Topic: my mum want to make a lot of money, money can fix everything, me hurt not import - page 2. (Read 486 times)

doing concession and all the shady thing in life? this is really not my cup of coffee btw, I want to live a productive life not going to do the trivial thing in life for what? for clean house and cooked meal, is it really worth it to race to the bottom?

Not all people have enough money for their daily usage and needs even though its a must for some changes and needs to be fixed, they just check it out if still capable and then afterward if still can they will neglect this for a while because it's not their priority to have this. We have different perspective in terms of parenting some people tell not it's the parent obligation to have support still with their children but somehow people keep saying once the children ready meet the matured age they must need to provide on their own because this serve as a lesson to their life and not become dependent to the people.

It's all depends on how to approach with the situation. If you leave with your parents it's a must you need to work and contribute to your house or if your solo you must provide all the things on your own.

Honestly, I'm quite sad to hear that there are still many parents out there who force their children to earn money for them, even though parents should be the ones who are responsible for their children until they are adults and really able to make money, but do you just live with them? just your mother, if yes then it is actually very natural for you to be responsible for your parents including your mother, you have to take more initiative and not be lazy so that you can make money very sincerely.

animal do animal thing. huh? but why. is wife always do this too??? why blackdragon is so frustrated?

I think your mother is too much. But that's how a mother is, she always encourages her child to continue working and earn money for life's needs. Especially if the family's economic situation is not good. So whether it's rain, heat or storm, it certainly won't be able to stop someone from continuing to make money. Therefore, it seems like you have to be able to strengthen your mentality. Because if the conditions are very, very unfavorable, your mentality and patience will definitely be tested.

Money is good but it can't fix everything there's the side that is psychological and emotional aspect that money cannot touch. I don't know but your mom and you because your values systemare different. You can help your mom fix her value system and help her have a better understanding about money and the physical and psychological aspect surrounding it.

I believe money is not everything but with lots of money, you can do almost everything. And probably this is where your mother is getting her mindset. But the worst thing is, you are her only way to make it happen, and it's sad to say that money is more valuable to her than the safety of his son. But maybe if you open your concerns to her, she will also learn to adjust and prioritize you more than her longing for money.

Safety over the greed for money. If you can explain it well to her, she might probably change her way of treating you, heart to heart talk is what you both need the most for now.

It sounds like you're feeling a sense of frustration and perhaps unfairness in the situation. It's important to find a balance between meeting family expectations and taking care of yourself. By having open communication and working together, you may be able to find a solution that ensures both financial stability and personal safety. If the situation becomes overwhelming, consider seeking guidance from a counselor or mediator who can offer support and help facilitate the conversation.

I still sense some kind of emotional pressure on your words. However, don't let yourself be propelled to do what may hinder or cause an accident. Your mom wants you to drive a scabbed truck, what if the truck got spoilt in the middle of the crossroad what would be your faith at that moment. I would say it is risky, money is important but at this stage she needs your more. Gradually save up some money and fix the truck then you can go out and make some money for the both of you.

Let your mom do it for you. If she is always after with the money and profits, and your safety is her last priority, then she is not a good and responsible mother in the first place. However, judging your mother is not my thing, but if she is nagging you to drive the truck knowing its bad condition, then you might lost your life in the process just to save for that one last money.

Not all risks should be given consideration to be taken. Sometimes you also have to evaluate it first before you decide to take the risk. But with your situation right now, you are putting your life in danger if you follow your mother's order, so tell her without offending her that this time, you have to save yourself first than to regret it later.

What I understand from the story is, you want to make your personal money by working on your own and not the one your mum is forcing you to. And if that's the story like then I will also support you because there nothing like making your personal money to support yourself and not depending on parents or spoon feeding from them. Because you will not stay with them forever so earlier is the best. But I will advise since your mum has a truck, you have to start from there because definitely she will give you small amount of money at the end of every trip.

And when you have gotten some reasonable amount then you can use it to start your own business and live independent life. Everyone start from somewhere.

Accidents do not care for the victim, and the good plans they have before they meet the accident. Mum believes that nothing will happen to you, but that can be wrong, she can be wrong because you can die in the process of trying to make that one last money, and instead of having more money to fix problems, there will now be more problems that require money. Safety is necessary to be considered every time and the risk should always be considered while trying to make money. Not all risk are worth taking because some can actually take your life.

I feel so bad about you cause honestly I was in the same position as you were a few years back.

The nagging and the constant feeling of making you feel like you should be listening to them instead of taking care of your welfare is just something you can't bear sometimes. In your case, I say you should look into fixing said truck first, no matter how much it would cost since at the same time, your mother should know as much that taking care of your main source of income should be paramount at this point. You inform her that if she wants you to keep driving the truck on her behalf, she must fork money enough for the truck to be fixed cause at the end of the day this would prolong the truck's lifetime anyway and would help with making sure that you guys stay afloat.

At this point you can't leave her alone, she's still your mom, but if you guys want to stay together and afloat, a lot of compromise and talking to will be required.

That's for you to decide already, between your own safety or one's profits. But of course, you have to think your own welfare first, you can make money almost all the time but you can never get back your life again once it's already gone. If your mother still insist to drive the truck, then I hate to say this but tell her to drive it for her own self so she can realize how risky for your life is if you decide to keep driving a malfunctioned one.

Sometimes, we need to be heard out also than just trying to follow a single person's orders all the time. We are responsible for our own life, so at least your mother will be able to realize your safety first over money and greed.

play your mothers insecurities against her

imagine you do landscape work at $30 an hour for 7 hours a day ($210)
you can get unbranded inexpensive tyres for $50 each ($200 total)

so on monday you do the work get the money but instead of going home you drive to a garage
you phone your mother and say you are stranded, the tyres finally blew and a garage quoted:
"tow truck callout $150, tyres $100each totalling $550' but then say
that you had a smart idea you can push car to a garage you seen that will fit cheap tyres for $200 total

and although it means no spare income today it makes truck better to do extra jobs tusday-friday to make up for it

thus you are making her feel like you are saving her money and putting the effort in pushing a truck for miles
(but shh she wont know the truth)

then next week get a real quote for coolant fix. but also ask what the worse cost if not fixed and radiator/engine finally blows
then next week call your mother with another sob story about being stranded and getting the worse quote but you can get truck to a garage for the lesser quote

again explaining how a more reliable truck can mean you can regain losses by working more jobs for the rest of the week in a vehicle you no longer fear

Don't question your parents, they did everything they could to get you where you are today, who knows what they would have scarified to get you the education you had or the life you had to make you the person you are today. She might be wrong in what she tell you to do but don't challenge her to her front, if the truck is bad take it for repairs yourself without letting her know. At time it could be that she knows the truck is bad but her way of telling you to repair it, is to tell you to drive it. Parents don't like giving information directly, they speak in parable and expect you to understand them.

She needs you to work for the money, at least she understands the power of money. Money is very important in the society and when you have it you have solved most of your problems. Do you know what it means not to have money problem, when you have money to not worry about those problems, it gives you more opportunity to concentrate and solve other non money related problems. She's right telling you to go look for the money because you should have been the one taking care of her at this age and not her still sufferings for you to feed.

She has done her part as a mother, it's your turn to do her the flavours of making her life worth living so if that discomfort you, you shouldn't mind but still do. You'll be getting more blessings for taking good care of your mother and providing her needs for her. Keep your fears aside provided you aren't going to get yourself killed, go all out for your mum.

I clearly understand that English isn't your strong suit hence why one could find this post confusing.

I understood you however and I can suggest that you do well to fix the truck instead of thinking of abandonment for a new one. As you have rightly thought OP, you may have to engage in order business outside of the one your mom currently has a say in, so as to meet up you investment plans for the future.

so why don't you fix the truck?
this seems to be the most logical solution for both of you and your money since you don't wanna disappoint her. family is family, you can't just give up on them.
leaking coolant means the car could overheat. just ask someone you know about mechanics, these are the guys who can do some patches to solve minor problems.

money will always be what you need. though its never the fix for all but its what you can have to make your mom feel secure. shes trying to push you to do something productive.

Unless and until you have the money to buy a new truck and if you do not have any other source of income, you must drive the old truck and make money. Money is important and probably the most important thing in the world. If you have it you are the king, if you do not have it, no bloody one is going to think about you. Your mom has seen more realities than you. So trust her when it comes to money. The moral of the story here is, money is important and money can fix most of the things.

Well, in this kind of case, it is really more important to repair any damage to any vehicle even if you get a license it is mandatory to keep checking the condition of your vehicle to avoid any accidents. But from your post OP, seems like you and your mom have a problem financially that even a simple damage needs to be bypassed to provide all of your needs. If she would fix the things you have mentioned which might cost a lot then maybe for a day you won't be able to provide some of your needs like food, bills, etc. But as a parent, knowing that you would put your child into part of your work, it would be better to ensure their safety and convenience, I suggest finding an alternative way to have a source of income that is safer.