I am a young man who is not married. I have made some mistakes in how I use money and the resources I obtain. So, I have come to share this problem with everyone in the hope of finding help and changing the way I misuse money. I have a psychological memory from my upbringing that money is earned and should be spent as long as you keep earning. I see money as something that needs to be spent. If I see something I like or desire, I buy it without minding the cost as long as I really like it. Yep. Many years of self-employment with varying monthly income were like a blessing to me since I started designing and building websites. This little money made me a bit proud of myself and where I've come. I made a lot of friends, and whenever they asked me for anything, if I had the money in my possession, I'd disburse it to them. I was happy to receive praise that I was the best friend a person could ever have. I won't forget when I started going to clubs and spending money on luxurious clothes and booking rides from one city to another.
All of a sudden, everything changed. I lost one of my most loyal clients due to a car accident. I started getting fewer job opportunities. My monthly earnings were so low that I could hardly afford anything. All the friends I had left me, with only a few remaining. That's when I realized that I could do better. It's been over five months now, and things are still not completely okay for me. But I want to change and plan for myself.
The main reason I'm sharing this topic is to get your own opinions and advice so that I can do better. I believe it's because of poor financial management that I've fallen to this level. I've been doing things that I now realize were not the right things to do because I don't have any financial stability. Last week, I felt ashamed when people see how frustrated i am because I had bitten off more than I could chew. I'm open to opinions and helpful insights to start again, but this time in a more stable and responsible manner.
Well, you have said a lot and I really agree with that on one side. Yes, it is true that money is for spending, but it is not just for spending alone. If you spend money without creating an opportunity for another money to come into your hands, then you will be left with nothing (after spending the ones you have).
Also, while spending, it is also good to save a little so that it can help you get out of emergency cases, just like now that you are left with nothing and your friends have forgotten about you just because you don't have a dime. However, this will be a good lesson for you just if you gain back what you have lost previously, you will learn how to manage money, how to save and how to create an opportunity for more money to come.
It is a bit easy to meet good friends and bad friends. It is just simple. A true and good friend can watch your back when you can't see clearly, but a bad friend will run away when you are in trouble, more especially, when you need them most (it is not a good idea to keep bad friends).