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How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

No, I have not been threatened to stop gambling but I have had to sit myself and to talk to myself on the best hacks to not allow gambling take over myself. I came up with some pretty good hacks. One of the them includes watching a video every fortnight on the dangers of gambling addition. I have not be so consistent but I do it atleast once per month.

Nobody should ever be in the situation the man in the OP's story was in. Sadly, a lot more people than reported are in that same situation. The worse of it all is those who are addicted both to gambling and have other forms of addiction.
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How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Gambling is not addictive for me, but I am a regular gambler. For this reason, very few people around me know that I gamble, and generally I have never had a problem hiding my winnings as I have lost. In fact, I think hiding losses rather than winnings in gambling can be a serious problem because when someone addicted to gambling constantly hides their losses when they gamble, it is not very pleasant for that person. However, whether by gambling or by some other method. At the end of the day, each person's gain or loss is of interest to themself.
To empathize, especially if I make a big win or a big loss when I gamble, I would prefer to share it with people around me who know I gamble.

To first answer OP's question, there was a point in my life where my family was actually encouraging me to at least experience gambling.

As someone who grew up with a father who loves cockfighting, during my teenager years, I was exposed to gambling as my father would bring me to arenas of cockfighters. I would also watch him play blackjack and poker every holidays and that sparked my curiosity towards trying such act. My father would discourage us to try gambling but he was open to the idea of letting us experience it so we could decide on our own whether we want to continue or not.

To cut the story short, I tried it but I never actually won anything big. In fact, my losses were bigger than my winnings which prompted me to stop gambling.
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How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

Gambling is not addictive for me, but I am a regular gambler. For this reason, very few people around me know that I gamble, and generally I have never had a problem hiding my winnings as I have lost. In fact, I think hiding losses rather than winnings in gambling can be a serious problem because when someone addicted to gambling constantly hides their losses when they gamble, it is not very pleasant for that person. However, whether by gambling or by some other method. At the end of the day, each person's gain or loss is of interest to themself.
To empathize, especially if I make a big win or a big loss when I gamble, I would prefer to share it with people around me who know I gamble.
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I haven't personally experienced being threatened by anyone, but it's unfortunate that your friend being caught by his wife and that he didn't tell her about his gambling activities aswell as when he won a lot of money. It must be a hard situation for him now as he may need to consider stopping gambling in order to keep the relationship safe. I feel bad for him to be honest  Undecided, but that's how it is.

Personally, I haven't been engaging in gambling activities much lately as my interest for gambling has decreased and I don't really have the mood for it. Previously, I always gamble on football games with rare occasions of betting on other sports. The last time I placed a bet was during the match between Real Madrid and Man City in the UEFA Champions League and I was lucky enough to win my bets.
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If I look at it from his wife's perspective, this is natural considering that he is the head of the household and spending a lot of money just for gambling is quite wrong because he still has children and a wife who need living expenses. Not to mention he has the responsibility as a man to be responsible for the education and health of his children and many other things and that makes gambling a lot of money quite wrong for him.
From the wife's perspective, she is worried about the future of their family and that is a normal thing. Watching the earned money get wasted by a member of the family leads to disharmony and this is not just the husband, often the kids grow up and they start doing things that cost money but are wasteful and then bigger problems come in the household.

These things often propagate, meaning the father gambling in the house leads to the kids watching it and then they start gambling with borrowed money from parents which leads them becoming addicted gamblers too. The lady of the house has to suffer all through out this and face the debt.

This might seem pessimistic to many readers, but like I said, moderation to gambling can be done and can prevent such a scenario.
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How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.
Luckily, nope.

Well, your friend is secretive and that's one of the red flags if ever someone is in relationship. Especially when he's won big, he should told it to her and that will for sure give him at least the good side of gambling because her wife can enjoy that money that he's won.

But no, he chose not to tell it and then this unfortunate incident on him has happened. Well, if both of you are in a relationship, you shouldn't hide your activities especially if it involves money.

I don't know how long your friend will be able to hide it should his wife didn't found out his browser activities. This again gives the wrong impression to gambling because of one irresponsible gambler.

But nice choice, it should really be his wife to be the top choice than gambling.
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As long as your friend can be cooperated with his wife to stop gambling temporary and that will not be a big problem for him. His wife threaten him for a reason. It's caused by your friend was making some mistakes which can't be accepted by his wife.
It's better to stop it and then discussed it even further with his wife. The problem is your friend was doing something that makes his wife didn't like it.

If i were your friend and i will be discussing it privately with my wife. Think about the best solution that can be got together. It's far better rather than do nothing to fix the problem.
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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big. Cheesy

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.



Thanks to my luck, I have never been threaten for the thing. But, your friend should learn a lesson form his experience and should confess to his wife the circumstances that made him not to tell her about the wins. He should definitely give her a surprise gift to change her mind into positivity. The relationship is far more important than gambling and he must have to take proper steps to save his marriage.

He should not do any gambling until he can convince his wife that whatever he'll do he won't hide a thing from her. You know the females are quite emotional and with proper care she will allow him to gamble once again. It's necessary that he should do everything according to his wife because he was somehow betraying her by doing gambling without her knowledge.

Things will be okay in his life after a few days. But, if he continues doing gambling and if she finds it once again then the things might be hard to settle. So, it's for the best of his relationship to avoid doing gambling for sometime. And, focus on the things that could work to make their relationship strong.
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If your parent threaten you to stop gambling, leave them and rent an apartment.

If your wife threaten you to stop gambling, you can threaten back you will not give her any money and you will stop gambling.

If your girlfriend threaten you to stop gambling, just broke up and search for another girlfriend who accept you to gamble.

Nothing can stop you to gamble, if you're not happy with their threat, just threat them back Cheesy
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My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.
There are things in our live we should stop hiding from our partner especially for married people as to avoid certain misunderstanding. Our partner should be carried along and if you feel they may not consent to what you're into like the gambling then there are ways you can talk them into understanding for the sake of your happiness they might obliged and support you controllably in it. I know of a family where the husband is a gambler even to the acknowledgement of the wife and older children. The wife keeps in check on how much he's got to spend on his gambling each week so he doesn't go rogue with spending. She clearly understands that gambling is a hobby for her husband and the only way she can come in is to help regulate his spending on it.

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I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big. Cheesy

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.


I think I have but, from an unserious date. I wasn't really into her so I never took her threat for any thing serious because we were just dating and not married.

She had her hate for gambling through a horrible family member experience that was an uncontrollable gambler.
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I would prefer a wife even before I was threatened to choose to continue gambling or threatened by my wife because a wife is someone who will accompany my life until later. There's no need to threaten me to stop gambling because I know when to stop so it's pointless.

Only the immature gamblers will be given such an opinion which they must abide in other for them to maintain their relationship because they are either addicted or have no relevance in their recent life because of gambling, making them to loose focus and not plan for themselves or the family, if i were such, i will do more to the man than just advising withdrawal, i will definitely threat him with things so precious daring to him in ither to triger the force stop.
Maybe that person needs a threat to stop him from gambling because some people need a threat first before they can realize it. And if he really loved his wife, he would stop gambling immediately and never gamble again. But that's up to the person because he decides it himself, especially if he already has a lot of money from gambling. And if that happens, the average person will choose to break up or divorce his wife because they think they can find a new wife.

But if someone has really become a crazy gambling addict, he will not pay attention to threats from his wife and will still be more concerned with gambling which he already enjoys.
We can see cases like this for ourselves, many crazy gambling addicts whose families are destroyed and even abandoned by their wives and children because they do not prioritize family and are more concerned with gambling.
Even though there are not many, at least we can learn from such cases that being a gambling addict has a very bad impact.
It is not surprising that gambling addicts prefer gambling because they already feel pleasure and satisfaction when gambling.
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It's your friend's fault for hiding it with his wife. I understand why his wife acted that way cause what's the point of being married when your husband is hiding things from you that he gambles and he never shared his winnings with his wife. Also, his wife might just be worried about him getting addicted to gambling. At least, your friend chooses his wife and not gambling.

As for me, I never experienced being threatened although I'm open to my family that I gamble online. They know that I really don't gamble that often and that I don't spend too much money on it. Tho it may not be applicable to everyone, but as long as you're honest and open it won't be a problem to your family or your SO.
I don't know if you are married or not but I think even in an open relationship it is not everything that the husband tells the wife, every man has some kind of skeleton under their cupboard well I don't think I will blame the husband here as am  also a victim of keeping my gambling habit a secret from spouse. I understand why the wife acted like that because she was shock by the massive win the husband had but in a fair sense the man must have also been loosing so I guess his action are justified and I think if am ever faced in such conditions I think me and everyone in their right senses will choose their family over a gambling hobby.
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This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big. Cheesy

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

As I understand it, that big win "dissolved" in subsequent losses. It seems to me that his wife should be more afraid of him losing big than waiting for him to share a big win with her.
As for me, as a practitioner, I'm probably more afraid of becoming a gambling addict than my wife (who is not related to this) is worried about me, so I have never had such situations - I have enough self-control.
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If I look at it from his wife's perspective, this is natural considering that he is the head of the household and spending a lot of money just for gambling is quite wrong because he still has children and a wife who need living expenses. Not to mention he has the responsibility as a man to be responsible for the education and health of his children and many other things and that makes gambling a lot of money quite wrong for him. I honestly support his wife in this, because after all the future of the family is in his hands - he should be able to use the money he has been gambling with for something more profitable, like investing or starting a business and that is much better.
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This actually happens if there is a similar thread I'll lock this thread.

My friend invited me for a round of drinks just last night to confess something, and that is his wife threatened to leave their house and file for legal separation because the wife just discovered that he's spending a lot of time gambling, she thought that he's just playing games but she discovered his logged because the idiot has his password in the browser, so the wife check his withdrawal and voila his losing a lot of money and she also discovered that he won big money in the past but didn't tell her.

I guess that blew her patience for not telling his winning, so he threaten that he should stop gambling or they part ways, my friend choose his wife so he cannot play until he can convince his wife and promise her to tell her if he won big. Cheesy

How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.


For experiences like this, to be honest, I have never experienced it because I am not married or have a wife, but I precisely on the day of finding such a phenomenon in my family, namely the judicial perpetrator is the son -in -law of my aunt, he spends his money from the work he produced to Playing gambling and it is really making the family angry with his wife because he was not oiled, and the behavior of the son -in -law was known after their two years of marriage, it was annoyed. Because indeed the culture in my environment does not have tolerance for gambling, I myself still do it secretly.
Their marriage is on the verge of divorce because the wives asked her husband to stop gambling if not they might be divorced.
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How about you have you been threatened by your wife, your girlfriend, or your parents, if so tell us your story.

I haven't been threatened although I have threatened my friends on different occasion. There's nothing wrong with threatening for people to stop gambling when you noticed they're over doing it. Some people only react to threats when they know you are capable of doing it.

A friend of mine has gambled all the money he brought out and wanted to withdraw some money from the joint savings he had with his wife for his children education.. I threatened to let the wife know and he knows the wife doesn't joke with his children education.

He got himself together and decided to quit, I still told his wife and asked her to get a signature to the account and take it offline so money can only be taken through physical withdrawal as I know if I wasn't there, he would had lost everything they have saved for their children.
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To an extent his wife is overreacting but your friend messed up. Probably what she saw made her feel its becoming an addiction, or its a shock for her to find out that he gambles. He shouldn't have hidden it from her in the first place.
She should know he gambles, maybe she wouldn't know the full details (like how much he makes and loses from gambling), but she should know he gambles. he might have deeper reasons why he didn't tell her about his big winnings but I just feel he couldn't tell her since its a secret.

It’s not an overreaction if you think about it carefully. The man have trust issue on his wife for not telling the huge win. This is a slap in the face to his wife since the husband  is wasting huge amount of money and time on gambling then he never remember to share his profit with his wife when he hits huge win. He probably don’t trust his wife about his money for making it a secret.

To me he made the right choice quitting gambling for now to save his marriage  Grin
If he would be able to convince her then good luck to him

This is inevitable if he really love his wife. He should stop immediately since there’s no explanation that can make a woman believe to a man after that secret revelation.
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To an extent his wife is overreacting but your friend messed up. Probably what she saw made her feel its becoming an addiction, or its a shock for her to find out that he gambles. He shouldn't have hidden it from her in the first place.
She should know he gambles, maybe she wouldn't know the full details (like how much he makes and loses from gambling), but she should know he gambles. he might have deeper reasons why he didn't tell her about his big winnings but I just feel he couldn't tell her since its a secret.
To me he made the right choice quitting gambling for now to save his marriage  Grin
If he would be able to convince her then good luck to him
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Kind of yea. Funny how it was in fact my first time gambling that I got threatened about it tbf. I've told this before but my first gambling experience was in Highschool. I was in a relationship back then, and well, let's just say she didn't know that I gamble. She knew I played with poker and the like with my classmates, she never knew money was actually involved. And well... after she discovered, rest is history. I stopped, like completely for a few years.

I'm just glad it wasn't anything above that right now (well I'm single so I couldn't really get problems from that), but well, sad state for your friend I must say. It was a lot lighter in my case since it was a teenage thing, but for your friend? Damn that's like a commitment that was suddenly clogged imo.
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It's your friend's fault for hiding it with his wife. I understand why his wife acted that way cause what's the point of being married when your husband is hiding things from you that he gambles and he never shared his winnings with his wife. Also, his wife might just be worried about him getting addicted to gambling. At least, your friend chooses his wife and not gambling.

As for me, I never experienced being threatened although I'm open to my family that I gamble online. They know that I really don't gamble that often and that I don't spend too much money on it. Tho it may not be applicable to everyone, but as long as you're honest and open it won't be a problem to your family or your SO.
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