Topic: How do you play online/offline without your wife or family knowing it? - page 8. (Read 1838 times)

Just be honest with your wife and tell her that you are in betting, but that’s for entertainment only and you are betting on your extra money. That way, she will never have to argue on you anymore. And as a tip, whenever you won from gambling, treat your wife too. That way, you won’t feel guilty gambling some of your funds.

If it's not an activity that you can share honestly with your partner, then maybe you are doing too much of it or should work on being more open in that relationship. As long as it is just for fun and done with a relatively small budget that you're able to stick to within an allocated time then it should not harm anyone. Going the route of trying to hide it or even being deceptive about it is a very slippery, dangerous slope to go down. If it's ever found out, then it's more likely to break their trust in many other areas, especially when you've been denying it at various times. You should really consider being more truthful because there should be no shame in it if you have it under control, some people play video games and some people like to spice up a sports game by adding a little bet.

I never have to hide my gambling habits from my wife. In fact, I think she bets more than I do in betting. Only she bets with friends and co-workers while I do bet online.

It is better if the wife knows your gambling habits because it involves funds for your family. She can control you if you are going overboard on betting and already risking your family's future. If you cannot do that, it is a matter of time before your family fails. If you hide it and you got busted, that will break her trust in you.


When you get busted, it is harder to explain the second phone. She might even think you are cheating on her because of the second phone. She might not believe that the phone is for gambling.

If your wife or family does have a problem with it then maybe you should place your family first, respect their decision and at the same time try and get over your gambling habits because you do understand that if it causes tension, it creates problems, if it's not healthy for your family and your relationship, you can try and avoid it and only do it once in a while with your friends on a vacation. I do believe it's essential to have entertainment, but ofcourse if it's causing problems in my personal life, I would rather avoid it. * Considering your family is genius in finding you out!*

I don't understand that either. In my opinion, if a person hides something from his closest people, it means that he understands that when they find out about his actions, they will be disappointed in him. Gambling is not something illegal or immoral which is why I think it is perfectly normal to tell your wife about it.

Personally, I prefer complete trust in the family. It is unacceptable to me if my wife does something without my knowledge. That's why I also hold this position.

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Well, gambling/betting online or offline doesn't have to be that difficult to hide actually.
You an go incognito mode when you are gambling online and use crypto casino websites.
For offline based casinos I don't think your wife would be following you. So she won't know it anyway.
But the point is that why do you want to hide it from your wife. You can simply talk to her about it and come to a conclusion.

Well for starters, you just do not tell them that you engage in gambling in the first place.

I remember my brother used to gamble whenever he needed cash for his education and materials. He never uttered a single word to anyone (except me) and whenever he wins, he would just flat out invite his friends for some beer and drinks. My brother believes in the mentality that he should spend his winnings as soon as possible as the money he won from gambling should be spent immediately.

He did this for 3 years until he told this to my father. Though my father was also an avid gambler (cockfighting), we all just accepted it and moved on.

I have also told my friend before, that every father is a hero for his children and a father figure is a role good model, but he is still firm in his stance. Instead of want to have a child of strong character, I also wonder why he did that, and not just one friend in fact this case may also exist in every other gambler. Indications of addiction that can't distinguish between good or bad.

i personally think that having a personal phone for the gambling purpose lol. it must be using pennies to bet. i meant if you are using big amounts of money to do that and your wife knew about that and that will be a disaster. that's why saying it with your wife might become the best thing for now. if you can be a honest person and im sure she will give a positive feedback about that as long as you have not surpassed your limit

In my case I am not married and my family gives me a fairly amount of privacy when comes to what I do with my money, so burning some satoshis in a casino should not be a problem in my case.

If you want an advice on how to keep your bets secret, then you could listen to the matches you bet instead watching them on TV/internet, it is least obvios this way since you would be wearing earphones. In an extreme case you can also only place your bets on your phone while you are outside your home and away from your wife, then when you come home you listen to the match to know whether you won money or not.

However, as other have said you should talk about this with your partner somehow. If you cant trust your wife with your habits then who can trust on this world?
She may not like it but there is a chance you both can reach an agreement , otherwise if she discovers all this on her own it would be worse.

Whatever happens, wish you good luck.  

I don't think it will bring welfare in his life. Because gambling is a bad habit.  And when he buys a phone and secretly uses it to gamble, his mind won't be on his family.  Then his family will start suspecting him more and there will be turmoil in his family over this matter . So I would say you try to quit gambling it will bring something better feeling in your life and it will save your money

If I understood correctly he told his family that he is gambling and also do drugs to which his kids knew about it? He dont know what he is doing.

Whats worse is that if his kids thinks taking illegal drugs is normal.  Every father is  hero to their kids, whatever father do, the kids think its cool.

I always act normal, even though it's hard because of the emotions that arise in the brain when I gamble on a losing position, my family will not suspect the slightest if act normal as usual. By the way I have a crazy friend, he told his family that he gambled drugs etc and even his son gambled with him I think his son was 9 and 5 years old, I don't know what was on his mind but he said if something was done secretly it would definitely get caught including gambling. The action he did was education for his son but it was too extreme.

No is never a crime but what Op is saying is if you have a wife that doesn't like you to gamble then to avoid the quarrel you have to keep it away from her so not to always quarrel and fight in the house because of that.



But you can't continue to live a life of deceit and hidding, for how long you would do that with a family without being caught. It is better you balance your betting habit and what financial responsibility you have to do in the family. You don't expect a wife not to argue when you have not provided the necessary obligation in the family and you gamble the little money away without any winning.

Wives are friends for life until we are old and live always with us which I think is good and bad knowing each other even though it is a secret but in the end it will be known, so it's good to be honest.
I mean, if you're being honest and if he's angry, try to explain and reassure him that you'll stop when the time comes. And promise not to gamble often and just to have fun in your spare time and not to use kitchen money or family money, that way your wife will also remind you when playing too long.
because the wife will understand if we are honest and convincing to promise to stop in the process, and the only thing a wife can't forgive is infidelity and other than that there will be tolerance it all depends on her husband.

And if the wife still forbids and finally asks for a divorce, there is no other choice to do it by hiding and playing pretty, playing when outside the house or not when with the wife. And keep the gambling application or site as neat as possible so that the wife does not know it and there is no suspicion.
because eventually you too will stop.
and as long as you do it professionally take responsibility for everything and do it because you love your wife and children
You will do both very well, I'm sure everything will be fine. And if you choose to prefer gambling over your wife, that is folly.

I'm one of those who really feel that I should share everything with my partner, so I don't think hiding your gambling habits from your significant other is necessarily the best way to deal with it.
I mean, what if he / she finds out, and can't deal with it? What if your partner thinks you're a lying, cheating scum-bag for keeping it a secret? What if it were the other way around, and he / she were keeping the secret from you? Wouldn't you feel betrayed?

No. It's not a good thing having secrets in a serious relationship, period. Especially when you are already married. You need to put the relationship first. So the best thing for both of you to do is to come clean, for both of your sakes. It's all about trust, and that's an all-important ingredient in any relationship.

You won't enjoy your gambling journey completely if you will be hiding it from your wife. You will not feel comfortable betting when she's around so if I were you, I will just tell her everything and just accept the things that she will be saying. You don't need to hide it as long as you are not causing chaos and distress to your family's finances.

Not an issue for me, i mostly always tell her that when i'm betting to something like this and that. Of course, i only tell her when i'm winning, and im not telling her before i bet, i always told here afterwards lol.
Actually, it doesnt matter to her since i'm buying what she wants online if there's budget for online shopping or so.

Did you mean we should gamble without your wife or family knowing it? why you need to hide it on the first place?

I think different person will have different personality, if your wife and family are open minded person, I don't think there's need to worry if you're gamble in front of them. Sometime they will also gamble since they need to relax of their stressful.

If you're live with not open minded person, then you're need to move away from your family and gamble only on your room in order to hide from your wife.

I never really felt the need to hide my gambling habits ever since I started gambling. I guess it helps that I use my own money so that I don't feel like hiding my gambling habits.  am sure it's different with married people since they have more responsibility than a single man but(this is purely my opinion) if you have a wife I feel like you need to communicate this gambling hobby of yours to her.