Topic: How Problem Gambler Feels After Losing - page 7. (Read 1625 times)

Here is a documentary video about a person who happen to fall to gambling addiction.

Bright Lights: what one woman's 25-year gambling addiction really cost

The documentary is about the devastating impact of gambling addiction on a woman named Sharon.  The detailed information regarding the film can be found in the article titled:
Bright Lights: an animated exploration of the devastating grip of poker machines

The video shows, how Sharon got hooked on the Poker Machine (also called pokies), and her feeling and experience during the process and time of gambling addiction.  I hope we can find an important lesson and have more understanding of how a person gets addicted to gambling.

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I hope that will be the case but often times the worse scenario always takes place.  Instead of learning from our mistakes, the mistakes often trigger us to commit other mistakes such as chasing losses and post-loss speed.  Then when we keep on losing, depression comes in.  Just like what aioc stated due to the early winnings we are baited to believe a fallacy that if we keep on gambling, we will eventually recover our losses but it often times never happen.

Addicted people can be depressed if they lose to gambling, nobody like to lose, but being addicted will make them to overlook and forget about the loss very fast if compared to people that are not addicted at all, but that is just one stage in gambling for addicts, the end result for being an addict will be more brutal than just losing alone, the reason not to be addicted.

It all depends on how much you are paid monthly and how much you put into gambling monthly. Assuming you are paid $1000 monthly, you spend $50 on gambling while the rest which is $950 is used for savings and daily spending, that is still good. If a person like that lose to gambling, the loss would be little, from the $50 that he budgeted for gambling, he can devide it into $2 dollars for each gambling and he will gamble just $25 times throughout the whole month. Like me, just during weekend and using $10 to gamble weekly is not a stress for me, even if I lose, I do not feel bad at all, but I win than lose.

From all clear indications this thread can serve as one basically. I have to tried to understand something that was biting me within myself and it sound as therapy to cover those spaces. I love gambling, i was an addict of pool, whereby going to local shop and betting center around locality to bet but when i noticed this strong failure each time i became more stronger to bet the more so i wasn't helping myself physically and mentally because i believe and with past example of others i could dig out Gold from its spot but never do i know i was sinking more and more. i called and being counseled by my Uncle who is perfectly doing well in life.

After which it took me time to readjust have a normal life just like others. While in this forum i never place a bet that i can't control my feeling or forget about the little fund i deposited in a site, i don't mostly deposit what i can't forget about by reducing tension and pressure.


To me anyone who chase losses is on the influence of Greed, I have also being in same scenario so learning to limit their hunger to gain make is gain is one of the major key factor they have to apply.


Anyone who watches football and anticipate in any other sporting activities sees themselves as a champion who is perfect and can predict or gives some correct scores about gambling is another major problem hindering and affecting us.

Honestly, I think, all of us here who like gambling especially those who are often directly involved have experienced problems like the ones you describe from this thread.
this discussion is very interesting, most of us would deny that we can actually be said to be addicts or have been addicts. (including myself) gambling is a complex problem, involving considerable feelings and emotions.
in the winning phase, we will want an even bigger win, this is called human instinct or being overwhelmed by greed, as well as when we lose, we often think that victory is almost close, that's why the gambling session continues. it is without realizing that we are actually chasing losses. 

Well, in my case, experience has taught me the importance of having a deeper understanding of gambling, awareness, self-control, responsibility, can help me break free from addiction. at this time I only gamble if I have time after work activities and even then mostly only bet on football.

I don't expect whoever lost the bet from that last year champions League final between Liverpool and Real Madrid to feel bad because the both teams are equal to each other, although Liverpool had some many early minutes changes to start the lead early which may be the reason anyone who lost would feel sad. Unfortunately, Real Madrid Vinicius Jr took the chance for them at the second half of the game and that was the only goal thereafter. So you half to take defeat not too disheartening, afterall it was real Madrid playing at the finals and it is risky to bet against Madrid at any finals for the records sake.

if you are an easy person to get money then the value of $500 is not a problem for you, but if your economic condition is not good then $500 is a lot of money and of course Real Madrid already looks to be the winner because of the strength of Karim Benzema, the result of the match will be very different when this player does not contribute on the field because the main strength of real madrid is in an attacker who has quite good skills.

You've got a point there @noormcs5. Where there's counseling for gamblers like AAs have, it becomes difficult to control these issues because this is money we are talking about here. In a scenario where you loss big, something inside tells you to stake higher on your next bet because for sure you'd win! At the end of the day, the odds aren't in your favor then you become depressed.
 
Humans find it hard to be truthful to themselves especially gamblers. It's hard for a man who is a chronic gambler to accept he has an addiction that's where these counseling groups come in.

The OP, as others have said, I agree that every loss is disappointing especially when we believe we can win the bet. An example is when we bet on Manchester United against Brighton, I was sure Manchester United won but in the end they lost and couldn't do much.

But whether the disappointment will always be remembered at all times? certainly not. I've lost hundreds of times, but I don't even want to remember it for too long because it's useless. I can also think that losing can sometimes make gamblers more curious and make them even more addicted, but if we get to this stage then I'm sure there will soon be problems especially regarding finances and failure to control emotions in gambling.

Sir, you have said almost everything, maybe the only thing I can add is what was said "Be honest with yourself" Because there are many gamblers who cannot accept it in themselves that they are addicted and have become very addicted to gambling, maybe there is nothing others planted in his mind that gambling is the only way for him to earn or get rich even though in real life there are many ways. Second, it's also different to interact with the community so that your mind is not focused on the thing that you lost a lot in gambling. So that you don't get stressed out and end up depressed. It is also good to change your environment around you.

This is what a gambler can feel when he loses a large amount in a gamble.

1. You feel weak or tired.

2. You are always sad.

3. You are thinking about where to get money so that you can gamble again to make up for it.

4. That you will also be stressed because of your defeat.

People who play gambling, of course, will feel disappointed and sad if they experience defeat at the gambling table.
But the disappointment will probably vary, especially for gamblers who use a lot of money.
And for gamblers who don't use a lot of money, it may not feel like it.
Also, addicted gamblers will not feel any negative feelings but may want to recover from that loss another day.
But it's natural for us to get that negative feeling if we lose because we can feel sad about losing money at the gambling table.

I was always a Liverpool supporter in the Champions League final between Liverpool and Real Madrid but sadly I had to finish the game in tears.  I lost betting like 500 dollars for the first time in my life.  To say that this was the largest amount of unexpected losses in my life.  Sadio Mane and Mohamed Salah did well that day but Vinicius Junior's finish brought Liverpool fans to tears.

they appear to not looking for help but its because they hide the addiction from their family which in the end, it becomes too late when its finally blurt out. too late, they've been into gambling too deep and money dried up.

It is really a big problem not just in gambling but also in other aspects in life such as sports and other activities if we can't accept being lost. If we lose, then we lose. Nobody is born to become a winner all the time. If we lose in a racing match or a game or debate or in whatever activity, then we just have to accept it.

But not accepting a loss in gambling could pose a bigger problem. That's a terrible tendency in gambling because that could mean never-ending spending just to get back and recover one's loss.

if gambling has become an addictive necessity it will interfere with his own life. They will have no limits in gambling even if they lose most of their money. Those who are addicted will believe that they will surely win even after many losses.
The more he loses, the greater his interest in gambling. This is a psychological disease that needs to be rehabilitated and requires the help of the environment and other people. they couldn't cure it themselves because there was no limit anymore.
I find some addicted gamblers have a messy life and are too quick to be emotional or temperamental, it will be more dangerous and can lead to criminal acts if it can't be controlled.

The problem is that addictive gamblers do not want to have any knowledge, they are not disciplined and they show no responsibility in gambling, that's why we called them addictive gamblers. If they had all these qualities they would not be addictive in the first place. These additive gamblers are like patients who need careful treatment by the doctor but it is ignored because no one thinks that addiction is a disease. Everything is of the view that gambling addiction is a bad habit that should be cured by the gambler himself without any help.

Addicted gamblers are afraid to seek help because the society reject them if they found out that they are addicted to gambling. Even their relatives will not be willing to help them and even bring them down more. People usually mistreat addicted gamblers because they think they will just acquire their bad habit or ask them some money.

A community built in helping these gamblers will slowly break the stereotype and make them not feel bad for themselves.

Learning lesson on things like this is a bit hard to attain. This kind topic has been recycled many times and probably there’s thousands or more post about feeling of problem gambler because this is common when you are dealing with gambling. Gambling is design to be addictive and most of us know what’s do’s and don’t yet we are still playing because we can’t stop our self to play and chase for profit even though our excuse is we just want to have fun on gambling.

The main problem was implementing what we learned and not just simply knowing them. Applying those knowledge is the hardest part.

Tbh mate I've been there chasing losses as well and yes it didn't turn out good to me and i end up massive losses afterwards. So i decided to quit that time for the sake of my health and etc because its like you're always greedy for the opportunity but you always lose.Lol and you always getting mad when someone trying to bother you even it's important.. That's why i took a long break after i realise what I'm doing even in general. Hopefully i don't have such mindset that even they are keep losing money they continue.  

It is a community full of gamblers and by that, for sure we can get knowledge from the learnings and mistakes from the other people by that we can avoid and lessen the possible risk, but again it is on the player's responsibility to play even though we want them to stop if they have the urge to play we can't do anything with that. It is easy to play gambling and wage but it is hard to lose and experience a lot of mixed feelings that might give anxiety to the person. That's why gambling consciously.

Agree with what you said, but when it comes to saying things like this it might be easier if it involves small-scale money there but when it comes to big-money maybe I agree with @BITCOIN4X.
Indeed, in this case gambling is not the right place to get money, but on the other hand we will also feel bad when we lose, even though we are aware that the game, especially in gambling, the ratio of losses is clearly greater than winning.