Didn't you just answer your own question?
Good, then I made my point. They wouldn't notice before it's too late. That argument is flawed.
The remedy of a decrease in price if a pool passes a threshold is also ridiculous because they may not be in it for the money. They may be a mini LukeJr clone and just be interested in the destruction.
I don't see the problem. Those who fear a 51% attack will divest themselves of bitcoins, those who do not will not.
This entire thing is build on economic incentives.
In other words, we won't fix this ahead of time any more than we fixed transaction malleability before people lost money so you need to fuck off and take your money out of Bitcoin if you don't want to lose it. Yeah, mass adoption is right around the corner dude. lol