Please let me know, if the Bitcoin-Qt route worked.
OK, thank you for the update and I will check it out, even though I managed to go this entire time without having to download bitcoin-qt on my computer.
The actual solution should be for Counterparty to fix their trading fees. They can't advertise the fee to be .0002 and then have it actually be .000356, even if they are not collecting the difference.
I like Counterparty, I understand this is all very new, complicated and prone to bugs, but there's a lot of work that still needs to be done before any of the devs should honestly expect regular people to be able to use their software platform.
In the meantime they should consider reducing the trading fees in order to incentivize users to continue working on an unreliable system. If they can't do this, surely they must see that people will flee to Mastercoin, NXT, Dogeparty or any of the dozens of clones with built-in AEs that offer more reliability and cheaper fees.
The fees are set by the Bitcoin network. If you want to pay a lower fee, and if you are willing to possibly wait a couple of blocks for your transactions to get confirmed, then you can do so with various command-line options in counterpartyd. The default fee has to be very generous, in any case, because it has to cover all possible use cases. Moreover, as soon as the majority of Bitoicn nodes switch over to Bitcoin Core 0.9.2, we'll be able to lower the default value by 10x.