Different customs and traditions that the world has. In African countries, I don't think such a thing would ever happen, to gamble during the burial of your loved one when you are supposed to be mourning. However, I am thinking of how long will someone gamble if they choose gambling as a way to thrill one another by playing cards at funerals.
Our African parents say that, after the funeral, when people have gone, that's when you will begin to miss your dead family member who you lost at the hands of death. The memory of your dead family member doesn't easily erase from your memory no matter how you choose to have a fun-filled life all day. It will still reoccur once in a while as human beings we are, to always remember our loved ones who share bonds with us
Topic: Gambling as an escape - page 16. (Read 2805 times)
There is a reason why casinos are brightly lit and has fast paced music. The overall idea of gambling should be energetic and exhilarating. Well, in my country, you might find gambling in a less thrilling environment such as a funeral.
Yes, it is very common in my country that whenever there is a funeral there will be people playing cards and gambling against each other.
I don’t know if this is common in other countries but I never really thought twice of the fact that gambling, which is usually associated with time for pleasure, can be found in a place that is so grievous.
I researched just now and found that some gamblers do in fact use gambling as a form of escape from their real life.
It is problematic to think of something like that. As people may say, gambling is for fun but it does not give you that fun completely when you are losing. In the same way, those who think they can escape life problems through gambling its the same way they complicate the problems at hand by going to gamble. The people who introduced therapy weren't foolish. If one is emotionally down then he should go see a therapist so that 
Well, in my country, you might find gambling in a less thrilling environment such as a funeral.
Yes, it is very common in my country that whenever there is a funeral there will be people playing cards and gambling against each other.
That is weard, if I may ask what country is that? I know people bet on streets on a regular occasion by street gangs and some other guys on the bar and clubs but haven't heard of funeral. If they do that It could just be for that moment.Yes, it is very common in my country that whenever there is a funeral there will be people playing cards and gambling against each other.
But What about you? Do you also use gambling to escape from stress of the real world?
For me I only gamble when I have the money and time including to try luck. Gambling is for fun but not everyone that way expecially when they are lossing more. 
No matter the condition you find yourself, gambling shouldn't be an avenue to escape the realities of life because at the end, you see yourself attracting more dangers to yourself instead of helping yourself through gambling. Gambling is best practiced when a gambler isn't distressed or mentally disturbed but some people who find themselves in this situations does choose gambling as an escape route to their realities and in most cases, they end up losing their fortunes to gambling.
Gambling can be fun, but if you use it as an escape, you're treating it like a fix for your problems, and that’s a mistake.
It costs money and won’t solve stress, especially if you're broke. Many get hooked, hoping it’ll solve money issues, but it often makes things worse. If you gamble to escape, you’re at higher risk for addiction, which just adds to your problems. To truly enjoy it as entertainment, keep a clear head and stable emotions.
It costs money and won’t solve stress, especially if you're broke. Many get hooked, hoping it’ll solve money issues, but it often makes things worse. If you gamble to escape, you’re at higher risk for addiction, which just adds to your problems. To truly enjoy it as entertainment, keep a clear head and stable emotions.
For me it gives temporary happiness and this is not suitable for people encounter a lot of problems in life, since provably that they would get more problem especially if they able to use a lot of money then lost everything they have.
We know that there's no assurance on gambling so people should not try to make it as an escape route but rather gamble only when they are in good condition and right mind to decide what's possible next good action to do.
Feel bad for other people think that by spending their time on gambling it can make them forget their issues in life. But they didn't realize well that if they fuck up on gambling then there would be a lot more problem will follow after that.
This happens in my area too. They’re using funerals to make money, and it’s really sad that the family allows it—after all, people come to gamble, not to mourn. When I asked why, they said it helps ease the grief because people get distracted by the games. Maybe they have a point, but to me, it’s just not the right place for this kind of thing. Some say it’s cultural, but I don’t see it that way. I’d rather mourn genuinely, so the deceased can feel our sadness—not act like we’re happy they’re gone.
On the other side, it was not a kind of showing respect to the dead person but an insult to him/her. That is why I'd never find it reasonable enough to see there is gambling at a funeral.
On the other side, it was not a kind of showing respect to the dead person but an insult to him/her. That is why I'd never find it reasonable enough to see there is gambling at a funeral.
~
I mean, isn't having fun, excitement, and enjoyment basically escaping the stressful things in life? Personally, it doesn't really matter where you gamble as long as you're not disobeying any laws so gambling in a funeral sounds fine as long as everyone is pretty respectful about it. And no, I don't think it's a "coping" mechanism. At least, all types of entertainment aren't but only up to a certain point. As you've said, it's just "potentially harmful". Still up to the person themselves to make it not one. And yes, I use gambling. I've always told/shared that I've been gambling for fun for the most part, thoroughly enjoying the adrenaline rush it can give me all while managing my money properly. A pretty good entertainment activity imo, alongside a bunch of other hobbies that I have.
Gambling can be fun, but if you use it as an escape, you're treating it like a fix for your problems, and that’s a mistake.
It costs money and won’t solve stress, especially if you're broke. Many get hooked, hoping it’ll solve money issues, but it often makes things worse. If you gamble to escape, you’re at higher risk for addiction, which just adds to your problems. To truly enjoy it as entertainment, keep a clear head and stable emotions.
It costs money and won’t solve stress, especially if you're broke. Many get hooked, hoping it’ll solve money issues, but it often makes things worse. If you gamble to escape, you’re at higher risk for addiction, which just adds to your problems. To truly enjoy it as entertainment, keep a clear head and stable emotions.
Personally I don’t think it’s a good idea to use gambling as a coping mechanism especially that your emotions will be the one driving your decisions and that almost never end well. It’s fine sometimes but I find that dealing with your emotions especially negative ones can be much helpful than turning into potentially harmful vices.
But What about you? Do you also use gambling to escape from stress of the real world?
Your country is a strange country where people would want to gamble against each other in a funeral. It look as if they would also gamble at other events too like birthday parties, Weddings and all others.I would always take gambling for fun and not a way of escape. And I believe that life wouldn't get so hard that I ever consider it as an option.
Some people mistakenly think that by taking a dose of alcohol or drugs, they can escape from worries for a while and relax. It can be said in the same way that the mistaken opinion about gambling during times of great stress can only worsen your mental state. If we talk about drinking, then being emotional and very drunk, you can completely lose control, which will lead to tragic events, just as a person who is under stress is at that point when the future loses its meaning for him, and spending a lot of money during the game can lead you to complete bankruptcy in the morning. Play consciously.
There is a reason why casinos are brightly lit and has fast paced music. The overall idea of gambling should be energetic and exhilarating.
Yes, the fast music points to the "fast life" synonymous with gambling. There's no dull moment with gambling. It's fast track. It's like going to a club to sleep off immediately. Both don't mix.Anyone who tries that at my funeral would received a very hard knock by my ghost for taking advantage of such a solemn event to get some pleasure.
😂😂 Go siddon jor! So, you believe in all that Nollywood ghost stories ba? 
Personally I don’t think it’s a good idea to use gambling as a coping mechanism especially that your emotions will be the one driving your decisions and that almost never end well. It’s fine sometimes but I find that dealing with your emotions especially negative ones can be much helpful than turning into potentially harmful vices.
Yes, it's not a good to gamble just to escape the world that you are in, but just like any addiction, alcohol and drugs. It's the same effect, the dopamine and the fun and excitement when you gamble.
But What about you? Do you also use gambling to escape from stress of the real world?
I will admit that I gamble sometimes because I'm bored, but I don't gamble and go out alone. If I decided to play in land based casinos, it is with my friends so that I can really have fun and be entertained and escape the stress. And I just bring just enough money and not really burn everything, as what we have said, it is still base on how we control ourselves.
But What about you? Do you also use gambling to escape from the stress of the real world?
I don't see anything wrong in using gambling as an escape from temporal physical pains or discomfort. The only challenge is when an individual becomes addicted to it. In some areas in my country, Indian hemp and alcohol are available during funerals for people who need it to make them reduce the pain they are going through. If gambling helps me to free my mind from the stress and disappointment of this world, I will gladly accept it but I will make sure that it is done responsibly. However, it is better to face your problems without depending on an activity. But gambling is better than poor mental health or even suicide.
But What about you? Do you also use gambling to escape from stress of the real world?
I never have found anyone in my country gambling when they are grieving or in the cemetery. But I ever frequently seen people gambling when they have parties like weeding in his home. They are playing cards and dominoes, bet a small money and sometime with huge amount of money if the host join in playing too. I will definitely join too if they bet with a small money, and it depends also on my mood, I can't playing gambling if I have stress, or was thinking about something, I will definitely lost if I force joi to gambling.For Filipinos, it's part of the traditional, because during wake, you want to have people in the funeral specially in the wee hours of the morning still there. And one way is to entertain themselves by playing cards and gambling. And then we step aside certain money for the family of the deceased to help them financially for the burial.
As for gambling as a escape from the stress, yes, I've seen and heard people reason that out. They play online and try to play to forget all their problems for a while. And hopefully after that, they will go back to sleep. However, it has could lead to a long term effect that we don't want, - that you will become addicted to it. So the effect is just short term, just a break from your stress.
Personally I don’t think it’s a good idea to use gambling as a coping mechanism especially that your emotions will be the one driving your decisions and that almost never end well. It’s fine sometimes but I find that dealing with your emotions especially negative ones can be much helpful than turning into potentially harmful vices.
Yes, it's not a good to gamble just to escape the world that you are in, but just like any addiction, alcohol and drugs. It's the same effect, the dopamine and the fun and excitement when you gamble.
But What about you? Do you also use gambling to escape from stress of the real world?
I will admit that I gamble sometimes because I'm bored, but I don't gamble and go out alone. If I decided to play in land based casinos, it is with my friends so that I can really have fun and be entertained and escape the stress. And I just bring just enough money and not really burn everything, as what we have said, it is still base on how we control ourselves.
There are similar traditions in our culture, where gambling at funerals or other somber events is part of the social fabric. It’s almost like a shared ritual that helps people connect and cope in a communal way, even if it might not seem like the healthiest outlet at first glance.
Personally, I believe that turning to gambling as a means to escape emotional pain can be a slippery slope. When emotions run high, it’s easy to make decisions you might later regret. Finding healthier ways to process grief or stress, like talking things through with friends or engaging in hobbies that bring joy, can be far more beneficial in the long run.
Personally, I believe that turning to gambling as a means to escape emotional pain can be a slippery slope. When emotions run high, it’s easy to make decisions you might later regret. Finding healthier ways to process grief or stress, like talking things through with friends or engaging in hobbies that bring joy, can be far more beneficial in the long run.
~
But What about you? Do you also use gambling to escape from stress of the real world?
But What about you? Do you also use gambling to escape from stress of the real world?
In my view gambling is add-on to the life rather than escape. Filipinos for instance even incorporated gambling into their death traditions proving that it is a part of their life. Regarding the stress, I believe that gambling builds mind&body tension more than often rather than mitigate it. Thus I would not advocate to use gambling activity for the stress relief,
I'm hearing for the first time that people gamble in funerals, it's sounding weird to me because everybody is supposed to be in a sober mood at funerals. What I've witnessed are people getting drunk at funerals, maybe to kill the pains of grieving or because there are enough free drinks. I know that people use different methods to escape boredom and stress, some might engage in gambling, drinking, drugs, sex, even hitting the gym to work off their stress. People should not use gambling as an escape from unpleasant situations, I believe that it can lead to addiction if they don't overcome their stress. Gambling needs to be engaged in when you're in full control of yourself because it involves your money at stake.
I researched just now and found that some gamblers do in fact use gambling as a form of escape from their real life. Which is why you might find a lot of people just recently went through a divorce or death of a loved one gambling. I guess this is why there are always people gambling in funerals. Obviously over time I think it just became more of a tradition rather than an actual act of escape from mourning.
that is not what it was about. As you know there are a lot of people in the Philippines(I assume you are talking about the Philippines) who can't afford to buy a lot as a burial ground for their loved ones, gambling helps with that, if you have been in funerals you'll know that the people who gamble there give a fee/commission to the family of the deceased as a way to help them financially, it is also a way for the community to show support to the family. anyway, yeah, overtime kind of became a tradition but it doesn't happen at every funeral. But What about you? Do you also use gambling to escape from stress of the real world?
I wouldn't say "escape" the stress of the real world but I do use gambling as a way to unwind 
I thought that it will be something "normal" because that's true gambling is for fun and sometime as a coping mechanism, but betting in a funeral doesn't make any sense. I can't being fun or happy when I see someone's love has been passed away, even I don't know personally with the one who died, but I know how it feels.
Using gambling as a coping mechanism or as a way to distract yourself from reality can get you addicted to it, it's the same thing for those that get addicted to liquor, smoking and drugs they do it so as to derive pleasure and escape emotional discomfort, what most people don't realize is that doing this can actually give you dependency issues. It starts when your brain starts adapting to it, you will always feel like gambling even when you know you are not supposed to, at this point you don't care about winning or losing anymore, your only focus would be to satisfy the urge to gamble.
It's true you can get addicted, but it's not always happen.I know someone who work on weekdays and then have a party on weekend for every week, does he's addicted? can't really say, but he enjoy his life by doing that.
Jump to: