Even unto this day, my wife does not know I gamble, have never told her and I will never tell her also, simply because knowing the kind of woman I have as my lovely wife, even without me loosing so much, she would still tell me to stop gambling, simply because I feel she doesnt like it, probably due to religious sentiments or so..
But then again, I will always choose my wife and family over gambling, like I said sometime before on another thread.
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Luckily this friend of the OP still has some awareness because believe it or not there are a handful of people who can do that and indeed they are a bunch of idiots who choose gambling over their closest people but in this case it still really exists even though only a handful of people do do that but cases like this can still happen.
Quitting gambling is not as easy as turning your palm but this can still be done but of course this clearly takes time and support from all parties, especially the closest family.
Yes it is, having that kind of circle will help you get through with it. Right circle will be there for you only if they still have the awareness and they are not addicted to gambling as well even they gamble . It is hard for a friend to understand if he did not know how to gamble or doesn't know the feeling to gamble and have fun with it.We can have always learn to be a right friend to a friend especially if we feel that they are slowly get addicted to it,we can help them as well as professional help needed.Quitting gambling is not as easy as turning your palm but this can still be done but of course this clearly takes time and support from all parties, especially the closest family.
Reflecting on this, the choice to be married or to go as a gambler is clearly a very tough choice, it's just that when you take a stand and the wife of a friend from OP wants to help, it can still be done even though it will take time and not all gambling can released at once but it will change for the better.
Totally stupid and doesnt make really sense if you would really be choosing gambling than with your wife but actually there are people who does have that extreme addiction would really be doing those
decisions which it isnt really something that a right minded person would really be able to do so. There are really fellas who would really be choosing up things which they do really seem that it makes them happy and make out those shit and nonsense kind of selection.On the time that you would really get caught on spending something on which your wife isnt really that able to know then of course they would really be having those common reactions.
If you cant afford on losing your wife then you would definitely quit up gambling but if you do then you would continue, but who would really be on their right minds on doing so?
You cant really just go with gambling and lose your wife, thats the stupidest thing to be done by a human being.
Luckily this friend of the OP still has some awareness because believe it or not there are a handful of people who can do that and indeed they are a bunch of idiots who choose gambling over their closest people but in this case it still really exists even though only a handful of people do do that but cases like this can still happen.decisions which it isnt really something that a right minded person would really be able to do so. There are really fellas who would really be choosing up things which they do really seem that it makes them happy and make out those shit and nonsense kind of selection.On the time that you would really get caught on spending something on which your wife isnt really that able to know then of course they would really be having those common reactions.
If you cant afford on losing your wife then you would definitely quit up gambling but if you do then you would continue, but who would really be on their right minds on doing so?
You cant really just go with gambling and lose your wife, thats the stupidest thing to be done by a human being.
Quitting gambling is not as easy as turning your palm but this can still be done but of course this clearly takes time and support from all parties, especially the closest family.
But that is a very rare scenario and it barely happens where a husband or a wife doesn't actually love or like their partner to the extent that they can easily leave them for something that is temporary while a relationship like marriage is supposed to be for a lifetime.
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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
I don't think your friend is an idiot because the wife found out his logging details and enter his betting profile, but in marriage; that is how it work for some people, they don't hide things much from each other. I also think the wife was right to be manipulative to caution him with betting because how will you gambling with losses and don't think that you have family that are looking up to you, it is not a do or die affair but the wife went too far about ending the marriage but somehow, I like how the wife has help him fight that loss he has been acummulating, a day will come that you will want to cry when you check your bet history, always put precaution and caution rule on gambling addiction.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
Yes but with a different issue and not gambling. Well, this is a bit complicated especially if you're too attached but if threatened I think the best thing in this situation is to assess first then decide after. After all it's just a talk between you two and wok things out, yeah you could not tell about your winnings or loss but if you can still provide to the family, what's the problem with that? 
So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.
Your wife is doing a good job because gamblers don't make good husband and fathers unless they're winning always and majority of gamblers aren't winning always for them to have enough money to spoil their wife and children instead they're taking from them.
Some gamblers are so addicted that only a threat can save them from been destroyed due to gambling addiction. For example, if the wife threaten to divorce him if he doesn't stop gambling since it's destroying the family, the man might reconsider his decisions.
I have heard of stories when families go broke because of the husband gambling addictions. If been gentle doesn't work then the wife or relations can try threatening the man so he rethinks his bad habit. Others shouldn't suffer for our poor decisions.
If its your money I cant see why'd it be a problem, situation there is the marriage is shared finances. I dont know about the threat but its quite possible the wife is reasonable in mentioning its too much money, the heavy handed ultimatum is really unfortunate way to discuss anything with anyone. I'd certainly half or more the amounts gambled if its threatening security of a relationship, or just stopping for some months if you cant stop obviously that'd be more of a concern. I do think its unreasonable to never allow someone to play, also the snooping is pretty awful also.
balance. Have to understand that gambling is a choice and people no matter tge relationships should learn how to respect the choices of others and not making some threats because of the choice of what I love.
The best well to help assist someone especially when we notice that they're going out of hand in gambling is simply calling them to order and not really doing so with some threats and I'm on this opinion because I've been threatened on several occasions with regards to gambling especially by siblings and it make me feel very uncomfortable discussing anything related to gambling with them.
Everything should really be in balance on which it is really that something which is really that's important on whatever you are dealing with.We know that each person does have it own taking when it comes to gambling.There are one's who could really make out decisions on which you would really be able to tell which one is viable and which one is really that sensible to be done.The best well to help assist someone especially when we notice that they're going out of hand in gambling is simply calling them to order and not really doing so with some threats and I'm on this opinion because I've been threatened on several occasions with regards to gambling especially by siblings and it make me feel very uncomfortable discussing anything related to gambling with them.
If you do come into a point on which your wife is already threatening that you would really be having that divorce if you can't able to quit up gambling then it would really be you choice on which ones you would be choosing.
If you can afford on losing your wife then go with this option and if not then you should stop gambling for good
We are really would really be ending up with this condition of we aren't that sensible in our actions on which it would really be just normal that you would really be having this kind of approach.
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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
Too bad he was never honest to his wife in the first place. If only he’s transparent about his gambling activities, I guess threatening will never happen. That’s the reason why I want to avoid being secretive from my wife because no matter how we hide from them, there will really come a time that we will still be caught and might even ruin the relationship. Luckily, my wife was also considerate with how I often spend money on gambling. At least, he knows that I am a gambler in the first place. My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
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I believe that threats do not lead to anything good, and threats from the closest people are likely to lead to further conflicts, as bad situations remain in a person's memory for a long time. Certainly we should help people who have got addicted to games of chance but it is better to do it through experts as it is necessary to understand psychology or it is possible not to help the person but to make only worse.
We Have to understand that gambling is a choice and people no matter the relationships should learn how to respect the choices of others and not making some threats because of the choice of what I love.
The best well to help assist someone especially when we notice that they're going out of hand in gambling is simply calling them to order and not really doing so with some threats and I'm on this opinion because I've been threatened on several occasions with regards to gambling especially by siblings and it make me feel very uncomfortable discussing anything related to gambling with them.
People have to understand that gambling is a choice and people ought to respect people's choices regardless what how ugly the choices might look.
The best well to help assist someone especially when we notice that they're going out of hand in gambling is simply calling them to order and not really doing so with some threats and I'm on this opinion because I've been threatened on several occasions with regards to gambling especially by siblings and it make me feel very uncomfortable discussing anything related to gambling with them.
People have to understand that gambling is a choice and people ought to respect people's choices regardless what how ugly the choices might look.
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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
If you have to hide things from your spouse, you probably married the wrong woman or man IMO. If you want to go gamble now and then you shouldn't have to hide it. Losing a large amount once or twice and trying to hide it to avoid the argument is another thing though. You probably need to go talk with a professional about your gambling habit if you cannot control yourself. My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
I absolutely agree with you. I sincerely don't understand such people. We all want to be in the comfort zone and have complete trust when starting our own family, but for some reason many people prefer to be in a constant state of tension because they need to hide things from their wives. Not only does my wife know that I gamble, she knows the passwords on my laptop and smartphone and even the sid-phrase from my Ledger. She's someone I trust completely and I want her to have everything I have if anything happens to me. If at some point we lose our trust then we have to break up, because without trust people become strangers.
Gambling can give pleasure at the same time uncontrolled gambling can also endanger a person. We can't blame it on gambling. This is due to our greed. There are few gamblers who have lost control of their addiction that is why they stealing family money and losing it to gambling. There are many gamblers who have sold their houses or land but still gamble. They don't think about the future. Its effect is not only on their lives but also on their children. So a gambler should learn controlled gambling.
Gambling can bring you fortune and misfortune depending on how you will utilize it to your advantage. If you are disciplined and you will only gamble when you can afford it and stop when you no longer can't will have a great impact on your routine and the habits that you build overtime. If you want to just chill and relax without experiencing the negative side of gambling, then you must also do your very best to avoid endangering yourself from excessive gambling. Refrain from overspending money and your time in gambling. Indeed, it is important to be controlled and it should not just be disregarded to get the most out of it.
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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
Isn't that good ?
If someone is able to quit gambling whether willing or by getting threatened, in both case it's better for the individual himself.
It's not the women's fault and anybody would do the same. Why should one hide things from their partner especially when money is involved.
If you think from the women's perspective then she could have saved that money for their family or bought things in need.
It is obvious for her to get mad and threaten the husband.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
Things like gambling are not what should be kept away from spouse because you can't hide it forever just like smoking, one day you will be caught. It is better talked about before it gets exposed just like a thief will be exposed, caught or killed one day if they don't stop the act like your friend that foolishly saved his password in a browser. Having something to threaten you means you are not doing the right thing, no matter how a woman may dislike the attitude of the husband, a gambling habit should be opened because it involves huge losses and wins that can disorganize the home. Your friend is obviously an addict and not smart. He needs help from professional counsellors.
I was a bit addicted to gambling since my childhood but under my mother's rule I often abstained from gambling. But nowadays with various online casinos and gambling sites, my parents can't stop me from gambling. But one thing is very important because I am very young now and have the ability to control myself. So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.
you should at least thank your wife because she tried to get you out of the gambling addiction that could eventually destroy your family. and it seems you are also lucky to have a wife who still gives you the freedom to be able to gamble even if it's only one bet but in my opinion it's okay.but I think the hope your wife has is for you to stop gambling once and for all.
Gambling becomes a concern to loved ones when we spend so much time and resource gambling and maybe because no one knows i am a gambler, it hasn't brought any form of threat to me. Wives are jealous creatures and the don't want any thing or person that will share their spouse time and resource with them, i feel that is exactly what most addicts face when the abuse the fun, they get threatened by any available means so they can stop or become responsible with their passion.
Wife knows best. 
Just like to the friend of OP, it's needed to give that ultimatum or else that guy won't stop and will continue to hide things from her.
I was a bit addicted to gambling since my childhood but under my mother's rule I often abstained from gambling. But nowadays with various online casinos and gambling sites, my parents can't stop me from gambling. But one thing is very important because I am very young now and have the ability to control myself. So I don't indulge myself in gambling but my wife makes me this bad in Many times the urge to break out of the habit. However, with my wife's encouragement, I devote very little time to online casinos and gambling. I now stay away from betting only on IPL cricket. But my wife won't let me catch more than one bet every day.
At least you've got your wife on your back and she's there to monitor you if you're doing good or not. She just want to moderate you from gambling and that's typical with wives that's concern to their husbands.Just like to the friend of OP, it's needed to give that ultimatum or else that guy won't stop and will continue to hide things from her.
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Gambling can give pleasure at the same time uncontrolled gambling can also endanger a person. We can't blame it on gambling. This is due to our greed. There are few gamblers who have lost control of their addiction that is why they stealing family money and losing it to gambling. There are many gamblers who have sold their houses or land but still gamble. They don't think about the future. Its effect is not only on their lives but also on their children. So a gambler should learn controlled gambling.
When greed comes, it can make us forget that we are already having fun playing gambling, so we must stop. But we don't stop but keep playing and even that can make us spend the money we have. And if they do steal their family's money, there is a possibility that they already have a gambling addiction that they are not aware of because all they can think about is gambling. And if they harm themselves and their families, as you say, they have such a severe gambling addiction that it will be difficult to cure. 
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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
If you have to hide things from your spouse, you probably married the wrong woman or man IMO. If you want to go gamble now and then you shouldn't have to hide it. Losing a large amount once or twice and trying to hide it to avoid the argument is another thing though. You probably need to go talk with a professional about your gambling habit if you cannot control yourself. My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big.
How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
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