come!
July 15, 2023, 01:02:50 PM
#15
Me I go speak for myself, firstly I no dey see say marriage as a thing of age, but na wetin person need to ready for and also have a strong financial pillar, person still need to be matured in the mind before getting into marriage because marriage na wetin person go dey inside forever and forever.

So I go advice everyone to be ready for marriage first before getting into it, no Marry because say you don feel say you Don reach the age of marriage or maybe you go marry because your friends dey marry.

Relax and prepare your mind for marriage before you enter inside to avoid divorce...
full member
Activity: 580
Merit: 108
July 13, 2023, 04:29:57 PM
#14
My papa tell me say for their time, before you reach 25, you done already marry or about to. But today, 30 self never put marriage as priority. Plenty good reasons dey sha o but some their reasons no reason enough to be single at certain age.
Ofcourse our parents married at their early age, and na we be the results of their labour. As for me, I no get time to stay without raising a home on time, because as we de hustle for our daily bread, we suppose de reason marriage join too. The world de advance, everybody want de excess alright before dem marry, this na time wey we no gats puts marriage as priority, no b during the recession of the hard economy of the country. People go marry without anyone forcing them, everybody get priorities dem de pursue, and most people no go marry until dem don achievd their ultimate targets.
hero member
Activity: 1428
Merit: 653
Always Act Smart and Play Safe With Your Funds
July 13, 2023, 08:37:46 AM
#13
~Snip~
Baba... I trowey cap for you. You hit de nail on de head. Like this emmm I go just print out your write up, laminate am and hang am for my wall so that I go dey read am every day.

Permission granted if you feels that is enough for you to take bold steps then no issues we are together. Marriage is sweet when you have learned to knows the core values of marriage, I believe you get more blessings when you believe in that scripture that takes about marriage.

I am always encouraging young men to start settling down because age waits for nobody and besides if you waiting till 40 years before getting married would help train your children in school if you don't settle now and have your children and use these money we used for flexing and start taking good care of your families.

This where most of our people blamed uncle for not training their children mainwhile their father had the chance to give birth to them earlier, but didn't take bold steps but was late to marry. We need to train our children when we are young and active making money to be able to provide their needs and not when we are old.
sr. member
Activity: 504
Merit: 421
Top Crypto Casino
July 13, 2023, 08:12:15 AM
#12
Well I no belong any groups but I am happily married.

See ehh e get plenty things me wan analyzed here; Marriage is not about money either about fineness or acquiring all things of the world. But marriage is about accepting Responsibility, and also Compatibility, I believe most of you here have came to my wedding and  my Child Dedication and witnessed how it was. I got married when I have settled for less meaning I have came to accept reality that 1 Age is no longer on my side, 2 I know that is my core Duty to father a Child, 3 Someone gives birth to me so I must do so 4 Accepting the responsibility 5 Compatibility (Companionship).

If you understand the meaning of companionship you will marry. Before I was thinking I still had time to spend and flex my life but after I came to draw some analysis about marriage and singlehood I instantaneously changed my mind look for Compatibility when I got it i then say no need to waste time. After which I boiled out to see her parents and every thing began without wasting of time, not that i had Millions or Billions but just managing as others out there.

In summary when you are ready to accept responsibility you will get married not even money that will hold you down because marriage they said is a blessing from God. Proverbs 18:22 "The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD". So do you still need money to marry when God said when you find a wife you find money.
Baba... I trowey cap for you. You hit de nail on de head. Like this emmm I go just print out your write up, laminate am and hang am for my wall so that I go dey read am every day.

I believe single brothers in dis house will take a good step to stand with one girl in a strong relationship that will lead to marriage. And it will be a good thing if Bitcoiners can marry bitcoiners and dey will give birth to wealthy children, but I don't know why some of our guys here are afraid of toasting us than to take us as just a friend in dis forum. Like dat fear fear group, I think we have those guys pretty here, because money is not their problem but dey are afraid to marry a wrong person that will know all their crypto personal details because, as husband and wife you must show your wife or husband every single things you have in d house, and there are some women if you don't show dem, dey will be looking for way to know were all those things is or dey well make d home look like hell to u unless u show dem .
Lol... I go like sidon for dis your mata small. I no say people dey meet and marry for social media like Facebook, Twitter and the likes but e get somethings wey dey attract dem to each other before e get to marriage and first na profile pic. Here, nothing like that abi na signature avatar you want see? I no no how take come to de conclusion say if a bitcoiner marry a fellow bitcoiner dem go give birth to wealthy children. Also, I notice say your talk dey go one side wen you dey yan say weda na fear of disclosing our wallet details na im dey make we no wan marry our fellow bitcoiner. The last time I checked, marriage is all about sharing, so no expect de man to reveal im sensitive wallet information to you wen you neva dey ready to reveal your own. 😎
hero member
Activity: 1022
Merit: 667
Leading Crypto Sports Betting & Casino Platform
July 12, 2023, 02:45:02 PM
#11
One of the major setbacks for educated eligible bachelors is lack of finances and economic stability,  because since most of the guys are well educated on the responsibility that accompanied marriage they tend to wait until they are financially stable before thinking of settling down to take family responsibilities but then also we have to take into account the large increase in marriage demands among the uneducated ones because we also notice a trend in the population projections and current realities have uncovered that fact that the issues of marriage among young eligible adults.
hero member
Activity: 896
Merit: 653
July 12, 2023, 02:37:40 PM
#10
In the North, as many of them get educated, many more do not get educated like people in the South.

Southerners do not marry and give birth fast again like the Northerners do.

Education is somehow related to this.
And not only education, but technological advancement, high cost of living & the high rate of divorce cases also have a big role to play why many young men & women never marry today, because unlike 2 decades ago when the cost of living was very affordable and you hardly hear cases of divorce, people were hungry to marry at that time, but as time goes on coupled with the introduction of gay and lesbianism, It did killed the interest of the  marriage institution.

But if I'm to speak on behalf of myself, omo, person need to get better money first oh, before Ithinking about marriage oh, because marriage on it's own na load itself wey requires finance, and no be wetin you go into when you never get job, because I dey sure if im to ask una to choose between these 3 house, 99.9% go go for number "C" and not "A", and to get that "C", it requires money, na make boys dey hustle hard this 21st century, so as to live a better life.


hero member
Activity: 812
Merit: 725
July 12, 2023, 12:46:05 PM
#9
If you are still single and an eligible bachelor, oya take microphone and tell us the group you belong to or add your own if e no dey for the list.
My group na I de wait for God's time oo because I no get anything wey de stop me, just that I never jam the right girl wey suit my taste. Although, I for they the confused brothers group, but somethings wey u mention for there make me run.

You are right, I no actually put the Norther Nigeria into consideration. Their custom and tradition actually makes early marriage easier. However, I no too cherish the pace they are going in terms of population that is not well taken care of... these are the outcome of their marriage system.
For North here wey we they, some people carry this marriage as competition especially our brothers wey no get privilege go school, you go see them they do competition of number of wives they will have.

But even those once wey go school they quick marry because traditionally, you no fit just they say u no they go school and you no marry, na why some guys they marry below 25 years, while our girls they marry very early sometimes at the age of 18 or so, unless those once that go school, na them they fit reach 20-25years range.
full member
Activity: 1190
Merit: 126
★Bitvest.io★ Play Plinko or Invest!
July 12, 2023, 11:18:57 AM
#8
I believe single brothers in dis house will take a good step to stand with one girl in a strong relationship that will lead to marriage. And it will be a good thing if Bitcoiners can marry bitcoiners and dey will give birth to wealthy children, but I don't know why some of our guys here are afraid of toasting us than to take us as just a friend in dis forum. Like dat fear fear group, I think we have those guys pretty here, because money is not their problem but dey are afraid to marry a wrong person that will know all their crypto personal details because, as husband and wife you must show your wife or husband every single things you have in d house, and there are some women if you don't show dem, dey will be looking for way to know were all those things is or dey well make d home look like hell to u unless u show dem .
hero member
Activity: 1428
Merit: 653
Always Act Smart and Play Safe With Your Funds
July 12, 2023, 08:49:27 AM
#7
Well I no belong any groups but I am happily married.

See ehh e get plenty things me wan analyzed here; Marriage is not about money either about fineness or acquiring all things of the world. But marriage is about accepting Responsibility, and also Compatibility, I believe most of you here have came to my wedding and  my Child Dedication and witnessed how it was. I got married when I have settled for less meaning I have came to accept reality that 1 Age is no longer on my side, 2 I know that is my core Duty to father a Child, 3 Someone gives birth to me so I must do so 4 Accepting the responsibility 5 Compatibility (Companionship).

If you understand the meaning of companionship you will marry. Before I was thinking I still had time to spend and flex my life but after I came to draw some analysis about marriage and singlehood I instantaneously changed my mind look for Compatibility when I got it i then say no need to waste time. After which I boiled out to see her parents and every thing began without wasting of time, not that i had Millions or Billions but just managing as others out there.

In summary when you are ready to accept responsibility you will get married not even money that will hold you down because marriage they said is a blessing from God. Proverbs 18:22 "The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD". So do you still need money to marry when God said when you find a wife you find money.
Pages:
Jump to: