Topic: My girlfriend still mises her ex, what do i do? - page 2. (Read 8693 times)

Don't listen to this guy...

We need more background information.

Are you good looking/handsome/attractive? Scale of 1 through 10 what would most girls say you are? How old are you? Are you immature? Is she immature and wants to party? Is she actually smart or is she annoying and all about herself? What build are you? How tall are you? Are you really funny? Are you shy and that is turning her off? Was her ex an asshole type of guy that rough housed around a lot and she wants you to do that?

There are so many things that play into this. my current girlfriend of 6 years (6 years tomorrow) loves everything about me. I am funny most of the time, serious when I need to be, I goof around and forget things like a regular guy would, I'm not over protective of her in any capacity. We live together for past 2 years, I am 6 foot tall, good looking(generally most of my friends who are girls agree), funny, supportive, agressive, blah blah blah. I am basically everything and I have no qualms about being a little bit of every personality. I can be argumentative or I can be agreeable, it depends on what is called for. I can be stubborn or I can change my mind.

A lot of different situations come up in a relationship that sometimes are hard to know what to do in the moment. Luckily I have dated a few other girls before Rachel, I had a serious relationship before her too that almost got to two years. I am now 25 and Rachel will be 25 soon.

If you seriously gave me a list of a bunch of things I could give you a really solid answer. I am litterally the guy everyone comes to with their problems whether I want them to tell me or not. Every single person I ever talked with feels like they can open up to me. That is because I don't outwardly judge anyone most of the time(unless its close friends and we can handle eachothers BS hehe).

But for real you need to supply more info that she misses her ex. You might need to learn how to get her to move on, and if you can't then there is nothing you can do.

Screw her one last time and then walk away
This can only end in tears for you

Its okay friend!

If you are afraid of losing her, just get a app called "tinder". And see how many matches you get, then verify yourself if you want to stick around with this chick.

Heres a link I think that will help a bit?

http://thoughtcatalog.com/christopher-hudspeth/2014/04/18-ugly-truths-about-modern-dating-that-you-have-to-deal-with/#0o5mzSYmA2kbJ0ST.01

It sounds like you're not tripping her attraction triggers.  Fortunately, that is fixable.

I recommend that you evaluate the relationship objectively.  Ignore lust for now, as that always fades with time.  Is she the person you'll be happy with as a life partner for decades to come?  Is she honest, open, happy, caring, hardworking, engaged in life, active, interested in keeping up her health and fitness, genuinely interested in the same things you are?  Or is she a boring, slovenly alcoholic who sits in front of the TV whenever possible.

If she's not so great, then use any excuse you want, and leave her.

If she's a keeper,  then you need to fix this.  It sounds like you're probably a nice guy, and that's probably why she is still thinking about her ex.  Girls are not physically programmed to be attracted to nice guys.  The fastest way to get a girl to dump you is to frequently say, "whatever you want is fine with me."  Trust me, if she gets her way all the time because you won't express an opinion, she will never have the kinds of feelings for you that she seems to have for her ex.

Girls are attracted to leaders.  I'm not talking about jerks who try to boss them around.  I'm talking about men who are actively engaged in life, interested in the details of everyday life, planning ahead, making decisions, making suggestions, caring about the results.

While men are attracted to a woman's physical characteristics, women are mostly attracted to a man's behavior.  While she might enjoy getting her way for a while, if you let her be the leader in the relationship, she will eventually get bored, grow to hate you, and leave.

It's fine for her to still be hung up on her ex.  However, if you want to keep her, you need to be the kind of alpha male that she will be even more hung up on.  Again, don't make the mistake of thinking that an alpha male is a jerk who always tries to get his way.  The true alpha male is simply a leader.  You plan things ahead, considering everyone's best interests.  You make decisions about what the best course of action might be.  You propose those plans before she proposes her own plans.  You listen to her feedback on your suggestions.  You lead the negotiations to arrive at a solution acceptable to all parties.  You lead the family -- every little decision, all day, every day.  You have two jobs -- protect and lead the family unit.  You focus on doing those two jobs well, and before you know it, she will be putting her energy into loving you rather than crying over someone else.

Be the man.

you need to get out of there.
that is all.

Oh, just ditch the bitch and go out and get laid!

Very insightful on female nature. I will quote this and keep this forever in my personal log.

Just fuck the shit out of her, at the same time scope for a new chick whos actually single.

Game over.

Well, first of all talk to her about it, it's best for your relationship if you communicate with her. Then just wait i guess, if she loves you then she'll get over it, if not then it's better for both of you guys to end it. Wish you luck

OK, time to stop whining and dump the bitch.

She is playing you.

I would break it off and see if she comes back. Give the relationship a break for a few months and see if she hasn't run back to the other guy.

lol. get a new one.

Take her to see her ex-bf going out with his hot new gf. Show her how her ex-bf has forgotten about her already. That should do it. She will move on.  

Freelove.  Have both.  Having an open relationship doesn't make yours with someone any less special.

seems from reading this thread what the consensus is. good luck man, that's a tough spot to be in.

Get new one.
If she wants her ex back she isn't good for you.

that's the key right there.

Yea... It sounds the best possible action he can take. Well... If you REALLY into her, I think you'll do anything for her. BUT, if she still see her ex the way she did. Leave her. Unless you're masochist, don't continue that relationship.

Get out, and fast!