Topic: Can you disguise on your real gambling lifestyle just to help a friend/relative? - page 4. (Read 614 times)

I don't have any bad habits. I'm not a gambling addict so I can't think about what it would be like to be a gambling addict. The only thing I did was I hid my gambling habit from my friends or anyone. Firstly, I don't like being known by people. Second, I want to help my friends who are lost in gambling. I always say what will happen if someone is addicted to gambling so that they can be wiser in deciding what is best for themselves. I don't like inviting someone to gamble if I know he has a selfish nature and can't control his emotions.

Hiding the real life of gambling, with assistance to help those who have problems with gambling is not a good enough solution, because it cannot help them to overcome the core problems they experience.

Means offering moral support, practical advice, or directing and guiding them to get the right treatment from a professional. I think this is the best solution to help those who have problems with gambling. This is the right step that can help them recover. This can help them regain control over their bad gambling habits.

You may have quite good experience in managing a gambling activity. But it is important to have empathy for those caught in the cycle of irresponsible and impulsive gambling. So, take a little of our time to just listen, give advice, support and assistance, which are quite good steps compared to hiding the truth or giving examples that may not be appropriate to the conditions and situations they are experiencing.

I can relate with this situation typical of a gambler like myself. I have never falling into gambling addiction net before since I started gamble, yet, I do give strong warning to people close to me that are contemplating on starting gambling. I discourage them from even thinking about it, as I believe that not everyone is emotionally strong to uphold a character of self discipline in gamble.

It only takes those that have had the experience of what and how intoxicating gambling really can be to discourage those outside with the intend of coming in, mostly especially for the gambler that have experience gambling addiction and survived, they know better, and will even be advising their fellow gamblers to gamble with caution.

The fact is that all gamblers know the disadvantages of gambling but it can be controlled based on the mindset in which you have whenever you are gambling. Some people know that chasing their losses will only incur more losses but they prefer to play more believing that the more they play, the more their chances of winning is high, amd before you know it, they will become addicted that it is only to win that is in their mind.

Am addict cannot pretend or hide his addictive lifestyle from anyone, because he cannot control himself. It is only those that are responsible gamblers that can consider a friend who is going astray with gambling, in order to see how he can help his friend out from going astray.

No, before I show and advise them to gamble, of course I will first show them the negative side, so that they understand the risks of gambling, by showing the negative side if they continue automatically I will not be blamed if defeats and losses occur, understanding the negative side of gambling is important so as not to get frustrated.

Can't afford it, I don't hide anything in gambling, towards friends and relatives, they have to know how I gamble and vice versa, there is no transparent cover for me more calm.

Fortunately I have never had a problem with gambling addiction, and none of my relatives or friends have it either, as far as I know at least. But I like cryptos which are another way of gambling to some extent, and I feel the same as you related: even if I hold them, I tell my friends to be cautious and I don't encourage them to put their money there. So, even if I gambled more, my answer would be the same.

With Bitcoin is a little bit different, but I focus my explanations in the underlying philosophy, and not in the money they could eventually win (because who knows).

Joining every gambling conversation on the internet. Following to influencers who give odds and do giveaway. Tweeting, reposting, and giving likes to any gambling and sports betting giveaway on the internet. This was my negative side or bad habit. Since I used a different alias, my friends couldn't identify that it was their friend. And what I did was exactly what I advised them against. Well, I changed. I dissociated myself from the social media account by deleting it and starting afresh. This time avoiding gambling related conversations there.

I've done it so many times I tried to control my urge to play more which that was allocated whenever I'm with friends, especially if your friends are new to gambling and do not know the facts about gambling, you should show them how to play responsibly even if you're not a perfect example because you don't want them to be astray and lose a lot of money and get depressed like what I'm experiencing when I'm losing a lot of money.

When you know and have seen how addiction to gambling is bad you don't want any of your friends or relatives to lose themselves and become addicted to gambling so you will do what is necessary to discourage them not to take too much gambling.

Many threads have already been created in this section, but I believe you are the first to ask these questions


In my case I don't have any negative side when it comes to gambling, from an early age when I got into gambling and had many defeats I learned to set myself many limits of which I always look at them and say to myself that it was an excellent decision, for example I only place sports bets on games in the major European leagues. But I have been following games from other leagues, but I don't place bets. As a result, I spend little time in casinos, I put little money into playing and when the games from the big European leagues end, I also take a sports betting holiday, I just watch games from other leagues, such as the games from the European leagues. Brazil


I don't hide, I don't see any reason to hide when I play or hide what I play. I don't have problems with gambling, I'm of legal age and I know that I'm gambling very responsibly, that's why I don't hide when I play, when someone else asks me for more information about gambling, I promptly tell them. everything I know and including I give you a big warning that you cannot play with the intention of making a profit, because I saw many of my friends and relatives asking me if the game made money and I told them that it didn't and that the aim of the games was to have fun and didn't like this answer

If the other person is really close to us then we would never want him to lose money and get stressed.
I guess every person would do the same and won't let the other lose their control over gambling while they themselves are losing it.
Although it hasn't happened to me in gambling but it has happened to me while trading.
I had placed few orders few months back and the portfolio was going down but suggested my friends not to invest in those assets.

Currently, I don't have any, it was long ago my habit of gambling was bad, and I do feel ashamed of telling my friends about my gambling lifestyle because if I do, they will insult the hell out of me due to the fact I am an addicted gambler who spends the whole of his days in a gambling house, looking for wins, whereby ended up losing.

Ever since there have been changes in my gambling habits for years now, I talk to my friends boldly and I try to advise those who are not gambling right to minimize their engagement in gambling because the losses in gambling are way more than the wins. Is not what a gambler should take as a source of income.

I do the same thing 'coz it is not something to brag about or for other people to know of. No one's perfect and it would be much better to serve as a good example for them than to learn things the hard way. White lies as I like to call it because it is for them to be warned and to just be disciplined with their gambling habits. Risk is too big with gambling and that's never a hidden fact. Whwt are the odds of them to do the same thing if they'd know you are exceeding or crossing your limit with your bets? Huge; they might even try it for themselves to prove something. Prevention is always better than cure. Never wait for anyone to experience it as well, and if you're also guilty of this, put the lesson into your life as well.

It is with the idea of maintaining a certain image. There's nothing wrong with it if your purpose is for other people to be doing your wrong doings. Some are hiding the idea because they're ashame of it which also means they know it's wrong and that should be enough for them to not do it again, as they should.

Whether our gambling is good or bad depends on a person's maturity, and even if we still have negative or bad gambling, and if they are close friends and open to each other, it is a good thing.
And we can differentiate between maturity and gambling, and even though we like to gamble. We must have maturity so that sometimes we fellow gamblers must be able to exchange ideas and also find solutions to each other and give good advice so that all negative things that happen can be corrected, but this is only for close friends.
And if that happens then it will be a fun chat, because when I gather there are also people who like to gamble and tell each other stories and if something goes wrong then the others will fix it and provide solutions and so on. Because no gambler is perfect.

I think it has become a thing that is most likely bound to happen, I once cornered my friend when he lost a lot of money from gambling, with him saying no problem with the large amount of money he had lost, but there I kept saying "you must be upset" just like that until he was upset himself, actually my intention like that was just to joke, but indeed I think losing a lot of money in gambling must be upsetting, there is no way everything will be fine.
Or like you said, we ourselves sometimes lose control of gambling excessively, but we ourselves can advise friends or other people not to gamble excessively. That's hypocritical but not unusual, and I don't think it's just in gambling, but in other things as well.

That is just it, it is good to be honest. One thing that the OP is experiencing that I noticed is that he is losing more than winning and that is enough to tell friends also to know that they should be careful while gambling and that they should have discipline for them not to lose too much while gambling. There should be no reason to lie and thinking you are helping when you are losing which is a lesson.

Sometimes this type of behavior is often seen where someone presents himself as not being an addicted gambler and is a fairly prudent gambler. But his character is not real. I don't understand the point of doing such a thing but I can assume that the gambler can identify himself as a responsible gambler to his friends. It can be done to show him that he can control any situation. But I didn't do any behavior where I had to pretend to be good. But I don't blame those who act like this to help their friends, because they are trying to bring others back. Because some gamblers are so addicted to gambling that it is difficult to get them back from that position. If such behavior can improve a gambler from gambling it is no less.

Sure. I avoid talking with them about betting opportunities, or big wins. I might mention losses to encourage them. Just like with a friend who is sober, i don't invite them to bars if they don't want to, i won't offer them a loan if they need it for beer, and i don't talk how fun we had last night. I only talk about hangovers and lost money, if i need to talk about that subject. Because i know quitting anything you are addicted to is hard. When i quitted smoking i avoided bars for a year. And few times when i went into them during that year, i felt isolated and alone when everyone went for smoke.

No one wants to feel seperate and left alone in a conversation, especially when they are struggling to avoid the thing.
Eventually you can go back to talking about gambling, but only after someone is clearly changed their routines, have their financial issues in control and are not tempted anymore. When they can handle it, it can actually make them stronger, when they know they can handle it.

Isn't that how masking and lying to your friends is? It's trying to show that you don't trust them that they can control themselves. We all know the problems that gambling causes like addiction, depression, and financial issues. It's going to be a task that everyone should accept.

You must be honest with yourself so that the people around you are honest too. Don't let yourselves get tempted and ensure you are taking note of your achievements.

I don't have any bad gambling habits that I wouldn't want anyone to copy, and even if I do, the best reason I'm fighting that demon is to advise others not to get involved in them.
 
So what you did to hide your bad gambling behaviour is the right thing to do. It's better to show them you are not into it than for you to show them your weak part, which they can take as discouragement. Like, what's the point of trying to fight my gambling habit when there is someone like us who is not even bothered?

I used to gamble with money that I couldn't afford to lose I used to chase my losses and I used to take a loan just to gamble these are the traits that you don't want your friends or relatives to experience and you can effectively advise them if it's coming from your experience, so its better to be honest and transparent.

Why would you hold out when it's already in the past and since we experienced how it feels, it's just ok to share your experiences and your bad times in gambling so they will avoid these pitfalls.