Topic: The rate of divorce in the society - page 5. (Read 1263 times)

You think that trust is above love in marriages, I will disagree with you on this. Love conquer everything because it is love that brings tolerance and trust. Any marriage without love will never work, because when two partners are in love with themselves, they will build trust.

There are some problems like rushing into marriage when you didn't take time to know the person and after rushing into it, you will rush out because your expectations were not what you saw. Another thing is that people marry the wrong partner and it is compulsory that when you marry the wrong person, there will be a divorce, because you guys were never made for each other. Not being open minded and iron out issues that you don't like that your partner is doing by telling him you don't like it and not also giving attention to your partner can break your marriage.

I think the trust issue is the main reason to giving divorce. Now day this is a common problem in our society no one trust on his partner in  this generation. Because of trust issue after sometime the decide day will leave his partner because trust is more important in a relationship then love. We can see our previous generation like our mother and father they do fight on a reason after sometime they stay together. That's type of trust and believe not available in this generation that's why the rate of divorce is increasing in our society.

Societal expectations played a major role in marriages in the past. Everyone believed in "for better,  for worse". Many people in the past endured their marriages instead of enjoying it. Even when it was killing the couples slowly.  But now, the people are wiser and more civilised. If its not working,  it's not working and their is little or no stigma attached to being divorced now. While this modern trend in marriages might be a blessing to some people,  it might also be a curse to many others.

Intending couples should do their findings well before walking down the aisle because when marriages hit the rock,  the children suffer the consequences. Both parents are adults and can take care of themselves.what happens to that innocent child who was born into a once lovely family?

Yes fake and deceitful life while in courtship is one of the major reasons why divorce in on the high rate. Many people date (courtship) before they get married so in the cause of this courtship a lot of people hide their real identity maybe it could be their character, their facial beauty or the morals, for instance you see a situation where a lady that is incusitive to get married maybe because she's running out of age and she has a bad character, will pretend as if she's a saint, she will hide her characters just to win the heart of the man till they are married, and after marriage they now show their true colors. So in this situation the man will begin to imagine the reasons why she never showed all the bad characters during courtship and before you know it the man will seek for divorce because she no longer shows those attributes that made him marry her.

Again most people marry because of what they see in their partner, maybe because they have money of they are good looking, or they're hardworking so as soon as they don't see those attributes that made them get married, the love begins to fade and definitely leads to divorce.

Inasmuch as marriage is concerned, it is an agreement between two couples who choose to live and share things together as husband and wife irrespective of their various flaws so by this definition, it is important for us to know that we ought not to get married because of the physical things we see in our partners as those things will diminish as time goes on rather we should marry because of love and passion for one another not withstanding our differences.

Divorce has become too rampant recently and I think it course is obviously visible to all.
You have so many cases of a couple that had a child while dating and because of the child, they become married without knowing if they are even compatible at all. And it doesn't take time before they discover the flaws in there partners life that they can't bear with and the marriage just comes to an end because of this.

There are others that got married because of the wealth of there spouse or what they feel they can achieve as a result of the marriage and when reality dawn on them and they finally discover that there expectation can't be met, problem breaks out in the home and the only solution they think of his to get divorced.

I feel that most of the course of divorce comes from lack of understanding from the partners and the inability of them to compromise for each other just for the relationship to work.

It is true that divorce rates have increased in recent times. it is important to remember that every situation is unique and cannot be generalized. While some divorces may occur due to trivial reasons like the one you mentioned.
In the past divorce rates was less than today and people stayed in unhappy marriages for the sake of societal expectations.
Both men and women play essential roles in maintaining a successful marriage and we can't blame only one gender.

Divorce is now something found so easy to do in the society today just because you think you can't continue to live or manage along with your partner due to some reasons you can just overlooked and continue with life, most people in marriage or relationship don't have the mind of being tolerant at all, everyone thinks that what they do is the best and cannot be corrected, if we keep encouraging for divorce then almost everyone will be a divorcee in life, we had better learn to adapt and live peaceful with others and stop the issue of getting divorce, nothing is perfect in life, including we humanbeings.

There are lots of reasons why divorce is happening and it depends on what country you are living in because, in some places, facial beauty is not really important rather the capability of building a family is what they are looking for. But in our society especially those who are exposed to social media, their role models are Hollywood artists and other popular celebrities, whenever they do something, others quickly mimic their actions no matter what it is even in their marriage life, they are just like a person that even when their role model enter a hole of a lizard, they will not hesitate to follow them.

The problem is the influence of the society today. The masculinity and feminine content that we see on social media make it look like finding another partner while being in a relationship becomes a norm. It's because of their shitty content and getting some confirmation and affirmation with those nonsense ideas and validities they're asking from the people. The approval that they get is also from those people who just want to plainly cheat. They think that they deserve better, they need that they need to be loved where in fact they're loved. They say that they're not getting time because their partners are busy. Like what the heck, if they're working their ass hard off for a week with just a few hours to take a rest, understand that they're working for your comfortability. It is not about the gender but the influence we see from other people looking for validation that their cheating is a normal thing to do and asks sentiments from the other people.

Both are the problems of it, I won’t want to chose one over the other because when you look into it very deep, you’ll see that they are one way both at fault. Marriage is all about understanding, sharing feelings, pains and what have you. For a marriage to work out, both sides have to make up their mind to make it work, they should have a believe that no matter what happens, they will strive to resolve it together without allowing others to interfere into their marriage.

Most of the marriage divorce are caused by outside influences but in some cases it is caused by societal factors (modern world) when the two sides haven’t been able to agree to a consensus of what their partner should do or how they react to instances like that when they arise.

this is because men have options and the government gave that options to all of us and we liked it also in the name of democracy. and why not. its the best the best we could get for having these laws.

its not about whos wrong either men or women, women are also fighting for their rights especially if they hate the man theyve married.

if women can get the share of wealth from the man after divorse, its good for them. its freedom.

this only shows that marriage nowadays is not composed of LOVE instead either Lust or desire , look at that story  of yours just because of a woman without make up being divorced already> how cheap that reason is?
Marriage supposed to be a matter of Love and Promises to be together for the rest of life , but in our time now as this was getting to be forgotten the true essence of married life , this made me have asking "Why need to get married when there are no one forcing them to get in"? why not stay in relationship and just give time to each other to learn our feelings and otrue plans towards each of one , even if this took us many years before finally deciding to get married.

Many things could be the reasons, but in this case be fake and deceitful could be reason as stated by the said husband. Probably that was his first time seeing the woman without makeup, who knows? It could also be that he wasn't satisfied with the outcome of after wedding night. Lol..... But many things can cause divorce ranging from cheating, abusive partner, selfishness, and many more.

What more can you expect from a world that has embraced everything new while forgetting the positive aspects of marriage? When modern social events are intertwined with marital problems, it complicates the situation, and the worst case scenario is that it will undoubtedly lead to a lack of understanding and the separation of the couples. Our forefathers are not comparable to us. When it comes to patience and endurance, they are the true definitions.

For the other point you raised, I will blame the man who divorced his wife the next morning after seeing her true face for the first time. The reason for this is that in today's world, everyone is aware of make-up and how it has tricked many men into failing to recognise the genuine face appearance of the one they love. Before bringing them in, he should have seen the actual face of the woman he wants to marry. Perhaps it was an arranged marriage and he never saw his lover's true face before marriage. Such occurrences are very rare to happen.

I like your presentation of data. In divorce cases there are different factors that constitute divorce in the whole world. Some couples divorce because of financial, some cheating, some unsatisfied sex habit, some commitment as you said which can also lead to poor communication and unfertilized marital status etc. And because of all those factors, African men decided to marry more than one wives in those days but when the civilization came to the African countries, monogamous relationship and family was introduced and when a man and a woman married and above mentioned are found then marriage is dismissed. Op yours example is even better. I have seen 3hours marriage. The marriage ended at the alter of the wedding. It was genotype that end the marriage.

And that is when you are about to marry follow all the due process and make sure you marry someone you like and love. Marry someone that can give you sex the way you want. And before you marry prescribe all your likes and dislikes so that when you people are coming together, there will be no argument.

It's unfortunate enough that the modern civilization we in Africa embraced has now made divorce be normal thing in the society we live in, which our forefathers won't agree to.

Some decades ago, what people divorced in today's society, can't be attributed to what got our parents divorced years back. Marriage has changed and people are no longer marrying for love but instead for fame, physical attributes and appearance, and unplanned circumstances(pregnancy).

It is now in a marriage that you will find not enough reason for a lady to decide to divorce his husband based on the reason of not satisfying her sexually, and not providing and paying her bills as she wants to, etc.

you cannot pinpoint a single reason for divorce there are various factors that affects couples such as culture, for example a lot of asian countries still have the old way of thinking and values that divorce are often frowned upon in society even if its legal in their country as opposed to america where divorce has been almost normalized now in the situation you gave the man seems to be too superficial but i would say theyre both wrong for not spending enough time in getting to know each other before committing to a marriage

Some guys are still willing to propose to women with out full understand them, which is why the amount of devoiced stuff is growing daily. Husband and wife relationships are not like those with typical girlfriends, where you can break up at any time. A complete understanding between you and your proposal is worthy of marriage. Prior to accepting each other, one must be aware of the other's habits and character. You can just approach a female you see today, ask her to marry you and even say that, "Let's get married next month." What are our predictions for the conclusion? Therefore, it is not necessary for us men to rush into finding marriages.

Right. Marriage should be for mature people. It needs people who are emotionally ready, patient, and understanding. It's not just a piece of paper, it's a whole journey that requires maturity to handle the ups and downs together.

That’s because reasons for divorce has always been there like abusive partners.
Blaming just men or women isn't fair. Maybe the did love each other but it is  more about adapting to new challenges and finding deeper connections. Real, open communication and understanding each other’s flaws can make a huge difference. It's about evolving together but not to the extent that marriage becomes inhumane.

The society that has made it seem normal is the problem in this case because if Divorce has heavily been criticized each time, the rate of divorce would have reduced. Now it is normal to young people that they can decide to divorce whenever they feel comfortable with it. Marriage is no longer for better for worse, no longer forever and a day more, it is now a temporary thing in most cases and the value for the institution dropped. To avoid divorce, try not rush and hurry into marriage.