I have a question, that is, when I replied to a post, then if someone quoted my message, how could I know it without checking the original thread? I've been bothered by the question for some time and it makes me feel kind of lonely here since I cannot feel others' feedback on my words except by merits or deleted notice.
When you login, at the left top corner, there are three options;
Show unread posts since last visit, Show new replies to your post and Watchlist.
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These three options will help you, while the second option notifies you when there is a reply on the thread you are following; the watch list allows you to customise how you see them. I had same issue when I was a newbie, but these options solved it for me. However, some users also subscribe to telegram notification bot for same purpose.
one of my friends quit because she envied others for their merit coz she had zero. Though I do think her words really don't deserve merit, her confidence wasn't satisfied anyway.
If her purpose of coming to the forum is to be merited, she is right to leave since she was not recieveing them.
There was actually when I was making posts to gain merits, if such posts didn't get merited, I became less human to myself. But after I took my time to read threads and understand the purpose of the forum, I automatically changed my own purpose. Then, merits started coming naturally, even on some posts I least expected them. Advice her to return, if getting merits is her problems, she should not coward-away, she should return and face her problems by learning, then earning (merits).