Topic: Can you disguise on your real gambling lifestyle just to help a friend/relative? (Read 612 times)

That's because they had the bad experienced before in gambling and they knows how to prevents that so that will not happens again to them. People who can recovers from the addiction will share how they did that to other people who needed, especially other people is closer to them. They already lose much before and will not wants to repeat the bad experienced. But most people who often playing gambling without any limits can gets addiction easily.

It will be a lucky for people who doesn't gets addicted to gambling because they have a chance to protect themselves from the addiction. But they must learn how to manage their money and time, including learning about self control because without that, they will difficult to use gambling properly and will gets addicted to gambling soon.

You said it with right because only a few people who can limits themselves playing gambling and realizes about the risks of playing gambling. They knows the consequences of losing the money in gambling so they will always avoids the big lose when they playing gambling. They will not share everything they knows about gambling to many people but they will share it to their closer relatives or friends who needed. They will also helps them who wants to cure their addiction in gambling because they knows what will happens to those people and their family if they addicted to gambling. Even if they are not addicted to gambling, they already have much experiences and learn from other people experiences. That's why if we wants to keeps playing gambling occasionally, we must have self control to avoids any problem that can occurs later.

You are human, and not a robot so it's normal to make mistakes, and the most important thing is to recover from your mistakes before it results to real damages which I see you were able to achieve, Kudos to you.

Being around gambling addicts affects the person with good intentions negatively as such person is prone to join in the bad habit, so its enough righteousness not to join their campaign, and advising them positively will give you some kind of respect and prestige in their presence especially when they don't see you make the same obvious mistakes they are making, you should also strive more to be like what you preach because one bad step from you the preacher would invalidate all your many years of being a role model and make your friends see you as a double face instead of a real person.


Any hidden thing would definitely come out to light one day, the key is striving to be like what you preach so you don't look fake and without integrity when your real bad habits surfaces. If you must tell someone that he or she is wrong in what they are doing, you must make sure you are not a culprit of the same crime.

On the contrary, I am a person who has a problem with gambling. especially, when it was still young and at that time online casinos were not as popular as they are today. Generally, I bet in physical casinos or betting shops. Well, that's precisely what made me now have experience related to gambling. It's not uncommon for me to get lost during betting sessions, for some people this is something that they often experience. Please understand, at that time I didn't really have much understanding about gambling. and if someone like you frequently refers to other people's experiences, especially as you take the time to watch interviews related to gambling and addiction. it may be able to give you an overview, understanding, essence based on the experience of the source and most importantly, what we get from the points that you think can be applied and useful.

for me because I have a long experience with gambling, especially when I was still in the addiction phase. reviewing personal experience is more than enough, the rest we can examine what is wrong with the gambling we do so that it becomes addictive and wastes a lot of time and of course money. Over time, that experience also gave us a lot of understanding regarding gambling. The point is, as a result of experience, I am no longer too ambitious to make a lot of money in one night. I changed all my gambling methods to involve experience, knowledge, responsibility and understanding. that's why, I limit myself and it's important to know the limits that only I can afford. choose the ideal bet, for me football. Anyway, getting rid of addiction is not as easy as we say. because, there are phases that must be implemented. moreover, it requires knowledge and involves self-control. and the importance, determination and intention. unfortunately, not everyone who gets addicted does so easily.

It's rare today to have people like that, the ones who know their limitations in the things they do and know what they should and shouldn't do because they are aware of the possible consequences if they are not careful with the actions they do. . He doesn't need to announce the effect of gambling on a person because we all have different experiences when it comes to gambling stuffs and it seems that there is no need to say that because everyone is aware of what it causes, it's just not Only other people can adapt the advice given to them or they will not learn by listening to other people's advice, not unless they themselves have experienced it.

Most of the gambling addiction story from influencers usually experienced the worst before they recover from it. They recover from this addiction they already loss most of his many that makes him incapable to gamble anymore or in short his addiction was naturally cured because he can’t gamble anymore.

People that already can share their experience usually overcome this addiction completely. It’s very hard to snap from addiction without losing most of your money because you can only realize that you are badly addicted if most of your money already loss.

He really lucky can realizes about his addiction and knows how to solved his problems. Not many people like him that can cured his addiction and now he tells to many people about the dangerous of the gambling addiction. Most people will not knows about their addiction and will thinks that they still okay playing gambling so they will not stops their gambling activity. If many more people like him and can gives his story about addiction and can inspired many people, maybe many people can realizes that they are addicted to gambling and wants to search for the way to cure their addiction. What people with addicted to gambling must do trying to open their minds and accept the reality that they are addicted to gambling and needs to solve the problem before they gets the worst things in their lives.

I've never had problems with gambling addiction, but I watched a video on the Internet about a guy who was a former problem gambler.
He gave a great interview where he talked about how he realized his addiction and defeated it, and now he wants to tell everyone how very dangerous gambling can be. And this guy was really very addicted - during the interview there were inserts from his streams when he was still a gambler.
And it was a completely different personality!

I think this is a great example of getting rid of addiction.

As an individual, if you're giving advise to people and not living up to your advise then that's a waste of time cause you should be living by example, gambling is not bad but if an individual who gambles is to advise people concerning gambling then the individual must be a responsible gambler and not someone who's addicted to it and think any friend of the OP would emulate him if they're sensible.

 Yes cause from his statement it shows that he's not a reckless gambler, he gambles responsibly and such person who be a good example to the society that gambling as an act is not a bad idea but reckless gambling is and like I said earlier any responsible friend that wants to change their irresponsible habit would emulate his ways to help themselves from being addicted.

Yeah, that's like someone telling you you should stop smoking because it is injurious to your health but has a cigarette in his mouth himself. How would the words of such a person make any impact? I would never stop doing something if someone asked me to stop while that person is doing that thing himself and I can clearly see it.

This is why they say we should practice what we preach. Other people will only adapt to a change you are suggesting to them if they see that change in you and your personality should have some influence on them to make them accept what you are offering them.

Your words have no value for others if you don't give any value to your words yourself.

Most of the gamblers that are addicted know the damage of how addiction can be and they preach to others not to get addicted, I think this is a normal thing in life. Their are some bad habits that we exhibit that will let people know not to emulate, it is not that one is Saint bit the truth is that one understand that the effect of the lifestyle and wouldn't want some one to fall victim because how difficult it can be to come out from it.  

I don't think it is pretending to be better but being open to let people understand and to think about what they are about going to. Me as a gambler i will always advice people that are close to me because you never can tell, if they go into it can be worse for them because it is not everybody that have good understanding to know what is not good for them.

First of all, we don't owe any explanation for our gambling habits as long as it doesn't affect any of our surroundings because after all it considers us only and nobody else.
I think what you are trying to do to your friends is actually a good thing, trying not to influence them and help them takes some steps back of their actions while gambling.  It true that some actions are very influencable, they might see you gamble irresponsibly and think what they are doing isn't wrong and might find comfort doing that knowing they are not the only ones who do it, so it is actually good to spread good gambling behaviour and let them learn from it.

Sometimes when I screw up in my bets or figure out I did something wrong I tell my fellow gambler friend to not fall into the same mistakes I do too.
But why don't you actually do like you tell your friend you do? I mean you deeply know it is the right way to gamble but you still secretly drive into a bad action, I am not judging you though we all Sometimes do stupid things while gambling.

A good listner will always gain a lot from others even if you are not doing anything wrong still something that comes from other end can help us in our life at some point but who really have such kind of attitude in this era. Self criticizing is important too if both the person involved in the gambling and one who gives guidance should be following it before advising someone to follow it or else it has no use at all.

Well, individual opinions should be accorded but I can tell you that there is no leadership trust of a blind man leading other blinds.
So, there is absolutely no way your advice would have effects to that gambler when obviously the irresponsible gambler is aware that you too is also an irresponsible gambier.
Definitely the gambler would expect you to fix the negative gambling side of yourself up firstly before you can fix him up if actually you know what is right is worth doing and what is wrong is not worth it.

At some points, we have to be self-sacrifice to achieve a goal if cares to help the gambler out because you will have to play that disguise role but if you don't care, then the choice would always be left for the gambler to decide his fate.

If you disguise for the good of others it's all good because it helps others how to be a responsible gambler just by seeing you got the best plans and limits which I think is very helpful but sometimes we ourselves is a victim to our own disguise. 😅 The thing is that most gamblers sucks on budgetting I mean sometimes when we feel "greedy" we spend more than the money we have which is the stepping stone for being an irresponsible gambler.

There is this saying that you must walk the talk.

It can be quite challenging to give someone an advice about on particular act in which you do not follow personally. For example, if you are an avid gambler and you want to disguise your habits by helping others, you can give advice but it may not be as efficient compared to others. Also, if you cannot associate yourself on the advice that you are giving, then there is that tendency that the person you are helping with may not be affected at all.

Though I do understand that you truly want to help to the point that you want to disguise your habits, I think it would be better if you could also apply what you are saying to others to yourself at first.

In conclusion, it is difficult to tell people what to do if you, yourself, do not follow it. Practice what you preach and you will see the difference first-hand that will enable you to share with others with certainty.

Just be honest with them, I don't get it why you need to lie about it? What would you get by doing it?
You have been around them for a long time and they have been honest to you the whole time, you just wants them to look up to you, but you know that it was all just a lie to make yourself better than them.

If you are not comfortable to share something about your gambling habit since you are afraid to get bad judgement towards the action you do then hide it sometimes it good to tell white lies or hide something so that there's something on our lifestyle will not get bothered by someone. Especially if there's no need to tell so decide according to where you are comfortable since your peace of mind is more important that anything else. Also if you are not really ready to be called anything  what make you feels bad then maybe its time for you to think something if its still really worth to gamble since if you are bothered on how your friends or relatives call you then think about setting aside this activity and live a normal life without participating on any gambling activities.

I actually curious about your statement here "
I have been around my gambling friends and I have always acted to be 100% sticking to my gambling budgets such as how many times, a specific time and how much to spend on my gambling.
Once awhile I actually breaks that budget but though it does not affect my daily life and my bankrolls."

If I were you Im gonna stick with the budget, tho you said is not affect your daily life and your bankrools at least today, stay inline with a budget is part of money management and you didn't now what is going happen in future, what I was scared is you keep out of your budget and this become a routine and that is going to be dangerous 

I wont be surprised because i have seen people who disguise themselves into a bad situation with the aim of saving a friend, siblings or relative that has been in there for long. But one thing is certain, it is a risky decision to make because you are putting you life at stake during these processes. Two things will be certain, you may see reason on why your friend choses to do those things and join him or you will save him from such habit gradually. What you need now is the power of conviction, if you can be able to convince your friend in that situation and make him understand that what the both of you are doing doesn't help or benefit yo guys in anyway. Then suggest that you both quit if not it will be too late very soon.

IMHO, i would say its a bad idea to join your friend on the gambling lifestyle he is living, if you fail to change him things could possibly go wrong because there wont be anyone left to change the both of you. Avoid his lifestyle and show him your progress with the lifestyle you are living he would change.

First of all I don't actually believe that people are ignorant about making money by doing gambling but they still choose to do for some reasons that could be anything, getting addicted is extreme consequences but let's not get into that. Telling them about approaching bets is good but if I am saying stop then the person may start hating me even if I tried to good for them and I don't really want me to put into that situation.