Topic: Can Gambling affect your relationship? - page 32. (Read 3760 times)

Well, it has actually already affected some relationships negatively, because the gambler didn't share his winnings with his partner, so the partner felt "cheated" somehow, as he/she would also like to have access to the prize and participate the decision of what to do with the earnings.

But if the couple is transparent with each other and the gambler keeps winning on long run, I guess there won't be any contentions on this matter between them, although it's a really unlikely scenario, since the odds are against every gamblers on long term. Probably this point is more related to someone who works inside the gambling industry, but isn't making his income exclusively from gambling sessions...

That's true. Gambling can affect you relationship, albeit in various degrees. If it's moderate gambling, however, the effect may be insignificant, even negligible. But once gambling involves money that is intended for something else like tuition for the kids, payment for the bills, and so on, this will certainly have a tremendous effect. It could destroy families. And I'm not even talking of addiction. That you gambled what's supposed to be money for the family's annual vacation, for example, doesn't necessarily mean you're addicted. Addiction is so much worse. It could take away life itself.

Addiction always brings some problems, including relationship breakdown. That's why we must always gamble in proper way to avoid excessive gambling. There are many suggestions or tips to avoid excessive gambling, we only to have a commitment or discipline to apply it. I believe there will be no problem on financial stability, relationship, or social activity if we gamble in the right way.

Always obey these rules:
- Limit the fund allocation
- Limit the time to gamble daily/weekly
- Use small money (around 5% of our income)
- Don't use money for basic necessities
- Don't take a loan for gambling
- Don't chase wins/losses
- Be realistic, don't be too motivated to be rich through gambling

I am also curious if it can affect any relationship if you just keep winning instead of losing. 

Like for example, the way you provide for your family is by gambling, it's like your source of income, it's all in gambling.
But overall for me, it's really not good that your priority is gambling instead of any of your relationships like family or friendship.

It depends on how you handle your gambling activities. If you are doing everything in moderation and treat gambling as something that can be removed from your life without any problems, you'll never strain your relationships to anyone, even your closest relatives/friend/family. But if you're one of those people who will put gambling first before anything else, expect that the reaction of the people around you will be harsh, and they might even hold reservations or grudge towards you just because you're putting gambling first before them.

If you spend all your time gambling and ignoring the ones you love, then obviously it's going to be an issue in your relationships. Not only with your significant other, but with everyone else in your family. Kids, parents, and all your other relatives.

Gambling is fun, I get it, but take time out to enjoy the world and people around you.

Gambling can ruin and have ruined thriving healthy relationships where one partner had to ask the other to choose between them and their gambling. And where family have had to give up on the gambler because they have refused to grow up and make a change in their lives. The addiction to gambling is like a drug addict problem.

Gambling strengthen relationship when they are on the winning streak, and things going in the opposite way when we're on the losing streak. With some people each used to stand as moral support and overcome the financial struggles that have arisen due to the gambling. This way some relationship have been successful after massive loss from gambling.

I personally had suffered and it took me lot of time to come out of the financial problem that caused due to gambling.

Yes, it's all true. So what's the point?
You stated all the facts on why it could affect a relationship which I think had been said in this board a lot of times in many threads that were created about addiction. I think we really need only one thread for this kind of discussion so that it won't flood the forum with so many repeated queries and discussions.
I know gambling addiction is a bitch as it only happens when you are already hooked on gambling and as of today there are a lot of created groups who are trying to help addicted people because the number is increasing due to the ease of access to gambling sites. Relationships not just with main family but also with relatives and close friends, that's what gambling addiction can ruin.

The OP was exactly accurate on the strains gambling can have. Honesty is the best policy after all. If you aren't honest about gambling to your partner, it won't be long before they catch on anyway. Especially if finances are combined.

I think a gambler should be responsible in that if he wants to live a life of continual financial risk, maybe that path is not worth bringing another person down. There are already tough times in relationships, amplifying these with gambling mistakes does not seem worth it or fair to the other person.

Addiction could really be solved out without the need of those therapy or other peoples advises about quitting on something that you had addicted but i do agree on the fact that it would really be just that too easy to

say and tell to other people but it is really that something that hard for us to be able to say that they cant do such thing because we know that each person does have that different approach and control or discipline towards themselves and this is why some could be able to recover and some would really be that remaining on becoming addicted. This is why it would be always wise that ones you do touch up yourself on gambling then always be wary about that potential risks on getting addicted. Always set out limits and never ever consider on crossing the line when it comes to spending because we know that people would really be that
becomes impulsive on the time that they would be experiencing losses on which it would really be that so common that spending up more money when chasing up those money.

Affecting relationship? Its one of the effects if you do tolerate out such addiction. Your wife would leave you, your own family will leave you if you do make yourself still hardheaded and not hearing out
others suggestions and advises. Professional help? This would be your last resort but this doesnt guarantee about recovery but at least you are doing such action to solve out the problem which it
isnt really bad either.

...to some point, yes it can... that's if it actually goes to its extreme.... maybe the guy can't even provide for his family..., he's getting fucked up already... Yeah?? Some peeps are that insensible - that the last cash with them is usually seen as a deposit for trail, instead of fending for Thier families...
Well, I'll still say I'm NOTinto any dude that gambles - not because it's a temperament that cannot be adjusted, buh it doesn't give anyone the Sense of being responsible at first site... He could own a casino stall if he wants.

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

It's technically addiction and not gambling in general. Man, people should really learn to differentiate between the two since gambling is almost always brought out together with addiction due to the bias the world has. Addiction often leads to people making decisions not really influenced by their brains but by their wants. You can see how this goes with kids. They often get in trouble or hurt themselves, but since there's an adult supervision around it's easily remedied, but when you yourself is an adult? There's nothing to help you fix it. At least immediately. Therapy is an option but it's an option, something you willingly take, and we all know how addicts are most of the time.

Funny as well since you answered your own question. If you want examples of it there are a lot of threads in this section iirc. Some might not exactly be what you want but eh, worth reading the first few pages at least.
https://bitcointalksearch.org/topic/gambling-discussion-effect-5463432
https://bitcointalksearch.org/topic/gambling-experience-using-loan-money-5461319
https://bitcointalksearch.org/topic/learning-from-those-who-have-experience-5465781

Your question: Re: Can Gambling affect your relationship?

Then you have answered it yourself:

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Being a gambler must be responsible. You should not gamble beyond your financial limits where you ruin your plans for enjoying the game. Gambling is not a recommended place to make money quickly, let alone multiply it. So if you really want to gamble, then you have to have limits that you need to think about so that you don't damage anything financially and so on.

You have narrated so well about the effect of gambling in relationship and I believe everyone who understands what gambling addiction is and what a healthy relationship should look like will definitely agree with you on this. However, I wish to state that whoever that wants to gamble and the person is married can as well do that with the approval of his spouse or wife. If both of them should agree that they gamble, that means they should set out their salary either 5% or 10% of it for gambling purposes and this will be in the custody of the wife. When that percentage is exhausted for that month, no more gambling.

A gambler glued to a relationship, not sure the type Op is referring to, should always look out for their loved ones. If they spend such a huge of resources, more than their earning, definitely the relationship won't stay peaceful. Some players gamble with their spouse, which helps the fun, and also enhance healthy gambling. Whenever a party in the relationship, is not conducive with gambling, it can also ruined the bond. However, not every relationship can be quivered by the gambling behavior of their spouse. Some true relationships support or encourage their friend or family to gamble happily and responsible. Hence, gambling cannot separate some type of family entirely, despite the financial dispute it may have caused them. Newly met spouse or formed home can be broken if money finishes or insufficient food to eat. That will or can be the fault of the gambler for putting gambling first in his family. I'd, always, say that in anything regarding gambling. It cannot be generalized, to some people it's possible, and others, not possible. Because people think and adapt differently.   

Your topic sounded as though you were asking on what was the opinion on that but, here you are giving all the answers.

It’s not hidden that, gambling has come in between a lot of relationships with most individuals mostly not within the gambling industry, seeing it for some evil or immoral act and those who gamble to be immoral and irresponsible people who can’t better their life and ends up wasting it away on gambling sites or shops.

Well, this believe has turn out to be the case for most due to what is observed amongst many gamblers who don’t mind spending more time than they should in game houses and online, thereby wasting more than they could in time and resources, not brining enough home for there wife and kids.

How could it not strain there relationship at this point. It would and so, gamblers just have yo watch it and be cautious of developing bad habits.

You are bringing an interesting question and I feel like I will be taking the time soon to research it.

What was gambling at its very beginning meant to be for?

You say it was meant to be a popular kind of entertainment and an escape, but when you watch some documentaries or also a series on Netflix like the Peaky Binders, gambling was always used to make money off of other peoples' money and to make more money with the money that was already there. Horse racing in particular was a big thing and while it looks like it was to entertain people, which it also did, it was essentially to make money for those who ran the operations.

I guess everything was somehow meant to make money because gambling involves risking money. Otherwise they could have made bets with things of no value, but they didn't as the fun/goal is that value goes from one hand to another hand.

It is very possible that when a person becomes too addicted to gambling, he often neglects his obligations and responsibilities. So that the gambling activities carried out can not only take up the money he has, but his time can also be taken up by gambling. Meanwhile, partners and their families need both of these things, because if we talk about providing, it's not just material, but it has to be physically and mentally. So it is natural that gambling addiction can cause the breakdown of a relationship. Because harmony in the relationship is no longer created.

It will start affecting your relationship if you are using money that is needed for your basic expenses.
From your example, you said they are just using penny from what they have earned. This is why, they have no problem.
But once people are abusing their funds and spending more than what they can afford, problems will arise.
Your relationship with family, friends or colleagues will be strained especially if you owe money from them due to your gambling habits.