Topic: my mum want to make a lot of money, money can fix everything, me hurt not import (Read 472 times)

i re-read the OP and all of his responses again..
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and my first opinion last week was that his mother would not let him use the income he generates to repair the truck so he can work more to earn more to progress the family without the risk,
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but now after re reading all his responses he seems to be trying to find excuses to give up earning money at all.. thinking that working just for a clean house and meals is not worth it.

he is not interested in idea's on how to convince his mother the truck needs repairing. he just wants to state that the truck is the reason he should stop going to work and how his mother tells him to keep working

i think the OP is new to adulthood and doesnt realise all adults should be generating an income.
stop blaming the mother for telling him to work. and just plan how to overcome his own objections like the supposed risk to life(by fixing the truck) and then work continuously to progress the families prospects

reading his other topics. he talks about blaming his youtube entertainment obsession for raising his dopamine levels to not feel pain, meaning he has no excuses to take it easy and stop working. he wants the pain so they he can have reason not to work

doesnt he realise people even if he pretends to have a bad leg. there hare people with no legs at all that still work.. so dont play games acting like a bad leg is reason not to work or a bad car...

jsut get the truck fixed and work your life into prosperity

Op may not have written his thread in the sound of the event happened. He may have done it out of his reaction. Reading the thread, you'd think Op's mum is raising her voice on OP every single time, which may not be true. And we all are expected to respond to the thread using the same tone Op added to his write up. But the fact remains that we are not presently in the place where this occurs. Women, especially mothers repeat complaints to their kids in a way that now sounds harsh to the child. They wouldn't allow you a breathing space. In all conversations, she'd endeavor to bring up the same matter you've been thinking of solving all night long. It now gets to an extent where the child gets fed up with too many complaints and starts to react angrily, as the conversation with his mom pisses him off, and when sharing his experience he'd then try to off all the stress the mother's complaints has been causing him.

I think it's one reason OP's tone on his mum sounds like he's got a helicopter parent that doesn't give him freedom. From the context of his writing OP happened to be the good son who wouldn't say anything when his mum is talking. But, it would have been better if OP mentioned the risks of driving a broken-down truck on the streets. Mothers don't seem to understand risks, they want to get what they want regardless of anything and imagine all would be right. Hence, risking the life of the child, however, no situation is worth rushing. I'd advise Op not to rush things, and act whenever he feels like it because he's the one at risk, not the mother. If anything bad, God forbid, happens, his mum would also feel a greater pain. For the love, always give her listening ears, then make plans on how you can solve the problem. Remember don't stress yourself a lot, if the problem seems to be bigger than you, which I don't think so, look for different tasks to keep you busy.

It's a very very weird topic, and a very very weird message. I have to say that something that we need to focus on and we need to do a lot better personally. Lets assume that this is not really a thing that should matter and we could consider this as real message and I believe that we should not consider the problems of people as fake, but if we take it for real then if she is telling you to make some more money then it's probably not for greed but because you do need money, and it's true that everyone needs money.

If the truck is the issue, find some extra work and you should not really focus on the truck and find some other odd jobs and make that money somehow and it will definitely benefit you, then you can fix the truck and do better.

In our subject, it's not just any other people but it was the OP's mom. With that said, they are in the same shoes. The OP's position is driver, and her mom understands or already knows this. This is why she is commanding the OP to drive the truck. OP didn't say that her mom is only going to use the money for her personal needs but it is said the money will be used to fixed everything. Therefore, I think her mom also cares about him.

It's just that the truck condition isn't good and it's dangerous to continue using it. All can make a mistake, but each deserves a chance, especially if the person has a special connection to us. For now the OP needs to disobey his mother and fix the truck first.

sometimes people don't understand our position because they are not in the same shoes as us. they only care about their interests and problems, they don't care about us as the people they expect to work with. all they expect is how we can complete the work without asking how we are or how we can complete the work. people like this are selfish and actually not worth working with.

i understand that your mother needs money and has many things to pay for, but isn't your safety more important than the money? if she feels that your safety is not important and is more concerned with how you can make money, she has actually lost the motherly figure within her.

It's obvious that your mother is blinded by the power of money. Although it's undeniable that money is the most in demand basic commodity these days, but we should also realize that not everything can be bought with money, like safety and security. You only lived once so make sure to value your life and protect your safety over the greed for money. Most probably, a heart to heart talk with her can resolve the issue.

They say mother knows everything and mother knows best for their children. But based on what you've shared OP, its like your mother turns the opposite. But everything will work and change for the better, as long as you both understand each other's feelings and situations.

I think and on the other hand after all it is your mother, and she has the right to tell her son to help her in any way including earning money for living needs or to pay for something maybe. Are you the only child in the family? If you are then I would consider it normal because no one else can do it except you as the only son.

On the other hand I understand that the situation is quite stressful for you and maybe you feel a little uncomfortable with your mother's will, but the other thing is that I think this is a must that you have to do, only the truck seems to be the only tool for your family to earn money so it is quite natural I think if your mother insists on telling you to immediately operate it to earn money, On the other hand, I think in this case there is a bit of a concern for your safety in that the truck you have is not qualified or suitable for driving, and I think you can explain that to your mother by saying that safety is more important, and after that you can fix it first and then you can start operating it if it is suitable for use.

That's your mum, how old are you and your mum is? It seems that she needs money so give that to her, is it going to be a long drive? If you can't agree to her then ask her a bit portion of that money that she'll earn. It's not going to hurt you to ask since you are her son.
Anyway, I am guessing that this drive and earning money for both of you have been done already. So, if it was a city drive then it was manageable but if it was a long drive then you have to do all of the repairs and ask her to cover some of it since she has used it for some business.

Does your mom has a lot of loans that she's being buried already and need to pay all of them? Because I don't see any reason why she needs a lot of money, or else she's having a high greed for money which I think is not good at all. And for that to make it happen, you have to compromise your safety over the last money you can get despite of the danger that could happen to you if she insist you to ride with that old truck.

What you need to do is to talk to her seriously. There's no other solution to that so she will stop nagging you for that last money. Money can still be gained in the future, but life doesn't have a rewind so make sure to live your life well. Safety first over love of money.

It doesn't sound like the job you have driving this truck guarantee you a lot of money in counterpart, otherwise you would have extra money to repair everything on your truck. Maybe it's time to find another job? A safer one! Isn't there anything else you can do to bring income to your family?

Health and physical integrity are always above money and material goods! These are the most precious treasures and gifts we received from God! If your task is potentially harmful to your life, don't do this! However, it can't be used as an excuse to not work on something else. It's not a reason to remain in a comfort zone expecting the world around you will solve all your problems magically.

Explain to your mother you can't work with the truck, because it's damaged, potentially damaging you as well. But tell her you are going to look for side jobs and other opportunities on the local jobs market you can make an income from. Also, you can say you are open to suggestions...

And let it clear you will do the best you can under your currently limits and possibilities. Forget about that bullshit of having to make a lot of money.

I think the reason is the money itself, we know that this world runs on money, so if you lack it financially you will probably suffer a lot. People don't value their life or the others cause they are still there, they know that you won't be leaving this world any time soon so they are being careless. We should not let our guard down as accidents may occur at times, which I hope not, but eventually will come so we need to be ready and try to be cautious every time. From OP's post, we know that a parent should know what is best for their children and would do anything for their safety, I understand that having a financial problem is hard, but it would be better to prioritize the lives of your loved ones

From what I understand, you both have the truck but because she wants money to fix things, she is asking that you drive the truck to make money. Well, I can’t say much on this because I don’t know how much the truck generates for you guys, but if the money is too small, look out for other legit means of making money. The word today has increased opportunities (I think), so, you can learn a new skill that is in demand and be valuable with it. Hopefully this is something that can help you.

Getting money is hard these days I know but one should not enhance his desire so much that he ruin his life to earn money. Money comes and goes but life of a person if once end then it never comes back.

Some People never think about the life of others but wants money, I don't know why there give such importance to money instead of humans. If they start honouring human instead of money then this world will be a great place to live.

If a child share all these circumstances to his mother politely then may be she understands this matter and then not put burden on his child. There are lots of other ways of earning so try to adopt another one but don't play with your life.

Ignorant of acknowledging when one is going wrong is always accompanied with excuses and usually unrepairable if one is not sighted and endivoired to understand its paths.
Mom could be right or wrong but deep in, you know way Is right to do.

Money can fix everything but not at the detriment of yourself and others to make it happens because nobody gets all the money in life at a stretch.

Tell your mom to calm down that you and her can't risk you both life because of how desperate she is to make money. Is someone that has life will hustle for money not the way round when someone has lost his or her life in a mistake that would have simply avoided.

My suggestion to you at this time is to keep telling your mum that the truck is not in order and there is no way someone would risk his or her life on it because of the belief that money can fix everything. Life should come first before money

It is not that your mother is doing anything bad. She is actually highlighting the reality. It is not possible to do anything for money. As life goes on, money is no substitute. But you should work hard knowing the goal. You should not get involved in any work in the dark.

To hell with it all...!!!
"Money is not everything, but everything needs money. And it's true that money can't guarantee us happiness, but when you don't have a certain amount of money, it's hard to live a happy life, let alone smile. So earn as much money as you can."

A mother certainly wants the best for her child's life. And a mother who is not financially well-off, they really hope that one day their child can change the family's condition financially, so that their life can be secured. But it is difficult for us to get happiness, if the measure of happiness is the happiness of others. Because I also feel quite uncomfortable and a little annoyed when my mother tries to compare me with other people's children. Even though I have tried to do my best for her. It's just that in the process I often fail. And I really hope that when I fail, I get a support system from my mom, not comparing me to other people. It just made me even worse.

you fear for your life but still not willing to repair the truck..
do you see how you are not helping yourself

repair the truck.. get on with your life and prosper by doing more jobs without avoiding jobs due to fear.

repair the truck. it will pay you back later with more risk-free jobs. economically and socially its a win win

risking my life away? can I deny it? I had experienced near dead circumstance not once but twice! I was nearly commit a deadly accident due to brake system failure on the road down the hill, I was so shocked I was able to survive by avoiding falling down the hill to my death, but would I do that again? of course not! Not only I survive the near-dead-accidents, I'm also in denial that I didn't dead but someone else close to me dead instead during the lockdown, just like in a war where the dead soldier die for us by taking the bullets while allowing the remaining soldiers to live through tomorrow, this is chaos, a total chaos, words cant explain the military complex we experience today! which make the sub-prime crisis look like a total pebble in comparison.

ok then do nothing and just cry like a baby about how your mother wants to work you to death or risk your death just driving to work
you are driving yourself to be bottom by doing nothing

if you dont want the truck fixed, then fine.. just dont complain and blame.
if you are working then, the money is handed to YOU from the customers. if YOU then hand it to your mother but dont get things fixed to allow YOUR life/business to prosper while the funds are in your hand. YOU are the one enabling your mothers behaviour, no one else

if you are not interested in fixing your business tools, and instead prefer to feed your mother. then YOU will drive yourself to the bottom