that very much depends on your definition of "real". and that might easily turn into a true scottsman. for me, what sets a "real" satanist apart from an impostor or attention whore is the disliking or even hatred of christian ethics and the will to define an intentionally contradicting ethic. depending on the individual that might be anything from "RaaarRR i wanna hurt cute animals and listen to black metal all day" to a complex and well-reflected philosophy.
I don't necessarily disagree with the idea behind your statements, but to label it satanism is, frankly, preposterous. Satanism is, by definition, centered around Satan. Satan is nominally a Christian ideal, at least the commonly accepted definition of Satan. You can make the claims you are making, and give them another label and I would likely agree with you... but labeling what you are calling Satanism is just plain wrong. Satanism is previously defined, we can't just redefine words willy-nilly and have them mean whatever we want them to mean. Satanism is the worship and/or belief in Satan. If you are doing neither, you are, by any definition, not a Satanist. Just because your world view and rules for living your life might coincide with another groups ideals does not mean you are part of that group or that you should be labeled as such.
This is very similar to the problem of atheism. Everyone, everywhere is an atheist... doesn't matter what god you believe in, there are gods you do not believe in, thus you are an atheist. Most atheists, especially the rabid ones (who are, by the way, just as ridiculous as theists), fail to understand what true atheism is. The real atheists, such as myself, have coined our own description: Apatheist. If you really are an atheist, then you simply won't care whether or not God exists (or Satan for that matter) and the question as to whether he exists or not is functionally meaningless. Most self labeled "atheists" care very much and have a vested interest in trying to prove he does not exist, which puts them squarely in the same camp as theists, they just believe in something different, but both require an equal amount of faith directly proportional to your belief.
You'll never find a true atheist saying "Hey I'm an atheist, you are an idiot for believing in god cause he doesn't exist." A real atheist will respond to religious topics with "Don't care. Lets talk about something that is actually meaningful."
But I digress and have taken this thread WAY the F*CK off topic and I apologize.