Topic: my mum want to make a lot of money, money can fix everything, me hurt not import - page 3. (Read 486 times)

There's a phrase "Many of Children A Lot of Sustenance", that's why there are some parents doesn't care with their children and use them to make money. No doubt money is the most important thing in this world, if you have friends and good family, they're either set boundaries with you or criticized you for lack of financial. But if you rich, there are a lot people who want to become your friends and even become your family.

Sorry if some people triggered with my words, but that's the reality.

In this day and age, no matter where we look, money is really part of our survival. The problem is that most people have a hard time finding money because they also have a hard time finding a job. That's the reality that we have to face in our lives as well.

That's why, when you are an employee or we have no choice but to follow our superiors because we are paid, that's the way it is. Let's not expect that there will be a fair fight. In short, I agree that money can fix everything, but not everything can be fixed by money.

Reading this looks like a very asian culture which parents push their offspring to their limit for the money they need. I have a mum like this that keeps pushing me to study and work at the same time just to help her on saving money that she is giving to his mother(my grandma) and her brothers(uncle). She is thinking of me like a tool to get income even until now that I have my own family she still demanding me to give most of my salary to her which I already refused.

Parents should be the one providing for their offspring and I really hate being a victim of poverty transfer from parents to child. Parents shouldn’t start a family if they still have some backlog burden on his parents and siblings.

Obviously this is quite a difficult situation. But no matter how difficult life is, we have to keep moving forward and keep working to make money and also to survive. But maintaining life safety is the most important priority. Because what is the meaning of money if we can't enjoy it. But there are times in life when we don't have many choices and can't even choose. In this situation of course I can't comment anything. But if it turns out there are other safer options then make money from there. What you can do in a situation where you can't choose is just to be more careful.
Believe me, your economic situation will get better when you start living your current life better and remain patient and grateful for what you are doing now.

Any freight transport loaded with cargo is doubly dangerous, because the braking distance increases and the load on the vehicle also increases. And in the event of an accident, you can receive fines and penalties. But transport services are profitable everywhere, why did they bring your car to such a bad condition?

Its looking hard but try to understand that this hard time will end soon and I have saw numerous individuals who are now rich people who first did some hard work like you. The inflation is so higher that your mum will definitely force you to earn more and more therefore don't take it as stress.

Other thing is your health which is most important and your mum should understand this thing that if you become ill by doing such a hard job then she will spend all earned amount on your treatment therefore she should understand that money is important but a person's health also matters alot.

May be there is no job opportunity for female where you live and perhaps she is working at home to manage home activities so there can be lots of reason behind her strictness so I will suggest that understand the condition well and don't think bad about anyone

I dunno if this is some kinda symbolic tale or what, but it sounds like your mom is puttin' a crap ton of pressure on you to drive this busted truck, even though it's basically a death trap.  She's also makin you responsible for rakin' in a truckload of cash, which ain't fair one bit and  it ain't right for her to put you in this position.   

I'd suggest you to have a heart-to-heart with your mom about how this makes you feel.  Explain to her that you're freaked about drivin' this piece of junk and you ain't down with the crazy amount of responsibility shes droppin' on your shoulders.  She's gotta find some other ways to make bank, and she cant keep this money squeeze on you.

Seems like the main priority of OP's mother is money rather than the safety of her child, One way to distinguish a typical Toxic parent just like Human ATM and Retirement plan, Toxic parent's doesn't care how would you feel, they didn't even bother to ask you if it's okay for you to do it, what's important to them is money, more more money to come. if you ask me, they should not wait for something bad to happen to their children before they realize that what they are doing is wrong.

That's how money manipulates our mind. Everything includes money that's why it is very important to all of us because we can't live without it and Let's be realistic here. However, based on your interpretation, Seems like your mother doesn't even thinking about the situation and how you will feel, what's important to her is to generate an income even if it cost you harm and damage. give yourself a time and break for now and try to talk with your mother and just say all your thoughts about the way she treated you and how you really feel because sometimes they didn't know that it is too much for you. last thing, just set a limitation to yourself and learn how to refuse sometimes.

Understand you mom that money is really important, but also try to make her understand that the truck is not in good condition and if you push to make a round trip for it then you might get a problem since it could possibly broke down in streets then might face certain violation or worst you can put the life of other people in danger. Maybe you mom doesn't understand the truck condition that's why she think its fine to drove it for last time so a proper talk and maybe try to point out the issue personally then tell her that this is the issue that need to fix immediately. I know its hard to correct some people that doesn't understand the situation but its your mom so be calm on discussing the situation and try to make her know the condition since for sure everything will be fine with the issue you want to raise.

Your mum should understand that while try to chase money, she should also care about her safety. She doesn't need to force a bad truck into the road because it may become collateral damage to other road users.

Money is good but the love for it is bad as it leads to evil because you can take wrong decisions as a result of the chase for it. Health is wealth and the need to be alive is a more important goal to securing the future. Moreover, your mum would have been aged and should pass over certain responsibility to you regards to how to make money. She needs more rest and since you have volunteered to take up the business, she has to consider that you are younger with energy and can face challenges more than her. She only needs to build trust with you, guide you from the background with her experience.

do tell her that health is as important as money you are her child but I’m guessing that she treats you almost like as if you are her employee if the truck has already damage, driving it would just make it worse and would most likely harm you and your business in the long run your mother needs to reevaluate her priorities

Yes, money is important because everyone needs it, but human life is more important than money. Don't say that just because your mom said it, you can tell her that it's too dangerous to drive because it's broken. Talk to your mom properly and you can also find a way if it is still possible or not so you know what to do.

when on a low income money is needed and many repairs are ignored because bills are the priority

from the sounds of it:
your mother wants the bills paid to ensure continued security of living in her house. so she lets the maintenance of the truck slip due to not affording to do both bills and repairs

what you need to do is to calculate the most priority repair.. im not suggesting steal the entire months income to buy a another truck. but work out whats the smallest amount possible to pay for a repair that will de-risk truck problems. such as making you feel safe to drive it

can you take equipment out of the truck to make it lighter.. is every extra weight of the 'overload' really needed. .. thats one free option
tires and coolant are next on the list.
look to find estimates of costs for not new, but legal replacement tyres(enough tread) and cost out the fix for the coolant problem
is the coolant leaking from the radiator, the coolant tank(reserve/bottle) or a pipe. as that can make a huge difference to cost

negotiate with your mother that fixes are needed. and you have found the cheapest solutions. inform her that if the truck stops working, there is no ongoing income at all, and a new truck is more expensive than the current fixes, so investing a small amount of income to fix the truck, will keep the truck(and you) alive to support getting more income

remind your mother.. money does fix everything, including the truck

no one allow you to reject, do you not know it is very unacceptable to reject a request from a woman? do you not know how shameful it is to reject a proposal and everybody else laughing for the failure, do you not understand woman? You owe me the money, pay up the taxes, a lifetime of taxes money, do you get me? Pay it up!!!

What I can take away from your story is probably how important it is to make money. And this does not look at the situation or conditions. Whether in bad or unfavorable conditions, money still has to be found. But the important point I can get here is that working hard without knowing the conditions is indeed good. But if it could endanger lives, that's a different story. This of course must be avoided. Because what is meant by working hard without knowing the conditions, does not mean you have to risk your life. So it is certain that personal safety must remain a priority.

my mum want to make a lot of money, money can fix everything, me hurt not important.

So the truck is broken, the coolant is leaking the tyres is flatten and it is overloaded and dangerous to maneuver, but mum keep nagging must drive the truck for one last time and make the one last time money, must make a lot of a lot of money, money can fix everything, she said it, must drive the truck, she order me to drive the truck, it is she tell to do, but the one who would drive the truck is not her it is me, she want to make a lot of money but the one who would go and earn that hard earned money is, I need to work for that money not her, how is it even fair? Is it a priviledge? What is up???