Topic: Gambling as an escape - page 18. (Read 4114 times)

It’s really interesting how gambling can take on such different roles in many different cultures. I completely agree here, most of us think of it as something thrilling and fun, something to enjoy and get excited about, especially with the environment casinos create to keep us engaged. But, also seeing it at a funeral must feel bad some times. I can understand well how it might have started as a coping mechanism, then gradually became more of a important habit. But using gambling as a way to escape grief or stress is tricky and like you said, it rarely leads to good decisions because emotions can cloud judgment. Personally, I found that keeping gambling as something I do when I’m in a good mindset, with extra funds which makes it more enjoyable and keeps it from becoming something I would turn to during tough times.

It’s always a balance but keeping gambling as a source of fun rather than an emotional escale seems like the healthiest approach in the long run in my experience.

Even in my part of the world too funaral is for morning and gamblingis a fun seeking activities so the two doesn't go together and since that is not the culture in this part of the world, playing cards or any form of gambling games ant the most attractive when at a funeral, better still some hyms and songs to chear the palace up, because gambling is for happy people and where there is a death, happiness is far from such a place.

I know this could be different from place to place, and from people to people, but I haven't personally seen any where that this culture is practiced here within my location.

I really don't know what country you come from, but one thing I know for sure is that it's totally wrong for people to gamble during the funeral/burial right or demise of a family member, while claiming it is an avenue to relieve stress. As this can only be seen as a misplacement of priority, judging by the fact that in gambling winning is never always guarantee, as you are likely to either lose or win a bet, and losing money while moaning the death of a love one is never the best way to offer last respect to on the death. Hence, it's always advisable people gamble what they can always afford to lose, knowing fully well that in all occasions, there will always be people of diverse interest to react to issues about their favorite football clubs at funerals.

In my area this is how it goes especially on roman catholics, when the funeral takes place only on the house of the dead, a couple of tents will be put outside of the house either in the road or compound, gambling like card games, bingo, etc. is played, the "tong" is amount of money like tip or payment to the house when someone wins, this sounds like a financial aid which is something helpful to the bereaved family instead like an attraction.
This doesn't happen on the funeral homes or with the other religions in my area though.

That's very correct. Even if the person who is using gambling as an excuse to escape wins, he will get excited for that point in time and forget about what he has been going through just for that moment, but the moment they start losing, the thinking will double as they can easily get emotional as two things will be joining hands together. That's why I also advise people never to use anything as an excuse for why they gamble.

A lot of people go through a lot of crisis and they look for an escape out of reality, some go into drug use, smoking and alcohol consumption just to distract their mind, but the thing about life is , running away from your problems won't solve anything, you'd still come back to deal with it if it's not taken care of... just like the was people get addicted addicted to drugs and alcohol gambling has affected a lot of people in the same way, When you start seeing gambling as an escape from your problems you are just giving room to more problems.

I didn't check if which country you guys are in but if I were to guess, you are someone/somewhere from Asia? IDK but this is the first country or continent that came into my head after reading the context but is the activity really didn't exist in other parts of the world? I mean it doesn't sound weird you know and it was fun in fact because there are gambling and then people or our relatives gather around. It makes us forgot the sad part that happened to the person that just died.

There must also be snacks that are being served from time to time, which makes it even better. It is like the experience is the same as playing gambling on the real casino, hehe. Yeah right, even me, I don't see this as a belief but more like a tradition.

Gambling really can help a person because they can also earn money on it if they win and it is a big help to the family of those who died if ever they are poor. Even if they didn't engage in the activity, they still can get a donation as you said or some kind of a fee for offering a service (e.g. table, chair, card, etc..) to other players. The poor family can as well asked a donation to their local government. Cremation is another method for a dead body but I actually think they are more formal, private, or expensive. Usually rich people are doing this.

The main reason why a gambler ends up addicted is because from the start they misunderstand and respond to what and how gambling really is, the biggest trigger is because they make winning a priority or main goal in gambling and as we know that when we talk about money then usually greed will always be an action that is difficult to ignore, everyone likes money and that is the reason why they always act excessively, but their biggest mistake is that they do not understand that gambling is not a place to earn income or not a place to solve financial problems so that in the end they become addicted.

So this is the reason why gambling must be done based on the right understanding and knowledge, in the sense that at least you must know that winning in gambling is uncertain or meaning there is no guarantee that you will always be able to win, so I think you will not be too brave to act excessively

It is difficult to answer your question... If a person is in great grief, then perhaps he has the right to try to soften the severity of the loss of a loved one by gambling.

If this helps him to distract himself at least a little, then it will be good. Gambling is a game based on the mathematical theory of probability. In itself, it does not associate with either joy or sadness. You can gamble and experience sad emotions.

And in my opinion, gambling at a funeral is not capable of insulting the memory of the deceased. In addition, if a person gambles only to reduce the feeling of grief, then it is unlikely that he will develop a gambling addiction.

If you use gambling as an escape to relieve stress, believe me, this is not a good solution. In the short term, maybe yes. But in the long term, gambling will only make you more stressed.

I have experienced this phase, where I used gambling as an escape when I was sad, when I was stressed because of a certain problem, and it turned out that gambling did not really eliminate the sadness and stress that I was experiencing. It only lasted temporarily. When the gambling ended and I experienced a loss, especially if the loss was big, what made me sad and stressed came back, even making me even more depressed because it was accompanied by regret for having spent a lot of money on gambling. Losing a lot of money that I was not ready to bear. so that made me feel even more unable to face the sadness and stress that I was facing.

And therefore when we are sad or stressed, it would be wiser to divert to more positive activities, such as hanging out with friends or going on vacation to a place that we like. Although this cannot eliminate the sadness and stress experienced, at least doing this will make us fresher and stronger to face the sadness and stress experienced.

In fact, when a gambler gambles, if he gambles excessively, it becomes an addiction, but if he gambles in a limited and controlled manner, it is limited to entertainment. The main reason most gamblers become addicted to gambling is because they gamble uncontrollably. And They become over-addicted to gambling due to excessive greed, and gamble more money than they can afford, and slowly spiral into disaster and eventually lose everything. So we have to put a certain limit on gambling, and see gambling only as entertainment, only then we can stay away from its addiction.

I don't understand how gambling can be a solution for them to relieve sadness or stress, because when they gamble and then lose when they are in a very bad mood like that, then of course when they lose it will have a bad impact. But, if they really gamble in a situation like that and are okay when they lose, then it seems like gambling is a solution for them  to get back to having fun or getting back to a good mood because of gambling, regardless of the outcome. Because for me, it's hard to gamble in a situation like that in sadness and also in stress, because that's a very bad mood to start gambling.

When we hear some people telling us that gambling has been an escape route for them out of some ugly situations in life, then we don't have to look for more evidence on these because truly, gambling has been a life saver on many, we should forget about those that have not been making it through gambling, its because they lack the ability of doing the right thing as a gambler.

Which started out as a place for entertainment but then when it got a big profit at the beginning it turned into a job that could make a lot of money quickly.

But when it is done continuously without any restrictions, there will be more defeats.
It all depends on how people are going to gamble, I myself will probably just use it as entertainment and nothing more.

But for people who are too addicted and hope for a big win, they will do anything to get that big win.
So the original goal as entertainment turned into a place to hope for a big victory.

I have never seen a case where people can rejoice when an old man dies without feeling sorry for him.  I don't know which country you live in and which is your area.  But I think this should not be the case.  When a person dies from the world he must be mourned.  If you do this then when you die your words will also happen and someone will mourn for you. No worldly power and integrity will hart someone on your behalf at the time of your death

Yes, it is like that, but when they decide to make gambling an escape, a place to relieve stress from all the problems and events experienced. Then they must be ready for all the consequences that arise. And the fact is that it is very unfortunate that most of them are not ready for the consequences that arise from this behavior, so that in the end it will only cause losses and have a bad impact on both themselves and those around them.


Yes, we can imagine that gambling in a conscious state can cause losses and often ends in defeat. Moreover, if we gamble in a state of stress or under the influence of alcohol, in an uncontrolled state, this will only result in greater losses. Gambling is about luck that we never know.

Caution is very necessary in the gambling environment because if you act wrongly the results can be fatal and not only that, caution is also useful in our daily activities.
In accordance with the tread above, namely gambling as an escape, in my personal opinion, there have been many people who feel bored and confused about their daily lives that are not in accordance with their expectations, they will turn to find new activities that can entertain themselves, namely using shortcuts by going to a casino to find pleasure there, but then whether the person can control himself or not depends on each individual.

Having goals in gambling really needs more things to avoids the problem because we don't know when we lose control. Besides that, when we are stress and playing gambling, that can attract more negative feeling when we lose the money. We may attract to spend more money to recover our losses and that will not guarantee we can win. But yes, I agree that we must be able to manage ourselves in gambling. so we don't lose more money and can prevents the regret's feeling.

You need to be careful when you are playing gambling when you sad or bored and needs to manage your control. You will never know when you can still control yourself and when you lose that control.

IMO, gambling can be enjoyable for some while worsening addiction for others. With proper financial management, I think gambling can be a fun escape like, for example, to increase the excitement of an eSports tournament like league of legends. I like to bet on my favorite team, and it makes watching more exciting. But from a different perspective, if your goal is to profit from betting on the stronger team and they lose, it can be frustrating. So this kind of escape can have negative effects if there’s no discipline, leading to financial issues and an addiction that can be hard to stop.

Tbh, people think they’re having fun, but afterward, they often take out their frustrations on their family at home because they lost a lot.

..and that’s where some broken families begin.

That's what is really important to have control over ourselves, because once it really comes to the point where we can no longer control ourselves, that means we are already controlled by the addiction that has formed in our character as a gambler.

Maybe if there is anyone else who can relieve stress by playing gambling, maybe they know how to control themselves when they play gambling, because maybe they won't
do it again and again if they know they don't have self-control called .