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sr. member
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March 06, 2023, 03:07:21 AM
#31
You make it sound as if a marriage was only about the actions of only one person, which is false.

Nope, don't get me wrong on this, if you noticed some people play along in making decisions together as partner but one thing would make either the male or the female involved as the case maybe to fall off the line, what am saying is that, there will be a time when they don't take decisions together maybe because of pressure, that's when trust is being flushed down the drill, bad energy comes in too, and you hear something like "why didn't you tell me sooner"? So that's what I was driving at.
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March 05, 2023, 12:39:28 PM
#30
...just know that you are going to be responsible for any actions you take after you're married.

You make it sound as if a marriage was only about the actions of only one person, which is false. In fact, one could be a good spouse and get things done to provide the relationship what it needs, but the other person may have some trouble with any situation within marriage. In that case, it would be unfair to assume the obstacles or problems going on are fully our responsibility. 

Blaming oneself for everything in a relationship of any sort can only lead to toxicity, in my opinion.
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March 04, 2023, 07:10:46 PM
#29
Talking about marriage, is something we need to get much details before jumping into it, firstly we need to know that is a life time communion between both parties, ones you're in you're in and is not like relationship that you just work in and out mostly for the sex aspect without thinking about the damages it will cause. Before you get married you have to be sure that this is what you want or this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, sometimes we find our self happy at some point but before you know it we ain't happy with our spouse. My question is, why do we feel that way and end up having a divorce? Is it something natural or there's a curse in marriage or is there a virus in "marriage"?

Even at some point what we see or hear causes a lot of damages in marriages and I'll say 85% of these are dearly responsible, so my advice to those who are in it or about to engage themselves in marriage is, if you find someone you say or think you love and want to spend your life with just know that you are going to be responsible for any actions you take after you're married.
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March 03, 2023, 01:23:10 PM
#28
Marriage is something you need to know before you get to it and you need to understand that your life will never be the same when you will marry the girl you love because when that happens, you gonna do everything to make her happy and comfortable. You just need to consider looking for the right spouse before thinking about marriage and you need to learn what are the criteria to become the right wife for your children. Because if you marry randomly without taking any considerations to do the tips above, then you are risking your marriage and your children's future because you might marry the wrong Man or Woman who will not care about you or your children or maybe they are abusive and you only found that outWe as the Indonesian people must be grateful, with the existence of such advanced technology, so that we can be able to compete with other countries. especially with bitcoin really helping, we get knowledge, insight, know about investment, how to regulate, money management. when you already married.
Relationships in every household must be based on a sense of responsibility, a sense of belonging, respect for one another, especially when they have children. the responsibility is very big. a father, mother. must be a role model for their children at home, the children's main teacher is, both parents. new to school. Children have rights and obligations from their parents
1. the right to get a proper education.
2. The right to be treated fairly.
3. get, protection, affection.
Duties, parents
1. to provide protection, comfort, etc.
the role of parents is very influential on their children, especially in many cases of children being bullied, due to lack of supervision, especially brokenhom children, cases of divorce of their parents.
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March 03, 2023, 07:56:18 AM
#27
The emotional scar associated with divorce in marriage can never be erased.the couple often undergo series of decrease in levels of happiness and emotional problems.the effect of divorce spills unto the children too,in their academics, behavior and psychologically.to avoid these learn to love your spouse in the way he/ she wants to be loved and remain faithful amongst others.....learn lessons from the mistakes of your parents in their marriage and make yours work
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March 03, 2023, 05:25:06 AM
#26
All I know is that marriage is hard and we should not go into it if we know that we do not have the power or the strength to endure as much as we can. Everything about marriage is endurance so we need to make sure that we are fully ready to accept whatever we see before we think of going into marriage. Some persons enters marriage without you understanding.

This is wrong. Marriage is not a war, you do not need power or strength to be in a marriage, unless you are planning to kill.yoir spouse.
Again, marriage is not all about endurance. Don't go into marriage to endure rubbish. When your spouse puts up annoying character, call their attention to it and forgive them. When they do same again, forgive them for the second time and warn them that it will be the last. If they try it again, consider divorce. The most important thing to you should be peace of mind and not to endure rubbish in the name of marriage.

Marriage only takes place when both agree to love and care for each other for the rest of their lives, everything is voluntary, not forced, marriage is something sacred, not to endure rubbish. In life, we will face a lot of troubles, and in marriage too. Whether the marriage is stable or not is due to our behavior, not anyone's fault, if the marriage fails, don't rush to blame your partner, but try to think that you have also fulfilled your obligations.
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March 03, 2023, 03:52:08 AM
#25
Growing up without parental care is one of the worst thing a child can experience. All my life as a little man up till now, my only prayers was God should keep my parents alive for me. I never wanted to imagine my self living without those two people. Sometimes I look at them out of pitty and say to my self these people have tried a lot in bringing me and my siblings up as men and women and I will do better for my own children. Being a parent is not easy, as you will have to think, calculate and provide every possible care for your children. I know one day I will also be a parent and I hope I become a good one and also be there for my children. Grin
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March 03, 2023, 03:05:03 AM
#24
My mother's father divorced when I was a toddler, in mother's arms.
And I was raised by step grandparents.
My memory is still sharp enough to remember that sad time.
Mother's father already has another partner as well as another child..
My life is tossing and turning without direction
Jealous of my friends and the happiness of a small child, invites the sadness back.
Father and mother, I just need your love, like my friend.
So far, I've never gotten it.
Now my father is gone forever, look at your son, father, now I am an adult and can find food for myself without your love.
Without you I can be independent, now my father has gone forever back to God's side.
But hatred for you makes me furious and I want to destroy everything around me.

And now, from the experience above, I always try to avoid divorce because it will affect the child's mentality.
I understand how you feel mate even though I may have not experienced a similarly bad situation to yours but trust me we all have gone through a hard time growing up, and some of us have some of the worst experiences.

But above all, divorce is not an option most especially when there are kids in the marriage.

I think our judicial systems and the marriage registrar should include a separate column and law too, divorce law for parents with kids and those without kids.
legendary
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March 02, 2023, 06:55:45 PM
#23
Maybe marriage is about sex, kids and cheaper living.

I mean, if you get married for sex and that's all, great. You don't even have to live in the same apartment or house.

But if you want to live in the same house for money savings, great. Have your own separate rooms, and a special room for love making... unless you really want to share the same room.

If there is any chance at all that kids will come along, talk about it ahead of time. And write up an agreement as to who does what in the event you get some kids. Make it legally binding so that there are no questions later.

I mean, you don't have to share your ideals in marriage, right? Just your bodies... and the kids of course, right?

Cool
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March 02, 2023, 04:30:31 PM
#22
All I know is that marriage is hard and we should not go into it if we know that we do not have the power or the strength to endure as much as we can. Everything about marriage is endurance so we need to make sure that we are fully ready to accept whatever we see before we think of going into marriage. Some persons enters marriage without you understanding.

This is wrong. Marriage is not a war, you do not need power or strength to be in a marriage, unless you are planning to kill.yoir spouse.
Again, marriage is not all about endurance. Don't go into marriage to endure rubbish. When your spouse puts up annoying character, call their attention to it and forgive them. When they do same again, forgive them for the second time and warn them that it will be the last. If they try it again, consider divorce. The most important thing to you should be peace of mind and not to endure rubbish in the name of marriage.
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February 28, 2023, 06:42:47 AM
#21
Marriage must have a high tolerance for partners. Must love each other in times of trouble and joy. Accept your partner for who they are.

This is one of the keys. I have a feeling people are much less tolerant than before. Things got worse after the 70's when women started to work and got their financial independence. This is proved by divorce rate statistics, and you can see a sharp increase of divorces starting somewhere around late 60's.

Marriage takes a lot of patience, understanding and compromises. Even more when you get kids.
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February 28, 2023, 06:36:24 AM
#20
Marriage must have a high tolerance for partners. Must love each other in times of trouble and joy. Accept your partner for who they are. Because marriage is full of struggles, loving each other, accepting each other. No human is perfect in this world, all complement each other (in pairs) and remind each other.

 I see many children who lack love from their parents, so they feel lonely and sad when their parents don't pay attention to their children. Actually what is the cause of all this?

Family should be a place where we feel safe and peaceful in it. But, yes, we go back to the beginning that everything has risks and tests that make us sway in it. That's where the sense of family loyalty must exist.
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February 27, 2023, 07:15:25 PM
#19
All I know is that marriage is hard and we should not go into it if we know that we do not have the power or the strength to endure as much as we can. Everything about marriage is endurance so we need to make sure that we are fully ready to accept whatever we see before we think of going into marriage. Some persons enters marriage without you understanding.
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February 27, 2023, 06:56:51 PM
#18
The risk in marriage I will analyse based on my own understanding is when someone is incapable of getting married and they happened to Mary without making a proper foundation for itself so that is where I will say that the marriage is at stake because the marriage have no root anything can crush the marriage so it is very good for someone to build up its survey relationship and knowing the implication of marriage before both of them come together
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February 24, 2023, 06:13:06 PM
#17
My mother's father divorced when I was a toddler, in mother's arms.
And I was raised by step grandparents.
My memory is still sharp enough to remember that sad time.
Mother's father already has another partner as well as another child..
My life is tossing and turning without direction
Jealous of my friends and the happiness of a small child, invites the sadness back..
Father and mother, I just need your love, like my friend.
So far, I've never gotten it.
Now my father is gone forever, look at your son, father, now I am an adult and can find food for myself without your love.
Without you I can be independent, now my father has gone forever back to God's side.
But hatred for you makes me furious and I want to destroy everything around me.

And now, from the experience above, I always try to avoid divorce because it will affect the child's mentality.
yeah you're right these are one of the risk we should take , because of experience and it's good you took that decision decisions , because we aren't going to treat our kids and wife's or husband's the way we were treated too,



Marriage is something you need to know before you get to it and you need to understand that your life will never be the same when you will marry the girl you love because when that happens, you gonna do everything to make her happy and comfortable. You just need to consider looking for the right spouse before thinking about marriage and you need to learn what are the criteria to become the right wife for your children. Because if you marry randomly without taking any considerations to do the tips above, then you are risking your marriage and your children's future because you might marry the wrong Man or Woman who will not care about you or your children or maybe they are abusive and you only found that out when you already married.
you're right ,marriage isn't just a mare play like other primary relationships ,its a big step people should take ,but some don't care , expectially women ,some are just too desperate to get married,and prayers should be involved too, because it's till death do us appart they always say ,it's a very serious decision to take
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February 24, 2023, 02:36:58 PM
#16
One of the risk we don't all want to participate in taking is the risk of being responsible for marriage challenges, we must know that it's a lifetime of for better for worse and for richer or poorer, we need to understand that no condition is parmanent, therefore we must be ready to take our partners burden along with ours in facing marriage challenges a d tackle them one after the other, especially being the man who is the head of the house.

It is true that marriage is meant to be forever until death. You are also right that marriage is for better for worst, sickness and health, richer and poorer, etc, but some marriages has subjected people to physically, psychological and mental torture. Some spouse are not marriageable because of their bad behaviors. Nobody will cope with an adulterous woman and no woman will love to live with a man that spends all his income on drugs, gambling or alcohol. There are some conditions that people can not cope with and the only option will be to seek divorce.

Before I used to preach against divorce and I discriminated against divorcees but I have recently learned that the failure of their marriages might not be their fault. They might have tried all the could to sustain the marriage but their spouse was not marriageable.
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February 24, 2023, 11:39:01 AM
#15
At first I will say I feel sorry for you if you didn't really have the opportunity to grow up in the hands of your both parents, it really hurts, I know how it feels,
Sincerely I don't really support divorce, but is better someone should divorce than dieing all in the name of marriage, I don't really think cheating is a major reason why couples divorce this days, because sincerely there are many married women and men(mostly men) that cheats this days, but yet their wives are still live  and be coping with their cheating attitudes, as long you provide their needs and the needs of the children..

There are more to what people see in marriage that can lead to divorce rather than cheating, some spouse are really deadly and heartless, see I'm saying this out of experience, I know of a man that nearly killed his wife and the kids spiritually, all just because he's an occultic man, and in his coven they demanded for a family member if not God's intervention the woman and her kids would have died, so the woman has to divorce and leave the marriage.
I know it will be so difficult for her now, taking care of their four kids and otherwise but I believe God will always see her through, because it's only who has life, that would have hope...
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February 24, 2023, 09:25:52 AM
#14
One of the risk we don't all want to participate in taking is the risk of being responsible for marriage challenges, we must know that it's a lifetime of for better for worse and for richer or poorer, we need to understand that no condition is parmanent, therefore we must be ready to take our partners burden along with ours in facing marriage challenges a d tackle them one after the other, especially being the man who is the head of the house.
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February 24, 2023, 05:14:59 AM
#13
Divorce problems are endless and the biggest victim are children.

Therefore, parents should think a lot about their children and their future before making the decision to divorce. They should avoid selfishness and think about whether this decision is good or bad about determining the fate of their children in the future.

But at the same time, there are cases in which divorce is the best solution, because if the problems of the parents are many and they occur in front of their children, they will leave a great negative impact on their upbringing.

The constant problems between parents leave a very bad effect on the children's psyche and behavior, and in this case divorce is better for the children's future.
If both of us really think about our children, we will never argue or fight in front of our children, it's all just our selfishness. When we get married, we need to know that then we are no longer living for ourselves but for our family and children.

I also have a family, we also argued many times and thought about divorce. But like I said, if you think about your children's future, you know what's right, divorce is never a good thing for our children.
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February 24, 2023, 01:09:55 AM
#12
Divorce problems are endless and the biggest victim are children.

Therefore, parents should think a lot about their children and their future before making the decision to divorce. They should avoid selfishness and think about whether this decision is good or bad about determining the fate of their children in the future.

But at the same time, there are cases in which divorce is the best solution, because if the problems of the parents are many and they occur in front of their children, they will leave a great negative impact on their upbringing.

The constant problems between parents leave a very bad effect on the children's psyche and behavior, and in this case divorce is better for the children's future.
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