[2] For the withdrawal, are you trying to use an address that starts with an 8?
at first in my wallet app next to receive I was using the primary address listed as #0 and the first number was a 4.
but eventually i decided to click the little plus next to "create new address" and i named it test so it reads as #1test and does begin with an 8.
to be clear I now have a #0 primary that starts with 4 and #1 test that starts with 8. however both give me the same error result on the pool's monero wallet page "Failed to update your account: Invalid coin address" when i try to add either
The primary address (that starts with a 4) should work. Can you check whether the address you paste on the mining pool is valid? You can use this tool:
https://xmr.llcoins.net/addresstests.html