Once having a huge loss, it can mean that it can happen again, it is difficult to survive this and if you are not a very successful player, then it may make sense to leave this activity and never return to it again.
I agree with you and it came to my mind how a casino works. When anyone loses 5/6 times in a row usually lose almost all the funds. Those who are more talented may lose lower than the average gambler. But when it reaches 10-12 losses in a row may lose all the funds of all users if the bet has a limit of that user. But when any user has multiple times of amount available on another place that has already been on the site may place all on the next bet and all might be lost. So, we should not bet more than the amount after having too many loses. As it may make us more losers. 
Topic: 5 Things to do After a Huge Loss in Gambling. - page 3. (Read 4546 times)
Voicing it out to someone who you trust might give you some advice that can be useful for you to move forward, though it's better to hide it from your family or your love ones as they might be affected not only financially but more on mental aspects, they might be affected as they have that kind of care for you.
There are many gamblers who suffer to a big defeats some of them manage to cope up while other are not, they suffer with huge regrets after losing.
Once having a huge loss, it can mean that it can happen again, it is difficult to survive this and if you are not a very successful player, then it may make sense to leave this activity and never return to it again.
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Unfortunately, after a really big monetary loss, it is not so easy to come to your senses, because it does not matter that the strategy did not work or that fortune was not on the gambler's side that day, what matters is that a sum of money was lost. For this money, one could have made any of hundreds of useful purchases and activities, but they were lost. It turns out that it would be best to return the money, but due to the fact that the gambler is in a depressed state, it is better not to go to the casino at all, but to let yourself cool down emotionally. And only then think about how to return the money.
The person that can give the best advice in stuff like this are those that have experienced or known of someone that have passed through that same situation before,
I agree, those who are entitled to give advise mostly are the one who have a first hand experienced either they are the one that involves or they know someone who experienced it and they help to cope up, it's a difficult situation though it needs to start on you if you wanted not to dwell deeper, better to work with your limitation to avoid suffering from something that you are unable to handle.
Who should you trust then, if not your closest people? I don't see the point in living with people from whom you hide everything, in that case you won't be able to share your thoughts and experiences with anyone, because you will constantly be expecting a catch. But in the event of a big loss (if you can), it would be better to protect your closest ones from this and not tell anyone. No one will envy a big loss, but your family can worry with you, and if this can be avoided, then I would prefer to do so.
In reality, I think not everyone can always hide the events that happen to them, like now many people are gambling and that means many also experience defeat and even big defeats, and I think out there there are people who are always open by telling the events that happen to them such as experiencing big losses in a gamble they do.But I myself do suggest hiding it, even if you have a good relationship with your family or partner, then when you experience a big defeat it is better to hide it, although telling other people might find a solution but believe that the situation that will occur will not be smooth.
Voicing it out to someone who you trust might give you some advice that can be useful for you to move forward, though it's better to hide it from your family or your love ones as they might be affected not only financially but more on mental aspects, they might be affected as they have that kind of care for you.
There are many gamblers who suffer to a big defeats some of them manage to cope up while other are not, they suffer with huge regrets after losing.
However, for a very big loss will affect the mentality and attitude that will change and has the potential to make people closest to you suspicious because they feel they cannot accept the big loss and this greatly affects attitudes that are different from usual, especially becoming easily emotional and tending to be alone because of regret, and the question is whether gamblers can accept this well and not make any changes to themselves because most of them do not have that ability especially for those who are economically tight and this will make their family or closest people curious and will bring disaster in the form of violent divorce and so on, this has happened a lot. So in my opinion it is better to be mature if that happens by trying to hide it and being independent in anything so that you can accept what happened and make it a lesson, and tell it to people we trust and want to listen and also give good advice I think that is one of the good choices.
Yup, even how close you are with the person if the amount is really huge there's changes that possibly may happened with your relationship, be matured enough to face the reality and look for someone who can help you someone who's willing to listen and assist you to cope up with your problem.
When you do gamble on which its better not to make yourself having that kind of thinking about being successful because at the moment that you will really be that you will be thinking off this way then it would really be just that making yourself that being desperate because at the time or moment that you will really be trying out to play gambling just for that kind of aims or perspective then sooner or later you will really be that still continuing on playing because you are really that indeed believing that you can make money with it on which we know that its never been that recommended on having this kind of views towards gambling. Play for fun and entertaintment and you wont really be having any issues about finances on which this will really be mainly the thing that would really be affected on this manner.
I will repeat my thought, which I have already expressed before. In my opinion, pleasure and enjoyment from gambling can only arise in the case of winning. And all this anticipation is tied to the possibility of a potential win. Gambling in its process is difficult to compare with other types of entertainment, in which you do not lose anything, but only get an emotional release and pleasure. Gambling is always associated with losses, and this cannot create a positive mood. Therefore, it is impossible to play only for the sake of pleasure, because in most cases you still lose. So pleasure is brought only by either a real win or its prospect.
I have happened to experience such huge lost amounts during all 2024 until November when I decided to quit and I never look back
I sincerely hope you are doing well now. It takes a great amount of courage to admit such losses in public. It shows that you are a man of strong character who can learn from his mistakes and progress in life no matter how difficult. What you are doing is an inspiration for everybody who is facing the same situations, especially being active on this forum which has a paradoxical nature when it comes to addiction-related topics.I am sure you must be aware of the phrase, 'If money is lost nothing is...''.
I can proudly say that after losing a huge amount of money it should make you think dramatically and cold headed and should lead you to quit gambling definitely or at least for a very long long time. I have happened to experience such huge lost amounts during all 2024 until November when I decided to quit and I never look back, I never deposit more than 10 dollars a maximum when I want to place some sport bets though never doing a real deposit and never touching slot machines has improved my life for the better. I monitor the chats of the casinos where I played and it look like deja vu to me, all the people complaining about the same thing, about RTP being a scam and how much are they losing, I don't care as they know it and they still play, personally I am free from this slavery.
Who should you trust then, if not your closest people? I don't see the point in living with people from whom you hide everything, in that case you won't be able to share your thoughts and experiences with anyone, because you will constantly be expecting a catch. But in the event of a big loss (if you can), it would be better to protect your closest ones from this and not tell anyone. No one will envy a big loss, but your family can worry with you, and if this can be avoided, then I would prefer to do so.
In reality, I think not everyone can always hide the events that happen to them, like now many people are gambling and that means many also experience defeat and even big defeats, and I think out there there are people who are always open by telling the events that happen to them such as experiencing big losses in a gamble they do.But I myself do suggest hiding it, even if you have a good relationship with your family or partner, then when you experience a big defeat it is better to hide it, although telling other people might find a solution but believe that the situation that will occur will not be smooth.
Voicing it out to someone who you trust might give you some advice that can be useful for you to move forward, though it's better to hide it from your family or your love ones as they might be affected not only financially but more on mental aspects, they might be affected as they have that kind of care for you.
There are many gamblers who suffer to a big defeats some of them manage to cope up while other are not, they suffer with huge regrets after losing.
However, for a very big loss will affect the mentality and attitude that will change and has the potential to make people closest to you suspicious because they feel they cannot accept the big loss and this greatly affects attitudes that are different from usual, especially becoming easily emotional and tending to be alone because of regret, and the question is whether gamblers can accept this well and not make any changes to themselves because most of them do not have that ability especially for those who are economically tight and this will make their family or closest people curious and will bring disaster in the form of violent divorce and so on, this has happened a lot. So in my opinion it is better to be mature if that happens by trying to hide it and being independent in anything so that you can accept what happened and make it a lesson, and tell it to people we trust and want to listen and also give good advice I think that is one of the good choices.
Lack of trust is actually one of the reasons why people don't usually disclose most of their success in life generally and not only in gambling, at most times it is even those that are more closed to us that will think evil against us, that is to say majority of our closet friends and family are our worst enemies, I don't blame anyone that are conservative in terms of sharing their success stories because their are those who derives joy in the downfalls of others in a more pretentious way, it is good that should take good note of this and be very careful.
Who should you trust then, if not your closest people? I don't see the point in living with people from whom you hide everything, in that case you won't be able to share your thoughts and experiences with anyone, because you will constantly be expecting a catch. But in the event of a big loss (if you can), it would be better to protect your closest ones from this and not tell anyone. No one will envy a big loss, but your family can worry with you, and if this can be avoided, then I would prefer to do so.
Tbh no matter how you try to be the type that hardly trust folks , there will still be some people you can easily open to the person might be a relative, a lover, or a friend ( once in a while
) , but what am saying is that you will have this one person you can easily open to due to the person behaviour towards you and stuff.But I still understand why some folks don't opening to some folks is mainly due to some personal reasons, so it may be something that they have experienced before, so everyone have their ways of doing things .
Voicing it out to someone who you trust might give you some advice that can be useful for you to move forward, though it's better to hide it from your family or your love ones as they might be affected not only financially but more on mental aspects, they might be affected as they have that kind of care for you.
There are many gamblers who suffer to a big defeats some of them manage to cope up while other are not, they suffer with huge regrets after losing
There are many gamblers who suffer to a big defeats some of them manage to cope up while other are not, they suffer with huge regrets after losing
The person that can give the best advice in stuff like this are those that have experienced or known of someone that have passed through that same situation before,
Who should you trust then, if not your closest people? I don't see the point in living with people from whom you hide everything, in that case you won't be able to share your thoughts and experiences with anyone, because you will constantly be expecting a catch. But in the event of a big loss (if you can), it would be better to protect your closest ones from this and not tell anyone. No one will envy a big loss, but your family can worry with you, and if this can be avoided, then I would prefer to do so.
In reality, I think not everyone can always hide the events that happen to them, like now many people are gambling and that means many also experience defeat and even big defeats, and I think out there there are people who are always open by telling the events that happen to them such as experiencing big losses in a gamble they do.But I myself do suggest hiding it, even if you have a good relationship with your family or partner, then when you experience a big defeat it is better to hide it, although telling other people might find a solution but believe that the situation that will occur will not be smooth.
Voicing it out to someone who you trust might give you some advice that can be useful for you to move forward, though it's better to hide it from your family or your love ones as they might be affected not only financially but more on mental aspects, they might be affected as they have that kind of care for you.
There are many gamblers who suffer to a big defeats some of them manage to cope up while other are not, they suffer with huge regrets after losing.
That is hard and that's why I've said that being remained calm while in losses is actually cannot be done by most gamblers.
And we are seeing a lot of us dwell in losses and being emotional at the same time. So, even if you want to take yourself a treat, you just can't.
That is because the feeling is still there and you can't move on quickly with it.
I know that everything we say tends to be difficult to practice or do but easy to say but this is the problem now for example by controlling yourself which is indeed one of the difficult things to do but easy to do with us being able to have that control then everything might be fine rather than having no self-control at all which can happen is physical or mental destruction. Although it is difficult but if it is determined consistently I think it will be able to get used to it. The thing that we must be able to accept is a loss that occurs when we gamble is a natural thing and we should be able to accept it because the greater chance of losing is owned by the player while the chance of winning owned by the player tends to be small and this applies to everyone who gambles whether they are rich or poor in essence the house will always win and that is a permanent provision.And we are seeing a lot of us dwell in losses and being emotional at the same time. So, even if you want to take yourself a treat, you just can't.
That is because the feeling is still there and you can't move on quickly with it.
You don't expect that you'll never lose. We've been there and we are aware of it so, whether we like it or not. The losses are essentials and nature of gambling and we only have to do what's right.
And when dealing with it, everyone has ways of how we'll minimize the emotional drawback to us.
Discussing gambling activity with fellow gamblers is always fun; you argue with each other, agree, and disagree, especially among sports betting gamblers. You learn from each other, but the circle you find yourself in will determine the type of information that you will disclose to them. I mean in terms of big winning, because not everyone who is close to you will be happy to see you win big while they themselves have not; that's why some people prefer to keep their winning a secret from friends and let them know where their problem is coming from and not just about being proud of gambling or not.
Lack of trust is actually one of the reasons why people don't usually disclose most of their success in life generally and not only in gambling, at most times it is even those that are more closed to us that will think evil against us, that is to say majority of our closet friends and family are our worst enemies, I don't blame anyone that are conservative in terms of sharing their success stories because their are those who derives joy in the downfalls of others in a more pretentious way, it is good that should take good note of this and be very careful.
If for example we talk about the problem of winning in gambling, I also understand that maybe there are always some people who don't like the good luck that we get, and it all comes back to each of you regardless of whether you will tell them about the victory you achieved or not at all.
Huge losses as good as always accumulate even more losses because the brain tells us to get those losses back as quick as possible.
That's why gambling requires a lot of focus, patience and self management. Without these essential factors it's pretty much a lost cause and only insane luck can safe you from losing more than you can afford. See the reality for what it is, don't chase losses, better don't chase anything. Understand the math and probabilities behind everything you are doing and think twice (or better even more) before following it up with actions.We have enough clowns in this forum that don't do that and then blame the casino for their shortcomings, don't be one of them and be smart.
I often hear that gambling can only be successful if you can control and master your emotions and focus. I can't say that I disagree with such statements. But I still don't fully understand how exactly this happens in practice. You can be the most focused person in the world, but the random number generator will not work in your favor because of that. Yes, these skills help you stop in time and not multiply your losses, but they do not help you win either, because there is simply no direct mechanism for converting these pumped-up skills into winning in gambling.
Who should you trust then, if not your closest people? I don't see the point in living with people from whom you hide everything, in that case you won't be able to share your thoughts and experiences with anyone, because you will constantly be expecting a catch. But in the event of a big loss (if you can), it would be better to protect your closest ones from this and not tell anyone. No one will envy a big loss, but your family can worry with you, and if this can be avoided, then I would prefer to do so.
In reality, I think not everyone can always hide the events that happen to them, like now many people are gambling and that means many also experience defeat and even big defeats, and I think out there there are people who are always open by telling the events that happen to them such as experiencing big losses in a gamble they do.But I myself do suggest hiding it, even if you have a good relationship with your family or partner, then when you experience a big defeat it is better to hide it, although telling other people might find a solution but believe that the situation that will occur will not be smooth.
Lack of trust is actually one of the reasons why people don't usually disclose most of their success in life generally and not only in gambling, at most times it is even those that are more closed to us that will think evil against us, that is to say majority of our closet friends and family are our worst enemies, I don't blame anyone that are conservative in terms of sharing their success stories because their are those who derives joy in the downfalls of others in a more pretentious way, it is good that should take good note of this and be very careful.
Who should you trust then, if not your closest people? I don't see the point in living with people from whom you hide everything, in that case you won't be able to share your thoughts and experiences with anyone, because you will constantly be expecting a catch. But in the event of a big loss (if you can), it would be better to protect your closest ones from this and not tell anyone. No one will envy a big loss, but your family can worry with you, and if this can be avoided, then I would prefer to do so.
I believe he is talking from his own experience. After all, in this part of the world where I come from, it is better to keep your success and progress a secret than say it out because you do not know who is who. The person you might be sharing your progress with might be a wolf in sheep's clothes waiting to devour you secretly. There have been many cases here in my area where friends share their success among themselves and at the end we hear kidnap, armed robbery, and setup which are all being investigated and the truth revealed which happens to be a friend behind all the atrocities. This act makes people no longer share such sensitive stories with or amongst their friends and peers even to the extent of hiding their success stories from their family members. Lots are happening and the truth is that where you least expect it to come from are the places it comes from.
Lack of trust is actually one of the reasons why people don't usually disclose most of their success in life generally and not only in gambling, at most times it is even those that are more closed to us that will think evil against us, that is to say majority of our closet friends and family are our worst enemies, I don't blame anyone that are conservative in terms of sharing their success stories because their are those who derives joy in the downfalls of others in a more pretentious way, it is good that should take good note of this and be very careful.
Who should you trust then, if not your closest people? I don't see the point in living with people from whom you hide everything, in that case you won't be able to share your thoughts and experiences with anyone, because you will constantly be expecting a catch. But in the event of a big loss (if you can), it would be better to protect your closest ones from this and not tell anyone. No one will envy a big loss, but your family can worry with you, and if this can be avoided, then I would prefer to do so.
I don't see a big deal in disclosing it when you win or lose, this is unless you are not a responsible gambler or you are not just proud of gambling. Gambling and its results should never be secretive, even by sharing, you might be lucky to meet a better gambler who might advise you and show you some ways to gamble safer, especially if you are an addict. For me, the way gambling is fun on its own is the same way the gist about its result is fun when I am in the midst of like minds.
Discussing gambling activity with fellow gamblers is always fun; you argue with each other, agree, and disagree, especially among sports betting gamblers. You learn from each other, but the circle you find yourself in will determine the type of information that you will disclose to them. I mean in terms of big winning, because not everyone who is close to you will be happy to see you win big while they themselves have not; that's why some people prefer to keep their winning a secret from friends and let them know where their problem is coming from and not just about being proud of gambling or not.Lack of trust is actually one of the reasons why people don't usually disclose most of their success in life generally and not only in gambling, at most times it is even those that are more closed to us that will think evil against us, that is to say majority of our closet friends and family are our worst enemies, I don't blame anyone that are conservative in terms of sharing their success stories because their are those who derives joy in the downfalls of others in a more pretentious way, it is good that should take good note of this and be very careful.
1. Open pornhub or onlyfans, then masturbating.
2. Go to the brothel, pick the girl that you want, then fuck her.
3. Consume alcohol.
4. Drink a coffee and smoking.
5. Sitting alone on the street.
I'm sure the 5 things I mention in my post is way more realistic than what @OP mentioned above, most men doing at least one of them. Don't be too philosophical, good vibes or being positive, we all know what coping mechanism for men.
2. Go to the brothel, pick the girl that you want, then fuck her.
3. Consume alcohol.
4. Drink a coffee and smoking.
5. Sitting alone on the street.
I'm sure the 5 things I mention in my post is way more realistic than what @OP mentioned above, most men doing at least one of them. Don't be too philosophical, good vibes or being positive, we all know what coping mechanism for men.
. I get your sarcasm but IMO you have provided all the steps in opposite directions it should be read from bottom to up. . Joke aside, I understand the need for venting out but beware that it must not become a defense mechanism that can easily result in addiction.From what I've seen in the past, people who pick up gambling addictions are often stuck in a rut and a reoccurring habit, which has often led them to prioritize gambling over friendships.This can make points 2 and 3 even harder for the most isolated people, as they may have burned various bridges or just lost contact with previous people that might have been there to support them. Even worse, they might have abused that friendship with things like borrowing money that was not repaid. Those first 72 hours, but also weeks and months afterwards, will be the hardest as you have to completely rewire what your brain thinks is "normal" behavior - so you have to be on guard and consciously distract yourself, so point number 3 is a great tip.
Great explanation and let it serve as a warning, especially about abusing closed ones for gambling addictions. I am glad that you find point 3 useful and I am in total agreement with your real-life practical analogy. Well said. I don't see a big deal in disclosing it when you win or lose, this is unless you are not a responsible gambler or you are not just proud of gambling. Gambling and its results should never be secretive, even by sharing, you might be lucky to meet a better gambler who might advise you and show you some ways to gamble safer, especially if you are an addict. For me, the way gambling is fun on its own is the same way the gist about its result is fun when I am in the midst of like minds.
On the other hand, maybe I will slightly justify your statement about how gambling is for entertainment which gambling for entertainment does not mean when someone has money because no matter what your goal is, it is clear from the start that gambling can only be done if for example you have money, so the point of gambling for entertainment is when you are able to account for all the decisions you have taken at the beginning.
I would be very careful with advice "tell someone". A lot of people dont bother about other people's problems and gambling has such a reputation, that a probability that someone will help and not turn his back is low. I believe that people are very proud and scared on the same time to ask for a help or to share something private. If a gambler asks for help and the other persons refuses to help, that gambler might never ever be open with others or ask for help again. Because of that, such advice can help, but can also make things worse.
have you not noticed that many people who participate in gambling and win from their gambling that does not expose the method the use to win in gambling to other people but I don't know why it's like that to most of the gamblers and any Gambler is he doing that I believe that person is a greedy, so I believe participating in the gambling you need to know that the wining is out of chance and if you can recall the method some use to win in gambling, I believe that you can do the same, and doing same might not work out for you. That's why gambling never be a skill.I think you dont get it. We are here talking about losing, not about winning. A person wont confess that he has won not because he is greedy and dont like to share method he has used to win, but because its random, there is not method or strategy that will lead to constant winning. But my idea was that people dont share information about their losses or fails. As they are uncomforted saying that, because they are afraid to be laughed at or misunderstood.
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