Topic: Risks to take in marriage - page 2. (Read 790 times)
To be honest, you are correct, but we should also consider how divorce may affect the children's future relationships. Children from divorced households may struggle to build good connections and trust others. They may also find it challenging to trust their own love relationships. This may have a significant influence on their future happiness. So, while divorce may be the most effective choice for certain couples, it is not something to take lightly because it is a major decision that can have a lasting impact for the entire family. Additionally, when there is an absence of respect, it can lead to disagreement and anger, so we need to treat our spouses with dignity and affection.
Marriage they say is a bond meant not to be disclosed but it becomes risky when we are not prepared or having the quality as an individual person marriage involve responsibility, attention and care towards your spouse trust is important also as bearing burdens together as one marital home as a family decision are made to suit both party in other to avoid controversy and conflict it requires a woman to be submissive to her husband and her husband taken proper responsibility in other to maintain a peaceful home
Like they say,Marriage is school you can’t graduate from..We have to consider alot of things before getting into marriage,You have to be patient and tolerant if you want your marriage to work because change is the only permanent thing in life..Marriage is not only about procreation and companionship you have understand each other and know each other flaws..And lastly be matured for the task it will bring..
Marriage can be risk when you are not up to age before going relationship or Marriage, that's why some one need to be mature before getting married, because you are not balanced getting married will cause a very big problem in your, one of my friends who got married recently is regretting because of it have not rooted the knowledge of marriage before getting married.
To me i see the risk in marriage ad taking a bold step in trusting your partner on a lifetime agreement to spend the rest of your days together with him or her, this is what we called trust because in marriage, there's no hiding of anything anymore because two has become one, that's why one must not make that costly mistake to chose wrong, marriage is for the two of them to enjoy and create fun altogether and not an hardship or endurance to bear as a burden, the man must be able to make provisions for his home which is the responsibility he takes and must ensures to do.
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Money problems Is a major marital problem facing marriages today.The lack of finance in any marriage,
Can render that marriage useless.The quality of life will go down if the two of you live in poverty,and not everybody
Wants a broken home.Money is essential to funding our lives,and if there isn't enough to take Care of what we need,
It can create a large amount of stress to both spouses.Although,it could be a result of low income,but action and reactions
From the other party can inflict emotional and mental breakdown towards the union i.e marriage.
One of the risk we don't all want to participate in taking is the risk of being responsible for marriage challenges, we must know that it's a lifetime of for better for worse and for richer or poorer, we need to understand that no condition is parmanent, therefore we must be ready to take our partners burden along with ours in facing marriage challenges a d tackle them one after the other, especially being the man who is the head of the house.
The truth is that no one want to face the challenges, and some people thinks marriage must be perfect that is why when it is not going the way it should be their is problem. Marriage is tolerance because two unperfect persons are coming together to make a family, so the only thing that can make it work is tolerate and forgive and to understand each other. A marriage where both partners are ready tolerate and understand themselves will always work out good. We all want a good relationship with our spouses or soulmates too .
So what are the risks we should take
1 _when a marriage is about falling ,think about the kids and how divorce will make things wrong and difficult for them
I have grown up as a young girl and has never leaved with both parents till last year when I started living with my dad ,don't you think I might have gone through alot ?? Without both parents by my side ,
If you wanna give your kids the best in life you have to endure certain attitude Ms from both ur wife/husband ,when a home is seperated only one parent can't be able to take care of all the kids even if there is supplus money and second wife or husband ,when a single mother is set to take care of all the kids because she cought her husband cheating or what have you , she leaves ,she can't be fanacially stable to take care of all ,what if na 25 kids what's gonna happen?? The kids will start sleeping outside to care for them own selves ,how can a mother of 25 take such abilities all to her self
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So what are the risks we should take
1 _when a marriage is about falling ,think about the kids and how divorce will make things wrong and difficult for them
I have grown up as a young girl and has never leaved with both parents till last year when I started living with my dad ,don't you think I might have gone through alot ?? Without both parents by my side ,
If you wanna give your kids the best in life you have to endure certain attitude Ms from both ur wife/husband ,when a home is seperated only one parent can't be able to take care of all the kids even if there is supplus money and second wife or husband ,when a single mother is set to take care of all the kids because she cought her husband cheating or what have you , she leaves ,she can't be fanacially stable to take care of all ,what if na 25 kids what's gonna happen?? The kids will start sleeping outside to care for them own selves ,how can a mother of 25 take such abilities all to her self
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You have brought up a topic that bothers so many married people, including me. Before getting married, I was thinking about all possible marriage life and there were no problem at all. Time has proved that I was too naive. My life has completely changed since I got married. The spouse has not been the same person as I knew before and we quarreled a lot on even small trivial things in daily life. I have thought about divorce a thousand times but hesitated to do so only because of my daughter. Whenever I see her little face and think about all possible miserable life she might encounter in a single-parent family, I hold divorce back. I know I am not happy with my marriage but keeping this kind of life for the sake of my daughter is something I have to do without regret.
yes marriage is an action of one person, is the man that will decide who he wants to marry. Woman can't go on the street and decide the man she wants to be with. Because is the man that pay the pride price not the woman. So it's a sole decision of one person.
On the other side, marriage is a two side coins, both parties must know they want before they go into it. You must marry your friend and spec.
How about the marriage forced by the family or a culture? Like to have someone next who can handle for their business. Parents arrange marriage on having good partners for the business. In that case its not only the decision of the people who are involved in the marriage but a decision of their parents. Even they don't want it in the first place, some people don't have a choice but to do it for their family. I just read lots of that kind of set up marriage in other country which I see a bit risky specially when you don't like your partner at all, that will lead to a big problem even it will be good for the business.On the other side, marriage is a two side coins, both parties must know they want before they go into it. You must marry your friend and spec.
There is a family leader who controls the entire family. Maybe grandfather, father, mother, elder brother, that's why many families have such people. And every man expects good behavior from his wife but many things happened in front of my eyes. The husband and wife are currently admitted to the hospital with massive overdoses.
Marriage is a mystry,and the risk in marriage is when two imperfect couple comes together,if tolerance is missing.and every man or woman want a better family or marriage so the most risk is knowing who you are geting as a partner,knowing her kind and still get her as a wife,so geting a wife to avoid any mistake observation is needed,to be on the save side because one thing i beleave,is better to devioce in courtship than to devoice in marriage.
When you say devoice, do you mean to stop talking?
I always thought there wasn't nearly enough communication in marriage... or before marriage.
Every man or woman want a good relationship and i believe that it's the reason why some people ends up in marriage or marrying their girlfriends as a wife, it's because of long term relationship of them, that's why it's good not to make mistake in marriage, so i supprt people who been into relationship before getting married
A lot of man/woman relationship is based on how they smell to each other, even if they don't realize it... pheromones.
Every man or woman want a good relationship and i believe that it's the reason why some people ends up in marriage or marrying their girlfriends as a wife, it's because of long term relationship of them, that's why it's good not to make mistake in marriage, so i supprt people who been into relationship before getting married
You make it sound as if a marriage was only about the actions of only one person, which is false.
Nope, don't get me wrong on this, if you noticed some people play along in making decisions together as partner but one thing would make either the male or the female involved as the case maybe to fall off the line, what am saying is that, there will be a time when they don't take decisions together maybe because of pressure, that's when trust is being flushed down the drill, bad energy comes in too, and you hear something like "why didn't you tell me sooner"? So that's what I was driving at.
On the other side, marriage is a two side coins, both parties must know they want before they go into it. You must marry your friend and spec.
What are you talking about?
Women decide who to marry. I do not know what country you are from but there in the west, if you have been dating a woman and you both decide to start a relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend, she can perfectly reject any marriage proposal from you, for whatever reason, even after years or being together.
Haven't you heard that women even can choose not to appear at their wedding, since they have decided not to get married?
That is a funny way of thinking you got there.
is the man that will decide who he wants to marry. Woman can't go on the street and decide the man she wants to be with. Because is the man that pay the pride price not the woman. So it's a sole decision of one person.
In marriage is not only the man who gets to make the call on who to get married to, what if the woman says she's not interested in getting married to the man (if is only the man who gets to decide) from what you said? Huh..?
Is not only about the men who gets to choose who he wants to marry or not, they both (man and woman) need to come to an agreement before "marriage" takes place. If is how you see it then you're equally saying a woman has no say in marriage, IMO both parties have the decision to make and not just one person.
Basically, there is one major reason for marriage. It's for security of the children.
Women can have, and are having, children all over the place outside of marriage. In fact, sex outside of marriage is probably the cause of the most murder in the world... abortion... even though there is some abortion within marriage.
Certainly there are many other advantages to marriage, like all kinds of stability for the parents besides the children. But marriage is for the children first.
Women can have, and are having, children all over the place outside of marriage. In fact, sex outside of marriage is probably the cause of the most murder in the world... abortion... even though there is some abortion within marriage.
Certainly there are many other advantages to marriage, like all kinds of stability for the parents besides the children. But marriage is for the children first.
You make it sound as if a marriage was only about the actions of only one person, which is false.
Nope, don't get me wrong on this, if you noticed some people play along in making decisions together as partner but one thing would make either the male or the female involved as the case maybe to fall off the line, what am saying is that, there will be a time when they don't take decisions together maybe because of pressure, that's when trust is being flushed down the drill, bad energy comes in too, and you hear something like "why didn't you tell me sooner"? So that's what I was driving at.
On the other side, marriage is a two side coins, both parties must know they want before they go into it. You must marry your friend and spec.
You make it sound as if a marriage was only about the actions of only one person, which is false.
Nope, don't get me wrong on this, if you noticed some people play along in making decisions together as partner but one thing would make either the male or the female involved as the case maybe to fall off the line, what am saying is that, there will be a time when they don't take decisions together maybe because of pressure, that's when trust is being flushed down the drill, bad energy comes in too, and you hear something like "why didn't you tell me sooner"? So that's what I was driving at.
...just know that you are going to be responsible for any actions you take after you're married.
You make it sound as if a marriage was only about the actions of only one person, which is false. In fact, one could be a good spouse and get things done to provide the relationship what it needs, but the other person may have some trouble with any situation within marriage. In that case, it would be unfair to assume the obstacles or problems going on are fully our responsibility.
Blaming oneself for everything in a relationship of any sort can only lead to toxicity, in my opinion.
Talking about marriage, is something we need to get much details before jumping into it, firstly we need to know that is a life time communion between both parties, ones you're in you're in and is not like relationship that you just work in and out mostly for the sex aspect without thinking about the damages it will cause. Before you get married you have to be sure that this is what you want or this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, sometimes we find our self happy at some point but before you know it we ain't happy with our spouse. My question is, why do we feel that way and end up having a divorce? Is it something natural or there's a curse in marriage or is there a virus in "marriage"?
Even at some point what we see or hear causes a lot of damages in marriages and I'll say 85% of these are dearly responsible, so my advice to those who are in it or about to engage themselves in marriage is, if you find someone you say or think you love and want to spend your life with just know that you are going to be responsible for any actions you take after you're married.
Even at some point what we see or hear causes a lot of damages in marriages and I'll say 85% of these are dearly responsible, so my advice to those who are in it or about to engage themselves in marriage is, if you find someone you say or think you love and want to spend your life with just know that you are going to be responsible for any actions you take after you're married.
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