Topic: 5 Things to do After a Huge Loss in Gambling. - page 22. (Read 4018 times)
First of all, a person feels demotivated when a huge loss happens in gambling. Then a sense of realization occurs that you shouldn’t have taken that step to place the bet. The best thing possible at this time is to talk to someone you love. Spending time with them will release the depression and stress from your mind. If possible, then avoid gambling for some time. I have always seen gambling destroy life, and I myself have learned a lesson from it. Hence, I only do occasional sports betting now. So be cautious and gamble carefully.
Enduring a huge loss in gambling is quite unacceptable and frustrating. So the best thing you can do after that is to take a break and stay away from gambling or any activities that would lead you to gamble again. That is certainly an essential thing to do so you can save your mental and emotional health away from getting damaged. And for new sets of opportunities to knock into your door, you need to let go of some of your old, unhealthy habits which include gambling so you can prepare yourself to embrace the new ones.
3. Socialize more, go out, play outdoor games, go on a hike with friends for a few days: You need an immediate shift of your focus from gambling, and going out, playing games, etc., are good options to do that. It will also shorten your screen time, which must be zero for at least 2-3 days.
This is called re-focusing attention. In the case of gambling, it is better to choose those types of activities in which the gambler will be away from the PC, smartphone and the Internet (any outdoor activities), those types of activities in which the gambler will have neither the strength nor the time for gambling (hard training, passionate work or hobby).4. Take professional help: There are many government as well as non-government organizations who can help you a lot if you are still panicking and nothing is working for you. Especially if, even after a few days, your sleeping and eating patterns are not normalizing. They will help you cope with anxiety and pursue some positive change in your life.
Not in life, but in your wallet. 
There is nothing in life that a person can't overcome on his own. All their help will consist of only one thing - redirecting the gambler's attention from the problem to other types of activity, i.e. that same re-focus of attention/activity.5. This last advice is a bit philosophical. Your existence in itself is a miracle, and on top of it, you as a living, conscious human being have survived against odds much higher than any lottery. Therefore, you are a winner already in life, no matter what these are—petty things (money lost in some game)—and you surely have the capacity to overcome this. Even if you do not believe in yourself right now, your existence is the undeniable proof of your potential.
Well, the indisputable indicator of the quality of a gambler is not how much he is able to win, but how many losses he is ready to endure. 
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My biggest loss was around $4500 which has happened in the gambling shop and was probably not from the class of huge one because in five minute I have forgot about it and proceeded to the next gambling spot
. However your advice seems to be quite professional (you seem to be very knowledgeable in the gamblers' psychology). 
I can accept the losses from gambling but I never tells to others about my losses. They can judge me that I can't control myself in gambling so that is why I keep it for myself. Socialize more is just another word for take a break from gambling for a while after the loss. That is good for you because you need to relax your minds using the other activities so you can distract your minds to think about your losses. I don't take professional help when I loss in gambling and just get out from the online gambling for some times. That is works for me because I can forget the losses although I can comes back to the casino in the other days.
1. Accept the loss: Do not try to suppress the feelings; do not lie to yourself. You have made a mistake by gambling beyond your means, now accept it. We all make mistakes in our life. Most importantly, express the feelings: Weep if you want to weep, shout in a closed room if you want to shout, just do not harm yourself or others in the process, as it will only make things worse. Expressing your emotions is the first step towards getting out of this situation, and believe me, things are only going to get better from here. If you have expressed yourself, you have already made great progress.
Suppressing emotions will cause serious trouble to your psyche, which can lead to depression and delusions. If you do not accept your loss and mistake, you will only strengthen your unconscious to again take higher risks. In case you are wondering why your mind is still thinking of arranging more money somehow (taking loans/selling stuff, stealing, etc.), it is because of an innate human tendency of loss aversion.
A huge gambling loss hits home hard even when you saw it coming. But unlike any other kind of loss we experience in the life, don't deny it. Accept the bitter and painful emotions that you feel as a result of it. Ignoring it would only make it worse and transfer of it to another person will be inevitable as it would become anger and irritation. Suppressing emotions will cause serious trouble to your psyche, which can lead to depression and delusions. If you do not accept your loss and mistake, you will only strengthen your unconscious to again take higher risks. In case you are wondering why your mind is still thinking of arranging more money somehow (taking loans/selling stuff, stealing, etc.), it is because of an innate human tendency of loss aversion.
After such type of loss, seclude yourself from people to be alone and think. Thinking helps to process the loss, examine your finances because if the gamble was done with borrowed funds or funds meant for other things, then there has to be a strategy way to pay it back.
Then comes the stage of looking at your stance with gambling and do a proper check based on facts gathered from the games you have played in the past so as to know if such gambling activities can either be reduced, controlled or stopped in its entirety. If you can't bear the loss for whatever reason, then it is ok confide in a trustworthy person who won't judge you, but instead will hold you accountable going forward.
If you have just encountered a big loss which is making you sick to the stomach, do not worry.
Big loss? It means you are ready for digesting small losses? If so, I have better ideas than these 5. Yes, instead of going for gambling with big bankroll, just keep a small balance. All the problems will be solved. Huge loss is not something like losing one month salary or a week's reward from a signature campaign because we may start with such kind of money accidently and may lose all 100%. Huge loss is something like $5k or 10k. It means you can simply avoid if you are aware of the usual outcome of gambling.If you are the kind of gambler who keeps on adding more funds after every loss, then you should accept such pain of losing big money at least once because until experiencing the real pain of losses, most gamblers ignore all the advices.
Here, prevention is better than discussing about what you could do afterwards.
I sometimes feel like this forum or at least this section is turning into some therapy group or advice group!
Seriously, why do we need all these topics about every single thing, what to do when you win, what to do when you lose, advantages of low bets, advantages of higher bets, don't gamble during the night, don't gamble during the day, don't drive and gamble and all of this!
I get the sentiment but at the same time, it does create good discussions sometimes. These aren’t exactly common knowledge especially to beginners. It might come as common sense for us that has been in the gambling world and this forum for quite a while but it may not true for everyone. We can always just avoid the thread. So far, it doesn’t seem like this whole section is full of just advices.Seriously, why do we need all these topics about every single thing, what to do when you win, what to do when you lose, advantages of low bets, advantages of higher bets, don't gamble during the night, don't gamble during the day, don't drive and gamble and all of this!
If it did, that would be when it’ll start to get concerning.
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Does anyone here actually believe that even a single person reading these topics is going to take advice from some strangers typing as much as they can to make their quota posting?
Maybe. Who knows? Maybe there are people who share the same opinion, maybe there are those that don’t. Like I said this can create some really productive conversations in the forum that generates activity. 
2. Tell someone:
This is total bad idea. Instead i rather wallow in isolation that speak about my gambling problems to another person. People tend to make things more worst for you when you share your gambling problems with them. They might end up looking at you like an addicted gambler. Maybe later in the future that they aint your friend anymore, they will start speaking bad about you to other persons. Of course the person describes here are the person you trust not random person that you are not close since no one will be interested to hear your story if don’t have good relationship with it.
In my case, I always tell my wife whenever I have a big loss since I’m always honest with her. I use money what I can afford to lose but sometimes I add some from my personal savings to spice up my game. Telling your problem to a person you trust will help you clear heavy feeling in your chest because you knew someone will understand and help you.
Your wide in this case understands your gambling habits more than anyone you would ever think of sharing it with. The both of you are one, she wont want to start spitting out what has been said in-house. In this case your wife is still you.
It's better to just step away from the game itself for a few days and see how it goes. I know that feeling though, last week I lost some big money, for two straight days, and whenever I played after that, I still take a big L.
So I said to myself, that I need to slow down for now, as I'm having a unlucky week.
Taking a break helps me, especially after a big loss. It's advisable to pause for a while - no one says you should quit gambling. Just take a break to calm down. Even before talking to a friend or seeking advice, take time to reflect.So I said to myself, that I need to slow down for now, as I'm having a unlucky week.
Take a break from the game, then come back gradually. Since we agreed on responsible gambling, have a budget or gamble with extra money after important expenses.
Gambling's a win-or-lose situation. Prepare your mindset: you might lose. Don't let it get to you; you budgeted for it. Some weeks, you're just unlucky. Ensure you didn't gamble with money you couldn't afford.
When facing loss, take a break, be with yourself or trusted people. It helps.
I sometimes feel like this forum or at least this section is turning into some therapy group or advice group!
Seriously, why do we need all these topics about every single thing, what to do when you win, what to do when you lose, advantages of low bets, advantages of higher bets, don't gamble during the night, don't gamble during the day, don't drive and gamble and all of this!
Does anyone here actually believe that even a single person reading these topics is going to take advice from some strangers typing as much as they can to make their quota posting?
If you need help you need to seek professional help, these half ass advices are just garbage!
Seriously, why do we need all these topics about every single thing, what to do when you win, what to do when you lose, advantages of low bets, advantages of higher bets, don't gamble during the night, don't gamble during the day, don't drive and gamble and all of this!
Does anyone here actually believe that even a single person reading these topics is going to take advice from some strangers typing as much as they can to make their quota posting?
If you need help you need to seek professional help, these half ass advices are just garbage!
2. Tell someone: You have to have at least one person in your life (the more the better) to whom you can share your feelings and let them know about your situation. It will help a lot because if you continue to live in isolation with that feeling, trust me, you will not be capable of taking care of yourself. There is no shame in taking help in these matters; instead, it is a sign of great courage to honestly tell someone how you are feeling.
I assume you're a man, right?People will laugh at you after you tell your story, they will say you're very stupid and make fun of you, not to mention some people are encouraging men to shut up because men are strong.
This is total bad idea. Instead i rather wallow in isolation that speak about my gambling problems to another person. People tend to make things more worst for you when you share your gambling problems with them. They might end up looking at you like an addicted gambler. Maybe later in the future that they aint your friend anymore, they will start speaking bad about you to other persons.
In my case, I always tell my wife whenever I have a big loss since I’m always honest with her. I use money what I can afford to lose but sometimes I add some from my personal savings to spice up my game. Telling your problem to a person you trust will help you clear heavy feeling in your chest because you knew someone will understand and help you.Here I agree with @Stablexcoin, many people don't want to accept our bad personality/failure, that's why most people said "life is like a theater".
I think "Accept the loss" is the most important point on the list because it’s key to minimizing risks in gambling. Main reason many lose a lot in gambling is that they can’t accept a loss, they try to chase it, only to end up losing everything, sometimes even money that wasn’t meant for gambling in the first place.
This is the kind of discipline we need to develop. From the start, we should understand that gambling has only two outcomes: winning or losing. Knowing how to handle both is just as important as placing the bet itself.
To accept the loss and to stop chasing after the loss with thoughts of recovery is the best approach after the loss has been encountered and it is best for one to relax, take a stroll, go for a swim or partake in some other fun activities within the time frame inorder not to brood about the loss. This is the kind of discipline we need to develop. From the start, we should understand that gambling has only two outcomes: winning or losing. Knowing how to handle both is just as important as placing the bet itself.
I do experience loss often times but I try to reduce my gambling bets once my the frequency of my loss is getting too high. Even changing to other games may not help because I believe gambling requires a calm emotional response, else whatever we do after being upset will always tend to zero profit and more losses.
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You don't even need to lose to do 3 and 5. Maybe 4 as well but that's pretty subjective. Gamlbing is FOR fun. If you're not having fun with it (whether you're losing or winning), then do something else. There are a huge number of activities a person can do with their time, whether it be inside or outside their house. Absolutely no need to limit yourself to just, well, gambling. Might depend on your personality but again, no need to limit yourself. Could probably work if it was a competitive activity (or has some aspect of it), but pretty sure gambling has none. If you think it has one, you just think there's one lol. 
When accepting the loss, I think this is where most gamblers often have a problem when they play casino gambling.
I’ve experienced it myself, you start gambling with a set amount in mind, but then a losing streak hits, and it’s hard to accept. So, you reload your bankroll, thinking you’ll recover those losses, but instead, it just leads to even more losses until you can’t deposit anymore.It’s really our lack of emotional control that causes this....
The problem is if we’re already being unrealistic from the start then it’s almost guaranteed to spiral out of control.
Good steps to help one heal from a big loss. Personally, taking a break is the best of it all and at the same time, you should let go of your losses, because if you cannot let go of your losses, you might find it difficult to take a break. What I do after experiencing a big loss, I quit and don't gamble anymore or go close to where they're gambling so that I will not be tempted to gamble at that moment.
1. Accept the loss: Do not try to suppress the feelings; do not lie to yourself. You have made a mistake by gambling beyond your means, now accept it.
I consider this a virtue: if you can face yourself, accept your losses, and be okay with them, then you are responsible person. its hard to take a huge loss; huge losses linger on for days or even months, and in some cases, a lifetime.
So if you're starting to gamble, learn the facts about gambling and be responsible to accept whatever the outcomes are because remembering and practicing that there is more TO life than gambling is considered a virtue.
When accepting the loss, I think this is where most gamblers often have a problem when they play casino gambling. Especially with the large amount of money they have lost because there are others who have lost, they will deposit another money in the gambling casino they are gambling at.
Therefore, they cannot avoid or control themselves from chasing their losses. So it is really important that we have control over ourselves and our emotions because, without it,
this is exactly what will happen to us as gamblers.
Therefore, they cannot avoid or control themselves from chasing their losses. So it is really important that we have control over ourselves and our emotions because, without it,
this is exactly what will happen to us as gamblers.
I think "Accept the loss" is the most important point on the list because it’s key to minimizing risks in gambling. Main reason many lose a lot in gambling is that they can’t accept a loss, they try to chase it, only to end up losing everything, sometimes even money that wasn’t meant for gambling in the first place.
This is the kind of discipline we need to develop. From the start, we should understand that gambling has only two outcomes: winning or losing. Knowing how to handle both is just as important as placing the bet itself.
This is the kind of discipline we need to develop. From the start, we should understand that gambling has only two outcomes: winning or losing. Knowing how to handle both is just as important as placing the bet itself.
2. Tell someone:
This is total bad idea. Instead i rather wallow in isolation that speak about my gambling problems to another person. People tend to make things more worst for you when you share your gambling problems with them. They might end up looking at you like an addicted gambler. Maybe later in the future that they aint your friend anymore, they will start speaking bad about you to other persons. Of course the person describes here are the person you trust not random person that you are not close since no one will be interested to hear your story if don’t have good relationship with it.
In my case, I always tell my wife whenever I have a big loss since I’m always honest with her. I use money what I can afford to lose but sometimes I add some from my personal savings to spice up my game. Telling your problem to a person you trust will help you clear heavy feeling in your chest because you knew someone will understand and help you.
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