If people had that kind if control over their own actions, they wouldn’t get addicted in the first place. Me? I went through it years ago. Did a self check, figured out what the problem was and fixed it. Some people on the other hand, they don’t even acknowledge that they have a problem. They think it is fine to gamble all day everyday. These people won’t ask these questions you told us about in your post OP because they don’t care. If I wanted to harm myself right now, nobody could prevent me from doing it. Maybe talking to them will change their behavior but that’s the job of the professionals. Doctors say the same thing too. If you want to get cured, first you should acknowledge that you are sick. Then you should want to get cured. Otherwise you’ll stay sick foreva
The point is that you need self-awareness, I like what you said. Yes, if we want to recover, we have to admit that we are sick, because if we insist on saying we are sick but other people see that we have signs of illness, that will be very dangerous. Because even if we are advised to go to the doctor for consultation or treatment, we might be offended because we think we are fine.
I think this is not much different from gambling, maybe we feel fine with gambling because we feel we have set limits, but if someone else sees that the gambling we are doing is beyond reasonable limits then we have to correct it, whether it is true or not . However, I suggest listening to what other people say, because usually other people will be better able to judge and if we judge ourselves, sometimes we will justify ourselves, and that is what is actually abnormal.
I don't think there's anything wrong with listening to what other people have to say as long as it has a positive impact on us. We cannot always justify what we do because later it leads to forced justifications.