Topic: Have you been threaten to stop gambling - page 9. (Read 2408 times)

He'll not just lose his money but his family as well. A family without a father is such a bad situation for the kids, it leaves them vulnerable to the influence of other people and who knows what the kids could learn. Its a wake-up call for the father to just stop and rethink again. If he wants to gamble I guess he just has to do it online and hid it from his partner. 

If he doesn't wanna be blamed by the kids when they grew up, he better put himself together and fix issues. When a wife complains already, there is definitely an obligation that he took for granted.

It is so, the game will always be a very difficult way to make money, the game should be seen as a way to have fun with diverted money to be Invested there, where the main thing is that it can be lost, that is why the money that is destined A casino cannot be seen as something that is going to be won, but rather that it is going to be prepared to lose , because if it is lost, there is no Regret or regret, which makes a player leave Satisfied, and as I said before, if the player wins Well, congratulations, things are in your favor and you have to take Advantage of the profits, I think that this is the healthiest way to play, to enjoy a casino and also the most Mature way for a person to see a casino.

If the Person wants to risk those profits that he Obtained , it is already a matter of his decision , Although in my personal Experience it is not good to do So , because he will most likely lose Everything and be Disappointed.

But unfortunately, this openness is still difficult because not many people can be open with other family members. But if they can be open with others and share their problems, they will have a chance to cure their gambling addiction because their family members will help them solve their problems. Gambling addiction is a serious problem that must be solved because it can destroy a person's life and that of his family.

When you do know that gambling is something that it is really that prohibited into your religion then it would really be just that right that you should be wary on what are the actions that you should do and not something

that would totally oppose because on the time that it would really be caught on doing such act then for sure they would really be building up those impressions that you are really looking a bad person. lol
On other personal things on which if your wife caught you on doing gambling, then she would presume that you are spending tons of money into it on which it would really be making out that kind of argumentation
or talks about finances on where you would really be confronted on that regard which means that you do need to tell the truth because if your wife find out that you do still have that extra money
on which you could really make use on the she would definitely be skeptical in overall income that you are making.

So whats next into this? It would be a never ending kind of doubt and questioning if ever you do still have funds left or being kept, knowing that wives are really that too greedy when it comes to our income.

That is a big problem when you don't tell your family and a religious family will sure not let you continue gambling and they will surely threaten you in the sense that they will keep doing moral to you until you stop.The problem I want to ask you is how you do to gamble and your family to not know it as sometimes we gambler have urges to gamble out of nowhere,so you must be alone in the time you gamble and being alone is not something we can get that often when we run our families.If you play sport betting only I can understand as you can place your bets everywhere but if you play slots who take longer to spend your money it will be more difficult.

Pressuring someone to stop playing is not pointless, it is possible if there is no other way but to apply pressure. even so, I agree with what you say. the problem is, if the gambler does not intend to do so. then, it would seem to be a pointless thing. ideally, taking a persuasive approach would be more effective than applying pressure. that way, a person will not experience pressure that could have the opposite effect. after all, it's not an easy matter to break something that has become a habit. at the very least, a person needs another diversion so that the focus is not so much on gambling. through a persuasive approach, plus supported by family will provide better motivation. in fact, not infrequently there will be tension in the family, the environment, if you only apply pressure by force.

Related to the title of this thread, I'm pretty sure we have a lot of stories and experiences to back it up. I guess, this is a common case. ideally, a gambler should ensure that the money he is betting on is not money that has multiple interests. that way, we will avoid the pressure of getting threats from the family. in fact, not infrequently we often threaten ourselves, if we have experienced repeated defeats. and I'm pretty sure, this experience is a very common experience for gamblers.

I haven't been threatened, but I have been warned to stop it and I had to adhere after clear facts were revealed about how much I gamble away than win.
Gambling ain't for everyone. If your failure is more than loss, as a man with wife and kids or expecting kids, it is logical to limit this kinda habit. Yes, one can win big but not everyone is lucky and having a wife is a blessing not curse. She is the better half and though she may not be right all time, when it comes to making losses from gambling when other better investment would yield better secured returns, she is right to test your love.
Women don't like their attention shared, in the sense that you give a hobby that's not rewarding in the long run, much more audience than her.

It can only make things harder for them but they really cannot stop people to gamble even putting pressure on them is useless not unless they Will stop without external people. That's why I didn't tell my family about these things because for sure they will threaten me to stop since I am living in a religious family, also do not show too much love to gambling just play it for fun.

Putting pressure on someone to stop playing is pointless, if the player himself does not want to do this, then this will not happen. There are different situations, sometimes it happens that the family does not have enough money, and the husband still spends money on gambling with the desire to win something, but instead he only loses the last money, in which case, of course, his family will convince him to quit it, but if it's a dependency then it won't be easy to do. If it's for fun and everything is in order with finances, then no one will forbid you to play in your free time.

Exactly, that's a threat that if the gambler doesn't quit gambling they would leave the person since gambling addiction is not actually good. It doesn't only affect the gambler itself but also the people from it's surrounding like his family. It's like due to gambling they loss at lot of funds to provide for the house or not having enough time for their family since they are gambling for almost 24 hours. For me, if threatening doesn't even work for them for sure they don't love you as they don't care for you but themsleves only

OP is talking and asking about those gamblers who are addicted and they do not care about their families. Usually, these people will give the first priority to gambling and for that, they may spend those funds on gambling which should have been spent on their family, wife, and children. If a person is a moderate gambler and plays for fun only with limited money, no one will objection his hobby but how can a family live with a person who spends everything on gambling and gives no money and benefit to his family?

It's not about treating and managing with an addictive gambler but it is more of a disappointment and hopelessness and eventually leaves a careless person alone forever who has no pain for the family.

Yes, only sometimes because there are also times where they are the ones who make mistakes. The situation can change, where we are the ones who will gave them advices. The only way I can feel irritated when gambling is when the moment I am losing and this could become worse when someone scolds me about it. I know it's wrong because those people only care about us.

This why I regret after some time and say sorry to those people. Gambling can also provide us money if we get lucky. My wife is happy when I win in gambling and she is the one that encourages me to play sometimes because of it. So far I'm not addicted to it. Guess that's because she always monitors my condition, so I'm also thankful to my partner.

I don't think that the guy mentioned in the OP wasn't responsible and spending everything on gambling, he was a working person and providing well for his family and they never had any issues when it comes to money, but the issue there was that he had hidden the fact that he gambles from his wife for whatever reason, which is what was taken as being offensive and disrespectful or dishonest by the wife and that is why she did this, obviously.

I wouldn't blame both in this situation, because I know that you sometimes need to have your own space and do something that you like to do and have always liked to do and if someone else doesn't let you do that, you will surely do it without telling them, and I also know that if I was in place of that lady and my wife or my husband would have hidden something like that for so long from me, I would get pissed off too.

I don't think the person the OP is referring to is a responsible gambler, if the person is a responsible gambler he wont really have problem with his wife even after she was able to access her husbands phone and she notice that her husband is a gambler. Maybe the are having financial crisis, maybe the husband have been complaining about lack of money, but she was just surprise to see her husband to have wasted lots of money on gambling, definitely her wife will be mad at him, because she believe her husband is wasting money on what those not really worth it.

If the Op is not addicted, i see no reason why he should be hiding it from his wife that he is not a gambler, nothing is bad in gambling but don't just be addicted to gambling.

This happens if relatives, wife or parents can accept and understand what they have done in gambling because some people really think gambling is a bad activity and are underestimated.
If we are gamblers, we must know that most people do gamble for entertainment and to have fun, unlike those who only understand that gambling is bad.

But threatening someone to stop gambling is not a good thing because gambling is a choice and the more we restrain gamblers, the more difficult it will be for that gambler to be advised.

It's best if we tell our wife we have a problem so she can help us think of ways to solve it. Openness in the household is needed so that husbands and wives can help each other if one of them needs help. But often, husbands or wives harbor their problems and don't tell their partners until their partners know the real problem. And there are many cases where after the partner knows the real problem, they both get into fights that can lead to divorce and this has happened a lot everywhere. That's why every time we have a problem, we should immediately tell it to our partner so we can solve it. After all, two heads would be better than one.

When we are already married then we must obey our promises and vous which is when we are saying that we will love our wife till death do as part then we must obey that. And that will happen once we don't have any lying or secrets from our wife. And in gambling once we notice that everytime we gamble we cannot control ourselves to make a way to gamble again.and again. Do we must tell to our wife so that they can help us to control ourselves.

I believe it will be good if the man listens to his wife because it will sustain their marriage and for his gambling lifestyle to be a serious concern to his wife that means he plays a lot of gambling which there might be lot of loses which the wife didn't find it good. If he is into gambling too much it is better for him to quit,  because gambling is not a job one has to depend on as a source of income to take care of his family. And who knows if he is gambling with the amounts  that is si high as his income.

Sometimes when women are having much concern about their partner lifestyle it could be that the lifestyle is not bringing any favour but have a bad effect.  I  feel the human is also doing a great job to correct her husband from the part that  may not be really helpful to the man. I am sure if the man was to be playing gambling responsible the wife we did not have any issues with it, but for the wife to hold him at the neck to quit that means the gambling life style is something serious.

Isn't it fascinating how those nearest to us, armed with a profound awareness of our well-being, often see the long-lasting effects of our choices clearer than we do? Addiction, such as gambling, sends waves affecting not just the individual but those around them. Thus, concern voiced by a loved one is not simply disapproval of gambling, but an empathetic response to a potential hazard.

Rather than seeing this as a restriction, let's consider it as a valuable viewpoint to balance our decisions. This shift can catalyze healthier habits, in gambling and beyond.