Topic: Up to .2 Bounty **** Sanity Check**** - page 2. (Read 2394 times)

I hope you didn't take offense to that example. It wasn't directed at you, but for everyone in general. It's pretty evident from your first response that you know how to convey. I just wanted to know the 'whys' is all. And again, you came through. You explained your position well enough that I now I understand your point of view, and I agree with what you said; makes complete sense to me. You say your responses was all you had; they were absolutely perfect.

thanks, if you have thoughts to my thoughts, you can post them!

if you want to psycho-analyze my posts for fun, you can look through my posts too, lol

Here is an example of where I think you could be more clear and direct. "Because we're adults" - what does this mean? Seems maybe a little...backhanded? I'm not really sure how to read it or if I should take offense. I would certainly say to another adult at work the phrase "I see this as unprofessional". In my mind it's a valid statement where I'm expressing my opinion about something.

Also, by valid explanations do you mean links/references to your posts? I'll try to flesh some of them out below, but I might not have time to provide specific links. Otherwise, I'm not sure what makes my explanations invalid. They are my observations and opinions.



My point is that smiley faces often make communication more confusing. For example, if I said to someone "Have you had the time to send over that report?" that is a relatively clear message. If I say, ""Have you had the time to send over that report? " this creates confusion on behalf of the reader. Is the writer frustrated at the reader but trying to be nice? Are they genuinely smiling after saying this? Why would they smile after asking for a report? The tone changes and the message becomes unclear. This is why I personally find smiley faces frustrating.

For example, I'm okay with this:

These smileys below, the use of the word "actually", and the elipses give this beginning of this message an uncomfortable tone. It ends very well and you encourage the person which is great, I'm commenting on how it starts. That's the best way I can describe it. I'm not a psychologist so I'm sorry I don't have anything else to go on:



I see this at my work a lot, even when communicating with clients. I see it as unprofessional. Not really sure what else to say. This isn't a professional forum so there is more leeway to use them, but I personally don't like to use them and I tend to think that when people use them, they are expressing insecurity. It's almost like the person using them feels frustrated or misunderstood but is trying to also remain amiable? Again, doing my best to describe the feeling but I'm far from being able to describe this as a psychologist or sociologist.


Hmmm, not sure what else to say here. People are used to other people being frank, rude, and often deliberately obnoxious online. You are very polite. People don't expect it. When people see something that doesn't fit it makes them feel uncomfortable. That's all I got.


Maybe instead of "Because we're adults" you could have said "I need more clarity as to what this means" or "could you please flesh this out and provide an example" or "this needs more explanation, why is it unprofessional?". I don't know what you were getting at but I feel like it could have been more clear and direct.


I'll say one more thing. In my opinion people want two things in life: to be fully known and fully loved. We believe that one always has to come at the expense of the other. I am a terribly insecure person at times, I can be very indirect (ask my wife), inconsiderate, and down right horrible. My wife has seen me at my worst and loves me anyway, this is grace. We need people in our lives who will dare to know us, who we will dare to let in, and who will love us in spite of everything.

This is all I have, sorry I won't have time for another follow up. Bounty or not, good luck to you and may you know grace and love to their fullest.

how did i do with my last response cris i tried to explain as much as possible.

Thank you for the compliment. Although, I view myself as another average human being.

Since I stated your tone is both lighthearted and serious, as I was reading, I could only wonder if you were a troll or a serious poster. That's what was strange to me. Your words also felt driven by emotion, and I began to suspect you were a woman.
Women think much more differently and see the world differently than men, so maybe that's why you butt heads with other posters. I've noticed you are quite good at taking a post, thinking more about it, and continue with other thoughts. I don't. I like short, simple, and to the point.

Nerds will be nerds. The internet is filled with every kind of person, so you'll end up with "non-intellectuals" wherever you go. I like Reddit.

My thoughts are written above. As for additional thoughts, I wouldn't flaunt your intellect. If you're smart, people will notice. No need to state it. You can come off as cocky and arrogant while people appreciate someone who's humble. Just let your words/actions show it.

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Well after going trough your posts for a while I see you like to challenge everything. What I mean by this, is that whenever someone posts something they have to give a good reason to why they did what they did. I noticed this because I'm sometimes like that. This also shows that you most likely have a high education, that is you are a smart person, because you are not afraid to challenge everything and find out for yourself why is something the way it is. Sometimes though you think that you can accomplish more by insulting someone other then by explaining to them your opinion politely (have to say you sometimes do this).
Do I think you are a crazy person? No, most of us are like that these days. Frustrated. Challenging. Want to learn more and so on. So if you are crazy then I suppose most of us are.

tl;dr
op a narcissist?

i also picked the casino one cause ive been there and i hate how shady some gaming sites are with there TOC.

i believe that TOC are supposed to straight forward and able to state the rules and normal stuff like this clearly yet this site does not.

not good

i agree with basicly everything u said

i do however believe that if u are under the same ip as somsonee else you should have to verify that only one account per person if necessary but the TOC doesnt sya that

also i feel the owner is just trying to cover himself up and make himself look better by bashing on you and you calling him out. but in reality its just making him look more guilty and shady.


and just trying to get this one bounty not the whole bonus as i need to sleep tonight lol

Sorry it some time to reply; got other stuff going on, trying to wrap it up for the night. I completely skipped over your post; didn't even see it earlier. But I'm sure since I've responded to a couple of posts with more details/examples of what I consider to be a contribution you know this one doesn't quite fit the bill   But I have question for you... Type A personality?    no judgement, I'm one.

oh and for everything being valid. its brought up in the sites official thread. the right place for things such as this to be brought up. well done

i agree that the owner of the site would always take his own word over customers. you cant gave sometimes or grey area TOC on a gambling site.
you didnt go overboard one bit and if someone thinks you did they are just being a troll and or dont care about the well being of customers or clients at the site and obviously you do as yourself are one.

if u misinterpreted something so did i. i dont think you did anything wrong by pointing all this out. if theres something shady about a site it needs to be awknoledged and taken care of or explained better and the site owner ignoring you is not good for him and is showing his weakness and shadyness in my opinion.

Yeah, you definitely found another good example, the hardest probably (this thread also contains a bonus answer).

Can you be more specific? What do you agree with and why? Did I go overboard on that thread? Am I minding other people's business? Was I wrong in any way? Did I misinterpret something? Do you think I should expose all his lies like I said, why/why not. Why do you think the OP is ignoring me?

Those are just examples of the type of feedback I'm looking for. Digest the material and tell me what you think and why. Give it as much thought as you can; you'll come up things I didn't even think about. That coinbet thread is a mess! But interesting indeed I made a lot of points on that thread. But are they valid?

Although edok didn't post specific references, I underlined the parts that as a whole, is what I consider a contribution (but be sure to explain your position so your reward doesn't pend). Yes, some of the things stated have already been said or may be common knowledge, but collectively, he gave me more to ponder on (further insight). All I want are his explanations now. Do I necessarily agree with his position about emoticons? Honestly, I don't know because I never thought about it from his perspective. Once he posts his responses I'll have more information to consider. Whether I agree with him or not, isn't why he's getting a bounty.

While I do appreciate compliments, I'm not seeking them; I don't want anyone to think that's the case (I toot my own horn quite frequently actually    But this is a good example of the type of entries I'm looking for.

edok, please provide valid explanations of the underlined.  Just so everyone knows, this isn't a valid explanation: "I see it as unprofessional" - Because we're adults.


I'm pretty open minded, so there's little that actually offend me. It's not that I have a 'don't give a shit' attitude (because I do care, too much sometimes), it's just well... complicated.

you have very valid reasons here and have made john look like a fool. and this casino needs to not be used

there shouldnt be words like most or probally in the toc for sure also...

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Thanks for the compliment It's this forum that's actually the entertaining part.

I wish! I'm actually really bad at poker! No skills, lol.

Actually I don't really care for action. And I wouldn't really call myself a 'real' gambler per se' because I tend to hang out in the casino slots. If anything, you'd think I know better    I do, lol. I just like slots. And I choose some of the ones I play for non-strategic reasons. But I'm actually getting out of the slots realm. Too many cheaters out there. I have several inquires in the casino thread that are valid, yet unanswered (hint). Happy hunting!

Well, damn! It's about time, lol. I really wasn't sure if you were joking or what, but it's no biggie. So, I posed an inquiry (maybe two or three?) some time ago in the lending forum, the one you troll.   Needless to say, I thought some were rather valid but I just couldn't seem to get anyone to give me the info I was looking for. Anyways, because you seemed to disappear (not just on that thread), I wasn't sure if you could see my posts or not.

Vod just made me expose another clue people!!!