Topic: Gambling as an escape - page 6. (Read 1781 times)

No, I will say no for this. Making gambling as an escape from the stress that we experience is something that in my opinion is not recommended at all because when we look for an escape, we are not in direct situation, whether it's thoughts or feelings. We know that gambling has a greater chance of losing that the assumption that I have in gambling, with the results that often disappointing it will make the situation worse even moreover we ourselves are in a bad condition.
When we are in a state of stress, then we must find entertainment with gambling which is indeed one of the entertainment that can be done but this is possible to make us even worse. Therefore, it is better to look for other escapes whose risk is small or even there is no risk at all because I think there are still many rights that can be done to be an runaway when stress, as I found there are some videos that are made specifically for those who are stressed so they can Shouting as fast as possible whose purpose is to release a little burden, and I think it makes sense.

This is not fare and some kind of unrealistic thinking, how can a member of a brieved family participate in such culture, in as much as one may tend to gamble just for fun to escape sadness at some point but I don't think doing that in a funeral ground or anywhere close to it is reasonable enough even though such cases occur but i don't fancy that, in my previous post about this Made clear that not every going to the funeral ground are mourning majority are going for entertainment and they are the one that will mostly participate in this kind of culture and not any members of the brieved family.

I think what you should think about is who will give you the capital to gamble and collect the winnings to be donated to the grieving family? and the second question is if for example the family gives you the capital to gamble then are you really sure that the results will always win so that funds can be collected to be donated? Come on, my friend, think rationally, that is a bad idea for an atmosphere full of sadness, even though the goal is good, namely to help the bereaved family, but the idea is the wrong way which in the end will only add to the problem.

However, gambling should not be involved in a situation of sadness due to news of death unless it has become a tradition, and if you do intend to help the grieving family by donating some money then you can open a donation box and distribute it to people around there, do not involve gambling for the purpose of making money, it will always be a bad idea.

Sometimes boring, gambling can change the taste of a day, making things less boring without activities and people to talk to but the pressure of daily life cannot be dissipated here, instead of saying dissipated, the pressure can multiply and cause more psychological problems because the sources of negative emotions mostly come from finances, gambling is closely related and when not handled skillfully, it also contributes to thickening the negativity. Many people often mistake gambling as an escape from reality, but in fact, these are just moments when we are not aware that the results of gambling will transform into strong influences on real life. It is not a virtual game, we are simply hallucinating from it.

Is the gambling done as a way of raising funds for the family of the dead, this is only when I can support and participate in a gambling activity at the burial of a dead individual. People spend money on burial too much and they have to recover so if we could do this as a way of helping them then I am in support but there are other and better ways a fundraising can be done at burial and it would not involve hurting others, as they lose their money because some people can begin to think like this and spoils the whole culture. Gambling at burials can also be said to be wrong because there is alot of emotions at burials that can make us to make mistakes when playing. We need to be in a good state of mind before ever gambling.

It's pretty common here in our country (PH), and for sure, my fellow countrymen already shared it as well that whenever there's a funeral in their place, there will always, and always be tables filled with gamblers that are playing cards.

I'm leaning more towards the fact that it's a tradition already here in our country than a form of escape because of what happened. I believe that there are some funerals that doesn't allow gamblers to gamble in respect for the deceased person, but in most cases, there are some funerals where they just allow gamblers to gamble as long as there will be no fights whatsoever.

Aside from the fact that it's a tradition here in our country, I also believe that the main reason why they allow it is because these gamblers are giving off "TIPS" that will go to the deceased's family. I mean when a gambler wins, he will give some coins as a form of tip and that tip will be used for the expenses

Nope.
As a person that isn't gambling all the time, I have other way of escaping from stress of the real world, and that is playing online games or just simply playing.

I don't think I really do it like that. I bet regularly on sports betting, I just enjoy doing it, not really considering the bets I make as a stress reliever from work.
Gambling when under pressure I don't think is good for me either. I prefer to go to the beach with friends or family who can be invited to talk and give each other feedback.

Maybe or even definitely some gamblers gamble to relieve stress or stress experienced. especially those who play their favorite casino games. it will definitely help, but it's better not to overdo it.

When you do get addicted then you are really that putting up  yourself on such huge problem because not all will really be having that good self control on the moment that they do deal up with gambling.
Basing up into the condition above about doing gambling on wake time when someone dies then this do particularly talks about traditional matters. Its true  that this is really that not common in the eyes
because if someone dies then everyone should be mourning but if it turns out that someone is really that doing gambling stuff and enjoying then it is really that bit contradictory.

As i have read up that this do help the family on expenses then its something considerable but they should really be separating the gambling area and on where the
coffin is placed so that to those people who are really that sad wont be mixed up with the noise.

Well, that depends on the cause of the stress and challenges. If it's not something about the financial state of a person, then lossing some may not be problem for him.
Some people who has more money, but doesn't have enough time to spend it to something that would make him happy even for a brief period of time. Gambling may be an outlet for some. Physical casinos are far more enjoyable than online gambling. So, most people who suffers from mental stress may most likely go to physical casinos.

Many people falling into gambling and ends up by becoming gambling addiction even they are not realize the gambling addiction happens to them. If they feel bored and confused about their daily lives, they need to stop all things they do for a day and leave it like that. They can go to somewhere without thinks about their routine activities but not going to casino because that can gives them a problem. Many people have the same experience with them where they also bored and confused and not satisfy with what they gets. But they must realize that gambling is not an escape from the situation and condition and even gambling can makes everything becomes worst. Yes, they must search for a new activity that can entertain them which will not makes them get gambling addiction.

If this one pertains about having some accumulation of funds for some supporting for the family in terms of those fees or some sort for the expenses and other means then it is really that a good step somehow.
I have seen that some members of this forum do lives on a country or place on which on having this kind of tradition when it comes on that funeral but also having those gambling activity and having that involved with real money but its up to them because once it do becomes a tradition then there's nothing that it could be stopped and as long its been allowed by the family then i dont really have no issues with it. It cant really be just that avoided that there would really be those comments that do really pertains about against on doing stuffs specially on mourning situations.

I couldnt really be able to blame out those people on to see these stuffs or actions to be that inappropriate on times like these but in speaking about traditional aspects then there's nothing we can do but to respect
on what are the things that they've been that doing into. It is really just that not good to look at but well its up to their actions on how they would really be dealing up with it. Its not an escape when it comes to sadness or sorrow on family's side or its members on having those gambling. The ones who do gamble are to those who do attend on the wake.

Yeah, it's understandable, i also take it as weird culture now that i grew up, because when i'm a child below 12, i take it as nothing but a cheerful gathering since all of the family relatives gathered at that time despite the dead fam member.

Yes, there's a gap between the gambling area and the wake, where the wake should in a quite room/area (this depends on the house/area).

Yes, the funds collected there is somewhat huge enough for aid, that's why some families in the area make the funeral takes more than 7 days instead of 3-5 days to get more collected funds which is somewhat eerie since the dead body decompose after few days.
And yes, there's no exception to participate in the gambling activities so any fam member can participate it's about values against the traditional culture.

It's uncommon in my locality to partake in cheerful activities like gambling when someone else is grieving. However the gap between where the gambling takes place and the house of the dead is fine and shows respect to the berieved, also the funds would help relieve stress and agony on the mourners. Can a member of the berieved family join in this culture?

It’s really interesting how gambling can take on such different roles in many different cultures. I completely agree here, most of us think of it as something thrilling and fun, something to enjoy and get excited about, especially with the environment casinos create to keep us engaged. But, also seeing it at a funeral must feel bad some times. I can understand well how it might have started as a coping mechanism, then gradually became more of a important habit. But using gambling as a way to escape grief or stress is tricky and like you said, it rarely leads to good decisions because emotions can cloud judgment. Personally, I found that keeping gambling as something I do when I’m in a good mindset, with extra funds which makes it more enjoyable and keeps it from becoming something I would turn to during tough times.

It’s always a balance but keeping gambling as a source of fun rather than an emotional escale seems like the healthiest approach in the long run in my experience.

Even in my part of the world too funaral is for morning and gamblingis a fun seeking activities so the two doesn't go together and since that is not the culture in this part of the world, playing cards or any form of gambling games ant the most attractive when at a funeral, better still some hyms and songs to chear the palace up, because gambling is for happy people and where there is a death, happiness is far from such a place.

I know this could be different from place to place, and from people to people, but I haven't personally seen any where that this culture is practiced here within my location.

I really don't know what country you come from, but one thing I know for sure is that it's totally wrong for people to gamble during the funeral/burial right or demise of a family member, while claiming it is an avenue to relieve stress. As this can only be seen as a misplacement of priority, judging by the fact that in gambling winning is never always guarantee, as you are likely to either lose or win a bet, and losing money while moaning the death of a love one is never the best way to offer last respect to on the death. Hence, it's always advisable people gamble what they can always afford to lose, knowing fully well that in all occasions, there will always be people of diverse interest to react to issues about their favorite football clubs at funerals.

In my area this is how it goes especially on roman catholics, when the funeral takes place only on the house of the dead, a couple of tents will be put outside of the house either in the road or compound, gambling like card games, bingo, etc. is played, the "tong" is amount of money like tip or payment to the house when someone wins, this sounds like a financial aid which is something helpful to the bereaved family instead like an attraction.
This doesn't happen on the funeral homes or with the other religions in my area though.

That's very correct. Even if the person who is using gambling as an excuse to escape wins, he will get excited for that point in time and forget about what he has been going through just for that moment, but the moment they start losing, the thinking will double as they can easily get emotional as two things will be joining hands together. That's why I also advise people never to use anything as an excuse for why they gamble.

A lot of people go through a lot of crisis and they look for an escape out of reality, some go into drug use, smoking and alcohol consumption just to distract their mind, but the thing about life is , running away from your problems won't solve anything, you'd still come back to deal with it if it's not taken care of... just like the was people get addicted addicted to drugs and alcohol gambling has affected a lot of people in the same way, When you start seeing gambling as an escape from your problems you are just giving room to more problems.

I didn't check if which country you guys are in but if I were to guess, you are someone/somewhere from Asia? IDK but this is the first country or continent that came into my head after reading the context but is the activity really didn't exist in other parts of the world? I mean it doesn't sound weird you know and it was fun in fact because there are gambling and then people or our relatives gather around. It makes us forgot the sad part that happened to the person that just died.

There must also be snacks that are being served from time to time, which makes it even better. It is like the experience is the same as playing gambling on the real casino, hehe. Yeah right, even me, I don't see this as a belief but more like a tradition.

Gambling really can help a person because they can also earn money on it if they win and it is a big help to the family of those who died if ever they are poor. Even if they didn't engage in the activity, they still can get a donation as you said or some kind of a fee for offering a service (e.g. table, chair, card, etc..) to other players. The poor family can as well asked a donation to their local government. Cremation is another method for a dead body but I actually think they are more formal, private, or expensive. Usually rich people are doing this.